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Are you running on empty? 10 tips to build your self esteem instantly

Are you running on empty? 10 tips to build your self esteem instantly

It is easy to lose your sense of self when life becomes overwhelming. There is so much pressure on us today. Everyone has their best show reel on display for the world to see and the demands to try and keep up can be exhausting. Even the most positive, confident people have days where they feel low and lacking in self-esteem. The good news is, every day we actually have a choice. We can choose to take action and introduce self-esteem building habits that will drastically improve our energy levels, the way we feel about ourselves and how we see the world around us.

Here are 10 tips that will instantly fuel your self-esteem:

1.Set your sleep state

Before you fall asleep, remind yourself of all of your positive qualities and attributes. The last five minutes of your day before you enter into your sleep state are actually the most important five minutes of the day. During this time, you are going to actually tell your subconscious mind how you feel. It makes sense doesn’t it to fill your mind with all that is right about you and not with what is wrong? Let go of all the day’s worries and look forward to a new day and a new beginning.

2. Rise and shine

Set your positive mood for the day as soon as you wake up. Those first few minutes upon waking are a perfect time to set your mindset and mood for the upcoming day. The attitude of gratitude is definitely the foundation for a positive life so before you get out of bad each morning, reflect and give thanks for all the wonderful things in your life. When you start to focus on all of your blessings, you will realize that you are far richer than you think.

3. Practice affirmations

Basically an affirmation is a short statement which affirms something to be true. Affirmations are a proven method of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains and said often enough and with conviction, affirmations can enhance your world and build up your self-esteem.

You could repeat the following affirmations if you are unsure of where to start:
I am strong
I believe in myself
I approve of myself

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Continuously filling your mind with what is right and not what is wrong will improve every area of your life.

4. Back yourself

Back every decision you make. There is no-one more qualified than you to decide on your life’s future direction. Don’t allow others to dull your shine or deplete your self-esteem. Commit to accomplishing all of your personal and professional goals on your own terms. This is your life. Commit to living it passionately. Nothing fuels self-esteem more than living your life’s purpose.

5. Mind your language

Our self talk fuels our health, our wellbeing and our self-esteem. Negative self talk really is an easy habit to slip into, especially if you are surrounded by negative people or are just feeling overwhelmed. Take notice of your self talk from now on. Negative self talk can influence your outlook on life, your energy levels, your relationships and even your health.

Do you constantly use phrases like “I can’t; I am not good enough; I am stupid?”

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Make a commitment to quit the negative self talk for life. Start to take the necessary steps to clean up your vocabulary. Remove negative descriptive words and phrases and commit to replacing them with ones that are positive.

You know how uplifting it is when someone pays you a genuine compliment? Well, don’t wait for that to happen. Be your own best friend and start to acknowledge all of your positive qualities and mind blowing achievements.

6. Mind your thoughts

Your mind is like a garden bed. If you plant powerful, positive seeds in your mind, your whole being will flourish. Make it a habit to de-clutter your mind throughout the day. Don’t underestimate the power of your thoughts. Just as thoughts can escalate stress, they can also relieve stress.

Start to really focus on what thoughts you are repeatedly having. What are you filling your mind with?

You know positive thoughts really do call forth a positive life so harness the power of your own thoughts and beliefs to ensure your self-esteem is overflowing.

7. Say NO

Start saying no to perfectionism and comparisons. A great way to deplete your self-esteem is to continuously compare yourself to others. Most of us would readily admit that no good ever comes from comparing our own life to anyone else’s, but yet whether we like it or not, so many of us are guilty of doing it.

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Next time you catch yourself using someone else as a benchmark for your own worth, here is a powerful tip – STOP!

Instead, gently shift your energy and attention to your own achievements, your personal goals and your positive qualities and attributes.

How you measure up against others holds absolutely no importance in your life. Why compare yourself to others? No one in the world can do a better job of being you than you.

And while you are at it, say NO to Perfectionism. Being perfect is simply unattainable for all of us. Let it go. Aim to be the healthiest, best version of YOU instead.

8. Express yourself

If we express our needs, wants, values and boundaries clearly and confidently to our family and friends, this will keep self-esteem levels well and truly overflowing. It is healthy to speak your truth and manage your energy. Both mental and physical energy requires attention and your energy can easily be depleted especially by others if you do not prioritize what feels right for you.

9. Be true to yourself

Live your life doing what feels right for you, not what someone else thinks you should do!

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10. Practice self-care

If we make healthy choices every day in regards to food and exercise, we will absolutely be rewarded with wellness, increased vitality and we will definitely improve our self esteem levels.

If we do just a few things regularly to renew our energy and revitalize our spirit, like witness a sunrise or sunset, hug our loved ones, laugh with our friends, or walk on the beach, this will improve our wellbeing and will also help to boost our self esteem.

We all have days where we feel depleted on all levels, but make the effort to invest in yourself every day. Remind yourself often of your magnificence.

Prioritizing your self care, your wellness and building self esteem is one of the greatest ways that you can show love to yourself, your family and to your friends.

Featured photo credit: Stokpic – Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Jo Ettles is a published self help author, international writer, speaker and extremely gifted intuitive life coach.

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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