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What We Talk About When We Talk About Love

What We Talk About When We Talk About Love

What do we talk about when we talk about love?

When we talk about love, we talk about something intangible, something that only exists in our hearts and minds. We talk about the feeling that has the power to bring happiness, fulfillment ,and joy. At the same time, we talk about a feeling that can lead to jealousy, frustration and anger.

Love is a coin with two heads. It is like a talented actor who can play two completely different characters without changing anything about his appearance. Love is tricky, deceitful, and probably the most incredible and indescribable feeling that exists.

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1. Love is beautiful and dangerous.

Love can be extremely beautiful. The feeling that you have when you look into the eyes of your child, a beloved family member or the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is indescribable. You can’t really explain why you have tears in your eyes by looking at this person, but for some magical reason, it feels just perfect.

At the same time, love can be dangerous. It can be dangerous when the person you look at doesn’t reciprocate your love. It can be dangerous when you love someone who doesn’t have the emotional strengths to allow love, or who is in a loving relationship with another person who would do anything to protect this love.

Love is the most beautiful thing on earth when it meets two people who want the same, but it can be extremely dangerous if it meets two people who want entirely different things.

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2. Love is reasoning without logic.

When you are in love with someone you see a different version of this person than all the other people. You see a perfect version, while the others see the real version. A person who is in love has the astonishing skill to ignore all the negative qualities and characteristics of the person he or she loves.

Even though the person you are in love with might not be good for you, you convince yourself that he or she is the perfect partner and the perfect human being.

Your emotions blind your logical reasoning. You don’t support your reasoning with logic. You support your reasoning with your emotions. This has nothing to do with reasoning, but with delusion.

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3. Love is the alleyway between reality and fantasy.

Now you already know that the person you are in love with is not really the way you see him or her. The person you love is different, more vulnerable and more human. The moment you realize that the person you love is a normal human being, just like you, is a determining moment.

In this very moment most people decide to end a fake love, even though they had the potential to experience what it really means to love. This is the moment in which you either decide to give into your fantasy and to refuse to accept reality, or to embrace reality and to love someone with honesty and authenticity.

4. Love is fear and happiness.

Love without fear barely exists and love that is based on fear can never survive. Jealousy, mistrust and a possessive mentality are the result of a love that is based on fear. This has nothing to do with real love. It is just a cocktail of negative emotions that are based on your own insecurities that you label as love.

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The sad truth is that a lot of people believe that negative emotions, such as jealousy, are a completely normal aspect of love. What they don’t realize is that real love that is based on affection, respect and empathy doesn’t know any negative and damaging feelings.

True love makes healthy and happy. Love that is based on fear makes both partners miserable and leaves them with the belief that finding love is impossible. It’s important to understand that finding true love is not impossible, unless you build it on the wrong foundation.

5. Love is acceptance without judgement.

Being in love means accepting the person you love the way he or she is. There are already too many people out there who try to change the person they are in love with, which eventually ends in a painful loss that could be avoided. It could be avoided by practicing acceptance.

It is easy to accept the positive sides of another human being, but it can be quite tough to accept the negative sides. However, you have to understand that no human being is perfect and that true love can only arise when you are willing to accept the person you love.

Yes, that means accepting weaknesses, different opinions, and different values. You are not the person you love and he or she is not you. You are two individuals who deserve to be accepted without any judgement. This acceptance is what creates the wonderful feeling that writers and musicians all over the world call unconditional love.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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