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What Every Mother Secretly Wants For Mothers Day

What Every Mother Secretly Wants For Mothers Day

Mother’s Day may be a bit over three months away, but it is never too early for people to think about what they should do. So, what extravagant gift should someone get to show how much they appreciate their mother or their wife?

Nothing. Or rather, that sort of thinking is the wrong way to go about things.

Mom does not want to go to some spa. She does not want some ridiculous French perfume, or to take a day trip to the beach or to go out to some expensive restaurant. She does not want the $170 which families are spending now on Mother’s Day.

She wants to be herself. Not Mom, but Susan or Jean or Molly or Rachel or Sally. And she wants to be left alone to be herself for a bit. To relax and not have to worry about the kids for just a little bit.

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So, here are some ways which a husband or a child can work to give Mom the Mother’s Day gift that she truly deserves. Time to relax.

They want you to clean up

Let us be fair. Mom cleans up. She almost always cleans up. She tells you to clean up and you say you will. Then you forget and she eventually gets around to doing it herself. Because that’s what Mom does.

Well, how about you actually do it for a change? Clean the house. Every speck of it. And then do the dishes and the laundry as well. Even if you leave Mom alone for a while, leaving her alone with a dirty house is just asking her to clean it. And that is about as rude as you could possibly be on Mother’s Day.

That is a gift which Mom will sincerely appreciate, as these maternal bloggers courtesy of Time can attest.

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They don’t want clothes

When is the last time someone gave you clothes and you were sincerely, truly happy with what you got and it fit you perfectly?

I thought so. All too often, we get some woolen cardigan which looks hideous, but we smile, give out thanks, and stuff that thing at the very back of the closet. Mom will understand the sincerity behind the gift, but that will not make her actually like what you got her.

They want to sleep

I must confess: when I was a child, I would jump on my mother’s bed, shout “Happy Mother’s Day!” at the top of my lungs, and then give her “breakfast in bed” which was a bowl of cereal.

In hindsight, I might as well have walked into that room blasting a trumpet and that would have made things only slightly worse. My mother smiled and said how much she appreciated it, but she would have appreciated it more if I had left her alone, played with my toys, and let her sleep. I know many people will spend hours looking for unique gifts for Mother’s Day, and certainly there are a lot of options out there for things to buy that will make her fear special.

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But, sleep is important, and our society does not get enough sleep as it is. Letting Mom sleep, and taking care of those chores she does every single day while she sleeps, would have been a much better gift than what I actually did.

They want to be left alone

The Globe and Mail has a terrific idea for a perfect Mother’s Day gift. After the house has been cleaned, take the kids and leave. If you can, go to Grandma’s house for the day. Let Mom have four hours where she has no responsibilities whatsoever and is free to read a book, catch up on a TV show or a hobby, and enjoy herself for a time. In the meantime, Grandma will be overjoyed to see the grandkids. She always is.

All of this presumes that you have done everything listed before. But if you have, mom will really have time to be herself and not a mother for a few hours. And she will absolutely appreciate that gift of peace and quiet.

They want your love – but not to be smothered

Our instincts are to crowd Mom and shower her with our love on this special day, but Mom is smothered by responsibilities and work every single day of her life. Thoreau observed that relations should take some time apart from each other so that the bonds will be stronger upon meeting up again. That principle should be applied as you leave Mom alone for just one day.

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So take a moment to let Mom take some time off. That is a cheaper and better gift than something overpriced which she will never get to use precisely because you keep her overworked all this time.

Featured photo credit: Nathan via flickr.com

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Published on April 9, 2021

50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

Being a mom is not easy. Being a single mom is even more challenging. Having children means you are on the job 24/7. Even while you are sleeping, you are still ready to wake at the slightest peep because that is what moms do.

Moms, especially single moms, need more people cheering them on. Your love and care matter to your kids. You are their superhero. I think single moms are superheroes, too.

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The quotes below are words of encouragement for all of the single moms out there. Keep up the great work! Your hard work will pay off. Someday, they will be grown up and living on their own. Your job will never truly be done as a mom, but you can pat yourself on the back today and every day for doing mom duty day in and day out.

Here are 50 single mom quotes to encourage all the single moms out there.

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  1. “Being raised by a single mother, I learned to appreciate and value independent women.”—Kenny Conley
  2. “As a single mum you’ll discover inner strengths and capabilities you never knew you had.”—Emma-Louise Smith
  3. “One thing I know for sure – this motherhood thing is not for sissies.”—Jennifer Nettles
  4. “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.”—Gail Tsukiyama
  5. “And one day she discovered that she was fierce and strong, and full of fire and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”—Mark Anthony
  6. “She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along.”—Margaret Culkin Banning
  7. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”—Alice Walker
  8. “Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is.”—Anne Frank
  9. “Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”—Jennifer Lopez
  10. “You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.”—Melissa Etheridge
  11. “Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”—Ricki Lake
  12. “You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.”—Jennie Finch
  13. “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”—Oprah Winfrey
  14. “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”—Charlotte Brontë
  15. “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”—Nora Ephron
  16. “When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”—Diane Von Furstenberg
  17. “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”—Margaret Thatcher
  18. “Women have discovered that they cannot rely on men’s chivalry to give them justice.”—Helen Keller
  19. “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.”—Sharon Jaynes
  20. “Success, they taught me, is built on the foundation of courage, hard work, and individual responsibility. Despite what some would have us believe, success is not built on resentment and fears.”—Susana Martinez
  21. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”—Maya Angelou
  22. “The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”—Ayn Rand
  23. “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.”—Rudyard Kipling
  24. “The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because stuff worked out. They got that way because stuff went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”—Elizabeth Gilbert
  25. “There will be so many times you feel like you failed. But in the eyes, ears, and mind of your child, you are a SUPER MOM.”—Stephanie Precourt
  26. “Motherhood is the ultimate call to sacrifice.”—Wangechi Mutu
  27. “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”—Maya Angelou
  28. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
  29. “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”—Jill Churchill
  30. “There’s no doubt that motherhood is the best thing in my life. It’s all that really matters.”—Courtney Cox
  31. “I realized when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”—Mitch Albom
  32. “I have found being a mother has made me emotionally raw in many situations. Your heart is beating outside your body when you have a baby.”—Kate Beckinsale
  33. “Single moms, you are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.”—Mandy Hale
  34. “I’m not really single. I mean, I am, but I have a son. Being a single mother is different from being a single woman.”—Kate Hudson
  35. “Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride.”—Unknown
  36. “For me, motherhood is learning about the strengths I didn’t know I had, and dealing with the fears I didn’t know existed.”—Halle Berry
  37. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things… a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Denice Williams
  38. “You do the best you can. Some days you feel really good about yourself and some days you don’t.”—Katie Holmes
  39. “I would say to any single parent currently feeling the weight of stereotype or stigmatization that I am prouder of my years as a single mother than of any other part of my life.”JK Rowling
  40. “Just because I am a single mother doesn’t mean I cannot be a success.”—Yvonne Kaloki
  41. “I didn’t plan on being a single mom, but you have to deal with the cards you are dealt the best way you can.”—Tichina Arnold
  42. “Nothing you do for children is ever wasted.”—Garrison Keillor
  43. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things, a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Deniece Williams
  44. “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.”—Meryl Streep
  45. “Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.”—Maria Shriver
  46. “Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.”—Cheryl Lacey Donovan
  47. “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”—Agatha Christie
  48. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
  49. “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”—W.R. Wallace
  50. “Being a mother is the greatest blessing and the hardest challenge in all of life.”—Dr. Magdalena Battles

Final Thoughts

Single moms are remarkable women. They are to be respected and honored for all that they do. If you know a single mom, then share this article with them. Tell them “you are doing a great job as a single mom.” They need our encouragement and support.

They may be parenting alone, but it is good to let them know that there are people in their life who care for them. We can all be there for the single moms out there. Even if it is just to say, “keep up the great work, you are an amazing woman!”

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If you are a single mom, keep up the good work! You are amazing, and your kids are lucky to have you!

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