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25 Things You Should Do Before You’re 50

25 Things You Should Do Before You’re 50

Let me start off by saying this.

I’m nowhere near 40. Nor do I have any idea what it’s like the moment you turn 40. But I do everything I can to surround myself with older mentors and teachers who are some of the happiest, most fulfilled, and successful people I know (in every aspect of life— health, wealth, love).

With that said, here’s 25 things you should do before you turn 50.

1. Travel the World Alone.

Traveling alone is a completely different experience than traveling with someone else. You get to do what you do, when you want to, and it’s when you learn to love yourself without depending on anyone else.

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    2. Travel the World Together.

    With that said, traveling together with someone you love can bring you closer than you could have imagined. The real person comes out when you travel with them, and it’s better to have this experience now than sooner.

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      3. Start Something That Lasts.

      Leaving a legacy behind is one of the most important things in my life, and to many of the happiest people in the world, because they have something to live for. Leaving something behind, beyond your physical presence, can be powerful just to think about.

      It can be a non-profit, your own business, a movement. It doesn’t matter what it is. Just start one.

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        4. Become a Mentee.

        Ask any successful person, and 99% will tell you they’ve gotten to where they are because someone mentored them along the way. If you find the right mentor, give even more value back than you receive.

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          5. Become a Mentor.

          If you’ve been mentored sometime in your life, then you understand how powerful it can be to someone’s destiny. Become that light at the end of the tunnel for someone in need, it can be one of the best choices you make.

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            6. Give Back.

            It’s only when we live for something beyond ourselves that we feel a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Giving back doesn’t have to be done only at an individual level. At Rype, we donate a portion of our profits back to organizations like Pencils of Promise, where they’ve built over 300+ schools in developing nations like Nicaragua, Guatemala, and Laos.

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              7. Go Skinny Dipping.

              You know you want to.

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                8. Start a Journal.

                Recording down your present thoughts, and reviewing it years later can be incredibly fulfilling to see how far you’ve come. It can be a blog, vlog, podcast, or a journal that you keep for yourself.

                The world deserves to hear your message.

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                  9. Attend a Religious Event (that’s not your own).

                  This may seem controversial, but most of us have either never been to a religious event or only attended one (probably the one you were born into).
                  Whether you’re religious or not, why not explore to understand what other types of religious faiths that exist?

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                    10. Fall in Love.

                     
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                      11. Learn to Be Happy Alone.

                      Depending on someone else to be happy is no way to live. Knowing that you can love yourself and find happiness alone, can be one of the most freeing discoveries in your life.

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                        12. Become an Expert at Something.

                        While it’s important to have a general understanding of diverse topics and skillsets, you should also be an expert at something. If someone in your life hears your name, there should be a skill that they can always rely on you for. Become a T-Shaped individual.

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                          13. Live in a Developing Country.

                          In the past 15 months, I lived in over a handful developing nations around the world, including Colombia, Argentina, Mexico, and Peru.
                          Traveling around hotels and visiting tourist spots in the country doesn’t help you understand anything about the culture itself. You have to live it.

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                            14. Visit your Elementary Teacher.

                            We should always give more credit than given to the people responsible for our education back in Elementary. My elementary teacher, Ms.Thorton, taught me how to speak English, showed me how to treat others, and taught me to think big. In most cases, they taught us things that we probably can’t even remember today, but has influenced many important decisions we made throughout our journey.

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                              15. Commit to a Health Ritual.

                              This is a common pattern that I see in nearly every person that hits 30 or 35.
                              Their priority of health starts to become the #1 priority in their life, even over wealth. What’s the point of accumulating wealth, if you’re not in a healthy state to enjoy it?

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                                16. Have more than One Career.

                                We live in the “hyphenated” world today. You’re an Engineer, Entrepreneur, Designer, Writer. Or Investor, Author, Speaker, etc. With technology moving industries and markets faster than ever before, and people living longer than ever, it’s not only possible to have more than one career, but it’s necessary.

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                                  17. Replace your Coffee with Tea.

                                  Cut the jitter, introduce the calm.

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                                    18. Have a Signature Dish.

                                    You may not need to know how to cook. But every person needs a signature dish. Keep it as your secret weapon.

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                                      19. Read 100+ Books.

                                      Knowledge is freedom. If you’re not growing, you’re dying.

                                      This post should help you out.

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                                        20. Buy Wine Today You’ll Drink In 20 Years.

                                        You can also do this with long-time friends.

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                                          21. Adopt.

                                          Be it a dog, cat, or baby, make the decision to turn someone’s life around.

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                                            22. Call up an Old Friend.

                                            If there’s someone you haven’t spoken to in a few years, or even a decade.
                                            Reach out to them. In the one-tap, social media world that we live in, there’s no reason to even call them. Just send them a message.

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                                              23. Learn How to Say “No.”

                                              Turning down opportunities allows you to do your best work.
                                              A great book to read is the Power of No by James Altucher.

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                                                24. Write a letter to your 10-year future self.

                                                Where do you want to be in 10-years? What would you say to this person?
                                                Share everything in a letter, and keep it locked for 10 years. Then 10 years later, write another letter to your 10-year future self.

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                                                  25. Learn a New Language.

                                                  If you’ve went your entire life knowing only one language (English), you’ve put a glass ceiling on yourself, because you can only reach 12% of this world’s population.

                                                  Learning a new language is the catalyst that opens up doors to new cultures, people, and opportunities. Learning how to speak Spanish alone can nearly double your global reach, and allow you to have a global perspective and a deeper understanding of the world outside your current limits.

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                                                    Take advantages of online websites like Rype, offering unlimited one-on-one Spanish lessons online with a professional language coach. Try it free for 14 days and get 3 free lessons with 3 different coaches when you sign up.

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                                                    Last Updated on October 17, 2019

                                                    How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                                                    How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                                                    You see your partner every single day. They are the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you kiss goodnight.

                                                    But does seeing each other day in and day out equal a healthy relationship? Not necessarily.

                                                    Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse!

                                                    What does quality time mean? It means spending time with your spouse without interruption. It’s a chance for you to come together and talk. Communication will build emotional intimacy and trust.

                                                    Quality time is also about expressing love in a physical way. Not sex, necessarily (but that’s great, too!) but through hand-holding, cuddling, caressing, and tickling. Studies show that these displays of affection will boost partner satisfaction.[1]

                                                    So how do you spend quality time with your partner? Here are 13 relationship tips on making the most out of your time with your partner.

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                                                    1. Recognize the Signs

                                                    If you want a healthy relationship, you have to learn how to recognize the signs that you need to spend more quality time together.

                                                    Some telltale signs include:

                                                    • You’re always on your phones.
                                                    • You value friendships or hobbies over quality time with your spouse.
                                                    • You aren’t together during important events.
                                                    • You are arguing more often or lack connection.
                                                    • You don’t make plans or date nights.
                                                    • You’re not happy.

                                                    If you are experiencing any of these relationship symptoms, know that quality time together can reverse the negative effects of the signs above.

                                                    2. Try New Things Together

                                                    Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument or speak another language? How about skydive or ballroom dance?

                                                    Instead of viewing these as solo hobbies and interests, why not involve your partner?

                                                    Trying new activities together builds healthy relationships because it encourages spouses to rely on one another for emotional and physical support.

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                                                    Shared hobbies also promote marital friendship, and the Journal of Happiness Studies found that marital satisfaction was twice as high for couples who viewed each other as best friends.[2]

                                                    3. Schedule in Tech-Free Time

                                                    Your phone is a great way to listen to music, watch videos, and keep up-to-date with friends and family. But is your phone good for your relationship?

                                                    Many couples phone snub, or ‘phub’, one another. Studies show that phubbing can lower relationship satisfaction and increase one’s chances of depression.[3]

                                                    Reduce those chances by removing distractions when spending quality time together and showing your partner they have your full attention.

                                                    4. Hit the Gym as a Couple

                                                    One way you can spend more time together as a couple is by becoming workout partners. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay with their exercise routine if they work out together.[4] Couples also work out harder than they would solo. One study found that 95 percent of couples who work out together maintained weight loss compares to the 66 percent of singles who did.[5]

                                                    Join a gym, do at-home couples’ workouts, try couples yoga, hit the hiking trails, or get your bikes out. No matter which way you choose to exercise, these healthy activities can promote a healthy relationship.

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                                                    5. Cook Meals Together

                                                    Pop open a bottle of wine or put some romantic music on while you get busy – in the kitchen, of course!

                                                    One of the best relationship tips for spending quality time together when you both have busy schedules is to cook meals together.[6]

                                                    Spice things up and try and prepare a four-course meal or a fancy French dish together. Not only is this a fun way to spend your time together, but it also promotes teamwork.

                                                    If all goes well, you’ll have a romantic date night meal at home that you prepared with your four hands. And if the food didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you are guaranteed to have a laugh and create new memories together.

                                                    6. Have a Regular Date Night

                                                    Couples experience a greater sense of happiness and less stress when they are spending quality time together.[7] One of the biggest relationship tips for a healthy partnership is to include a date night in your weekly routine.

                                                    The National Marriage Project found that having a weekly date night can make your relationship seem more exciting and helps prevent relationship boredom.[8] It also lowers the probability of divorce, improves your sex life, and increases healthy communication.

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                                                    Some great ideas for what to do on your date night include:

                                                    • Have a movie marathon – Gather up your favorite flicks and cuddle up on the couch.
                                                    • Play games together – Cards, board games, video games, and other creative outlets are a fun way to spend quality time together.
                                                    • Recreate your first date – Go back to that restaurant and order the same meal you did when you first got together. You can spice up your evening by pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time and see how sexy the night gets.
                                                    • Plan a weekend getaway – There’s nothing better than traveling with the one you love.
                                                    • Dinner and a movie – A classic!
                                                    • Try a new restaurant – Make it your mission to rate and try all of the Mexican restaurants/Irish pubs/Italian trattorias in your area.
                                                    • Have a long sex session – Intimacy promotes the release of the oxytocin hormone which is responsible for a myriad of great feelings.[9]

                                                    Here’re even more date night ideas for your reference: 50 Unique and Really Fun Date Ideas for Couples

                                                    Final Thoughts

                                                    The benefits of spending quality time together are endless. Here are just some of the ways it can contribute to a healthy relationship:

                                                    • Improves emotional and physical intimacy
                                                    • Lowers divorce rates
                                                    • Improves communication
                                                    • Reduces marital boredom
                                                    • Bonds couples closer
                                                    • Improves friendship
                                                    • Boosts health
                                                    • Reduces stress

                                                    These are all excellent reasons to start making date night a regular part of your week.

                                                    It’s easy to have a healthy relationship when you set aside dedicated time to share with your spouse. Try new things together, make your spouse your workout buddy, and look for innovative ways to be close and connected.

                                                    These relationship tips will bring great benefits to your marriage.

                                                    Featured photo credit: Allen Taylor via unsplash.com

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