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25 Things You Should Do Before You’re 50

25 Things You Should Do Before You’re 50

Let me start off by saying this.

I’m nowhere near 40. Nor do I have any idea what it’s like the moment you turn 40. But I do everything I can to surround myself with older mentors and teachers who are some of the happiest, most fulfilled, and successful people I know (in every aspect of life— health, wealth, love).

With that said, here’s 25 things you should do before you turn 50.

1. Travel the World Alone.

Traveling alone is a completely different experience than traveling with someone else. You get to do what you do, when you want to, and it’s when you learn to love yourself without depending on anyone else.

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    2. Travel the World Together.

    With that said, traveling together with someone you love can bring you closer than you could have imagined. The real person comes out when you travel with them, and it’s better to have this experience now than sooner.

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      3. Start Something That Lasts.

      Leaving a legacy behind is one of the most important things in my life, and to many of the happiest people in the world, because they have something to live for. Leaving something behind, beyond your physical presence, can be powerful just to think about.

      It can be a non-profit, your own business, a movement. It doesn’t matter what it is. Just start one.

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        4. Become a Mentee.

        Ask any successful person, and 99% will tell you they’ve gotten to where they are because someone mentored them along the way. If you find the right mentor, give even more value back than you receive.

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          5. Become a Mentor.

          If you’ve been mentored sometime in your life, then you understand how powerful it can be to someone’s destiny. Become that light at the end of the tunnel for someone in need, it can be one of the best choices you make.

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            6. Give Back.

            It’s only when we live for something beyond ourselves that we feel a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Giving back doesn’t have to be done only at an individual level. At Rype, we donate a portion of our profits back to organizations like Pencils of Promise, where they’ve built over 300+ schools in developing nations like Nicaragua, Guatemala, and Laos.

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              7. Go Skinny Dipping.

              You know you want to.

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                8. Start a Journal.

                Recording down your present thoughts, and reviewing it years later can be incredibly fulfilling to see how far you’ve come. It can be a blog, vlog, podcast, or a journal that you keep for yourself.

                The world deserves to hear your message.

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                  9. Attend a Religious Event (that’s not your own).

                  This may seem controversial, but most of us have either never been to a religious event or only attended one (probably the one you were born into).
                  Whether you’re religious or not, why not explore to understand what other types of religious faiths that exist?

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                    10. Fall in Love.

                     
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                      11. Learn to Be Happy Alone.

                      Depending on someone else to be happy is no way to live. Knowing that you can love yourself and find happiness alone, can be one of the most freeing discoveries in your life.

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                        12. Become an Expert at Something.

                        While it’s important to have a general understanding of diverse topics and skillsets, you should also be an expert at something. If someone in your life hears your name, there should be a skill that they can always rely on you for. Become a T-Shaped individual.

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                          13. Live in a Developing Country.

                          In the past 15 months, I lived in over a handful developing nations around the world, including Colombia, Argentina, Mexico, and Peru.
                          Traveling around hotels and visiting tourist spots in the country doesn’t help you understand anything about the culture itself. You have to live it.

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                            14. Visit your Elementary Teacher.

                            We should always give more credit than given to the people responsible for our education back in Elementary. My elementary teacher, Ms.Thorton, taught me how to speak English, showed me how to treat others, and taught me to think big. In most cases, they taught us things that we probably can’t even remember today, but has influenced many important decisions we made throughout our journey.

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                              15. Commit to a Health Ritual.

                              This is a common pattern that I see in nearly every person that hits 30 or 35.
                              Their priority of health starts to become the #1 priority in their life, even over wealth. What’s the point of accumulating wealth, if you’re not in a healthy state to enjoy it?

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                                16. Have more than One Career.

                                We live in the “hyphenated” world today. You’re an Engineer, Entrepreneur, Designer, Writer. Or Investor, Author, Speaker, etc. With technology moving industries and markets faster than ever before, and people living longer than ever, it’s not only possible to have more than one career, but it’s necessary.

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                                  17. Replace your Coffee with Tea.

                                  Cut the jitter, introduce the calm.

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                                    18. Have a Signature Dish.

                                    You may not need to know how to cook. But every person needs a signature dish. Keep it as your secret weapon.

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                                      19. Read 100+ Books.

                                      Knowledge is freedom. If you’re not growing, you’re dying.

                                      This post should help you out.

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                                        20. Buy Wine Today You’ll Drink In 20 Years.

                                        You can also do this with long-time friends.

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                                          21. Adopt.

                                          Be it a dog, cat, or baby, make the decision to turn someone’s life around.

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                                            22. Call up an Old Friend.

                                            If there’s someone you haven’t spoken to in a few years, or even a decade.
                                            Reach out to them. In the one-tap, social media world that we live in, there’s no reason to even call them. Just send them a message.

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                                              23. Learn How to Say “No.”

                                              Turning down opportunities allows you to do your best work.
                                              A great book to read is the Power of No by James Altucher.

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                                                24. Write a letter to your 10-year future self.

                                                Where do you want to be in 10-years? What would you say to this person?
                                                Share everything in a letter, and keep it locked for 10 years. Then 10 years later, write another letter to your 10-year future self.

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                                                  25. Learn a New Language.

                                                  If you’ve went your entire life knowing only one language (English), you’ve put a glass ceiling on yourself, because you can only reach 12% of this world’s population.

                                                  Learning a new language is the catalyst that opens up doors to new cultures, people, and opportunities. Learning how to speak Spanish alone can nearly double your global reach, and allow you to have a global perspective and a deeper understanding of the world outside your current limits.

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                                                    Take advantages of online websites like Rype, offering unlimited one-on-one Spanish lessons online with a professional language coach. Try it free for 14 days and get 3 free lessons with 3 different coaches when you sign up.

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                                                    Last Updated on December 17, 2018

                                                    Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

                                                    Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

                                                    Have you ever wanted to say something at work, but a little voice of doubt crept in and said, “what if you are wrong”?

                                                    Maybe you wanted to apply for that promotion or ask that special someone on a date, but something kept you from taking action. When you think you’re not good enough, you tend to fear the outcome and lack faith in your abilities. That is why it is vital you discover how to believe in yourself so you can accomplish your goals and create your dream life.

                                                    Whatever your situation, the fears and self-doubt your false beliefs create will always stop you in your tracks. Identifying the beliefs that cause you to sabotage your life is the first step to removing them.

                                                    Self-doubt causes inaction, and inaction leads to regret. When you are not following your passion and living your dream life, you are left with a lot of questions:

                                                    • What if I took a chance on myself?
                                                    • Could I have had a better life if I took more risks?
                                                    • Am I be satisfied with the legacy I am leaving behind?
                                                    • What could I have accomplished if I did not settle for less?

                                                    So why would you think you’re not good enough?

                                                    1. Parenting

                                                    The perception you have of yourself is based on your past experiences. There are studies that show children mimic everything from their parents ability to regulate emotions, to their parents belief about money.[1]

                                                    I have had clients who did not believe they were good enough because they did not receive any positive reinforcement as a child. When they were young, their parents were extremely overprotective.

                                                    Think of your childhood challenges like dragons you had to slay. Each obstacle you overcame was another dragon you successfully removed from your life. As you slay more dragons, your self-esteem and confidence increase. When someone has overprotective parents, their parents end up slaying the dragons.

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                                                    As a result, the child builds more confidence in their parent’s abilities, while still doubting their own.

                                                    If you are never encouraged to slay your own dragons, you start to doubt whether you can. It is only natural for a child to conclude their parents are always helping them because they think they need it. This child ages into an adult who still believes they are not good enough. They seek the help and confirmation of others, and they rarely stand-up to opposition.

                                                    Solution: Slay Your Dragons!

                                                    If you want to believe in yourself, you are going to have to take steps to rebuild your trust in yourself. Start by keeping your word to others and arriving on-time. By showing yourself that others can (and do) trust you, you are going to feel more comfortable trusting yourself.

                                                    As you move onto larger and more challenging tasks, you have built a foundation of trust in your ability to keep your word. Next, you are going to want to reclaim your sword from others. At first, you may want to confide in whoever it is currently slaying your dragons.

                                                    Understand if it is your parent or someone who loves you, they want the best for you and mean well. You are simply going to tell them that you want to do the work, and will ask them for their thoughts in the planning phase. Feel free to check in with them and give them updates on your progress, while making sure they understand you are wanting to do the work yourself.

                                                    Then when the task is completed, let them know so you can celebrate together. Now that you have slayed your own dragon, you can start to reclaim your confidence. By you utilizing them as your guide, you get the added bonus of someone you respect and admire, telling you how amazing you are.

                                                    Think of it like a symbolic passing of the torch. Now, you are both dragon slayers. Which means all the positive attributes you attributed to them slaying your dragons, now belong to you.

                                                    2. Over-Exaggerating and Oversimplifying

                                                    Your past experiences may involve you or someone close to you failing. When you experience failure, you can lose your desire to continue. This has less to do with whether you are brave or scared, and more to do with the fact that your mind does not like failure.

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                                                    No one enjoys participating in events in which they under-perform. Outside of the usual reasons of embarrassment, feelings of inadequacy, and fear of failure – it is simply not fun.

                                                    Who wants to play baseball if they strikeout every time it is their turn? Would you enjoy singing in front of an audience if you were booed off the stage every time you performed? I could go on, but I think you get the point.

                                                    The thing about those two examples is no one really strikes out “every” at-bat. It is also unlikely someone could be booed off the stage “every time” they performed in-front of an audience.

                                                    What ends up happening is you oversimplify and exaggerate your past experiences and then your mind believes you. If you believe you are not good enough to ask someone on a date because they “always” tell you no, then do not be surprised you never muster the courage to do so.

                                                    If you want to overcome these feelings of inadequacy, start by changing your beliefs. This exercise does not need to be complicated. If you believe you strikeout every time it is your turn, I want to you to go to a batting cage and keep swinging until you hit the baseball.

                                                    When you experience success, I want you to take a mental note, write it down, or have someone video it. This is your proof that you do not always strike out. Then, whenever your belief that you are not good enough resurfaces, you are going to replay that video.

                                                    Regardless of the situation, you can find a successful experience that you are overlooking.

                                                    Solution: Read About the Failures of Others

                                                    It sounds a little crazy, I know, but reading about the failures of other successful people will improve your confidence. In a study conducted by Columbia University, they found that teaching students about the failures of great scientists encouraged them to do better.[2]

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                                                    When you are battling fear and self-doubt, you tend to over-exaggerate the abilities of others and diminish your own by comparison. You start to believe the successful are successful because they are courageous risk-takers, who do not take no for an answer. You tell yourself, they are meant to succeed, while you on the other hand are not.

                                                    When you are able to relate to the successful, you start to realize they have the same struggles and challenges you do. The only difference is they kept going.

                                                    Now it is not a question of whether you can succeed, it is a question of whether you want to succeed.

                                                    3. Undervalue Yourself

                                                    What is the main difference between someone who believes they are good enough and someone who does not? The person who believes they are good enough understands they are a person of value.

                                                    What I mean by this is if you do not believe you are worth being listened to, you will not have anything to say. If you do not believe you are good enough to be respected and treated as such, you will accept and rationalize all kinds of mistreatment.

                                                    There is an old saying that we are treated as we allow ourselves to be treated. When someone has the confidence and self-esteem that commands respect, they will not accept being treated any kind of way. However, if someone does not see themselves as worthy, they will remain in toxic situations because they do not believe anything better is on the horizon.

                                                    Dr. Jennifer Crocker, who worked on a series of self-esteem studies, found in her latest research that:[3]

                                                    “College students who based their self-worth on external sources–including appearance, approval from others and even their academic performance–reported more stress, anger, academic problems, relationship conflicts, and had higher levels of drug and alcohol use and symptoms of eating disorders”

                                                    Solution: Internalize Your Self-Worth

                                                    Instead of valuing yourself based on the awards, recognition, and accolades of others, you need to search internally. By basing your perception of yourself on your core values, you can regain control over self-image.

                                                    Instead of focusing on things that are outside of control, keep your mind on what it is that makes you special. You are not defined by your job, relationships, religion, or education. Rather, you are defined by the manner in which you participate in these things. You may be a creative, hard-working, and compassionate person; and that shows up in every thing you do.

                                                    Understand that you do not need to be creative, hard-working, and compassionate all the time to consider yourself these things. You are not trying to be perfect, but you are trying to connect with your true self.

                                                    By understanding the similarities in which you tackle objectives, you will build a consistent and powerful self-worth that stands apart from external confirmation.

                                                    Final Thoughts

                                                    Do not allow your past experiences do dictate your future success. You do not want to look back on your life and have a lot of questions and regrets.

                                                    Build trust in yourself by taking action today. This will help you build the confidence you need to believe in yourself and your ability to become the champion of your life.

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