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The Top Reasons You Are Not Healthy

The Top Reasons You Are Not Healthy

1. You are stressed out.

Stress has been called the “silent killer.” That said, it screams at you every day. Unless you tame and eliminate stress, it will permeate your mind, body, and soul. In turn, this will manifest disease by altering your epigenome and triggering predispositions that may have otherwise stayed dormant.

One of the greatest ways to start to combat stress is to quiet the mind. This is no easy feat, but like all things with practice comes habit. You must tap into your conscious self and recognize the stress triggers. They can be as small as a noise, or as big as your job or spouse.

Take stock at the end of each day of things that are stressing you. Release the little ones that you do not control. Do not waste energy there. Take the other areas, and manage them by taking small steps to lower their impact on your life bit by bit. Perhaps, you need to address someone that you continually put off. It is time to take action. Perhaps, your job is unhealthy. Take steps to either fix or change it. A little action forward has a domino effect.

The guru of quieting the mind is Deepak Chopra. Here is a good article to the principles behind it.

2. Your diet does not nourish you.

Next to stress, this is one of the most impactful areas that can resurrect your health – and quickly. Even more interesting is the fact that if you feed and nourish your body, you will have overall lower stress and be able to handle things a lot better. It is truly a win/win.

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What can you do without thinking too much about your day-to-day nutrition? Easy! Follow these little rules as a first step:

  1. Does the product have DNA? If so, you can eat it.
  2. Does the item rot within days or hours of buying? If so, you can eat it.
  3. Can you pronounce the name of the food and/or what the food is made from? If so, you can eat it?
  4. Is it a plant, vegetable, or fruit? Great, double up on those.
  5. Does it live, breathe, and communicate? Limit or omit these options all together.

A first step to a better diet is simply doubling the amount of vegetables you eat, and take that amount away from all the white and meat things you usually eat. This simple advice can add years to your life and life to your years.

Here is a true life story to inspire diet change, although it does not have to be this dramatic to make an impact.

3. You sleep poorly.

I have only ever had 2 patients who slept well. Both were athletes. Both were children. Sleep is the gateway to well-being. However, to get to the gateway, you need nutrition and a balanced lifestyle that does not have a whooping dose of daily stress.

What can one do to get a better night’s sleep today? Easy.

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  1. Stop eating before 8:00pm.
  2. Do not have alcohol. No, not even one glass. You probably have 2 anyways, and if you have not taken a break in some time, let’s start now.
  3. Turn off your devices. Set a wake-up alarm on your phone. Great. Now, turn up the volume and put it in the hallway.
  4. Have a warm bath as your last activity.
  5. Don’t watch TV for at least 60 minutes before retiring for the night.
  6. Oh – and get the TV out of your bedroom.

I promise, if you do these simple little steps you will be well on your way to improved sleep quality.

Need more convincing? Check out this research article.

4. Your environment is toxic.

When was the last time you gave thought to your home – your inner sanctum?

Here are some great things to do to “detox” the environment:

  1. Clean your furnace filter and/or replace it.
  2. Clean your ducts shortly after replacing the filter.
  3. Clean your curtains and blinds.
  4. Clean all the vents on the floor and overhead.
  5. Throw out and buy new pillows.
  6. Get all your carpets and furniture professionally cleaned.
  7. If you have a pet, get the fur groomed once a month to cut down on your efforts to keep the house clean, as well as for your pet’s benefit.
  8. Change your bedding every week.
  9. Do not keep a TV on at all times.
  10. Shut your computers and phones off for periods of time.

By doing the above steps to your home you will dramatically lower the allergan levels in your home. In turn, this lowers your body’s histamine levels – which will keep you stronger and healthier.

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Notice how many of these items also affect sleep.

5. You fix your problems with pills (medication and supplements).

In our “fix it now” society we treat both traditional and alternative medicine the same way. Pop a pill. Get an injection. Drink something.

Here is something to consider: It took you a long time to get to the point of requiring a pill, supplement, or magic potion, should it not take some time to fix it?

Make a list of everything you take. Get a physical and go over these lists with your doctor. Are they all necessary? If you doctor or alternative practitioner is not open to this discussion – fire them and get new ones.

Start shifting your mindset to eating and nourishing your body. Make a plan to prioritize the items in this article and then (god-willing) you can eliminate some (if not all) of your prescriptions. You can also eat your vitamins and minerals the way Mother Nature intended.

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Millions of people take cholesterol lowering medication. Read this article to learn more about how nutrition can help change that.

6. You Smoke.

Quit.  It is not only killing you, but those around you.

7. You drink alcohol too much.

Let’s go back to drinking on special occasions and on the weekend. We all know we overdo it. There are over 3.3 million deaths from alcohol annually in the world. It is related to over 200 diseases and injury conditions including many cancers. In persons 24-39, it accounts for 1/4 of all deaths. Millions and millions of people cope with the affects of alcoholism daily.

Conclusion

There is no need to go on. We all know these things, but choose to make short-term decisions. Let’s be smarter this year. Save that hard-earned money for a trip instead!

Let’s get moving on making 2016 the year of positive and healthy change!

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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