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Why Aren’t You Happy? Because You Haven’t Been Asking The Right Questions

Why Aren’t You Happy? Because You Haven’t Been Asking The Right Questions

What really makes you happy? When you are put on the spot and questioned about your happiness, what answers will you give? Happiness is not a destination or a thing, neither is it a substance or an item, rather it is a mindset and an outlook. If you think deeper or ponder on certain subjects, you will find out that being happy is not so farfetched.

After all, the mind is great at wandering for answers that will supply the body with the energy it needs to keep going. To dig deeper and discover what makes you happy and excited, you should ask yourself the following questions:

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What am I most grateful about in my life right now?

Happiness can be born out of contentment and satisfaction. And while many do not see it this way, but are interested in hunting rather than appreciating what they have, you should understand what place gratitude has in your life.

Be grateful and appreciate the feeling of satisfaction that comes with the things you currently have. Is it a decent family? Is it a great career? Is it an assurance of new beginnings or great health? Is it a new environment or a new destination? There is always something to be thankful for and you should start asking yourself what it is.

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Who do you most connect with, and why?

This question is centered on who you love and why you love them. Important relationships define our happiness, as we are social creatures and either want to be accepted or to accept others. Possibly, you are not getting the love you deserve or believe you deserve more. However, your family, friends, or loved ones will always provide you the options for you to answer this question.

If joy became a currency, what career or job do you think would make you wealthy?

Your job satisfaction has a way of contributing to your happiness. But most times many of us seek security and survival rather than aiming for what profession excites us. If you had to make a choice and pick, what occupation would you do for the joy and excitement it affords you?

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What I am committed to in my life right now, and why?

In the long run, what we believe in defines what we are committed to or what will be taking up most of our time and energy. Answering or asking yourself this question makes you realize or mirror what you believe in. Are you committed to your marriage, relationships, career or education, religion, or social interests? Why are you committed to these? What do you hope to gain from being committed to any of these things?

What do I admire in others?

What draws you to others and makes you interested in them. This question mirrors you to yourself, as you are able to realize what your values and personal motivation is. When you learn what you find intriguing and interesting in others, you can find ways to apply such things in your life. When you these, you will be able to find greater happiness in what you do.

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What motivates you, fear or passion?

At the end of the day, only two emotions define your every action — love or fear. Fear drives negative factors, such as focusing on what’s wrong, anger, guilt, shame, and resentment. Passion drives positive factors, such as gratitude, optimism, empowerment, and creativity.

With passion, you want to contribute and make the world better. Know what your motivation is and try to start every day with a task or project that is triggered by your passion rather than your fear.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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