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These 20 Books Are Game Changers, Read Them Before You Turn 30

These 20 Books Are Game Changers, Read Them Before You Turn 30

Books offer wisdom that we ourselves might need years to figure out. Between 20 and 30, we all would undergo lots of struggles and have lots of doubts. Below are 20 books that can make your way much clearer, promising and easier.

Quitter: Closing the Gap Between Your Day Job & Your Dream Job – Jon Acuff

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    Through wit and experience, Jon Acuff takes us through a journey from dispising your current job to getting your dream job. Acuff shows us the way by making sure we don’t quit too soon or too late.

    This is a fun and very helpful read for those who want to make the jump and make their dreams a reality.

    The Power of Habit – Charles Duhigg

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      Through the use scientific studies, author Charles Duhigg shares his labor of love by breaking down how habits are created and how we fail to stop them in life and in business.

      This is an excellent read for anyone looking to break bad habits and start new ones that lead to success.

      Total Money Makeover – Dave Ramsey

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        For over 20 years, personal finance coach and radio personality Dave Ramsey has brought his no nonsense advice to a very easy to follow how-to guide. His baby steps from establishing an emergency fund to living on cash are priceless.

        I highly recommend this book, as my wife and I have used it to great success in our finances.

        Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life – Henry Cloud and John Townsend

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          Having problems with people who keep stumbling into what you feel is your personal boundary? Whether you are looking for help emotionally, physically, or mentally, Boundaries is the book you want to read.

          Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend give you the blueprint for setting clear boundaries in any facet of your life.

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          The $100 Startup – Chris Guillebeau

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            Much like Tim Ferriss, Chris Guellebeau is a world traveling writer. In The $100 Startup, the author cites example after example of people who start businesses with very little money and make their businesses much larger.

            This book offers great inspiration for those who want to start a side business.

            Do The Work – Steven Pressfield

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              Known best for his fiction writing (The Legend of Bagger Vance) and his first book on work, The War of Art, Pressfield helps guide us through what it takes to get through any project we might be working on. A short and easy read, Do The Work is simple, yet very inspirational for those who long to do something outside of their own comfort zone.

              Pressfield writes:

              “The opposite of fear is love – love of the challenge, love of the work, the pure joyous passion to take a shot at our dream and see if we can pull it off.”

              The Traveler’s Gift: Seven Decisions That Determine Personal Success – Andy Andrews

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                After being rejected by over 50 publishers, Andy Andrews finally published this book in 2005. Written as a fictional, but motivational, historical book, the story follows 46 year old David, who after losing his job is involved in a nasty car accident. While out cold in the hospital, David is transported back in time and meets Lincoln, Truman, and 5 other great historical leaders. He learns wisdom from them in their toughest hours.

                Andrews writes:

                “Those who are critical of my goals and dreams simply do not understand the higher purpose to which I have been called.”

                Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us – Daniel Pink

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                  Daniel Pink shows us that science and business are in very different realms in the 21st century. Science shows us that we are moving beyond the carrot and stick style of management (Motivation 2.0) to a self-motivated autonomy where employees are working with purpose, mastery, and in a state of flow (Motivation 3.0).

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                  This book is great help for those of us trying to understand our purpose.

                  Essentialism – Greg McKeown

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                    Less is more. That’s it. One great method Greg McKeown uses is a filter for choosing what to do in our lives. If the choice you need to make isn’t a 9 or 10 (10 being something you have to do), then don’t do it.

                    I highly recommend this book for pairing down your life and making a systematic discipline in whatever you do.

                    48 Days to the Work You Love – Dan Miller

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                      Career coach and author Dan Miller is a firm believer in getting people to realize that we all have certain skills, abilities, and passions. This book helps us understand that the road to happiness is finding work that is gratifying and profitable. 85% of the job search is understanding yourself and the other 15% is finding work that fits you.

                      It could save you thousands of dollars in unwanted student loans by helping you find a career that fits you.

                      The 4 Hour Workweek – Tim Ferriss

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                        Originally published in 2009, Tim Ferriss introduced the Lifestyle Business to the world. After having a panic attack while traveling in Spain, Ferriss maps out how to build a business that can be run from anywhere in the world. In addition, he shows how to live very well in cities around the world.

                        While I would not suggest what Tim does is for everyone, his concepts and ideas are worth the read.

                        Blue Like Jazz – Donald Miller

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                          While considered a Christian book, Donald Miller takes us on his unsuspecting journey to find his faith in Christ. As a college student in his late teens and early twenties, Miller takes us on his interesting ride of finding his faith in a city (Portland) not known for its religious fervor.

                          Donald’s conversational style of writing makes this an enjoyable read for anyone looking to understand their own faith walk.

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                          How to Win Friends and Influence People –  Dale Carnegie

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                            This classic self-help book has been around since the 1930s. Based upon what Carnegie learned from interviews with the business giants of the day (including Andrew Carnegie and Thomas Edison), the author lays out ways to maximize your potential through understanding how to interact with others.

                            This book is still relevant today as it was 70 plus years ago.

                            The Energy Bus – Jon Gordon

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                              Written in a inspirational fictional format, this fascinating book follows the hard luck times of a marketing team leader who is on the brink of losing his job. Forced to ride the Energy Bus because his car needs a lengthy repair, our protagonist learns the 10 rules of injecting fun and positive energy into his work and family life.

                              This is a quick and powerful book for anyone looking to turn their situation into a positive one.

                              Man’s Search for Meaning – Victor Frankl

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                                After surviving four Nazi death camps and watching much of his family die, Frankl became a psychiatrist. Countering Freud’s contention that man’s sole desire is finding pleasure, Frankl contends that what really drives men is their pursuit for meaning in their lives.

                                While rather deep at times, Man’s Search for Meaning is a must-read.

                                The Greatest Salesman in the World – Og Mandino

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                                  Don’t let the title scare you. This book, while having some relation to sales and salesmanship, is more about living a life of servant leadership.

                                  The Greatest Salesman is a quick read but leaves you feeling inspired.

                                  Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned From a Lumpy Couch – Nick Pavlidis

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                                    While not every 20-something will think of being a husband, Nick Pavlidis takes us through his journey from being a self-absorbed jerk to a loving husband.

                                    Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking – Susan Cain

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                                      Here’s a must-read for anyone looking to understand why they feel exhausted when they’re done talking to a group of people. Through psychology and neuroscience research, Susan Cain does a brilliant job of explaining how one third of us (introverts) cope with the rest of the extroverted population.

                                      The Bible

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                                        Do you know the one subject that the Bible mentions more times than any other? Money. That’s right – money. You don’t need to be a devout Christian to read the Bible. Take a year and breakdown the 66 books in the Bible. Look for the New International Version for one of the easier to read translations.

                                        You might be surprised how much our daily lives in Western culture stem from what the Bible teaches.

                                        The Obstacle is the Way – Ryan Holiday

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                                          Through the use of stoicism, or the the ancient Greek philosophy of enduring pain or adversity with perseverance and resilience, this book shows that the way to success is through the very path that stands in the way of success. Ryan Holiday takes us through a myriad of leaders who have used stoicism to overcome any obstacle.

                                          This is a delightful read for anyone stuck on a project in need of help.

                                          Conclusion

                                          If you read more than one book per year, you are way ahead of the crowd. Take the time to read one or any of these great books. Then apply what you learn. You will grow immensely from it.

                                          If there are any other books I missed, let me know. Please share and leave a comment.

                                          Featured photo credit: Victor Hanacek via picjumbo.com

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                                          Last Updated on May 27, 2019

                                          How to Think Positive and Eliminate Negative Thoughts

                                          How to Think Positive and Eliminate Negative Thoughts

                                          In a world that is full of external factors that we cannot control, it is becoming more and more important to at least control ourselves.

                                          Thinking positively can have a tremendous effect on our lives. By eliminating negative thoughts, we’re able to at least influence the part of our lives that we can control: our own mindset.

                                          In this article, you will learn how to think positive and ditch the negative thoughts. Before we dive into the step-by-step guide on how to do so, I’d like to share with you how I learned to thinking positive the hard way…

                                          How I Learned to Think Positive

                                          At the start of 2019, I was quite stressed at work with multiple tight deadlines. I was constantly worried and the stress was affecting my ability to sleep. Numerous nights in a row, I would experience insomnia, where I had a staring contest with the ceiling because my mind would simply not stop thinking about all the stressful things I had to deal with.

                                          I eventually got up and wrote everything down. Every single thought that rushed through my head, I wrote it down in detail. This allowed me to do a couple of things:

                                          • It made everything relatable
                                          • It showed me that every obstacle that was on my mind was not that big on its own. I was only stressed because these obstacles were big in numbers, while independently, these obstacles were just minor things that I could overcome.
                                          • It allowed me to think positively about these little obstacles and how I was going to conquer them one at a time.
                                          • Writing down my negative emotions allowed me to wipe them clean from my mind. Think of it as a laptop: after having browsed for a long time, I was able to clear my RAM and start fresh. My mind was finally clear from negative thoughts.

                                          After doing this, I was finally able to sleep, and the next day, I slowly started to tackle these small obstacles.

                                          This is just one example of how I manage to think positively and eliminate negative thoughts from dominating my mind.

                                          Here are other actionable steps you can follow in order to achieve the same thing.

                                          Step 1: Turn Every Obstacle into Smaller “Challenges”

                                          In the intro, you read that I was stressed because I was worrying about a big number of small obstacles as opposed to one big devastating obstacle. Writing down my worries allowed me to zoom out and look at the bigger picture.

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                                          As a result, I observed my problems as single challenges that I could overcome.

                                          When you’re currently surrounded with negativity – whether that’s because of a stressful project or problems in a relationship – you should try to dissect that challenge into different sub-challenges.

                                          For example, if you have to deliver a huge presentation at work on Friday, try to think of this big task as multiple smaller tasks:

                                          • Find sources to support your presentation
                                          • Think of interesting anecdotes, introductions or examples
                                          • Create a general outline of your presentation
                                          • Complete the first 5 slides
                                          • Add a small video or puzzle to your presentation
                                          • Finish the presentation
                                          • Think of a keyword for each slide to remember what you have to say
                                          • Practice the presentation in order to finish it within 30 minutes
                                          • Deliver a great presentation

                                          While this example may not be relevant to you, the message is all the same. You can tackle pretty much any obstacle – no matter how big it may seem – as long as you take it one step at the time.

                                          That’s how you can eliminate negative thoughts such as “I can never do that” or “I’ll never be good enough” or “I’ll never reach that goal” from controlling your actions.

                                          Take it one step at the time and pretty much any goal becomes manageable.

                                          Step 2: Realize That Positive Thoughts Can Be a Choice

                                          Happiness is determined as follows:[1]

                                          • 50% is determined by genetics
                                          • 10% is determined by external factors
                                          • 40% is determined by your own outlook

                                          This determination has been studied by numerous researchers, and while the details differ, the results all share the same observation:

                                          Your happiness can be influenced by your own thoughts.

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                                          Even though there are things in life that we cannot control, we can still often control how we react to these things.

                                          In that sense, we might not get to control 100% of our happiness but we can still influence a big chunk of it.

                                          I believe we can learn to influence the 40% of our happiness that is determined by our own personal outlook. Happiness is a choice, and you can learn to recognize these situations on your own.[2]

                                          How does this help you to think positive and eliminate negative thoughts?

                                          Well, because this shows you that it pays off to learn how to think positively in difficult situations.

                                          By developing this skill, you can really increase happiness in your life. It is definitely not always easy, but you can change a bad day into a good one just by focusing on the positives instead of the negatives.

                                          This is the reason why I love this quote of Winston Churchill:

                                          A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity whereas an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

                                          Step 3: Spend Time with the People That Have a Positive Influence on Your Life and Be Grateful for Them

                                          Almost everybody has a small circle of people that they trust and love, whether that’s a partner, family or friends. These people have a positive influence on your life.

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                                          I want you to focus on spending more time with these people. When you’re surrounded by negativity, you are more likely to postpone activities that require you to be outgoing. You’d rather be lazy and watch Netflix all day than to go outside and meet up with your friend.

                                          You must try to break out of your comfort zone and spend more time with the people who actually have a positive influence on your happiness. These people can act as a support net for the moments when you’re feeling down. This might sound intimidating and scary, but it’s a step that should not be underestimated.

                                          Even when you don’t feel comfortable sharing your challenges with these people, there’s another thing you can actively do to initiate positive thoughts; and that’s to be grateful that these people are in your life:

                                          • Be grateful that you have parents who support you, no matter what you do.
                                          • Be grateful for the friends with whom you can laugh your ass off.
                                          • Be grateful that you have a healthy and loving partner.
                                          • Be grateful that you have a kid that looks up to you and thinks you are the best.

                                          Being grateful might sound like a rather pointless thing to do. Why would being grateful help you in thinking more positively and eliminating negative thoughts?

                                          Well, the answer is simple.

                                          Being grateful forces you to think of the good things that you already have in your life. This allows you to face your issues with optimism, instead of negativity. People that actively practice gratitude are much better able to deal with toxic emotions.

                                          So what do you have to do?

                                          Go out there and meet up with the people you love, and be grateful for having these people in your life.

                                          To help inspire you to feel more grateful, here’re 60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life.

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                                          Step 4: Don’t Give up After a Setback

                                          So you had a bad day last week? Or maybe a terrible week in which you allowed negative thoughts to control your life? Who cares!

                                          We are only human, so we’re bound to experience a day of negativity every once in a while. It’s important to realize that everybody occasionally experiences negative thoughts in their life. Eternal happiness does not exist. Even the happiest man alive has experienced negativity and sadness on some days.

                                          What you need to when this inevitably happens to you:

                                          • Don’t let this set you back.
                                          • Don’t interpret it as a failure
                                          • Don’t let it stop you from trying to think positive

                                          You see, even the most optimistic person experiences negativity on occasion. Sure, we can try to be as positive as possible every day, but we have to accept that negativity is something that we have to deal with from time to time.

                                          So what if you’re engulfed in negative thoughts today? Screw it and know that tomorrow is a new day and that you can try to work on this again.

                                          Take a look at this article and learn about Why Negative Emotions Aren’t That Bad (And How to Handle Them).

                                          Final Thoughts

                                          In the end, there’s no arguing that we cannot control 100% of our happiness. We can’t stand in front of a mirror, repeat the words “I am thinking happy thoughts only” ninety-nine times and accept to suddenly be happy.

                                          It doesn’t work like that.

                                          However, there are a number of things we can do to at least improve our mindset in the situations where we do get to choose how we react to external factors.

                                          I hope that you have a better idea of what you can do in these situations. Sooner than later, you will influence your own mindset to think positively and to eliminate negative thoughts.

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                                          Reference

                                          [1] For a State of Happiness: Happiness: it’s not just your genes, stupid!
                                          [2] Tracking Happiness: How Happiness Can Be A Choice

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