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10 Unexpected Benefits Of Breaking Up

10 Unexpected Benefits Of Breaking Up

Most of us have gone through a breakup at some point in our lives. While they can be gut-wrenching, there are actually many benefits to ending a relationship. If you are considering leaving your current relationship, or have recently suffered a painful ending, here are a few advantages to consider. There is always a silver lining if you know where to look! Read on to discover the benefits of breaking up.

1. Sweet, sweet freedom.

Now that you no longer have a significant other to think about, you can make major life choices based on your own wishes, goals, and whims. You no longer have to cater to their preferences. You can move cities for a new job, choose to take a vacation in a spot they would have hated, or paint the living room in their least favourite colour. Think of the possibilities!

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2. More space.

If you’ve been living with someone, you might be amazed at just how much space you find freed up once they’ve gone. You’ll have more room in the wardrobe, the bathroom cabinet — just about everywhere!

3. No more pretending to like their awful friends and annoying relatives.

Did they have a really irritating best friend or a bigoted mother? Good news — you’ll no longer have to pretend to get along with these people just for the sake of keeping the peace. You can spend that time with your own friends and relatives instead — you know, the people you actually like (or at least know how to handle).

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4. No more wondering when everything will end.

The final weeks or even months of a relationship can be exhausting. You can be caught up in endless rumination, wondering how everything will end. You can become very tense and stressed, bracing yourself for the demise of the relationship. Although the breakup can be agonising, at least you no longer have to wait for something to happen.

5. You will become more empathetic.

There’s nothing quite like heartbreak to make you more sensitive to the trials and tribulations going on in the world around you. You will find that your loved ones will probably feel inclined to share their own stories with you. Not only will this mean you feel less alone, but it will also remind you that everyone faces difficult periods in their lives.

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6. Post-breakup energy.

After the initial slump, during which you feel as though you simply want to sit on a sofa and stuff your face with ice cream, many people actually feel a renewed sense of energy and purpose after ending a significant relationship. You are forced to change your life radically, and this can be energizing. Channel this into a hobby, new job, or just spend it on rejuvenating your social life.

7. Guilt-free flirting.

As soon as you are single, you are free to flirt, date, or kiss anyone without guilt. You are beholden to nobody and can do exactly as you please. If you haven’t been single for a long time, this may feel overwhelming at first, but you’ll soon get used to it!

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8. You discover who your friends really are.

There’s nothing quite like the support of good friends. When going through a breakup, you’ll quickly find out who is really there for you when things get rough. Treasure the people who come through for you, and don’t forget to offer them the same support in return when they need it.

9. It gives you the chance to reassess what you want in a partner and in a relationship.

Being single grants you time and energy to really think about what you want and need in a partner. This will prepare you for your next relationship — if and when you want one. Think about what you liked about your old relationship and which mistakes you want to avoid next time around.

10. You may feel creatively inspired.

Some of the greatest literature, music, and visual art in the world has been inspired by love turned sour. If you are a creative type — or even if you aren’t — consider channelling your feelings into art of some kind. The intense feelings and energy around your breakup may allow you to bust through a creative block.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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