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10 Reasons to Start Your Own Girl Gang

10 Reasons to Start Your Own Girl Gang

In the past few years I’ve seen more and more women getting together to lift one another up, rather than tear each other down. Ladies have been putting aside their differences, their competitiveness and their jealousy to help one another succeed, and it’s awesome.

One way to really help out your fellow ladies is to start a girl gang. A girl gang is simply a group of females (although it doesn’t always have to be just females) who get together regularly either online or in person to support one another.

Starting a girl gang is something I think every group of gal pals should do; it’s a reason to get together, have fun, build a community of women with a purpose, and much more. In fact, there are a lot of reasons to start your own girl gang.

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Community

One the most obvious reasons to start a girl gang of your own is to build a community; a group of people who are connected by at least one attribute, possibly more. Girl gangs around the world offer one another a community to make one another feel safe and comfortable.

Support

Maybe one of the biggest reasons to start a girl gang is the support group that you will undoubtedly have. Girl gangs are typically made up of open-minded ladies who only want the best for each other. They’re willing to listen, to talk and to offer their support when needed. For a lot of people support is something that’s not always available from their family or even their friends, depending on the topic or area of life. Your girl gang will become your support group.

Guidance

When you’re at a loss at to where to go or what to do in life, having a girl gang to talk to about your options is amazing. As you spend more time with another you build stronger relationships, and in those relationships you learn more about one another are able to give each other advice and guidance in difficult situations.

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Acceptance

Almost everyone in life wants to feel accepted and appreciated. Finding true friends growing up can be difficult, but when you meet someone who accepts you for who are it can be one of the best feelings in the world. Your own girl gang should be comprised of people who are accepting of one another.

Friendship

Having a best friend is awesome, but one person cannot be everything to you. Having a group of gal pals, though, offers you a variety of people with different personalities, interests and skill sets that you can each enjoy. Friendship is vital to our happiness. It has such a big impact on our well-being and overall life because it is such a special bond.

Fun

Being in a girl gang can be a lot of fun! A lot of girl gangs get together regularly for dinner, movies, concerts and parties, or whatever else they’re interested in. Sometimes just meeting in someone’s basement to chitchat and hangout can be something to look forward to and enjoy.

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Passion

Chances are the members of your girl gang will share similar passions. Having someone to talk to about things you are passionate about can be so freeing and exhilarating. It’s not always easy to talk to certain friends or family members about things you enjoy, whether it’s music, writing or art, or even politics or your opinions. Your girl gang will become that group of people who you can turn to to discuss the things that are really important to you.

Excitement

Forming a girl gang is exciting! There are so many things you can do as a group that you can’t do alone. You can create events, parades and marches, you can form a band, a writing group or even throw a potluck dinner. The things you can do with your girl gang are infinite!

Movement

A lot of girl gangs start their own movements. When you and your fellow girl gang members get behind the same purpose anything is possible. With one another’s support, encouragement and network, you can spread your message like wildfire and truly make a difference in the world.

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Memories

Years from now some of your fondest memories might be with your girl gang. You’ll be able to reminisce about all of the fun you had, the things you were able to accomplish and the relationships you formed.

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Last Updated on February 15, 2019

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

Why is goal setting important?

1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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What you truly want and need

Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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