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10 Reasons Why Your New Year’s Resolution Will Fail

10 Reasons Why Your New Year’s Resolution Will Fail

Plenty of people make ambitious resolutions each year, though few truly achieve their goals. If you want to be one of those few, you need to learn why failure is so likely. That way, you can plan and make adjustments to avoid it.

1. You don’t lift

After leg day, you will quit working out, maybe for a day or two. You’ll tell yourself that you will be back to your routine soon, but the next time you’ll miss a whole week. By then, you won’t be working out at all. Don’t fret because the beaches will be full of people like you.

Don’t outdo yourself the first week, not all of us are pro athletes.

2. You hate kale

You don’t want to look at another leafy green again. Ever. It hurts every time you shove another vegetable in your mouth when you want steak. So, you go out to eat, you cheat, just a little. The next thing you know, you’re going to a fast food drive-thru every day. You just gained ten pounds and you think it was because of that kale.

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Don’t blame the kale, it wasn’t the kale’s fault. You enjoy chocolate and grease, you’re not alone, but maybe enjoy it in moderation?

3. The likelihood of this being your best year ever is small

We know you wanted this year to be the best year ever, that everything was going to work out, and maybe you would even win a large sum of money in a lottery. The chances of that are small, but let’s not get too pessimistic—that penny stock you bought is about to triple. This means you will have three times that small amount, and if that isn’t enough, the U.S. presidential election is this year! That means that the national economy, as well as the international outlook, will be affected. So, if this year isn’t as good as 1999 was for you, you’re not alone. If your resolution was as general as just to “have a decent year,” then you’re probably not doing so good in general, and will now have to watch the media be flooded with campaign adverts and videos you won’t watch.

Why not try for something simpler next year, like losing four pounds?

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    4. A year is a long time

    Whether you wanted to eat healthy or have the best beach body for the summer, you can’t always keep it up for an entire year. If this is your first time planning a New Year’s resolution, they have to be for an entire year. Things like this are designed to create a life change that will last for a longer period than just one year alone. So, if your resolution is just temporary, it’s not a resolution—it’s a temporary bandage that comes off after a quick tug.

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    5. You like smoking

    Why quit? It doesn’t cost that much money to smoke cigarettes, right? It’s not a hard drug and it’s legal—why is there a need to stop?

    Smoking is unhealthy, we know and outline this through campaigns and warning labels. Smokers know every time they light up that it’s harming them. The reality is that it’s extremely hard to quit for those that rely on it to calm them down. Smoking itself makes them more anxious and depressed, so they light up again. Nicotine is one of the most addictive substances, not just because of the psychological component but also because of its availability.

    Smoking cessation is big on the list of resolutions, and it should be. Stick with it and a couple weeks of cravings should clear your system of the drug.

    6. Sugar is bad but cookies are good

    Cookies are the best thing to happen to flour since it was invented. If you aren’t the cookie monster, you have a weakness to sweets of some kind. If you don’t, then it’s not a resolution because you don’t have a problem. We need to resolve the high fructose corn syrup dilemma so that sugar can be in everything again. You can’t cut glucose out—literally, do not try that. It requires not eating for an entire year. Instead, why not opt for real sugar, rather than highly processed sugar products?

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    I’m not going to give you a science lesson, but sugar is king, and before I put myself into a sugarholics meeting, I’ll just stop.

    7. You couldn’t do Lent, what makes you think you can do a New Year’s Resolution?

    A resolution can feel extreme even if it’s a small thing. Maybe you’ve never really completed one of these personal goal challenges—you’re not here for a marathon. If you’ve actually run a marathon, you might think you can achieve your goal, but the truth is that most people don’t.

    Write your goal down at the start of the year. Put it on a calendar or somewhere you will see it every day. Maybe this is just so you can see your hopes crushed, but maybe it can remind you of the person you were a year ago at the end of the year. And that can be a positive in itself.

    8. Your goal is unrealistic

    You can’t save a dying person or dead relationship in a year. This could take a lifetime. You can move mountains if you try, but you won’t be able to do it in just one year.

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      One man chipped away for decades after his wife died due to the roads around the mountain taking too long to reach the nearest hospital. For decades, he made this road to shorten the trip significantly. You can change things, but not in a year. You can be altruistic. Just keep in mind that the good things take so long to do that a year is just not enough.

      9. The world doesn’t want you to succeed

      Most resolutions are to stop doing things that you think are a problem, some behavior that doesn’t make you feel so good about yourself. Because of this, most choose to set a goal to desist with a certain activity. This pressure can be tough. You will have to fight the media and pressure from friends so that you can achieve your goal. If you’re still adhering to it, good for you! Take this bit of encouragement to the end of the year.

      10. You are unlikely to succeed with any drunken resolution made on NYE

      Maybe you wanted to quit drinking when woke up with a nasty hangover and told yourself “I’ll never drink again!” This isn’t going to work out because your heart wasn’t in it when you said it. Just make sure you don’t say it loud enough for people to hear and remind you of all year. Baby steps.

      Bonus: You have Zero Fu@ks to give about it

      Your friends have them, your family might, but you don’t care one bit about any of it. Overweight or not, you think you look good. Nothing in your life is that bad that you need some ridiculous resolution (that probably won’t work out anyway) to take care of it. After all, if you have a problem, you’ll take care of it. You don’t need some specific date to make it happen.

      Featured photo credit: Colin Tsoi on Flickr via flickr.com

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      7 Morning Rituals to Empower Your Day And Change Your Life

      7 Morning Rituals to Empower Your Day And Change Your Life

      Most of your reality is not a given. It is shaped by your expectations, beliefs and thoughts you have formed about it. A big chunk of these beliefs and expectations are encoded into habits you integrate in your daily life.

      Yes, some of these habits are formed unconsciously and can be counter-productive or limiting but conversely, you can consciously form positive habits that will transform and empower your life significantly.

      This is a powerful point of departure that more and more people are becoming aware of. The most common trait of highly successful people is the recognition of the power they have in co-creating their reality through changing the way they think, believe or expect their reality to be.

      One of the most effective ways of changing our belief patterns is through practising and maintaining daily rituals. Ancient traditions had clearly understood the power of rituals in reinforcing habits and changing the way we see and create our reality a long, long time ago.

      Once again, if you look into the life history of any highly successful individual, you will find some form of ritual in their daily routine. Some of these rituals may seem banal or eccentric but don’t be deceived by appearances. Rituals are one of the most effective self-empowering tools freely available at the practitioner’s disposal – that is, you!

      Below are some the easiest yet life-changing morning rituals you can do every day. Of course, you can have your own afternoon or bed-time rituals but morning rituals are extremely effective in empowering your day since they help you charge yourself before it all starts.

      1. Gratitude

      Feeling gratitude and appreciation for those little signs and moments of joy happening in your life is probably one of the most overlooked or underestimated rituals. It is a perfect morning ritual to start your day on a very positive key.

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      The real power of gratitude is that it makes you pick out and focus on what is working in your life – what is in tune with your being as a whole. It is selectively positive. It reinforces happiness and positivity by shedding light on those awesome things, small or big, that grace your everyday living.

      Quite often, we just pick out the pain points, the problems, the bottle necks, whatever it is that is not working in our life and causing friction, anxiety and unhappiness. This is like constantly rewriting the script of your life with a negative or tragic overtone. Your subconscious mind follows faithfully that script you write whether it is a negative or positive one.

      So feeling gratitude is undoubtedly an immensely empowering ritual. Start your day by being thankful for those positive things that happened the previous day or throughout the week. It could be something really petty and small. It doesn’t matter. You might be grateful for an unexpected visit from an old friend, a beautiful encounter with a kind stranger, a new opportunity or whatever it is that shines your way. Do it every morning and see what happens during the day.

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        2. Writing Down Your Most Important Tasks

        This is a very practical ritual. Start your day by identifying and writing down from one to three of the most important tasks you need to complete during that day. These tasks are ones which support important long term goals that are aligned to your purpose, passion or general direction in life.

        For example, if writing a book or building an online community are important long term goals which are aligned to your personal growth, then an important task for the day might be finishing off a particular page or two of the book or coming up with fresh content ideas for the online community.

        What is important with this ritual is that you identify these tasks and complete them as early in the day as possible. Of course, you will have other tasks apart from the ones you will write down but, these are tasks which can be tackled later or batched up and carried out in one go.

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        Writing down your most important tasks in the morning helps you focus your day and life according to what is essential. It helps you prioritize and manage your time better. As a result, you simplify your life by applying your focus and energy on what really counts for your overall life progress.

        3. Affirm Your Goals in Writing or Drawing

        This is similar to the previous idea but different in its application and purpose. Writing down your most important tasks of the day is a way to have a concrete structure of action to follow. Affirming your goals, on the other hand, is a very powerful way of crystallizing your vision and goals in life into your everyday mental space.

        Writing down or doodling your goals on a piece of paper helps you externalize those goals by giving them form. In return, they are reflected back in your subconscious mind and thus, reinforcing them and integrating them more wholly.

        An example of this would be writing down “I am achieving greater success in my career” or “I am becoming healthier and stronger through my exercise.” Notice the present tense being used as a way to tell yourself you are in the process already. Remember the life script we subconsciously follow? You are basically modifying the script to be applied now in the present.

        Drawing or doodling can be equally, or even more, effective  (if you are more of a visual person) as it summarizes a graphical representation of your goals. For example, if your goal is to build a new house or live in another country, you can draw the house or draw things that symbolise the country you want to live in.

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          4. Practice Qi Gong Exercises

          According to Chinese philosophy, Qi (pronounced ‘Chee’) means the life force or energy inherent in all things;[1] and Qi Gong is the practice to cultivate and circulate that energy in your body. This may sound esoteric or complicated but actually, Qi Gong is really a set of simple exercises aimed at increasing your health and vitality.

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          There are numerous forms and practices available for free through the online media. As a morning ritual, I recommend following these simple exercises by Qi Gong master Lee Holden:

          5. Drink Hot Water with Lemon

          Simply add a slice of lemon in a glass of hot water and drink one every morning. This is a very simple ritual I follow faithfully every morning.

          Apart from being a good source of vitamin C and a great way of flushing out toxins in the morning, it balances and maintains the PH levels in the body, reduces pain and inflammation in joints and knees and helps nourishing brain and nerve cells. Here are some more benefits of drinking hot water with lemon.

          6. Rise Earlier

          The practical advantages of waking up early are obvious.

          For example, you gain more time for doing exercise such as walking, cycling or Qi Gong as suggested above. You gain more time to be with yourself to reflect, meditate or, more importantly, carry out the other morning rituals.

          So rising early can be seen as a foundation for all the other morning rituals. Many, like myself, find that they are more productive in the early hours of the day.

          Also, various studies have shown that there are many other benefits from waking up an hour or two earlier in the morning. Sleeping early and waking up early helps the body attune with the earth’s circadian rhythms thus, promoting more restorative sleep. Other curious results from such studies show, for instance, that early risers tend to be more optimistic and can anticipate and solve problems more efficiently than the norm.[2]

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          7. Listen to Uplifting Music

          Uplifting music can have a direct impact on our mood, especially in the morning. It charges us emotionally and tunes us into a more positive outlook of the day ahead.

          Most people wake up to music or listen to music as they commute to work. Very often, however, they tune in to a radio or randomly pick a playlist from their device. Being more selective and conscious of the music you listen to in the morning can have a great impact on your day and life in general.

          It’s funny how we try to choose music according to our mood. For example if you are feeling down or disappointed by something, you are more prone to listen to music that reflects that mood – for instance blues, sad songs or downtempo music. This has the effect of reinforcing that mood. What you need to do is the exact opposite and retune your mood by listening to music that beats to a different tune than that mood.

          Try to listen to more uplifting music in the morning even if, or especially if, your mood does not dictate so.

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          Reference

          [1] Live Science: What Is Qi Gong
          [2] Harvard Business Review: Defend Your Research: The Early Bird Really Does Get the Worm

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