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8 Signs You Need To Jump Out Of Your Comfort Zone

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8 Signs You Need To Jump Out Of Your Comfort Zone

How we define the term “comfort zone” applies differently to each of us. While some love chasing after grand adventures to have fulfilled lives, others are more laid back in pursuing their goals. It is understandable if you are not willing to pursue your goals and get out of doing the same thing daily, perhaps this is because you are scared of ridicule or you are not challenged to taking risk because of undue anxiety. However, there are times you just have to get out of that restrictive area and do what is necessary to live a life of less regrets. Life is short.

Here are signs to help you realize that it is necessary for you to jump out of your comfort zone.

You are unhappy, and you are not sure why

Amazingly, you have everything around you working as they should; however, it somehow still feels like you want more out of life. You are not happy because things are so ordinary and usual. Your body wants something different, perhaps a new experience or a new challenge.

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You doubt yourself

You don’t know how good or how capable you are. Somehow, this leads to self-doubt and negative self-talk. Certainly, you will be thrilled to find contentment within the challenges that new adventures can bring, it is just that you do not know if you are up for it or you can achieve what is before you.

You face stagnancy

You are at the same junction for a while and you have become satiated and bored with it. You are not growing and you do not see any kind of growth in the horizon. You feel that you have everything working for you. Unfortunately, you are in a crisis because you are not making the exact kind of process your personality deserves.

You can’t remember the last time you tried something new

It must have been a while since you were challenged. You have been doing the same thing for so long that you cannot remember the last time you had that adrenaline rush in chasing something you desired. It is not as if you wouldn’t love the challenge, but you have become so laid-back in your comfort zone that you are relaxed watching the world and its activities go by.

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You rarely make conversation with strangers

You are not meeting new people, neither are you discovering new channels of expressing yourself. You are worried about how the world will view you if you do something different or speak to them. You don’t want to have a different response other than the one you have been receiving for a while. You are actually okay with not striking new conversations or meeting new people.

You say “No” when you are asked do something new or inconvenient

Anything that does not resonate with what you are currently doing seems risky. You are negative to any new prospect that is out of your area of interest. You would love to see the task delegated to someone else other than you because you really find it confusing.

You procrastinate often

You continue waiting for things to be perfect before you take action. However, things are never perfect. You simply have something holding you back from within and you are not willing to do anything about it. Instead, you make excuses and complain on how timing and other factors are not just right. You always tell yourself that “someday” you will finish that book you have always being willing to write, or that you will travel to Portugal, or take that acting class “someday.”

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You constantly use words like “if” and “when”

You seem to use negative words like “can’t” or “won’t.” You really do not know how impactful the words you use can keep you in a comfort zone. You could use words like “if” and “when”, rather than “should,” “could,” or “am.” You shouldn’t get stuck using negative words that do not drive you out of your comfort zone because these words focus on the risks and limit you to the exact spot you are now in.

The next step…

Realising the need to leave our comfort zone is only the first step. The next step is to really push ourselves out of our comfort zone. This may sound scary, but we don’t need to rush it through. This infographic shows how you can take baby steps to leaving your comfort zone.

Trust me, with time and perseverance, you will eventually find yourself a stronger person.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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