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25 Things You Should Do Before You’re 50

25 Things You Should Do Before You’re 50

Let me start off by saying this.

I’m nowhere near 40. Nor do I have any idea what it’s like the moment you turn 40. But I do everything I can to surround myself with older mentors and teachers who are some of the happiest, most fulfilled, and successful people I know (in every aspect of life— health, wealth, love).

With that said, here’s 25 things you should do before you turn 50.

1. Travel the World Alone.

Traveling alone is a completely different experience than traveling with someone else. You get to do what you do, when you want to, and it’s when you learn to love yourself without depending on anyone else.

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    2. Travel the World Together.

    With that said, traveling together with someone you love can bring you closer than you could have imagined. The real person comes out when you travel with them, and it’s better to have this experience now than sooner.

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      3. Start Something That Lasts.

      Leaving a legacy behind is one of the most important things in my life, and to many of the happiest people in the world, because they have something to live for. Leaving something behind, beyond your physical presence, can be powerful just to think about.

      It can be a non-profit, your own business, a movement. It doesn’t matter what it is. Just start one.

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        4. Become a Mentee.

        Ask any successful person, and 99% will tell you they’ve gotten to where they are because someone mentored them along the way. If you find the right mentor, give even more value back than you receive.

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          5. Become a Mentor.

          If you’ve been mentored sometime in your life, then you understand how powerful it can be to someone’s destiny. Become that light at the end of the tunnel for someone in need, it can be one of the best choices you make.

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            6. Give Back.

            It’s only when we live for something beyond ourselves that we feel a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Giving back doesn’t have to be done only at an individual level. At Rype, we donate a portion of our profits back to organizations like Pencils of Promise, where they’ve built over 300+ schools in developing nations like Nicaragua, Guatemala, and Laos.

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              7. Go Skinny Dipping.

              You know you want to.

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                8. Start a Journal.

                Recording down your present thoughts, and reviewing it years later can be incredibly fulfilling to see how far you’ve come. It can be a blog, vlog, podcast, or a journal that you keep for yourself.

                The world deserves to hear your message.

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                  9. Attend a Religious Event (that’s not your own).

                  This may seem controversial, but most of us have either never been to a religious event or only attended one (probably the one you were born into).
                  Whether you’re religious or not, why not explore to understand what other types of religious faiths that exist?

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                    10. Fall in Love.

                     
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                      11. Learn to Be Happy Alone.

                      Depending on someone else to be happy is no way to live. Knowing that you can love yourself and find happiness alone, can be one of the most freeing discoveries in your life.

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                        12. Become an Expert at Something.

                        While it’s important to have a general understanding of diverse topics and skillsets, you should also be an expert at something. If someone in your life hears your name, there should be a skill that they can always rely on you for. Become a T-Shaped individual.

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                          13. Live in a Developing Country.

                          In the past 15 months, I lived in over a handful developing nations around the world, including Colombia, Argentina, Mexico, and Peru.
                          Traveling around hotels and visiting tourist spots in the country doesn’t help you understand anything about the culture itself. You have to live it.

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                            14. Visit your Elementary Teacher.

                            We should always give more credit than given to the people responsible for our education back in Elementary. My elementary teacher, Ms.Thorton, taught me how to speak English, showed me how to treat others, and taught me to think big. In most cases, they taught us things that we probably can’t even remember today, but has influenced many important decisions we made throughout our journey.

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                              15. Commit to a Health Ritual.

                              This is a common pattern that I see in nearly every person that hits 30 or 35.
                              Their priority of health starts to become the #1 priority in their life, even over wealth. What’s the point of accumulating wealth, if you’re not in a healthy state to enjoy it?

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                                16. Have more than One Career.

                                We live in the “hyphenated” world today. You’re an Engineer, Entrepreneur, Designer, Writer. Or Investor, Author, Speaker, etc. With technology moving industries and markets faster than ever before, and people living longer than ever, it’s not only possible to have more than one career, but it’s necessary.

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                                  17. Replace your Coffee with Tea.

                                  Cut the jitter, introduce the calm.

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                                    18. Have a Signature Dish.

                                    You may not need to know how to cook. But every person needs a signature dish. Keep it as your secret weapon.

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                                      19. Read 100+ Books.

                                      Knowledge is freedom. If you’re not growing, you’re dying.

                                      This post should help you out.

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                                        20. Buy Wine Today You’ll Drink In 20 Years.

                                        You can also do this with long-time friends.

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                                          21. Adopt.

                                          Be it a dog, cat, or baby, make the decision to turn someone’s life around.

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                                            22. Call up an Old Friend.

                                            If there’s someone you haven’t spoken to in a few years, or even a decade.
                                            Reach out to them. In the one-tap, social media world that we live in, there’s no reason to even call them. Just send them a message.

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                                              23. Learn How to Say “No.”

                                              Turning down opportunities allows you to do your best work.
                                              A great book to read is the Power of No by James Altucher.

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                                                24. Write a letter to your 10-year future self.

                                                Where do you want to be in 10-years? What would you say to this person?
                                                Share everything in a letter, and keep it locked for 10 years. Then 10 years later, write another letter to your 10-year future self.

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                                                  25. Learn a New Language.

                                                  If you’ve went your entire life knowing only one language (English), you’ve put a glass ceiling on yourself, because you can only reach 12% of this world’s population.

                                                  Learning a new language is the catalyst that opens up doors to new cultures, people, and opportunities. Learning how to speak Spanish alone can nearly double your global reach, and allow you to have a global perspective and a deeper understanding of the world outside your current limits.

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                                                    Take advantages of online websites like Rype, offering unlimited one-on-one Spanish lessons online with a professional language coach. Try it free for 14 days and get 3 free lessons with 3 different coaches when you sign up.

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                                                    Sean is the founder and CEO of Rype, a language learning app. He's an entrepreneur and blogger.

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                                                    How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

                                                    How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

                                                    We all lose our temper from time to time, and expressing anger is actually a healthy thing to do in our relationships with others. Expressing our differences in opinion allows us to have healthy conflict and many times come to an agreement or understanding that works for everyone. However, there are times when anger can become overwhelming or damaging, and during these times, it’s important to learn how to deal with anger.

                                                    Expressing anger inappropriately can be harmful to relationships, both personal and professional. You may express too much anger, too often, or at times that are only going to make things worse, not better. In this article we will look at anger management techniques that will help you better control your emotions.

                                                    Let’s take a deeper look at how to deal with anger.

                                                    Expressing Anger

                                                    Anger is a natural and normal part of almost any relationship. This includes relationships with your significant other, kids, boss, friends, family, etc. Anger provides us with valuable information if we are willing to listen to it. It clues us in to areas where we disagree with others and things that need to be changed or altered.

                                                    Unhealthy Ways to Express Anger

                                                    Here are some common yet unhealthy ways to express anger that you should avoid:

                                                    Being Passive-Aggressive

                                                    This is a term many of us are familiar with. Passive-aggressive behavior happens when someone is angry but uses indirect communication to express their anger.

                                                    Some of the more common passive-aggressive behaviors include the silent treatment, making comments about someone behind their back, being grumpy, moody, or pouting, or simply not doing tasks or assignments that they should.

                                                    This is a passive-aggressive person’s way of showing their anger. It’s not very productive but extremely common.

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                                                    Poorly-Timed

                                                    Some people get overwhelmed and express anger in a situation where it can’t really do any good.

                                                    An example would be getting angry at one person in front of a crowd of people. All that does is make people uncomfortable and shuts them down. It’s not a healthy way to express anger or disagreement with someone.

                                                    Ongoing Anger

                                                    Being angry all the time is most often a symptom of something else. It’s healthy and normal to express anger when you disagree with someone. However, if someone is angry most of the time and always seems to be expressing their anger to everyone around them, this won’t serve them well.

                                                    Over time, people will start to avoid this person and have as little contact as possible. The reason being is no one likes being around someone who is angry all the time; it’s a no-win situation.

                                                    Healthy Ways to Express Anger

                                                    What about the healthy ways[1] to adapt? When learning how to deal with anger, here are some healthy ways to get you started.

                                                    Being Honest

                                                    Express your anger or disagreement honestly. Be truthful about what it is that is making you angry. Sometimes this will entail walking away and thinking about it for a bit before you respond.

                                                    Don’t say you’re mad at something someone did or said when it’s really something else that upset you.

                                                    Being Direct

                                                    Similar to being honest, being direct is a healthy way to express anger.

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                                                    Don’t talk around something that is making you angry. Don’t say that one thing is making you angry when it’s really something else, and don’t stack items on top of each other so you can unload on someone about 10 different things 6 months from now.

                                                    Be direct and upfront about what is making you angry. Ensure you are expressing your anger to the person who upset you or you are angry at, not to someone else. This is very counterproductive.

                                                    Being Timely

                                                    When something makes you angry, it’s much better to express it in a timely manner. Don’t keep it bottled up inside of you, as that’s only going to do more harm than good.

                                                    Think of the marriages that seem to go up in flames out of nowhere when the reality is someone kept quiet for years until they hit their breaking point.

                                                    Expressing anger as it occurs is a much healthier way of using anger to help us guide our relationships in the moment.

                                                    How to Deal With Anger

                                                    If you feel angry, how should you deal with it right at that moment?

                                                    1. Slow Down

                                                    From time to time, I receive an email at work that makes me so angry that steam is probably pouring out of my ears.

                                                    In my less restrained moments, I have been known to fire off a quick response, and that typically has ended about as well as you might imagine.

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                                                    When I actually walk away from my computer and go do something else for a while, I am able to calm down and think more rationally. After that happens, I am able to respond in a more appropriate and productive manner. Doing things that helps you learn how to release anger can make an uncomfortable situation more manageable before it gets out of hand.

                                                    2. Focus on the “I”

                                                    Remember that you are the one that’s upset. Don’t accuse people of making you upset because, in the end, it’s your response to what someone did that really triggered your anger. You don’t want to place blame by saying something like “Why don’t you ever put away your dishes?” Say something more like “Having dirty dishes laying on the counter upsets me—can you work with me to come to a solution?”

                                                    When you are accusatory towards someone, all that does is increase the tension. This doesn’t usually do anything except make your anger rise higher.

                                                    3. Work out

                                                    When learning how to deal with anger, exercise is a great outlet. If something happens that angers you, see if you have the opportunity to burn off some of the anger.

                                                    Being able to hit the gym to get a hard workout in is great. If this isn’t an option, see if you can go for a run or a bike ride. If you are at work when you become angry and the weather permits, at least go outside for a brisk walk.

                                                    Besides working some of your anger out through exercise, this also helps to give your mind a chance to work through some ways to address what it is that upset you.

                                                    If you’re not sure where to start with an exercise routine, check out Lifehack’s free Simple Cardio Home Workout Plan.

                                                    4. Seek Help When Needed

                                                    There are times when we could all use some help. Life can be stressful and overwhelming. It’s perfectly fine to seek some help from a mental health professional if it will help you get back to a healthy balance.If you find that you are angry all the time, it might be a good idea to go talk to an expert about learning to control intense emotions. They can give you some sound advice and ideas on how to get your anger to a more manageable and healthy level.

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                                                    5. Practice Relaxation

                                                    We all seem to lead incredibly busy lives, and that’s a good thing if we are loving the life we are living. That being said, it is very beneficial to our physical and mental well-being to take time out for relaxation.

                                                    That can mean spending time doing things that help us calm down and relax, like being around people we enjoy, practicing deep breathing or listening to music. It could be making time for things that help bring us balance like a healthy diet and physical activity.

                                                    Many people incorporate techniques such as yoga and meditation to calm their minds and release tension when learning how to deal with anger. Whatever your choice is, ensure you take time out to relax when warning signs of anger start to bubble up.

                                                    6. Laugh

                                                    Incorporating humor and laughter on a regular basis will help keep anger in check and help you get over a bad mood and feelings of anger more quickly. This isn’t part of formal anger management techniques, but you’ll be surprised by how well it works. Remember, life is a journey that’s meant to be enjoyed fully along the way through healthy emotion. Make sure you take time to laugh and have fun.Surround yourself with people that like to laugh and enjoy life. Don’t work at a job that just causes you stress, which can lead to anger. Work at something you enjoy doing.

                                                    7. Be Grateful

                                                    It’s easy to focus on the bad in life and the things that cause us negative emotions. It’s vitally important to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things in life that bring us positive emotions, things that we easily forget because we get caught up in the whirlwind of day to day life.

                                                    Take time out each day to remind yourself of a few things you are grateful for in order to help you learn how to release anger and invite in more positive feelings.

                                                    Final Thoughts

                                                    Life can be overwhelming at times. We seem to have constant pressure to achieve more and to always be on the go. People we are around and situations we are in can cause stress, anger, and negative emotions. At times, it can seem to be too much, and we get angry and our emotions start to get out of control.

                                                    During these times, keep in mind that life is an incredible journey, full of wonder and things that bring you joy. When you find yourself angry more often than is healthy, take time out to remember the good things in life—the things that we seem to forget yet bring us so much positive energy and emotions.

                                                    Use some of the tips included here to help with how to deal with anger and better control your emotions.

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