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The Older You Get, The Fewer Friends You’ll Keep (But That’s Really Fine)

The Older You Get, The Fewer Friends You’ll Keep (But That’s Really Fine)

You may have noticed that as time goes by you seem to be keeping in contact with fewer and fewer friends. Don’t worry this is probably a good thing. As we get older, the friendships that last are normally those that are deeper and more sincere. You may have fewer friends, but those who have stayed in touch are more loyal and have truly stood the test of time.

As you get older you may find that you experience the following:

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The more you have gone through

With age, comes experience. As you pass through life you go through many trials. As you get older, you find that there are a few friends who have supported you during these difficult times. You learn to depend on those select few and have little time for people who were not there when you needed them.

The less patience you have for insincerity

When you were young, you probably tended to try and accumulate as many friends as possible. Perhaps you had greater patience and tolerance for everyone you met; however, as you get older you have less patience for insincerity. You have learned that it is better to have a few sincere friends than a lot of superficial relationships.

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The deeper bonds you have formed

Many friends you have made simply drifted away, but there are those few who have stuck with you through the good and the bad. By sharing so many experiences with these select few friends, you have created a deep bond with them. It’s the kind of bond that can only be created over time.

The less time you have

As you get older you become busier. You may find that the demands of work increase and for those of you who start families you may find your time becomes very tight. As your time becomes more precious, you find yourself valuing it more and thus less likely to spend it with friends whose company you do not truly enjoy. You save your time for those friends who really matter to you.

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The less energy you have for meeting new people

As a young person, you may have had the energy to go to parties and mingle at bars to meet new people and make new friends. As an older person, you now have less time and patience for these pursuits. You would rather go to an old friend’s house and drink a glass of wine then start making the effort to go out and meet new friends.

The more protective you are of your secrets

As you get older, you may become more protective of your secrets. You are only willing to open up to a select few. You no longer want everyone to know your personal business and only trust these couple of good friends who you know you can rely on.

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So don’t despair if you find yourself with fewer friends. Those who have stood by you through thick and thin have proven to be the right match for you.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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