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Are you running on empty? 10 tips to build your self esteem instantly

Are you running on empty? 10 tips to build your self esteem instantly

It is easy to lose your sense of self when life becomes overwhelming. There is so much pressure on us today. Everyone has their best show reel on display for the world to see and the demands to try and keep up can be exhausting. Even the most positive, confident people have days where they feel low and lacking in self-esteem. The good news is, every day we actually have a choice. We can choose to take action and introduce self-esteem building habits that will drastically improve our energy levels, the way we feel about ourselves and how we see the world around us.

Here are 10 tips that will instantly fuel your self-esteem:

1.Set your sleep state

Before you fall asleep, remind yourself of all of your positive qualities and attributes. The last five minutes of your day before you enter into your sleep state are actually the most important five minutes of the day. During this time, you are going to actually tell your subconscious mind how you feel. It makes sense doesn’t it to fill your mind with all that is right about you and not with what is wrong? Let go of all the day’s worries and look forward to a new day and a new beginning.

2. Rise and shine

Set your positive mood for the day as soon as you wake up. Those first few minutes upon waking are a perfect time to set your mindset and mood for the upcoming day. The attitude of gratitude is definitely the foundation for a positive life so before you get out of bad each morning, reflect and give thanks for all the wonderful things in your life. When you start to focus on all of your blessings, you will realize that you are far richer than you think.

3. Practice affirmations

Basically an affirmation is a short statement which affirms something to be true. Affirmations are a proven method of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains and said often enough and with conviction, affirmations can enhance your world and build up your self-esteem.

You could repeat the following affirmations if you are unsure of where to start:
I am strong
I believe in myself
I approve of myself

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Continuously filling your mind with what is right and not what is wrong will improve every area of your life.

4. Back yourself

Back every decision you make. There is no-one more qualified than you to decide on your life’s future direction. Don’t allow others to dull your shine or deplete your self-esteem. Commit to accomplishing all of your personal and professional goals on your own terms. This is your life. Commit to living it passionately. Nothing fuels self-esteem more than living your life’s purpose.

5. Mind your language

Our self talk fuels our health, our wellbeing and our self-esteem. Negative self talk really is an easy habit to slip into, especially if you are surrounded by negative people or are just feeling overwhelmed. Take notice of your self talk from now on. Negative self talk can influence your outlook on life, your energy levels, your relationships and even your health.

Do you constantly use phrases like “I can’t; I am not good enough; I am stupid?”

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Make a commitment to quit the negative self talk for life. Start to take the necessary steps to clean up your vocabulary. Remove negative descriptive words and phrases and commit to replacing them with ones that are positive.

You know how uplifting it is when someone pays you a genuine compliment? Well, don’t wait for that to happen. Be your own best friend and start to acknowledge all of your positive qualities and mind blowing achievements.

6. Mind your thoughts

Your mind is like a garden bed. If you plant powerful, positive seeds in your mind, your whole being will flourish. Make it a habit to de-clutter your mind throughout the day. Don’t underestimate the power of your thoughts. Just as thoughts can escalate stress, they can also relieve stress.

Start to really focus on what thoughts you are repeatedly having. What are you filling your mind with?

You know positive thoughts really do call forth a positive life so harness the power of your own thoughts and beliefs to ensure your self-esteem is overflowing.

7. Say NO

Start saying no to perfectionism and comparisons. A great way to deplete your self-esteem is to continuously compare yourself to others. Most of us would readily admit that no good ever comes from comparing our own life to anyone else’s, but yet whether we like it or not, so many of us are guilty of doing it.

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Next time you catch yourself using someone else as a benchmark for your own worth, here is a powerful tip – STOP!

Instead, gently shift your energy and attention to your own achievements, your personal goals and your positive qualities and attributes.

How you measure up against others holds absolutely no importance in your life. Why compare yourself to others? No one in the world can do a better job of being you than you.

And while you are at it, say NO to Perfectionism. Being perfect is simply unattainable for all of us. Let it go. Aim to be the healthiest, best version of YOU instead.

8. Express yourself

If we express our needs, wants, values and boundaries clearly and confidently to our family and friends, this will keep self-esteem levels well and truly overflowing. It is healthy to speak your truth and manage your energy. Both mental and physical energy requires attention and your energy can easily be depleted especially by others if you do not prioritize what feels right for you.

9. Be true to yourself

Live your life doing what feels right for you, not what someone else thinks you should do!

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10. Practice self-care

If we make healthy choices every day in regards to food and exercise, we will absolutely be rewarded with wellness, increased vitality and we will definitely improve our self esteem levels.

If we do just a few things regularly to renew our energy and revitalize our spirit, like witness a sunrise or sunset, hug our loved ones, laugh with our friends, or walk on the beach, this will improve our wellbeing and will also help to boost our self esteem.

We all have days where we feel depleted on all levels, but make the effort to invest in yourself every day. Remind yourself often of your magnificence.

Prioritizing your self care, your wellness and building self esteem is one of the greatest ways that you can show love to yourself, your family and to your friends.

Featured photo credit: Stokpic – Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Jo Ettles is a published self help author, international writer, speaker and extremely gifted intuitive life coach.

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Last Updated on March 25, 2020

How to Live Longer? 21 Ways to Live a Long Life

How to Live Longer? 21 Ways to Live a Long Life

When it comes to living long, genes aren’t everything. Research has revealed a number of simple lifestyle changes you can make that could help to extend your life, and some of them may surprise you.

So, how to live longer? Here are 21 ways to help you live a long life

1. Exercise

It’s no secret that physical activity is good for you. Exercise helps you maintain a healthy body weight and lowers your blood pressure, both of which contribute to heart health and a reduced risk of heart disease–the top worldwide cause of death.

2. Drink in Moderation

I know you’re probably picturing a glass of red wine right now, but recent research suggests that indulging in one to three glasses of any type of alcohol every day may help to increase longevity.[1] Studies have found that heavy drinkers as well as abstainers seem to have a higher risk of early mortality than moderate drinkers.

3. Reduce Stress in Your Life

Stress causes your body to release a hormone called cortisol. At high levels, this hormone can increase blood pressure and cause storage of abdominal fat, both of which can lead to an increased risk of heart disease.

4. Watch Less Television

A 2008 study found that people who watch six hours of television per day will likely die an average of 4.8 years earlier than those who don’t.[2] It also found that, after the age of 25, every hour of television watched decreases life expectancy by 22 minutes.

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Television promotes inactivity and disengagement from the world, both of which can shorten your lifespan.

5. Eat Less Red Meat

Red meat consumption is linked to an increased risk of heart disease and cancer.[3] Swapping out your steaks for healthy proteins, like fish, may help to increase longevity.

If you can’t stand the idea of a steak-free life, reducing your consumption to less than two to three servings a week can still incur health benefits.

6. Don’t Smoke

This isn’t exactly a revelation. As you probably well know, smoking significantly increases your risk of cancer.

7. Socialize

Studies suggest that having social relationships promotes longevity.[4] Although scientists are unsure of the reasons behind this, they speculate that socializing leads to increased self esteem as well as peer pressure to maintain health.

8. Eat Foods Rich in Omega-3 Fatty Acids

Omega-3 fatty acids decrease the risk of heart disease[5] and perhaps even Alzheimer’s disease.[6] Salmon and walnuts are two of the best sources of Omega-3s.

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9. Be Optimistic

Studies suggest that optimists are at a lower risk for heart disease and, generally, live longer than pessimists.[7] Researchers speculate that optimists have a healthier approach to life in general–exercising more, socializing, and actively seeking out medical advice. Thus, their risk of early mortality is lower.

10. Own a Pet

Having a furry-friend leads to decreased stress, increased immunity, and a lessened risk of heart disease.[8] Depending on the type of pet, they can also motivate you to be more active.

11. Drink Coffee

Studies have found a link between coffee consumption and longer life.[9] Although the reasons for this aren’t entirely clear, coffee’s high levels of antioxidants may play a role. Remember, though, drowning your cup of joe in sugar and whipped cream could counter whatever health benefits it may hold.

12. Eat Less

Japan has the longest average lifespan in the world, and the longest lived of the Japanese–the natives of the Ryukyu Islands–stop eating when they’re 80% full. Limiting your calorie intake means lower overall stress on the body.

13. Meditate

Meditation leads to stress reduction and lowered blood pressure.[10] Research suggests that it could also increase the activity of an enzyme associated with longevity.[11]

Taking as little as 15 minutes a day to find your zen can have significant health benefits, and may even extend your life.

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How to meditate? Here’re 8 Meditation Techniques for Complete Beginners

14. Maintain a Healthy Weight

Being overweight puts stress on your cardiovascular system, increasing your risk of heart disease.[12] It may also increase the risk of cancer.[13] Maintaining a healthy weight is important for heart health and living a long and healthy life.

15. Laugh Often

Laughter reduces the levels of stress hormones, like cortisol, in your body. High levels of these hormones can weaken your immune system.

16. Don’t Spend Too Much Time in the Sun

Too much time in the sun can lead to an increased risk of skin cancer. However, sun exposure is an excellent way to increase levels of vitamin D, so soaking up a few rays–perhaps for around 15 minutes a day–can be healthy. The key is moderation.

17. Cook Your Own Food

When you eat at restaurants, you surrender control over your diet. Even salads tend to have a large number of additives, from sugar to saturated fats. Eating at home will enable you to monitor your food intake and ensure a healthy diet.

Take a look at these 14 Healthy Easy Recipes for People on the Go and start to cook your own food.

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18. Eat Mushrooms

Mushrooms are a central ingredient in Dr. Joel Fuhrman’s GOMBS disease fighting diet. They boost the immune system and may even reduce the risk of cancer.[14]

19. Floss

Flossing helps to stave off gum disease, which is linked to an increased risk of cancer.[15]

20. Eat Foods Rich in Antioxidants

Antioxidants fight against the harmful effects of free-radicals, toxins which can cause cell damage and an increased risk of disease when they accumulate in the body. Berries, green tea and broccoli are three excellent sources of antioxidants.

Find out more antiosidants-rich foods here: 13 Delicious Antioxidant Foods That Are Great for Your Health

21. Have Sex

Getting down and dirty two to three times a week can have significant health benefits. Sex burns calories, decreases stress, improves sleep, and may even protect against heart disease.[16] It’s an easy and effective way to get exercise–so love long and prosper!

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Reference

[1] Wiley Online Library: Late‐Life Alcohol Consumption and 20‐Year Mortality
[2] BMJ Journals: Television viewing time and reduced life expectancy: a life table analysis
[3] Arch Intern Med.: Red Meat Consumption and Mortality
[4] PLOS Medicine: Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-analytic Review
[5] JAMA: Fish and Omega-3 Fatty Acid Intake and Risk of Coronary Heart Disease in Women
[6] NCBI: Effects of Omega‐3 Fatty Acids on Cognitive Function with Aging, Dementia, and Neurological Diseases: Summary
[7] Mayo Clinic Proc: Prediction of all-cause mortality by the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory Optimism-Pessimism Scale scores: study of a college sample during a 40-year follow-up period.
[8] Med Hypotheses.: Pet ownership protects against the risks and consequences of coronary heart disease.
[9] The New England Journal of Medicine: Association of Coffee Drinking with Total and Cause-Specific Mortality
[10] American Journal of Hypertension: Blood Pressure Response to Transcendental Meditation: A Meta-analysis
[11] Science Direct: Intensive meditation training, immune cell telomerase activity, and psychological mediators
[12] JAMA: The Disease Burden Associated With Overweight and Obesity
[13] JAMA: The Disease Burden Associated With Overweight and Obesity
[14] African Journal of Biotechnology: Anti-cancer effect of polysaccharides isolated from higher basidiomycetes mushrooms
[15] Science Direct: Periodontal disease, tooth loss, and cancer risk in male health professionals: a prospective cohort study
[16] AHA Journals: Sexual Activity and Cardiovascular Disease

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