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Last Updated on July 13, 2020

How to Stay Consistent and Realize Your Dreams

How to Stay Consistent and Realize Your Dreams

Most of us have experienced negativity in life and have gone through phases where we were consistent in doing only one thing – procrastinate.

If this is the present reality of your life, you are not the only one. Difficult and dark as it may appear now, it’s not the end of the tunnel. Light and hope are waiting just round the corner! All that it needs is little change in your approach.

It is easy to fall prey to the habit of procrastination or getting distracted by trivial and unimportant affairs of daily chores in life. However, building self reliance and a benchmark for consistency is no astrophysics either. All it needs is consistent will power and motivation to keep the show on.

The critical part in this journey lies in how to take the first few steps towards being steady and positive in all life situations. Let’s take a look at these 15 ways to stay consistent and realize your dreams.

1. Make Sure They’re Your Dreams

Often our dreams and desires are contrast, influenced and shaped by social perspectives, rather than being fuelled by raw passion which leaves us relentless!

It is important to harbor and nourish dreams solely made of our own desires. That’s elementary!

Dreams that are not products of genuine fervor and interest will lose steam eventually as dreams feed solely on pure passions. To keep pursuing the goals, you need to be assured of the vitality and intensity of your dreams. If you are sure about what you want to achieve; consistency will follow suit.

Till 1993 J. K Rowling was a single mother struggling with unemployment, divorce and bankruptcy. Indomitable that she is, she braved the challenges and even the rejections of the Harry Potter script by 12 major publishers. It was in 1995 that Bloomsbury, a nondescript publishing house, came up with the first copies of the now a classic Harry Porter. Rest, as we all know, is history.

2. Break Down Your Goals Into Smaller Pieces

Realizing your dream is like a road trip to your favourite destination. We need milestones to reassure us whether the path we’re taking is the correct one and will soon bring us close to our ultimate destination.

Crossing these milestones will give us a small sense of achievement and egg us on to work consistently. Start by listing out these milestones on a planned timeline of your journey to realize your dreams and strike them out one after the other.

As a computer programmer, Pierre Omidyar once thought of auctioning off products from his personal website, at a very personal level. He was getting happier by the day as traffic kept increasing. Omidyar crossed his designated milestones fast and one day saw the need to upgrade his account into a business Internet account. Omidyar’s site is the now known as eBay.

3. Segment Your Efforts and Tasks

Split your goal to realize your dreams in segments of achievements.

If your dreams are that of establishing your company, segment them into smaller tasks like attaining a business license, building a website, marketing your product or service and finally achieving profit targets.

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This will bring in consistency and order in the operations of your company and the benefits will surprise you. You will also find room for more tasks and as we know the key to incorporating more work is to break them down even further.

Joyce Meyer – the Charismatic Christian author and speaker and president of Joyce Meyer Ministries – says,

“Getting organized in the normal routines of life and finishing little projects you’ve started is an important first step toward realizing larger goals. If you can’t get a handle on the small things, how will you ever get it together to focus on the big things?”

4. Get Organized and Be Systematic

Clear the clutter on your desk, as well as your calendar. Getting organized gives you clarity about your priorities and helps you manage your time better. It gives a big boost to your consistency while executing important assignments.

Ever wonder why Mark Zuckerberg wears grey t-shirt and blue jeans every day? Because he doesn’t spend his time and energy deciding what clothes to wear and instead focuses on important agendas.

Be systematic about every approach in life. Every small step taken in running a business needs well-conceived and systematic approach to achieve the targets. By devising your own ways to ease-of-operation your performance will improve exponentially.

5. Remind Yourself Why You Started

Keep your goals in sight. Write them down and pin them to your desk. Revisiting your goals before starting your day keeps you away from procrastination and makes you conscious of the worth of all your daily actions.

Do you dream of being the next Elon Musk? Or is it your desire to win gold medal in the next Olympics like Abhinav Bindra[1]? Either way, it is your actions which are going to bring you closer to what you wish to make out of your life.

A simple daily reminder is a great power booster. It also helps you survive the tough times when you feel like giving up. As Mick Jagger aptly said,

“Lose your dreams and you might lose your mind.”

6. Talk to Your Partner Often

Your partner is someone who is accountable to your well-being and encourages you to work towards your dreams. Partners are known to be supportive, honest and often play the role of a serial motivator. It could be anyone in your family, a friend or a colleague.

A partner mostly acts as a talking mirror – someone, who can be the sounding board of your ideas, thoughts and emotion. They let you look at things the way they are and sort out the muddle in your head.

Shankar and Jaikishan[2] are a perfect example of an organized, supportive and successful Indian music composer duo. They have only achieved success in their life since their relationship started in 1949-1987.

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7. Schedule Time for Things You Love Doing

Ensure that you take time out almost daily to do what you really love – be it playing squash or strumming your favourite instrument. Do it often! Things you like doing keep your creativity alive. These activities elevate your mood and enhance your productivity.

The famous proverb, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy” perfectly describes why you need time off from work. Only work will make you boring and uninteresting. Experts say finding time from your work to do stuff you love will not only improve your consistency but also affect your efficiency dramatically.

Here are some interesting facts about pursuing creativity by the rich and famous:

Meryl Streep the award-winning actress loves to knit; Bill Gates is an avid bridge player; George W. Bush, the former US President is a prolific painter; Tom Hanks collects vintage typewriters; Marissa Mayer, The Yahoo CEO, loves baking; and Warren Buffet plays the ukulele.

8. Travel Solo Often

Travelling clears the clutter in your mind and brings you back rejuvenated to perform better and achieve more tasks than you normally would with a clogged mind.

Travelling also makes you look at the bigger picture in terms of realizing your potential. An amazing example of travel making you look at the bigger picture is that of Elon Musk.

When Musk was only 17 years old his father made him take a tour of the West. Musk traveled to 18 US states by car. His solo trip exposed him to situations that are believed to have helped him take major decisions in life.

9. Money Will Not Motivate You Consistently

Money is not the only motivator that works for consistency. You will tend to procrastinate if you aren’t interested in doing a certain task. Be true to yourself and set goals beyond money for motivation.

The best way to deal with this is to delegate tasks and follow up constantly. Let people help you with the tasks that they like doing and find a way to monetize these tasks profitably. Henry Ford very famously said,

“Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success.”

10. Surround Yourself With Positive People

Tap into the positive energy of people around you. Positivity brings in a lot of energy to motivate you in performing your tasks faster and work for longer hours. Be constantly aware of your state of mind and be vigilant about getting sucked into the negativity.

Follow successful leaders and inspirational speakers on social media. Read and listen to their daily dose of positivity to differentiate between struggle and negativity.

Want to know the source of inspirations for the big names in industry? Examples are plenty:

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Richard Branson claims to be highly inspired by Steve Jobs.

Paul Mizen, MD, Recruit Venture Group, call on Winston Churchill – as a training resource to inspire the rest of his team.

No one has inspired Tim Cameron-Kitchen, head ninja at digital marketing agency Exposure Ninja, more than Benjamin Franklin.

11. Visualize the Results

Right from dealing with failure to success – every negotiation in life needs to be pre-empted and visualized to prepare beforehand in order to deal with the situations as and when they arise.

Visualization keeps us armed and motivated to execute the required actions. This does not mean having vain chimeras though! In some scenarios, you might even have to improvise your plan to achieve the desired results from a particular task or activity. New challenges will demand you to be flexible and open to changes.

Visualize every intricate detail of your journey and you’ll be motivated to work towards turning them into a reality. This also instils uniformity in your efforts. The more often you visualize your dreams and journey, the more unfailing you will be at working hard.

The oft-quoted lined by Benjamin Franklin, the founding father of the United States of America who revolutionised the world with his discovery of electricity, comes to mind in this context:

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”

12. Realize That You Can’t Control Everything

Don’t be demotivated if certain plans don’t work. We cannot control everything. All we can do is deliver the best in all we do. The key to consistent performance is in knowing that you need to constantly keep delivering regardless of failures.

Elvis’s recordings were a flop for initial many years and later when he tried to be the member of a vocal quartet he was told that he couldn’t sing. It was till the very day that he became popular, people kept telling him to go back to driving a truck.

Let go of “what-ifs” and approach every task with confidence. Focus on your efforts and performance more than the outcome and keep on adding value to your deliveries.

13. Don’t Lose Sight of the Bigger Picture

Taking care of the menial or mundane tasks can get pretty boring. To keep away from dejection remind yourself of the reasons for getting them done. Keep the bigger picture in mind. All these small tasks are going to complete the jigsaw puzzle in your near future.

The great scientist, Alan Turing said,

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“We can only see a short distance ahead, but we can see plenty there that needs to be done.”

Your goals and dreams are way bigger than the small tasks and such tasks will utilize a lot of your time. However, it will be unjust to compare this effort to the overall value of your goal.

14. Follow Your Industry for Positive Information

Know about the success stories of others who are trying to do what you are doing. Once you start following the industry, you will be empowered with right knowledge and facts. This learning will nourish your mind and keep you motivated towards your goal.

You will also get competitive and zealous once you follow the progress of other people in your industry. You could also find opportunities to connect with like-minded people who are working towards similar goals. You could even get into a healthy competition with your ally, which in turn will enable you perform better.

Jack Levin nailed it when he said,

“I think healthy competition is good for business, and really at the end best for end-users. Just think about what Android would have been if it was for iPhone – a better blackberry?”

15. Blame Yourself Before You Blame Others

All of us make mistakes. Review what you do to find out where it goes wrong and improve your skill in that area. It’s easy to blame your boss, your investors or your trainers but that doesn’t address the issue.

Ask yourself before starting a blame game. Hold yourself accountable and make the most from the mistake by taking serious lessons and building your capacity so that the mistake is not repeated in future.

Courtney Lynch, founding partner of Lead Star, puts it in the most articulate way when she says,

“Leaders inspire accountability through their ability to accept responsibility before they place blame.”

No matter at what stage of life you are in, there is nothing as right time or right place. You can start right now.

Remember, unless you execute, you’ll never know your true potential. Be consistent, be happy.

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How to Break Free From Negative Thinking for Good

How to Break Free From Negative Thinking for Good

Negative thinking can make us feel as though we are never truly good enough to change our lives. Whether we believe that we are not good looking enough, not smart enough, not funny enough, or something in between, we are always right.

We often tell ourselves the following:

“I’m not good enough to accomplish this.”

“They won’t like me. I’m too ugly to be around them.”

“I won’t ever be able to get out of this situation.”

How we see ourselves dictates how we lead our lives. This simple truth, while it is currently impacting your reality in a negative way, is actually good news. Why?

You can change your thinking, and when you can change your thoughts, you can change your reality.

Put simply, if you start to believe and feel like you are good-looking, intelligent, wealthy, or other things, you begin to see yourself in that light. If you tell yourself that you are capable of achieving greatness, you will eventually get there!

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That said, many find themselves wondering what to do when they get stuck in negative thinking. Are you tired of letting negative thinking run your life? Do you want to take control of how you feel and put yourself out there?

If you want to start writing your own narrative, let’s learn more about negative thought cycles and how you can change your own internal voice.

Where Do Negative Thoughts Come From?

You aren’t going to wake up one day and find that you are suffering from random negative thoughts. Negative thoughts are often a mix of ideas that we develop on our own, as well as ideas that we may have gotten from others.

For example, if you are constantly watching media where individuals are depicted as having thin bodies and perfect skin (and you do not have the same characteristics as those who are traditionally considered to be beautiful), you may come to the conclusion that you are not beautiful or deserving of love.

This is far from the truth, but your own take on how the world works can play into how you feel about yourself.

Equally harmful, the opinions of others can start to affect our self-perception. If several people tell you something negative about yourself, you may begin to take these opinions to heart, telling yourself the same things over time. This self-belief then becomes the model for how you live.

More often than not, the reality is that individuals who lack confidence and self-esteem are going to develop negative thought patterns.

This does not mean that confident people do not face internal crises of their own. After all, everyone is prone to experiencing a negative thought here and there. However, those who are self-aware and confident are able to bounce back from these thoughts and return to their truth.

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Those who do not think highly of themselves, on the other hand, are going to keep believing the negative thoughts that come into their mind. The issue? These negative thoughts turn into a repetitive cycle that becomes harder to break over time.

When you tell yourself something for months or years at a time, it can be difficult to transform that internal dialogue into something more positive and realistic. But is it possible? Absolutely!

The Importance of Quitting Negative Thinking

Beyond low-self esteem, there may be mental health-related causes behind your negative thought patterns, like depression. One of the major symptoms of depression is, you guessed it, negative thoughts. Depression can make us feel unworthy of love and life, even if we have everything we could wish for[1].

You may be struggling with anxiety disorders instead, which can paint uncertain visions of the future and leave you anticipating the worst long before the moment has arrived. Some people have anxiety about the present or will return to past moments where they felt as though they failed, which affects their feelings about who they are or who they will be[2].

Having mental health issues can make your situation more complex, but it is important to know that these types of health issues are highly treatable, especially with the assistance of a mental health professional. You are deserving of self-love, and getting help is the first, most important step of your journey!

How to Break the Cycle of Negative Thinking

In order to overcome your negative thought process, you are going to need two things: self-awareness and a willingness to love yourself. Once you are armed with these two tools, take a look below to learn more about how you can break free of the cycle of negative thinking.

1. Become Aware of the Thoughts That Are Affecting You

Negative thoughts are hard to catch because they have a tendency to become a part of who we are. These thoughts build our belief system and go unchallenged, even when they pop up daily.

All change begins with awareness. Whatever it is that you believe about yourself, take the time to pay attention to your own dialogue.

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What are you saying to yourself on a regular basis? How does it make you feel? Is any of it true?

 

When these thoughts are brought to your attention, you begin to notice just how often you are saying these things to yourself. Once you’ve cultivated awareness around these thoughts, you can begin to develop the change that you want.

2. Learn to Accept Them as They Come (and Move on)

A lot of people believe that you have to completely remove negative thinking patterns from your life in order to be happy. Not only is this not possible, but it’s also not true. You are going to experience negative thoughts regardless. It’s what you decide to do with these thoughts that matters.

Next time a negative thought comes into your mind, treat it like a passing car. Acknowledge it and let it pass you by. Don’t try to wave the driver over to you or continue thinking about once it has passed. Just let it go.

Giving power to your thoughts allows them to have control over you. You can’t stop a negative thought from entering your mind, but you always have the power to let it go!

3. Challenge Your Negative Thoughts

Our own beliefs play on a loop, telling us certain things over and over again. While it’s important to let go, it is also important to get to the root of these issues and figure out where they are coming from.

Let’s imagine that you are telling yourself you are stupid throughout the day. If you notice this pattern, ask yourself: Does this have any basis in reality? Am I really stupid or am I telling myself this unnecessarily? Is there any evidence to support this[3]?

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Challenge negative thinking by asking questions.

    Challenging your negative thoughts will help you realize that they are highly-exaggerated and untrue. This gives you the opportunity to transform these negative thoughts into positive ones that resonate with you.

    4. Replace These Thoughts with Kinder, More Realistic Alternatives

    Anything that is broken must be replaced. The broken record playing on a loop within you can easily be changed to a tune that you can actually sing to.

    Whenever a negative thought comes up, take the time to stop yourself and think of something positive to put in its place. If you find yourself saying, “I can’t do this,” try telling yourself that you are more than capable instead.

    Keep in mind, however, that you need to tell yourself things that you truly believe. If you start telling yourself things that don’t resonate with you and encounter a situation that proves your belief wrong, you may do more harm than good!

    Bottom Line

    Changing the way you think is a rigorous but rewarding process that will change your outlook on life. If you find yourself struggling with negative thinking, learn more about where they come from and how you can stop them for good with the guide above!

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