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Are you running on empty? 10 tips to build your self esteem instantly

Are you running on empty? 10 tips to build your self esteem instantly

It is easy to lose your sense of self when life becomes overwhelming. There is so much pressure on us today. Everyone has their best show reel on display for the world to see and the demands to try and keep up can be exhausting. Even the most positive, confident people have days where they feel low and lacking in self-esteem. The good news is, every day we actually have a choice. We can choose to take action and introduce self-esteem building habits that will drastically improve our energy levels, the way we feel about ourselves and how we see the world around us.

Here are 10 tips that will instantly fuel your self-esteem:

1.Set your sleep state

Before you fall asleep, remind yourself of all of your positive qualities and attributes. The last five minutes of your day before you enter into your sleep state are actually the most important five minutes of the day. During this time, you are going to actually tell your subconscious mind how you feel. It makes sense doesn’t it to fill your mind with all that is right about you and not with what is wrong? Let go of all the day’s worries and look forward to a new day and a new beginning.

2. Rise and shine

Set your positive mood for the day as soon as you wake up. Those first few minutes upon waking are a perfect time to set your mindset and mood for the upcoming day. The attitude of gratitude is definitely the foundation for a positive life so before you get out of bad each morning, reflect and give thanks for all the wonderful things in your life. When you start to focus on all of your blessings, you will realize that you are far richer than you think.

3. Practice affirmations

Basically an affirmation is a short statement which affirms something to be true. Affirmations are a proven method of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains and said often enough and with conviction, affirmations can enhance your world and build up your self-esteem.

You could repeat the following affirmations if you are unsure of where to start:
I am strong
I believe in myself
I approve of myself

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Continuously filling your mind with what is right and not what is wrong will improve every area of your life.

4. Back yourself

Back every decision you make. There is no-one more qualified than you to decide on your life’s future direction. Don’t allow others to dull your shine or deplete your self-esteem. Commit to accomplishing all of your personal and professional goals on your own terms. This is your life. Commit to living it passionately. Nothing fuels self-esteem more than living your life’s purpose.

5. Mind your language

Our self talk fuels our health, our wellbeing and our self-esteem. Negative self talk really is an easy habit to slip into, especially if you are surrounded by negative people or are just feeling overwhelmed. Take notice of your self talk from now on. Negative self talk can influence your outlook on life, your energy levels, your relationships and even your health.

Do you constantly use phrases like “I can’t; I am not good enough; I am stupid?”

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Make a commitment to quit the negative self talk for life. Start to take the necessary steps to clean up your vocabulary. Remove negative descriptive words and phrases and commit to replacing them with ones that are positive.

You know how uplifting it is when someone pays you a genuine compliment? Well, don’t wait for that to happen. Be your own best friend and start to acknowledge all of your positive qualities and mind blowing achievements.

6. Mind your thoughts

Your mind is like a garden bed. If you plant powerful, positive seeds in your mind, your whole being will flourish. Make it a habit to de-clutter your mind throughout the day. Don’t underestimate the power of your thoughts. Just as thoughts can escalate stress, they can also relieve stress.

Start to really focus on what thoughts you are repeatedly having. What are you filling your mind with?

You know positive thoughts really do call forth a positive life so harness the power of your own thoughts and beliefs to ensure your self-esteem is overflowing.

7. Say NO

Start saying no to perfectionism and comparisons. A great way to deplete your self-esteem is to continuously compare yourself to others. Most of us would readily admit that no good ever comes from comparing our own life to anyone else’s, but yet whether we like it or not, so many of us are guilty of doing it.

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Next time you catch yourself using someone else as a benchmark for your own worth, here is a powerful tip – STOP!

Instead, gently shift your energy and attention to your own achievements, your personal goals and your positive qualities and attributes.

How you measure up against others holds absolutely no importance in your life. Why compare yourself to others? No one in the world can do a better job of being you than you.

And while you are at it, say NO to Perfectionism. Being perfect is simply unattainable for all of us. Let it go. Aim to be the healthiest, best version of YOU instead.

8. Express yourself

If we express our needs, wants, values and boundaries clearly and confidently to our family and friends, this will keep self-esteem levels well and truly overflowing. It is healthy to speak your truth and manage your energy. Both mental and physical energy requires attention and your energy can easily be depleted especially by others if you do not prioritize what feels right for you.

9. Be true to yourself

Live your life doing what feels right for you, not what someone else thinks you should do!

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10. Practice self-care

If we make healthy choices every day in regards to food and exercise, we will absolutely be rewarded with wellness, increased vitality and we will definitely improve our self esteem levels.

If we do just a few things regularly to renew our energy and revitalize our spirit, like witness a sunrise or sunset, hug our loved ones, laugh with our friends, or walk on the beach, this will improve our wellbeing and will also help to boost our self esteem.

We all have days where we feel depleted on all levels, but make the effort to invest in yourself every day. Remind yourself often of your magnificence.

Prioritizing your self care, your wellness and building self esteem is one of the greatest ways that you can show love to yourself, your family and to your friends.

Featured photo credit: Stokpic – Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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