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Science Says Unfinished Things Attract/Disturb You Because Your Brain Remembers Them Better

Science Says Unfinished Things Attract/Disturb You Because Your Brain Remembers Them Better

Recall a time when you were put under a lot of stress about finishing a task. Every day it went unfinished it would be a constant distraction in your head. This feeling of having slight (or crippling) anxiety of unfinished business is called The Zeigarnik Effect.

The PositiveSide OfThe Zeigarnik Effect

In layman’s terms, unfinishedbusiness can be summed up as “loose ends.” From Zeigarnik’s research, he pointed out that humans — specifically the mind of a human — does not like when things are inconclusive. It’s a natural phenomena and one reason people can become hooked to certain T.V. shows. Most season finales end with cliff hangers and it digs at the mind of a person for a long time before it is finished. It leaves them begging for more. It is why movies like Inception or American Psycho leave people bewildered at what actually happened. I am a sucker for these types of movies, by the way, which makes sense as to why I can rarely ever relax when my to-do list is constantly full. I like it that way, it makes my mind work. That is the attraction of having unfinished business, it lets the mind wander on its own and into areas of critical thinking and theory developing. Is Leonardo Dicarpio’s character in a dream or in reality? Is Patrick Bateman really a psychopath?

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The NegativeSide OfThe Zeigarnik Effect

But, unfinished business can have a detrimental aspect to it. Like I was mentioning with my work load, it can add a lot of unnecessary stress to people’s lives, especially when it has to do with work. It’s the idea of constantly being busy and never having a moment to relax because all you are thinking about is what part of the work needs to be done. It is an added pressure to find time to make sure that deadline is met or that the endless cycles of work becomes finished and checked off.

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For relationships, it also makes people feel hard to let go of ex-boyfriends/girlfriends, as your relationships with them are like unfinished business, after making so many promises and having so much imagination spending the rest of your life with them.

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This is also why the death of famous people that happen without warning are so tragic. For examples; Michael Jackson, Prince and David Bowie.

How To Manage Your Unfinished Business

This one sounds lackluster and too easy to be utilized, and it really is. To do lists! Instead of having your mind go over and over everything on your plate, write it down and set time to get it done. My laptop has sticky notes all over of what things need to get done and written by what day and it’s always there as a reminder, not a detrimental hamper. I have become more used to realizing that the pressure does not have to hinder my life. I set times apart from the rest of my days to get as much done as possible. I channel the natural positivity that can come with The Zeigarnik Effect and let my creativity ride through my work, being a busy body and cranking out the things I need to when I need too. As a journalist and a writer, my life is one constant email of deadlines and setting up articles places, so these to do lists make it a bit easier to not be overwhelmed by the massive amounts of unfinished business always — and I mean always — lurking around the corner.

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Last Updated on July 18, 2019

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

You can learn how to do so too: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future

19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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