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5 Ways to Deal With Bullies in the Workplace

5 Ways to Deal With Bullies in the Workplace

You may think that bullying ended when you finished your studies, but bullying in the workplace has become a widespread problem. This includes intimidating, humiliating, and criticizing someone. When it comes to criticism, we are not talking about constructive criticism, but criticism with the ultimate goal of humiliating someone.

Other forms of bullying behaviors include sabotaging one’s success/work, taking credit for other people’s work, excluding one person from meetings on purpose, and spreading false stories about a person. This kind of psychological abuse is passive-aggressive and shouldn’t be tolerated. Bullying in the workplace is a serious matter, and if you are experiencing it, you must stand up for yourself. Here’s how to deal with it.

1. Build self-worth and define your boundaries

You need to know who you are. This will help you build your character. If you don’t have self-esteem, then you should work on it. Start with a little positive self-talk and write your qualities on a piece of paper. Start exercising, or do a few different things that make you feel better and happier. Even if you are in a lower position in your company, you should not put up with bullying from your peers.

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Define your boundaries and tell them where the line is. You can start by telling them that their humiliating tactics won’t make you quit or go crazy, and if they want your help, they’ll need to act properly. Be calm; don’t raise your voice.

If this doesn’t help and you don’t solve your problems through communication, then it is time to contact your HR and manager.

2. Speak up as soon as you see a problem or feel uncomfortable

The worst thing you can do with bullies in the workplace is to sit quietly and wait for the problem to magically disappear. It won’t happen, so don’t be silent. Speak up about your problem. Your superiors will certainly want to know what’s going on, as having a bully in the office leads to poor teamwork and lower productivity.

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One person can be the best in their field, but if they are ruining a team of 10 people, the company doesn’t need them. So, if you notice one or two bullies going around the office and intimidating you or your coworkers, then you should definitely talk to someone.

3. Keep your own emotions in check and stay professional

When someone is passive-aggressive or even verbally aggressive, you shouldn’t let your emotions get the best of you. If you are a highly-sensitive person, it can be very hard to stop yourself from crying and sobbing from a few hateful words. You want to confront bullies in the workplace, but not by throwing a temper tantrum.

Don’t yell and don’t show them that their bullying affects you. Show them that it is not professional and that it doesn’t suit the company’s standards. When someone humiliates you or yells at you, it is hard to keep your emotions in check, but practice makes perfect. Stay professional, talk to them in a calm voice, present to them the cold hard facts, call them out on their BS, and they’ll eventually stop.

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If not, contact management and calmly explain to them the nature of the unacceptable behavior, without resorting to name-calling or vague accusations.

4. Write down clear and concise facts about their behavior and performance

When submitting your complaint, know that there is nothing to be ashamed of. All companies should do all they can to put an end to bullying. So, don’t think that informing the HR team will make the whole thing worse.

Write everything that the bully did down. Sometimes, it can be truly hard to talk about the things someone did to you, but they need to know everything. Just keep it concise and use facts concerning their inappropriate behavior and poor performance.

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This way, the HR team will know how to solve the problem, as they will know how this person affects the whole team and their overall performance.

5. Turn to other co-workers for support

Some of your coworkers might not notice that you are being bullied. Don’t be a hero. Ask them for support, and they will certainly help you out. Ask them for help when dealing with the person who is humiliating you. If you are unable to stand up for yourself alone, ask them to be there for you whenever the bully is around.

Bullying is a serious matter, and as such, it shouldn’t be ignored. If you are experiencing it, use these five ways to deal with the problem — it will certainly help not only you, but will make the whole team better and more productive.

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Ivan Dimitrijevic

Ivan is the CEO and founder of a digital marketing company. He has years of experiences in team management, entrepreneurship and productivity.

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Last Updated on November 19, 2019

Work Smarter, Not Harder: 12 Ways to Work Smart

Work Smarter, Not Harder: 12 Ways to Work Smart

I imagine that like me, you say that you never have enough time and that you just cannot cope with 60 dozen things all at once.

How on earth do you get out of that spiral?

Many people never sit down and look at how to work smarter, rather than harder and even longer hours. But not you, you’re smart enough to try to learn effective ways to work.

So how to work smarter not harder? Here are 12 smart ways you should be following:

1. Improve Your Time Management Skills

Easier said than done? Well, no actually, because there are a few simple rules that can really help you to manage time better.

For example, when setting up a top priority task, you need to switch off the phone and ignore your email first. Then you need to abandon any ideas of multitasking as that will slow you down and ruin your focus.

Finally, set a reasonable deadline and do everything in your power to meet it.

“When you’re born, you’re born with 30,000 days. That’s it. The best strategic planning I can give to you is to think about that.” — Sir Ray Avery

2. Speed up Your Typing and Use Shortcuts

These days we’re all keyboard slaves. So why not speed up your typing and try to get rid of the two finger syndrome. In fact, when you save 21 days per year just by typing fast!

This is exactly what I am doing now, so I cannot honestly say I am practicing what I preach!

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But help is at hand. Try some of these apps and games to help you type fast: 8 Most Effective Games and Apps to Learn to Type Fast

Using shortcuts on the keyboard is another time saver and can speed up your work.

For example, press F2 to rename a selected file, while CTRL + I will put selected text in italics.

There are so many of these. If you make the effort to learn them, they really can be helpful.

3. Learn How to Use Productivity Tools

It is well worth downloading all the useful tools and apps that can highly boost your productivity. Take a look at these 18 Best Time Management Apps and Tools and install whatever fits your needs.

Now that is really a great way of working smarter, not harder.

4. Use Your Phone Wisely

Instead of writing emails, sometimes it’s better to pick up the phone and talk to the person responsible. It saves time, especially for important or urgent discussions.

If that colleague works in the same office, it is even better to go and talk to him or her. It gives you a break, you get some exercise and you actually make human contact which is becoming quite rare in this electronic world.

5. Keep a Tab on Your Tabs

If you are like me, you might well find that you have a ton of tabs open at the top of your browser.

In order to find the one you want, you have to search for them as they are off screen. Having all these tabs open slows down your browser too.

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One solution is to use OneTab which can keep a neat list on the screen of all these tabs when you want to quickly get to one of them or you want to remind yourself which ones you have open.

6. Use a “To Don’t” List

We all know about to do lists and I find that they are generally great. They give me a great sense of achievement as I cross off the tasks done.

But often, I find that we are doing non-essential tasks or ones that can easily be postponed. That is why many people recommend the to don’t list.[1]

Some people prefer to savagely prune the to do list while others prefer to have two separate lists, to do and to don’t. You just have to work out what works best for you when you are trying to save precious time to become more productive.

7. Expect Failure and Fight Paranoia

When failure rears its ugly head, some people get a bit paranoid and fear that this may become a trend.

Projects will go wrong and failure should be expected rather than feared. Learning lessons from failure and analyzing what went wrong is the best way forward.

“Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.” — Richard Branson

And here you can find 10 Great Lessons Highly Successful People Have Learned From Failure.

8. Be Concise

Rambling on at meetings, in emails and even when introducing yourself to new clients can waste a lot of people’s time.

One way is to practice and sharpen your “elevator speech,”[2] which tells people in 30 seconds or less why they need your skills and how they can benefit from doing business with you.

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Just think of the many situations where this could be useful:

  • Making new contacts
  • Talking about yourself at a job interview
  • Meeting people at conferences or parties
  • Phone calls to new clients

9. Ask the Right Questions

“You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.” — Naguib Mahfouz

How do you get feedback? The secret is to ask the right questions at the right time.

When you do this, you are gathering the information you need to help in decision making. This will save you time and you will be able to cut meetings to a minimum.

Forbes magazine reports on research that they carried out on asking the right questions.[3] When that happens, the positive effects are increased by 400%. There are also other benefits in staff motivation and a positive impact on the company’s bottom line.

Lifehack’s CEO Leon has shared about how to ask for feedback to learn faster: How to Learn Quickly And Master Any Skill You Want

10. Learn as Much as You Can

You should always be on a steep learning curve. Look at your skills profile and determine where you need to fill a gap. Talk to important connections and network in your niche.

Keep up to date on trends and developments. It is a fact-changing world. When an opportunity arises, you will be the best equipped to seize it because you have never stopped learning. Just another way of working smarter.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi

11. Look After Your Greatest Resource

No, your greatest resource is not time. It is YOU.

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If you do not get enough sleep, exercise and relaxation, you find that you become less and less productive. You begin to work longer and longer hours, which is the exact opposite of what you want.

What you should be doing is making sure you are in the best shape. It is useful to remember that you need a break of 15 minutes after every one and a half hours of work.[4]

Taking breaks and getting fresh air and exercise is one of the best ways of working smarter, not harder.

12. Don’t Fall into the Trap of Working Smarter and Harder

As a society, we are obsessed with doing everything smarter so we are more efficient and we save time all around.[5]

But the most important thing to remember is to accept when we are ready to switch off that computer and not fill up the time with even more work!

The Bottom Line

The key to greater productivity is to work smarter, not harder. Working smarter saves precious time and energy for the things that really matter — your life goals, your personal growth, your health and your relationships.

Stop working for more hours and start working smarter!

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