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8 Ways to Challenge Yourself and Face Your Fears

8 Ways to Challenge Yourself and Face Your Fears

Some days we ooze confidence, in other areas we tend to pull back where we should lead. Like anything, confidence takes work. Especially for those who sometimes feel the burn of self doubt. We must challenge ourselves in order to lead fulfilling lives!

1. Do as the Europeans do

Check out some of your European friends. Though all cultures have their fantastic individual traits, Europeans are generally confident, self-aware, and live life as if they deserve their place in it. Take a few pointers from their attitude. Whatever it is you want to be doing, approach it as they do. Push your ego out of the way and don’t ask anyone or anything for permission to battle forward for the life you want.

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2. Stand naked in front of a mirror and look yourself in the eyes

Giggle. But seriously, this is one of the most confronting things a human can do. Eye to eye communication is thought to be the most personal, so being eye to eye with yourself can be intense. But give it a go. The more you do it, the more comfortable you are with yourself, and in time your self confidence will know no bounds. If you can manage it, tell yourself ‘I love you’ too. It might seem silly, but we don’t do it enough.

3. Live in a new country

It is all well and good travelling to a new country, but we are talking pack your things, say goodbye to your home, grab one medium-sized bag and just take to the hills. Find a new home, that place you always really really wanted to go but never did. Go and live there. Ensconce yourself in the culture and habits and see what you learn from those around you. It will be the hardest and most rewarding thing you might ever do in your life.

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4. Take up a new activity/sport that scares you

Pick one. Do it. Stick to it.

Start small. Practise every day. Do it until you can feel the power of your efforts, and the triumph. Your physical and mental strength will reward you.

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5. Take aim at your most unrealistic dream

Think about the thing you really, really want but never thought you could really really have. Maybe it was a class, maybe it was a job, maybe it was a family, maybe it was becoming a clown or learning to walk on hot coals! Whatever it was, and whatever the reason you pushed it aside, remember your long lost dream. And however unrealistic, if you can imagine it, you can aim for it. And once you realize you can do it, you also realize how much in this life really is possible.

6. Practice communication

Sometimes it is the daily things that make us believe we aren’t confident or good. Learn what is making you feel a certain way and communicate about it. The first time might be really really hard and also uncomfortable, but the more you learn to do this, the better you get at being able to communicate in ways that truly benefit our lives and our relationships.

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7. Because practice makes perfect

Aim high. Keep doing whatever it is, every day, over and over, until it isn’t scary any more. Aim for the part that scares you the most, keep calm and don’t stop until you get there. Just a little bit every day, until your confidence grows, and then a little bit more. The important thing is to just never ever give up.

8. Look your fears dead in the eye

There really is a lot of worth in the saying “Face your fears”. When we run from something, or avoid it, it grows in size. It doesn’t actually disappear like we want it to, just because we want it to. When we practice meeting our fears head on, the fear begins to dissipate and we learn to approach all situations with much more confidence. Not only does it benefit your own self worth, but such fearlessness commands respect. You will attract similar people into your life which will only further your positivity. You will be leader of your destiny in no time!

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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