25 Tips To Lose Body Fat That Actually Work

25 Tips To Lose Body Fat That Actually Work

Fat loss is a completely different experience for everyone. What works for one person might not work for someone else, and–despite what the diet industry tries to lead us to believe–there is never a one-size-fits-all approach to reducing body fat and getting lean.

The trick is to make use of certain tips and techniques so they work with your body and suit your lifestyle. A fat loss plan that keeps hunger, cravings and energy all balanced, while maintaining a calorie deficit to burn fat is really the key to success.

The following tips can work for almost any healthy adult trying to cut down their body fat, mainly because they’re very open-ended and flexible. You can tweak them however you like to fit your personal tastes, habits and goals.

1. Avoid making changes that are unsustainable.

Before starting a fat loss plan, you have to get realistic. Drastically changing too many bad habits at once is often impossible to maintain for more than a few days, and while your motivation and willpower may be high to start, it certainly won’t stay that way.

Make a few small changes and aim to make them second nature by implementing them every day for a few weeks. Once you have a few good habits that have become a solid part of your routine, you can add a couple more.

2. Set mini goals.

If you’re trying to lose 50 pounds at the rate of 1 to 2 pounds per week, fixating on that one big end result can easily overwhelm and discourage you. Instead, break your big goal up into smaller goals–like losing five pounds by the end of the month.

You can do the same for your eating and exercise habits. For example, set a goal to cut out sugar completely for 30 days, or aim for a weekly increase of 3 to 5 more pushups during your workout.

3. Eat real food.

There are countless beverages, energy bars, supplements and specialized health foods out there that claim to help you torch body fat and improve your overall body composition. But nothing compares to the nutritional value you get from eating real food.

Many supplements and health food products are highly processed, and while they may promise to offer you something that’s great tasting, high in protein or low in calories, your body functions best when it gets its nutrients from fruits, vegetables, whole grains, healthy fats and lean meats. If you’re going to use supplements, or any other processed food products marketed as “healthy,” make sure you use them in a way that they compliment your current healthy diet.

4. Fill up on fiber.

To achieve fat loss, you need to be burning more calories than you’re taking in, and a diet rich in high-fiber foods is key to helping you stay full when maintaining a calorie deficit. Fiber also improves your digestion and promotes healthy bowel movements.

According to WebMD, women should be aiming to get 25 grams of fiber per day while men should plan to get 38 grams. This shouldn’t be all that difficult to achieve if you’re incorporating lots of healthy fruits, vegetables and whole grains into your meals and snacks.


5. Don’t fear fat.

It sounds counterintuitive, but you have to eat fat to lose fat. Healthy fat, that is!

Some of the best sources of healthy fat include avocados, olive oil, coconut oil, nuts, seeds and omega-3 fatty fish, like wild salmon. Just make sure to watch your portion sizes since foods rich in healthy fat are also high in calories.

6. Enjoy complex carbohydrates.

Contrary to popular belief, carbs are not the enemy to fat loss. It’s the simple carbs that you have to watch out for, which consist of sugars that causes surges in insulin and signal your body to stop burning fat.

Complex carbs like whole grain bread or pasta, brown rice, oats, potatoes, corn and beans contain fiber that help regulate your blood sugar. These are also full of vitamins and minerals that many processed simple carbs don’t have.

7. Make sure you’re getting enough protein.

If you’re eating and exercising to maintain a calorie deficit for fat loss, you’ll need to work on maintaining your muscle too, which can also be lost during prolonged periods of calorie restriction. Aiming to eat more protein will help to preserve your muscle mass. The more muscle mass you have, the higher your metabolic rate.

Protein is also much more filling than fat and carbs, so incorporating a generous helping into every meal can help keep you satisfied and full for hours. Lean sources of protein like chicken breast, egg whites, seafood, lean beef and pork tenderloin are some of the best choices you can make to fill up for long periods while keeping your calories low.

8. Strength train with heavy weights.

In addition to consuming an adequate amount of protein, strength training is another essential strategy to maintain your muscle mass. If you’re new to strength training, you’ll probably even increase your muscle mass in the initial stage of your fat loss journey, which will give your metabolism a nice boost.

By lifting heavy weights, you’re essentially breaking down your muscles so that they have to recover and repair themselves to become even stronger. Continuously challenging your muscles in this way will help them stay strong and prevent your body from switching to burn muscle instead of fat.

9. Try high-intensity interval training instead of steady-state cardio.

If you’ve been exercising for a while already and don’t have any serious health conditions, you may want to try high-intensity interval training (HIIT), which is a form of cardiovascular exercise that involves short bursts of very intense activity followed by brief periods of rest. They’re kept short at about 20 to 30 minutes in total time, and work by pushing you to an anaerobic state that can burn calories and fat more effectively than steady-state cardio.

As an example, a typical HIIT workout might involve a five-minute warm-up followed by eight rounds of hard exercise (burpees, jumping jacks, sumo squats, etc.) that are a minute and a half long. Each round gets a 30-second rest. The workout is finished with a five-minute cool-down and some stretching.

10. Schedule your workout into your day.

If it’s not scheduled, it’s probably not going to happen. Plan a specific time of day to get your workout in. Set a reminder on your phone if you need it.


Better yet, stay consistent with the time of day that you plan your workout to help make it a serious habit. Whether you plan to do it before the sun rises or after a full day of work, it becomes more ingrained in your daily routine when you do it at the same time every day.

11. Plan your meals and snacks ahead of time.

You have to become a master planner if you want to keep your calories in check and your food choices healthy. Pack a healthy lunch for work the night before, do your dinnertime meal planning and grocery shopping for the entire week on Sunday, and consider keeping healthy snacks in your car or in your bag when you’re on the run.

You can make the planning process easier by picking out a few recipes you really love and sticking with them regularly. For example, if you love oatmeal for breakfast, you can cook up a big batch of steel cut oats with a small amount of maple syrup mixed in on the weekend to keep in your refrigerator, which you can warm up in microwave quickly during weekday mornings.

12. Research nutritional information for restaurants when you know you’ll be eating out.

Face it: you’re going to have deal with social events that involve food. If you’re eating out at a restaurant, it’s easy enough to do a quick Google search for the menu and nutritional information for each dish before you head out.

If you can’t find the nutritional information online, you can always look up the menu items, pick out a meal that looks healthy enough and use a tool like MyFitnessPal to estimate the calories. It may not be perfect, but it’s better than going unprepared.

13. Manage stress with calming activities rather than food.

For people who struggle with emotional eating, any stressful situation can easily send them running for the ice cream and potato chips. If you’re someone who turns to food in times of stress, try managing it by engaging in activities that soothe both your mind and your body.

You could go for a walk outside, read a book, take a nap, drink herbal tea, call up a friend to talk, take a warm bath, do some light yoga or practice meditation. These stress-relieving activities also offer the added benefit of being good distractions from wanting to eat.

14. Use “buffer” foods to curb cravings.

“Buffer food” is a term that was coined by the folks at The Metabolic Effect, which is used to describe healthy but slightly more indulgent foods that can be used to ward off cravings. For example, dark chocolate or a small portion of cheese could be used to help combat a sweet tooth.

The point of using buffer foods is to stop craving-induced accidents from happening. It may cost you another 100 calories to eat that chocolate or cheese, but if it keeps you from consuming a 500-calorie glazed donut, then it’s worth it.

15. Replace your scale with a measuring tape.

Scales are great for measuring overall weight loss and weight gain–including fat, muscle and water. For fat loss, however, it’s not the most effective tool.

Instead of stepping on the scale every day and wondering why you keep fluctuating when you’ve been sticking to your plan, get a measuring tape to track the inches you lose every week. The scale may not show it, but if you’re losing inches around your chest, waist, hips and thighs, then you’re definitely losing fat.


16. Get 7 to 8 hours of sleep every night.

Sleep is extremely important for effective fat loss because it allows the body to work on restoring itself and its functions. Adequate sleep promotes tissue repair, protein synthesis, lower blood pressure, immunity and growth hormone release–all of which play important roles in supporting healthy fat loss.

Another important point to note about sleep’s relation to fat loss is that hunger and cravings tend to be aggravated when you’re sleep deprived. Most healthy adults need 7 to 8 (sometimes up to 9) hours of sleep a night, so focus on the length and quality of your sleep if you want burn fat.

17. Expect to hit plateaus.

You may have been led to believe that you can lose fat at a healthy rate of 1 to 2 pounds per week, but in reality plateaus are a normal part of the process. Even when you’re still eating right and exercising, your body is constantly trying to adapt to your habits–and when it does, fat loss often stalls.

Prepare yourself by expecting them to happen and committing to sticking with it even when progress comes to a halt for days, weeks, or possibly even months. Switch your exercise routine up, try adding more veggies to your diet or plan on taking more time to rest and recover to get things moving again.

18. If you’re going to exercise more, make sure you eat enough.

Exercising a lot while also eating as little as possible is a recipe for disaster over the long run. It wreaks havoc on your body, eventually triggering strong cravings and possibly even doing damage to your metabolism.

Remember that if you’re exercising very intensely 5 to 6 days of the week, you’ll need more calories from healthy foods than you would if you were doing light exercise or no exercise at all. A calorie deficit that’s too large may help you lose a lot of fat very quickly, but it can cause bigger problems for you down the road if you keep it up.

19. If you’re going to exercise less, make sure you don’t eat too much.

You can still lose fat without exercising very much at all, but you need to be laser-focused on maintaining a healthy diet and the right amount of calories. A person who is sedentary for most of the day will have to work on avoiding unnecessary snacking and maintaining appropriate portion sizes.

Exercising less and eating less allows you to focus more on your diet, which is really the number one factor when it comes to fat loss. It’s also great for your stress levels since more frequent exercising can sometimes exaggerate your stress hormones that cause fat loss to stall.

20. Cycle between periods of exercising/eating more and exercising/eating less.

If you keep pushing harder and harder with your exercise routine or keep dropping your caloric intake lower and lower, you’re eventually going to reach a limit. The best way to keep losing fat at a healthy rate without having to kill yourself in the gym or starve yourself of everything you love is by continuously switching things up.

Try a two-week period of exercising more intensely for 5 to 6 days a week and eating 200 to 400 more calories a day. After that, switch to a two-week period of exercising lightly for 2 to 3 days a week and eating 200 to 400 calories less a day. Just when your body starts to get the message to adapt to your habits, it’s time to switch it up again, which is key to keeping your body balanced and progress moving along.

21. Walk every day as much as you can.

If you can aim to walk at a leisurely pace for 1 to 2 hours every day, you could see much better fat loss results than you would if you simply killed yourself for an hour every day in the gym and stayed sedentary for the rest of the day. Leisurely walking is one of the best stress relieving activities you can do that naturally helps balance your hormones needed to maintain good health and keep burning fat.


Lots of hard exercise with no support from stress-relieving activities can disrupt hormonal balance when it’s done for prolonged periods of time. Although walking doesn’t burn as many calories, it can be very powerful in helping fat loss when used alongside a healthy diet and a more intense exercise regime.

22. Allow yourself to have one cheat meal a week.

A cheeseburger or a big piece of chocolate cake doesn’t exactly fall under the category of healthy food for fat loss, but if it keeps you sane, gives you something to look forward to, and offers you motivation to get back on track once you’ve indulged, then it’s worth splurging on once in a while. Increasing your calories every so often is also good for restoring your hunger hormones, which adapt to your lower calorie intake and make it harder to burn fat when you keep it up for so long.

You should give yourself a two-hour window once a week to eat whatever you want. Chances are you may feel a little bloated the next day if it’s a carb-heavy indulgence, but it’s usually just water weight that disappears a day or two after getting back on track with your healthy eating habits.

23. Don’t obsess over calories.

There’s been a lot of mention of calories already in this article, and it’s true–calories are important for fat loss. But they don’t tell the entire story. Your metabolism is unique to you, and depending on the current state of your health, your stress levels, your gut bacteria, your lifestyle choices, your exercise regime and the foods you choose to eat, any calorie calculator could be way off in estimating what you’re really burning.

Calorie counting tools are great for meal planning and gaining a better understanding of nutrition, but they don’t offer a complete solution for effective fat loss. If you’re going to count calories, make sure you also tune into your body and listen to the signals it’s telling you so you can take necessary action to balance out any problems you’re experiencing with hunger, cravings or lack of energy.

24. Take it one day at a time.

It can be far to daunting to imagine how you’re going to stick with your healthy habits months down the road, even through all those family get-togethers, vacation trips and holidays. Instead of worrying about the future, try to stay in the present by focusing on what you have to do now to keep yourself on track.

Planning ahead is still relevant (as explained in point #11), but getting anxious about anything that’s far off and out of your control is not worth any serious attention. Work on making today a good one, plan for social events or stressful situations in the upcoming week, and let the nature of time do its thing.

25. Reward yourself when you hit a goal.

If you follow these tips and tailor them to your personal needs and lifestyle habits, then you’re likely to have success with cutting down your body fat. When you hit one of your mini goals, make sure you acknowledge it. Acknowledging goals motivates you to reach your next one and trains you to stick with healthy habits for the rest of your life.

A nice reward might include getting a massage, getting your hair done, buying a new piece of clothing to compliment your slimmer figure, planning a date night with your partner, getting together with friends you have’t seen in a while, buying a new book, or anything else that isn’t food-related and can bring you a sense of satisfaction. An even better strategy is to take some time at the beginning of your fat loss journey to come up with reward ideas so you can write them on your calendar or put them on a vision board to keep you motivated every day.

There’s an art to losing fat in a healthy and sustainable way. With these tips, you’ll be way ahead of everyone looking for quick results that don’t last. Remember to speak to your doctor before starting a fat loss plan to ensure you’re doing it in the healthiest way possible.

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How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

When you learn how to be confident, you can use it in your everyday life to tackle all of your goals and challenges. However, not many people realize that learning how to gain self-confidence is like building a muscle—it grows in response to the level of performance required of it.

Here I will give you 51 proven ways to overcome a lack of self-confidence and achieve more.

1. Learn Something New

Sign up for that evening class and enjoy it. Alternatively, read a book (or take an online course) on a topic you’ve always wanted to learn more about.

Learning new things stretches your abilities, keeps your mind active, and most definitely improves your confidence in your ability to do new things.

2. Ask Your Partner or a Friend What You Can Do For Them

This can be something as easy as helping them with a chore they don’t like or have little time for. Through helping them, you’ll find that you feel better about yourself.

3. Hit the Gym

The physiological effects of going to the gym will leave you feeling great.

Countless studies have shown that regular workouts at the gym can boost not only your sense of well-being, but can increase your self-esteem, too[1].

4. Go to a Networking Event

Rather than being nervous about your own stuff, focus on how to help others. Instead of going along with the aim of trying to sell yourself to others, why not change your approach and simply go along to see how you can help the people you meet?

By doing this, you’ll come across as calm, confident, and someone that people will want to turn to again and again.

5. Get Clear on the Things That Matter to You

If these things are not in your life, you’ll need to bring them in.

For example, if your daily work routine is currently as dull as dishwater—but you’d like it to be fun—then do something about it. Turn data entry into personal speed contests, paper filing into “screen-free” time, and interactions with your colleagues into enjoyable conversations.

6. Remove Negativity From Your Life

Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up with in your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize, or diminish each one.

I personally like to do this with pen and paper as it feels just a little more real and definite than on screen. It’s also a good idea to put the priority items at the top of your list, so you can begin resolving these first.

7. Celebrate Your Big and Small Wins

Look at the big or small goals you’ve completed, and give yourself credit for your part in it.

Recognizing your achievements is not egotistical, it’s healthy.

8. Converse With New People

Go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know. By doing this, you may be pleasantly surprised by what—or who—you’ll discover.

You can also extend this trait by breaking outside of your normal social situations at your workplace. This will do wonders when learning how to be confident.

9. Do Something You Would Normally Say No to

Next time you talk yourself out of doing something (a party invite, a challenging project, etc.), go and do it anyway. This is a great way to boost personal development.

10. Do One Thing Each Day That Makes You Smile

This could be something as simple as sending a thank you email to a colleague that has been helpful to you, or leaving a surprise present for your partner that they’ll discover when they wake up.

Life shouldn’t be drudgery, and we all need to make the effort to keep it light, loving, and fun.

11. Give Yourself Good Advice

Look for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second-guessing or overthinking.

Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back—what would you want to say to them?

This is known as Soloman’s Paradox—we’re often quite good at solving others’ problems but not our own. Challenge this and take your own good advice next time[2].

12. Ask Someone on a Date

If you’re single and have met someone that you’re definitely attracted to—go ahead and ask them out.


Even if they turn you down, it will help you learn how to be confident through the fact that you were decisive and made an effort. What’s the best thing that could happen? They might just say yes!

13. Write Down 20 Things That Make You Feel Good

Think of this as a gratitude list. Typical things you might include are: your partner, your kids, your parents, your pets, etc.

I recommend writing this list at least once a month. And most importantly—make sure you’re giving the 20 things plenty of room in your life.

14. Stop Playing Different Roles

Stop playing different roles and squeezing yourself into boxes based on what you think people expect of you.

Be your authentic self, the one who knows what to do and loves what they do. It’s easy to find this part of yourself as it’s inherent in your hobbies and your close friendships.

If you can bring this authenticity into your work life, you’ll be surprised at how positively others will react to you.

15. Cultivate a Positive Mindset

Learn to catch yourself every time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get, or aren’t good enough to get what you want[3].

Talk yourself up when learning how to be confident.

    Instead, tell yourself that you can have, will get, and are good enough to get what you want. Mindset is everything. Make sure yours is positive and dynamic.

    16. Take Yourself off Auto-Pilot

    Make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.

    For instance, if you normally work 9 to 5 but find yourself spending hours getting to and from work, why not negotiate with your boss to mix your hours up a bit?

    You might also suggest a day or two working from home. Sell this to your boss by reminding them that the time and stress lost to commuting can be neatly transferred to productive work hours.

    17. Listen Carefully to What You Tell Yourself

    Next time you come up against a risk or a challenge, listen to what you tell yourself, and look for a way to improve your inner dialogue.

    If you normally find that your inner dialogue is negative, then break out of this by asking yourself questions such as:

    • What would make this easier?
    • Is there a different way of doing this?
    • Could research help?

    18. Laugh at Yourself

    Scared of looking silly? It’s no biggie, so don’t let it stop you.

    Whenever we try something new, there’s a fair chance that we’ll make fools of ourselves. But you’d be a bigger fool to let that stop you. Instead, laugh at your baby steps and watch your confidence soar as you begin to master your chosen activity.

    19. Listen to Your Doubts

    Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forwards. Other times, they are just doubts.

    The trick is to quickly determine if your doubts have validity. If they do, use them to shape your decisions.

    To illustrate this, imagine that you’ve had an enticing job offer, but you doubt whether you’re capable of doing the job. Spend a little time analyzing your doubts to see whether they reflect reality, or whether they are just negative thoughts that are trying to hold you back.

    20. Recall a Time When You Did a Great Job

    Think of a time when it felt like a whole bank of switches in your head flicked to the on position, and you were firing on all cylinders. What were you doing, and what’s the reason it felt so great? Can you emulate that passion and drive that you had?

    21. Tear up Your Rule Book

    You may not know it, but you’ve almost certainly got a whole bunch of outdated rules that determine what you do and don’t do. These rules limit your thinking and your behavior.

    It’s time to change them. Tear up this subconscious rule book and toss it in the fire. Once you’ve done this, you’ll immediately notice how free you feel to make challenging and exciting decisions.

    22. Ask Yourself What You Have Gained When You Lose

    Do you get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back from an opportunity?

    Firstly, don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse. Instead, be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on.


    Based on this win/lose balance, what’s a different choice you can make next time?

    23. Don’t Let People Put You Down

    If there’s someone in your life who puts you down or makes you feel small, you owe it to yourself to let them know that you expect something different from now on. 

    Trust me, once you’ve told them, they’ll change, and you will, too. Inevitably, you’ll boost both your confidence and happiness by taking control of your life in this way.

    Learn how to get out of toxic relationships in this article.

    24. Reveal a Little Bit of the Real You

    Relationships can be difficult. They can also lose their zest and become stale. If this happens in your relationship, then it’s time to add some magic to the mix.

    Try revealing something interesting about yourself or your past that your partner doesn’t currently know when learning how to be confident. Perhaps you never mentioned to them that you used to play in a rock band—and you still have the recordings to prove it!

    By adding new things to your relationship, you’ll deepen the bond and keep the spark alive.

    25. Be Your Own Hero

    Recognize that you’re more than a match for any situation you might find yourself in—no matter how tough the going gets.

    We all love movies like Die Hard where ordinary people are driven to super-ordinary feats. But here’s the rub: you can be your own action hero.

    Whatever the situation, meet it head on and overcome it. Keep in mind the classic phrase: “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

    26. Don’t Give in to the Instant Pay-off

    If I was to offer you $100 now for a day’s work tomorrow or $110 for the same work, but I won’t pay you for a week, which would you choose? Well, I can’t read your mind, but I do know that studies using a similar question to this have found that most people choose the instant, smaller payment over the latter, bigger payment. It seems that we’re hardwired for instant gratification.

    However, if you want to be a success in life, always look at the bigger picture. In the example above, if you could have only waited seven more days, you would have been $10 richer!

    27. Instead of Yelling “I Deserve Better,” Say “I Can Be Better”

    Too often I hear people complaining about their personal circumstances but refusing to do anything about it. Don’t be like them.

    If things aren’t going your way, find solutions and implement them. Your boldness and decisiveness will boost your confidence and help you rapidly climb the ladder of success.

    28. Admit You’re Wrong

    It may not be easy, but you should always be prepared to hold your hands up and change your mind if things are going south. Not every idea you have will be a winning one. The trick is to know when things are clearly not working out.

    You can either attempt to get them back on track or kill them off completely (sometimes that’s the best way).

    29. Trust Your Instincts

    We all have our gut feelings and intuitions, but many people choose to ignore them and rely only on facts, facts, and more facts! While this may work for many scenarios, there will be other times when you’ll need to rely on your instincts.

    30. Imagine Your Confident Future Self

    Imagine you’re visited by a successful, confident, attractive, and vibrant version of you from the future, a version of you who’s everything you hope to be. What do they want to tell you?

    They might praise your efforts, but they may also criticize your lack of planning and weak goals.

    Luckily, if you listen closely to what they tell you, you’ll be able to rapidly shift gears in your life and become the you of the future!

    31. Ask for Help

    This is a common issue. We take on way too many responsibilities and end up either burning ourselves out or just doing a bad job!

    The secret is to put the vast majority of your energy and efforts into what you do well. Give the stuff you don’t do well to others who have a gift for it. Sometimes the most confident and effective thing to do is ask for help.

    32. Be Around People Who Make You Feel Like You

    Do this by spending more time with the people who support and encourage you and less time with those who undermine you.

    At work, don’t be ruined by negative, petty people. Instead, make sure you surround yourself with colleagues who make you laugh and feel good about yourself.


    33. Participate in the World Around You

    Ask yourself this question: “What can I participate in that’s important to me?”

    Typically, this could be your church, a sports club, or even just a weekly get together with your best friend.

    34. Develop Skills to Work on Things That Matter to You

    What can you practice that would radically improve your chances of winning?

    If you want to climb the corporate ladder, for example, then develop the skills needed to do this. These might include: effective project management skills, powerful presentation abilities, and superb goal setting skills.

    Of course, don’t forget that emulating those who have already achieved your goal is one of the quickest and most reliable ways for you to achieve your aims, too.

    35. Act Until You Make It

    The body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body language into a confident state can have surprising results.

    This is all about acting. If you want to come across as tough, act tough. If you want to come across as successful, act successful. And if you want to come across as confident, act confident.

    Try doing these things, and you’ll be amazed by the results.

    36. Push Through When You Want to Give up

    Don’t get disheartened or demotivated when you get to 90% with something you’re working on. Push through, and you’ll see that the last 10% is where the magic happens.

    37. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

    Keep comparing yourself to others? Stop it. If you want to learn how to be confident, don’t try to validate yourself through comparison—you’re just peachy as you are.

    Social media often makes this difficult. Try stepping away from your Facebook page for a few days and reconnect with the great things in your own life.

    You can get started with this guide.

    38. Speak up When You Can Make a Difference

    Speak up if there’s something you think could be improved or if you have an idea you think has legs.

    Have you noticed that quiet people at work rarely get the promotions? It’s not that they are incapable or lacking talent, but their abilities are usually overlooked as they don’t know how to engage with others or how to sell themselves.

    Step out of your comfort zone and be sure that you’re an active player. Speak up in meetings by suggesting ideas and offering constructive criticism.

    39. Stop Struggling and Start Accepting

    If there’s something you’ve been struggling to understand for a while, stop trying to understand it. Accept it just as it is, fully and wholly.

    Life offers endless mysteries. If you try to resolve them all you’ll drive yourself insane. Instead, let some mysteries remain, and keep your mind focused on your goals and dreams.

    40. It’s Okay to Be Shy

    There’s nothing wrong with being shy, and it doesn’t mean you’re not a confident person.

    If you suffer from shyness, you might think it’s a major weakness of yours. However, introverted people have the edge in many ways, such as: they’re first-rate listeners, they have excellent observational skills, and they’re easier to trust[4].

    41. Clean up Your Environment

    Your environment directly impacts your self-perception. So, if you’re surrounded by clutter, paperwork, and rubbish, put a morning aside to clean up your stuff and get organized.

    42. Write a List of Things You Would Love to Do

    Write yourself a list of the amazing things you’d love to do in your life, and make a start by simply looking into the first one or two things that leap out at you. This will help you get started as you learn how to be confident

    Even if you don’t currently have the means to live your dreams, you can, at the very least, make a start. The best way to do this is to write out the things you’d love to do. These may include cool stuff, such as travelling the world, learning a new language, or climbing a mountain.

    Once you’ve added the items to your list, don’t stop there. Begin researching and preparing ways to turn your dreams into realities.

    43. Make Your Self-Worth Independent From Others’ Validation

    Don’t make your happiness or self-worth dependent on being in a relationship or being validated by someone else.


    While it’s difficult to admit it, we often find ourselves rating our self-esteem by the value other people put on us.

    For instance, you may have a super-positive boss who is always encouraging and supportive. They make you feel upbeat and confident at all times.

    However, imagine if they left and your new boss was the complete opposite. They constantly look for faults in your work and regularly criticize you. Would you still feel confident in those circumstances?

    If you’ve answered no, then you need to reappraise your self-worth, as it shouldn’t be dependent on the validation of others.

    44. Use Your Strengths

    We all have our weaknesses, but they only undermine your confidence if you let them.

    For instance, are you aware that Virgin’s founder Richard Branson suffers from dyslexia? He never let this hold him back or destroy his confidence. Today, he is one of the world’s most successful men, with a net worth of approximately $5 billion[5].

    45. Complete a To-Do List

    The longer you leave that big thing on your to-do list, the more it’ll drain you, and the bigger it’ll seem. Get it done and free yourself up.

    If you have a big goal, break it down into smaller tasks. For instance, instead of trying to write a whole chapter of your book in one go, how about just writing the opening paragraph?

    46. Treat Your Body Well

    When learning how to be confident, our body image does matter, because if you have a bad relationship with your body, you won’t feel confident in yourself.

    What’s one of the first things most of us do when we get up in the morning? We look in the mirror. If we don’t like what we see there, then our day starts off with negative self-talk. If, on the other hand, we look in the mirror and feel proud of our appearance, then we start the day off in an upbeat, positive way.

    If you’re unhappy with your body and looks, do something to improve them. Exercise, diet, and styling are common ways of improving your body image—and your confidence.

    47. Learn to Say No

    Don’t say yes to taking on a task simply because you don’t want to rock the boat. You can politely decline requests you can’t meet without needing to create excuses.

    While saying yes to everything that comes your way might feel like you’re being helpful and in demand, in the long run, you’ll burn yourself out.

    48. Learn From Confident People

    Look at the people you respect who seem confident. Don’t copy them, but identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you can learn from it.

    People-watching is not only fun, but it can be informative, too. Look closely at successful people you know, or those being interviewed on TV, and over time you’ll begin to notice common traits, beliefs, and behaviors that they exhibit.

    49. Follow Through on Your Plans

    Most people find it easy to write plans. The hard part, of course, is seeing them through. To stand out from the crowd, make sure that you know exactly how to complete your plans.

    If you need to, write down a step-by-step guide and begin following it. Not only will this drive you towards the completion of your plans—but experiencing the progress will also give you a continuous boost to your self-esteem.

    50. Shift Your Focus When You Doubt Yourself

    When you feel yourself focusing inwards and becoming paralyzed with doubt or fear, switch to focusing outwards at what you can engage and interact with.

    I remember one of my writing tutors telling me that when the words stop flowing, it’s time to take a break— preferably a walk in the park. It’s sound advice as it’s very easy to get caught up with our thoughts and emotions and be unable to make progress.

    51. Never Beat Yourself up for Failing

    Life is guaranteed to not always be a barrel of laughs. Instead, it’s much more like a roller coaster. There will be ups and downs, so ride them out.

    The art of living is to know how to handle whatever comes you way. The best way to achieve this is by developing an iron core that is unhindered by the topsy-turvy outside world.

    Final Thoughts

    Here I’ve given you 51 different ways to start building self-confidence Take action on the ways that you’re drawn to.

    It’s not enough to read about them. For them to work, you must adopt them into your daily life. Do this, and you’ll start to feel your confidence soar.

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