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9 Hidden Life Lessons In Star Wars That You Need To Know!

9 Hidden Life Lessons In Star Wars That You Need To Know!

“In a galaxy far, far, away…”

As the world anticipates the return of the Millennium Falcon and Han Solo, let’s reflect on the wisdom of the Jedi, The Force, and the Sith Lord himself, in order to glean nine lessons Star Wars teaches us about life.

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    1. Commit to the life you want to live – and live it!

    “Do or do not… there is no try.” – Yoda in The Empire Strikes Back

    We can spend our entire lives debating this and that, frozen in fear, fighting uncertainty. However, in life, nothing is certain. We can either waste precious time in limbo or make a decision and stick with it!

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      2. Surround yourself with people who are supportive and believe in you.

      “I find your lack of faith disturbing.” – Darth Vader in A New Hope

      There is absolutely no reason to waste your time and energy on people who bring you down. Rather, fill your life with the believers and doers, people who inspire you and bring positive energy to your life. Otherwise, you may resort to the dark side…

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        3. Don’t lie to yourself. We usually already know what the right thing to do is.

        “Already know you, that which you need.” – Yoda

        Listen to your heart, The Force, and your conscience. Listen to that Yoda voice you hear as you fall asleep or the nagging thoughts that simply won’t go away. Though the road ahead seems perilous, the solution is within.

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          4. Don’t let impossible odds hold you back.

          C-3PO: “Sir, the possibility of successfully navigating an asteroid field is approximately 3,720 to 1.”

          “Never tell me the odds.” – Han Solo in The Empire Strikes Back

          Even if an asteroid field is hurling towards you and your odds of success are 3,720 to 1, don’t let this daunting ratio prevent you from following your heart.

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            5. Often success stems from overcoming failures.

            “Strike me down and I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine.” – Obi- Wan Kenobi in A New Hope

            Success cannot flourish without hard work. It is found only through trial and error, profound dedication, and the ability to see setbacks as stepping stones towards later victory.

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              6. Don’t let fear guide your life.

              “Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” – Yoda in The Phantom Menace

              Fear cripples us from doing what needs to be done. It prevents us from becoming the people we’re meant to be. It isolates us from others and makes us scared of those we do not understand. Historically speaking, fear has fueled many wars, genocides, persecutions, and riots. Clearly, Yoda was onto something.

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                7. Humor goes a long way.

                (as garbage compactor closes in) “One thing’s for sure, we’re all gonna be a lot thinner.” – Han Solo in A New  Hope

                When things get tough, it’s natural to freak out. However, freaking out isn’t the most productive or efficient way to solve a problem. Humor lightens the mood and allows everyone time to regroup and reassess the situation. It also keeps spirits high, enabling people to do what needs to be done. Plus, girls dig a guy who can crack a joke every now and again.

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                  8. Our thoughts and actions impact our future.

                  “Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” – Qui-Gon Jinn in The Phantom Menace.

                  What we spend our days thinking about, and actively pursuing, directly affects our future (for better or worse). Considering this, we should invest our time and energy into the things and people we’re passionate about, and the dreams we have, rather than focusing on the negative or filling our lives with empty distractions.

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                    9. Sometimes we just need to let it go.

                    “Let go of your hate.” – Luke Skywalker in Return of the Jedi

                    There is no room for hate, fear, and regret in our lives. Often, we just need to let it go so that we may finally be free.

                    Featured photo credit: What’s Your Favorite Star Wars Poster?/ Ant-Man via flickr.com

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                    Last Updated on March 30, 2020

                    What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

                    What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

                    Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

                    You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

                    This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

                    What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

                    According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

                    Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

                    There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

                    How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

                    When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

                    Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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                    1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

                    One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

                    The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

                    Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

                    2. Be Honest

                    A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

                    If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

                    On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

                    Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

                    3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

                    Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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                    If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

                    4. Succeed at Something

                    When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

                    Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

                    5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

                    Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

                    Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

                    If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

                    If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

                    Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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                    6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

                    Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

                    You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

                    On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

                    You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

                    7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

                    Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

                    Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

                    Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

                    When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

                    Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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                    In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

                    Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

                    It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

                    Final Thoughts

                    When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

                    The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

                    Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

                    Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

                    Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

                    More Tips for Improving Your Self-Esteem

                    Featured photo credit: Cata via unsplash.com

                    Reference

                    [1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
                    [2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
                    [3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
                    [4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
                    [5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
                    [6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
                    [7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
                    [8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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