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10 Reasons Why Your New Year’s Resolution Will Fail

10 Reasons Why Your New Year’s Resolution Will Fail

Plenty of people make ambitious resolutions each year, though few truly achieve their goals. If you want to be one of those few, you need to learn why failure is so likely. That way, you can plan and make adjustments to avoid it.

1. You don’t lift

After leg day, you will quit working out, maybe for a day or two. You’ll tell yourself that you will be back to your routine soon, but the next time you’ll miss a whole week. By then, you won’t be working out at all. Don’t fret because the beaches will be full of people like you.

Don’t outdo yourself the first week, not all of us are pro athletes.

2. You hate kale

You don’t want to look at another leafy green again. Ever. It hurts every time you shove another vegetable in your mouth when you want steak. So, you go out to eat, you cheat, just a little. The next thing you know, you’re going to a fast food drive-thru every day. You just gained ten pounds and you think it was because of that kale.

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Don’t blame the kale, it wasn’t the kale’s fault. You enjoy chocolate and grease, you’re not alone, but maybe enjoy it in moderation?

3. The likelihood of this being your best year ever is small

We know you wanted this year to be the best year ever, that everything was going to work out, and maybe you would even win a large sum of money in a lottery. The chances of that are small, but let’s not get too pessimistic—that penny stock you bought is about to triple. This means you will have three times that small amount, and if that isn’t enough, the U.S. presidential election is this year! That means that the national economy, as well as the international outlook, will be affected. So, if this year isn’t as good as 1999 was for you, you’re not alone. If your resolution was as general as just to “have a decent year,” then you’re probably not doing so good in general, and will now have to watch the media be flooded with campaign adverts and videos you won’t watch.

Why not try for something simpler next year, like losing four pounds?

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    4. A year is a long time

    Whether you wanted to eat healthy or have the best beach body for the summer, you can’t always keep it up for an entire year. If this is your first time planning a New Year’s resolution, they have to be for an entire year. Things like this are designed to create a life change that will last for a longer period than just one year alone. So, if your resolution is just temporary, it’s not a resolution—it’s a temporary bandage that comes off after a quick tug.

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    5. You like smoking

    Why quit? It doesn’t cost that much money to smoke cigarettes, right? It’s not a hard drug and it’s legal—why is there a need to stop?

    Smoking is unhealthy, we know and outline this through campaigns and warning labels. Smokers know every time they light up that it’s harming them. The reality is that it’s extremely hard to quit for those that rely on it to calm them down. Smoking itself makes them more anxious and depressed, so they light up again. Nicotine is one of the most addictive substances, not just because of the psychological component but also because of its availability.

    Smoking cessation is big on the list of resolutions, and it should be. Stick with it and a couple weeks of cravings should clear your system of the drug.

    6. Sugar is bad but cookies are good

    Cookies are the best thing to happen to flour since it was invented. If you aren’t the cookie monster, you have a weakness to sweets of some kind. If you don’t, then it’s not a resolution because you don’t have a problem. We need to resolve the high fructose corn syrup dilemma so that sugar can be in everything again. You can’t cut glucose out—literally, do not try that. It requires not eating for an entire year. Instead, why not opt for real sugar, rather than highly processed sugar products?

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    I’m not going to give you a science lesson, but sugar is king, and before I put myself into a sugarholics meeting, I’ll just stop.

    7. You couldn’t do Lent, what makes you think you can do a New Year’s Resolution?

    A resolution can feel extreme even if it’s a small thing. Maybe you’ve never really completed one of these personal goal challenges—you’re not here for a marathon. If you’ve actually run a marathon, you might think you can achieve your goal, but the truth is that most people don’t.

    Write your goal down at the start of the year. Put it on a calendar or somewhere you will see it every day. Maybe this is just so you can see your hopes crushed, but maybe it can remind you of the person you were a year ago at the end of the year. And that can be a positive in itself.

    8. Your goal is unrealistic

    You can’t save a dying person or dead relationship in a year. This could take a lifetime. You can move mountains if you try, but you won’t be able to do it in just one year.

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      One man chipped away for decades after his wife died due to the roads around the mountain taking too long to reach the nearest hospital. For decades, he made this road to shorten the trip significantly. You can change things, but not in a year. You can be altruistic. Just keep in mind that the good things take so long to do that a year is just not enough.

      9. The world doesn’t want you to succeed

      Most resolutions are to stop doing things that you think are a problem, some behavior that doesn’t make you feel so good about yourself. Because of this, most choose to set a goal to desist with a certain activity. This pressure can be tough. You will have to fight the media and pressure from friends so that you can achieve your goal. If you’re still adhering to it, good for you! Take this bit of encouragement to the end of the year.

      10. You are unlikely to succeed with any drunken resolution made on NYE

      Maybe you wanted to quit drinking when woke up with a nasty hangover and told yourself “I’ll never drink again!” This isn’t going to work out because your heart wasn’t in it when you said it. Just make sure you don’t say it loud enough for people to hear and remind you of all year. Baby steps.

      Bonus: You have Zero Fu@ks to give about it

      Your friends have them, your family might, but you don’t care one bit about any of it. Overweight or not, you think you look good. Nothing in your life is that bad that you need some ridiculous resolution (that probably won’t work out anyway) to take care of it. After all, if you have a problem, you’ll take care of it. You don’t need some specific date to make it happen.

      Featured photo credit: Colin Tsoi on Flickr via flickr.com

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      The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

      The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

      Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

      The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

      1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

      Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

       I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

      To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

      And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

       2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

      Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

      3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

      Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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      4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

      The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

      5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

      Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

      6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

      Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

      7. Positive people smile a lot!

      When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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      8. People who are positive are great communicators.

      They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

      9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

      One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

      10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

      Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

      How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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      I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

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