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Pregnancy At Week 16

Pregnancy At Week 16

What Fruit Size Is Your Baby At Pregnancy Week 16?

Your baby is the size of an avocado this week. Which is to say he or she is about 4.5 inches. Weight is probably around 3 ounces.

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    What Does Your Baby Look Like?

    His or her legs are a little more sturdy as they beef up and grow. Baby is also working on holding his or her head more erect than before. In addition those beautiful eyes have moved more towards the front of the head. The ears are also close to the position that they will be. Toenails are starting to form. Tiny little sweet toenails. Also the pattern on the scalp of where hair will grow has begun.

    What Is Going On Inside The Baby?

    The baby’s heart is pumping more and more blood as it continues to grow. 25 quarts in fact is the current estimate. Blood is pumping to all the newly forming organs.

    What Is Happening to Mom?

    Mom may notice that her uterus is about halfway up to her belly button at the moment. There are ligaments around there stretching to hold things and thickening to get ready for the weight they will carry. Occasionally you may experience something called round ligament pain which is the result of some of the stretching and rearranging.

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    Hopefully Mom is hitting her stride with this pregnancy at week 16 with the nausea fading out of the picture. Hopefully there are fewer mood swings too. If you are lucky, you might even have that “glow” about you that says you are pregnant.

    Not too long now and you will be able to feel the baby move. It can be felt as early as pregnancy week 16 in some women, but others don’t feel it until 18 weeks or more. This can depend on where the placenta attaches. If you have a placenta in the front, this can act like a pillow and muffle the movements. Even if the placenta isn’t in front, some women aren’t aware of movement until around 20 weeks. The first feelings of movement or “quickening” are similar to gas, flutters, popcorn popping, or bubbles. Don’t worry that baby won’t be such a wimp forever. As the weeks pass you will feel stronger hits and kicks.

    Weight Gain (General)

    The goal in pregnancy is to gain 25 to 35 pounds. These figures change if you were not an “average” weight at the beginning of pregnancy. If you were underweight, you may be advised it’s ok to gain more. Likewise if you are overweight, it may be healthier to put on less. Your doctor will help you with any goals with your weight at this time.

    300 extra calories a day should be enough for that second person you are growing at the moment. If you work out and are more active, you may need to adjust that up.

    Weight Gain (Too Much)

    If you are gaining weight and are worried, discuss this with your doctor. You should not pick this time to go on low calorie diets or skip meals (even when you have morning sickness.) Here are some healthy suggestions for healthy eating:

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    Start with a well rounded breakfast. We all know breakfast is a very important meal. You will be quoting that to your baby soon enough- so best to have fiber, a complex carb and some protein to start the day. This will also keep you full longer.

    Eat vegetables, whole grains, meat, and low fat dairy. You know the things you will want your baby to eat when table foods are an option.

    Keep snacks in your purse. That way you aren’t searching for food at the vending machines.

    If you are having a craving try to replace it with something that is less bad. Ice cream craving? Have some Frozen Yogurt.

    Drink lots of water. That is important now and as you get further in the pregnancy if you get dehydrated your body will start giving you Braxton Hicks contractions to remind you to drink water. Best to get in the habit now.

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    Regular exercise is always going to benefit you, as long as it is approved by your medical advisor. Obviously proper care is warranted to prevent injury. 20-minute walks are a good pick me up to stave off tiredness and to be active.

    Weight Gain (Too Little)

    If you are not putting enough weight on please check with your doctor and then try these options:

    Drink a milk shake for calcium and a calorie boost

    Eat really nutrient dense foods. That way you aren’t having to eat a lot to get the fuel you require.

    Eating dried food could be something to try. You will get some healthy calories.

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    Frequent snacking.

    If mentally you are struggling try to remind yourself that it’s for the baby right now.

    Weight Affects on Pregnancy?

    Aches and Pains will be experienced from additional weight on your frame in pregnancy week 16. Backaches are common, as is clumsiness. Stretch marks can happen. There are lotions that can be applied. Largely likelihood of stretch marks seem to come down to hereditary, but lotion can’t hurt.

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    Plan a romantic getaway with your partner this week. After baby comes there may be a little less focus on each other for a while. Fill up the love tanks on this trip to persevere through the next few months.

    For more detail information and talk to mothers experiencing the same thing please click here.

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    Published on February 11, 2021

    3 Positive Discipline Strategies That Are Best For Your Child

    3 Positive Discipline Strategies That Are Best For Your Child

    I’m old enough to remember how the cane at school was used for punishment. My dad is old enough to think that banning corporal punishment in schools resulted in today’s poorly disciplined youth. With all of this as my early experiences, there was a time when I would have been better assigned to write about how to negatively discipline your child.

    What changed? Thankfully, my wife showed me different approaches for discipline that were very positive. Plus, I was open to learning.

    What has not changed is that kids are full of problems with impulses and emotions that flip from sad to happy, then angry in a moment. Though we’re not that different as adults with stress, anxiety, lack of sleep, and stimulants such as sugar and caffeine in our diets.

    Punishment as Discipline?

    What this means is that we usually take the easy path when a child misbehaves and punish them. Punishment may solve an isolated problem, but it’s not really teaching the kids anything useful in the long term.

    Probably it’s time for me to be clear about what I mean by punishment and discipline as these terms are often used interchangeably, but they are quite different.

    Discipline VS. Punishment

    Punishment is where we inflict pain or suffering on our child as a penalty. Discipline means to teach. They’re quite the opposite, but you’ll notice that teachers, parents, and coaches often confuse the two words.

    So, as parents, we have to have clear goals to teach our kids. It’s a long-term plan—using strategies that will have the longest-lasting impact on our kids are the best use of our time and energy.

    If you’re clear about what you want to achieve, then it becomes easier to find the best strategy. The better we are at responding when our kids misbehave or do not follow our guidance, the better the results are going to be.

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    3 Positive Discipline Strategies for Your Child

    Stay with me as I appreciate that a lot of people who read these blogs do not always have children with impulse control. We’ve had a lot of kids in our martial arts classes that were the complete opposite. They had concentration issues, hyperactive, and disruptive to the other children.

    The easy solution is to punish their parents by removing the kids from the class or punish the child with penalties such as time outs and burpees. Yes, it was tempting to do all of this, but one of our club values is that we pull you up rather than push you down.

    This means it’s a long-term gain to build trust and confidence, which is destroyed by constant punishments.

    Here are the discipline strategies we used to build trust and confidence with these hyperactive kids.

    1. Patience

    The first positive discipline strategy is to simply be patient. The more patient you are, the more likely you are to get results. Remember I said that we need to build trust and connection. You’ll get further with this goal using patience.

    As a coach, sometimes I was not the best person for this role, but we had other coaches in the club that could step in here. As a parent, you may not have this luxury, so it’s really important to recognize any improvements that you see and celebrate them.

    2. Redirection

    The second strategy we use is redirection. It’s important with a redirection to take “no” out of the equation. Choices are a great alternative.

    Imagine a scenario where you’re in a restaurant and your kid is wailing. The hard part here is getting your child to stop screaming long enough for you to build a connection. Most parents have calming strategies and if you practice them with your child, they are more likely to be effective.

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    In the first moment of calm, you can say “Your choice to scream and cry in public is not a good one. It would be best to say, Dad. What can I do to get ice-cream?” You can replace this with an appropriate option.

    The challenge with being calm and redirecting is that we need to be clear-minded, focused, and really engaged at the moment. If you’re on your phone, talking with friends or family, thinking about work or the bills, you’ll miss this opportunity to discipline in a way that has long-term benefits.

    3. Repair and Ground Rules

    The third positive discipline strategy is to repair and use ground rules. Once you’ve given the better option and it has been taken, you have a chance to repair this behavior to lessen its occurrence to better yet, prevent it from happening again. And by setting appropriate ground rules, you can make this a long-term win by helping your child improve their behavior.

    It’s these ground rules that help you correct the poor choices of your child and direct the behavior that you want to see.

    Consequences Versus Ultimatums

    When I was a child and being punished. My parents worked in a busy business for long hours, so their default was to go to ultimatums. “Do that again and you’re grounded for a week,” or “If I catch you doing X, you’ll go to bed without dinner”.

    Looking back, this worked to a point. But the flip side is that I remembered more of the ultimatums than the happier times. I’ve learned through trial and error with my own kids that consequences are more effective while not breaking down trust.

    What to Do When Ground Rules Get Broken?

    It’s on the consequences that you use when the ground rules are broken.

    In the martial arts class, when the hyperactive student breaks the ground rules. They would miss a turn in a game or go to the back of the line in a queue. We do not want to shame the child by isolating them. But on the flip side, there should be clear ground rules and proportionate consequences.

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    Yes, there are times when we would like to exclude the student from the class, the club, and even the universe. Again, it’s here that patience is so important and probably impulse control too. With an attainable consequence, you can maintain trust and you’re more likely to get the long-term behavior that you’re looking to achieve.

    Interestingly, we would occasionally hear a strategy from parents that little Kevin has been misbehaving at home with his sister or something similar. He likes martial arts training, so the parent would react by removing Kevin from the martial arts class as a punishment.

    We would suggest that this would remove Kevin from an environment where he is behaving positively. Removing him from this is likely to be detrimental to the change you would like to see. He may even feel shame when he returns to the class and loses all the progress he’s made.

    Alternatives to Punishment

    Another option is to tell Kevin to write a letter to his sister, apologizing for his behavior, and explaining how he is going to behave in the future.

    If your child is too young to write, give the apology face to face. For the apology to feel sincere, there is some value to pre-framing or practicing this between yourself and your child before they give it to the intended person.

    Don’t expect them to know the ground rules or what you’re thinking! It will be clearer to your child and better received with some practice. You can practice along the lines of: “X is the behavior I did, Y is what I should have done, and Z is my promise to you for how I’m going to act in the future.” You can replace XYZ with the appropriate actions.

    It does not need to be a letter or in person, it can even be a video. But there has to be an intention to repair the broken ground rule. If you try these strategies, that is become fully engaged with them and you’re still getting nowhere.

    But what to do if these strategies do not work? Then there is plenty to gain by seeking the help of an expert. Chances are that something is interfering or limiting their development.

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    This does not mean that your child has a neurological deficiency, although this may be the root cause. But it means that you can get an objective view and help on how to create the changes that you would like to see. Remember that using positive discipline strategies is better than mere punishment.

    There are groups that you can chat with for help. Family Lives UK has the aim of ensuring that all parents have somewhere to turn before they reached a crisis point. The NSPCC also provides a useful guide to positive parenting that you can download.[1]

    Bottom Line

    So, there your go, the three takeaways on strategies you can use for positively disciplining your child. The first one is about you! Be patient, be present, and think about what is best for the long term. AKA, avoid ultimatums and punishment. The second is to use a redirect, then repair and repeat (ground rules) as your 3-step method of discipline.

    Using these positive discipline strategies require you to be fully engaged with your child. Again, being impulsive breaks trust and you lose some of the gains you’ve both worked hard to achieve.

    Lastly, consequences are better than punishment. Plus, avoid shaming, especially in public at all costs.

    I hope this blog has been useful, and remember that you should be more focused on repairing bad behavior because being proactive and encouraging good behavior with rewards, fun, and positive emotions takes less effort than repairing the bad.

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    Featured photo credit: Leo Rivas via unsplash.com

    Reference

    [1] NSPCC Learning: Positive parenting

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