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10 Unexpected Benefits Of Breaking Up

10 Unexpected Benefits Of Breaking Up

Most of us have gone through a breakup at some point in our lives. While they can be gut-wrenching, there are actually many benefits to ending a relationship. If you are considering leaving your current relationship, or have recently suffered a painful ending, here are a few advantages to consider. There is always a silver lining if you know where to look! Read on to discover the benefits of breaking up.

1. Sweet, sweet freedom.

Now that you no longer have a significant other to think about, you can make major life choices based on your own wishes, goals, and whims. You no longer have to cater to their preferences. You can move cities for a new job, choose to take a vacation in a spot they would have hated, or paint the living room in their least favourite colour. Think of the possibilities!

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2. More space.

If you’ve been living with someone, you might be amazed at just how much space you find freed up once they’ve gone. You’ll have more room in the wardrobe, the bathroom cabinet — just about everywhere!

3. No more pretending to like their awful friends and annoying relatives.

Did they have a really irritating best friend or a bigoted mother? Good news — you’ll no longer have to pretend to get along with these people just for the sake of keeping the peace. You can spend that time with your own friends and relatives instead — you know, the people you actually like (or at least know how to handle).

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4. No more wondering when everything will end.

The final weeks or even months of a relationship can be exhausting. You can be caught up in endless rumination, wondering how everything will end. You can become very tense and stressed, bracing yourself for the demise of the relationship. Although the breakup can be agonising, at least you no longer have to wait for something to happen.

5. You will become more empathetic.

There’s nothing quite like heartbreak to make you more sensitive to the trials and tribulations going on in the world around you. You will find that your loved ones will probably feel inclined to share their own stories with you. Not only will this mean you feel less alone, but it will also remind you that everyone faces difficult periods in their lives.

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6. Post-breakup energy.

After the initial slump, during which you feel as though you simply want to sit on a sofa and stuff your face with ice cream, many people actually feel a renewed sense of energy and purpose after ending a significant relationship. You are forced to change your life radically, and this can be energizing. Channel this into a hobby, new job, or just spend it on rejuvenating your social life.

7. Guilt-free flirting.

As soon as you are single, you are free to flirt, date, or kiss anyone without guilt. You are beholden to nobody and can do exactly as you please. If you haven’t been single for a long time, this may feel overwhelming at first, but you’ll soon get used to it!

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8. You discover who your friends really are.

There’s nothing quite like the support of good friends. When going through a breakup, you’ll quickly find out who is really there for you when things get rough. Treasure the people who come through for you, and don’t forget to offer them the same support in return when they need it.

9. It gives you the chance to reassess what you want in a partner and in a relationship.

Being single grants you time and energy to really think about what you want and need in a partner. This will prepare you for your next relationship — if and when you want one. Think about what you liked about your old relationship and which mistakes you want to avoid next time around.

10. You may feel creatively inspired.

Some of the greatest literature, music, and visual art in the world has been inspired by love turned sour. If you are a creative type — or even if you aren’t — consider channelling your feelings into art of some kind. The intense feelings and energy around your breakup may allow you to bust through a creative block.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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