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What We Talk About When We Talk About Love

What We Talk About When We Talk About Love

What do we talk about when we talk about love?

When we talk about love, we talk about something intangible, something that only exists in our hearts and minds. We talk about the feeling that has the power to bring happiness, fulfillment ,and joy. At the same time, we talk about a feeling that can lead to jealousy, frustration and anger.

Love is a coin with two heads. It is like a talented actor who can play two completely different characters without changing anything about his appearance. Love is tricky, deceitful, and probably the most incredible and indescribable feeling that exists.

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1. Love is beautiful and dangerous.

Love can be extremely beautiful. The feeling that you have when you look into the eyes of your child, a beloved family member or the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is indescribable. You can’t really explain why you have tears in your eyes by looking at this person, but for some magical reason, it feels just perfect.

At the same time, love can be dangerous. It can be dangerous when the person you look at doesn’t reciprocate your love. It can be dangerous when you love someone who doesn’t have the emotional strengths to allow love, or who is in a loving relationship with another person who would do anything to protect this love.

Love is the most beautiful thing on earth when it meets two people who want the same, but it can be extremely dangerous if it meets two people who want entirely different things.

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2. Love is reasoning without logic.

When you are in love with someone you see a different version of this person than all the other people. You see a perfect version, while the others see the real version. A person who is in love has the astonishing skill to ignore all the negative qualities and characteristics of the person he or she loves.

Even though the person you are in love with might not be good for you, you convince yourself that he or she is the perfect partner and the perfect human being.

Your emotions blind your logical reasoning. You don’t support your reasoning with logic. You support your reasoning with your emotions. This has nothing to do with reasoning, but with delusion.

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3. Love is the alleyway between reality and fantasy.

Now you already know that the person you are in love with is not really the way you see him or her. The person you love is different, more vulnerable and more human. The moment you realize that the person you love is a normal human being, just like you, is a determining moment.

In this very moment most people decide to end a fake love, even though they had the potential to experience what it really means to love. This is the moment in which you either decide to give into your fantasy and to refuse to accept reality, or to embrace reality and to love someone with honesty and authenticity.

4. Love is fear and happiness.

Love without fear barely exists and love that is based on fear can never survive. Jealousy, mistrust and a possessive mentality are the result of a love that is based on fear. This has nothing to do with real love. It is just a cocktail of negative emotions that are based on your own insecurities that you label as love.

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The sad truth is that a lot of people believe that negative emotions, such as jealousy, are a completely normal aspect of love. What they don’t realize is that real love that is based on affection, respect and empathy doesn’t know any negative and damaging feelings.

True love makes healthy and happy. Love that is based on fear makes both partners miserable and leaves them with the belief that finding love is impossible. It’s important to understand that finding true love is not impossible, unless you build it on the wrong foundation.

5. Love is acceptance without judgement.

Being in love means accepting the person you love the way he or she is. There are already too many people out there who try to change the person they are in love with, which eventually ends in a painful loss that could be avoided. It could be avoided by practicing acceptance.

It is easy to accept the positive sides of another human being, but it can be quite tough to accept the negative sides. However, you have to understand that no human being is perfect and that true love can only arise when you are willing to accept the person you love.

Yes, that means accepting weaknesses, different opinions, and different values. You are not the person you love and he or she is not you. You are two individuals who deserve to be accepted without any judgement. This acceptance is what creates the wonderful feeling that writers and musicians all over the world call unconditional love.

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Last Updated on February 13, 2019

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

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2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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    One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

    6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

    People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

    7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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      This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

      8. Happy people are passionate.

      Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

      9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

      Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

      10. Happy people live in the present.

      While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

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      There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

      So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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