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30 Things To Stop Doing (And What To Do Instead) In The New Year

30 Things To Stop Doing (And What To Do Instead) In The New Year

Do you want to have a happier New Year? Most people start the new year with high hopes that they will have a successful, productive and happy year, but they are unsure how to achieve them. It is actually very easy – simply swap out your negative habits for more positive ones.

Check out 30 things you should stop doing (and what you should be doing instead) this new year.

1. Stop comparing yourself to other people, especially on social media. Instead focus on your own accomplishments – and remember that social media is heavily edited.

2. Stop talking about travelling or going on holiday. Instead start to save so that you can go on the trip before the year is over.

3. Stop buying expensive coffees every day. Instead buy a thermos and start to carry your own coffee with you to save money.

4. Stop complaining that you don’t meet enough people. Instead actively look for new friends by joining clubs or inviting co-workers out.

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5. Stop putting off things that you want to try, like yoga or martial arts. Instead book your first class.

6. Stop regularly binge-watching television. Instead commit to one night where you don’t turn the TV on – try reading or cooking instead.

7. Stop over-scheduling yourself. Instead, realize it is totally fine to turn down plans without feeling guilty – you can’t please everyone, but you can please yourself!

8. Stop filling all of your free time with social media. Instead look for hobbies that you think you would actually enjoy. There are lots of awesome hobbies out there, from coloring to cooking to jet-skiing.

9. Stop listening to the same kind of music. Instead broaden your musical horizons; listen to Mozart if you love pop music, or try out the top 40 if you only listen to metal. You never know what you will end up liking!

10. Stop ignoring people in your life because you are busy. Instead speak to your parents every week, and always reply to your friend’s messages.

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11. Stop feeling guilty about wanting to treat yourself. Instead, enjoy the treat – you deserve it!

12. Stop complaining about the news and politics. Instead get involved; call your local representative about important issues, attend council meetings and protest if you are unhappy.

13. Stop making excuses for being unfit. Instead do 10 minutes of exercise every day in your home.

14. Stop spending too much money on takeout food. Instead buy a cookbook and learn to cook all of your favorite meals – then freeze the leftovers for a night when you are feeling lazy!

15. Stop not accepting responsibility for your mistakes. Instead hold yourself accountable for everything you do – including the good things.

16. Stop talking about your dream job. Instead write down a 10 year plan that ends in you having your dream job.

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17. Stop not focusing on your mental health. Instead think about the things that bother you and upset you, and consider speaking to someone about your feelings.

18. Stop using social media as the only way to contact your long distance friends. Instead pick up the phone and ring one of your friends for a long chat once a week.

19. Stop buying cheap clothes that you only wear once. Instead start to shop less, but buy better quality pieces of clothing that will last far longer.

20. Stop judging other people (especially on social media). Instead throw out the negativity and focus on your own goals and achievements.

21. Stop spending money every time you see your friends. Instead of always meeting at a café or a bar, start to meet at home for movie nights.

22. Stop drinking the same old drink. Try new drinks whenever you go out until you find your ultimate favorite drink!

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23. Stop washing your hair every day. Instead give it a break and try to only wash your hair once or twice a week – your hair will thank you!

24. Stop putting off washing your dishes. Instead try to wash everything within 24 hours of using it – especially if you live with other people!

25. Stop being ungrateful in your relationship. Praise your partner every day and remind yourself of the awesome things that they do for you.

26. Stop being proud of your flaws. Instead of deciding that you will always be short-tempered, work on becoming more calm.

27. Stop using alcohol as a social buffer. Instead try not to drink on the next night out with your friends so you feel more confident sober.

28. Stop eating sugary and salty snacks every day. Instead make them a once a week treat.

29. Stop going on social media at work. Instead try to stop using social media completely at work – you may discover you appreciate the break!

30. Stop obsessing over bad photos of you. Instead learn to love any picture of yourself where you are happy.

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Amy Johnson

Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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