Everyone might be on social media, but everyone is not loving it. Sooner or later every Tom, Dick, and Harry will hit the point where they are bizarre and tired of putting time and energy into social media.
Social media has come to the heart of the matter where a few individuals incline toward Facebook over sex, people do status updates from their bathrooms, or even intimidate politicians, celebrities on Twitter – which is an extremely open electronic medium.
According to a survey conducted by Marist College in New York; one in five Americans regret at least one tweet, comment or text they send each month, Half of Internet users in America — 50% — think social media does more harm than good.
Social media addiction might be innate, but excess time spent on social media can intensify or stimulate symptoms of depression. Therefore, it’s no wonder people are taking breaks from social media. In case you want to keep you children away from social media, there are certain tools like WebSafety available to monitor social media activity on your smartphones, iPad, laptop or home computer.
Clearly the addiction is growing, and the numbers of people who are tired of social media are also increasing. There are some habits to adopt to keep social media addiction in check, and reduce your social media overwhelm. I hope you’ll find them useful.
1. Choose The Best Social Network
Selecting which social media platforms to utilize can be intimidating. Now -a-days it’s easy to get overwhelmed with abundant of social media platforms choices you have. Try not to stretch yourself, you don’t need to be on every one of them yet you ought to be on those that work best for you. Test them out for 3 – 6 months and reconsider which one is making you feel overpowered.
Start paying more attention to the platforms that you enjoy being on. There isn’t any online competition to see who’s on the most social media networks. In reality, taking a slower more disciplined approach could really benefit you in the long run.
Remember the saying Jack of all trades, master of none? By using several social networks at once, you might make mistakes.
2. Define Your Social Media Strategy
Commonly people feel overwhelmed in light of the fact that they’re not certain why they are utilizing social media and don’t comprehend the success indicators for social media.
What are you planning to accomplish from consuming social media? To bring an issue to light? Make deals? Or increase sales or brand profile and make a group around it? What’s an ideal approach to take?
Recognizing what you’d like to accomplish and how you need to do it, will assist you with determining the right track.
For instance, in case you’re using social media to raise brand awareness, a pointer of achievement could be more individuals inquiring about your brand, more people alluding your brand to friends, more website traffic originating from social media pages.
3. Find Easily Linked Platforms
Find social media platforms that can be linked or integrate well with each other. It will allow auto-posting feature across platforms easily.
For instance, Facebook and Instagram can be easily linked while getting Twitter and Instagram linked is not as seamless; since Facebook purchased Instagram. Same is the case with YouTube and Google+ because they are both owned by Google. This approach is useful if you have just started using social media and your content posting strategy is not yet varied across the platform. However, if you are more social media savvy, I recommend posting updates in customized formats which are suitable for the platform, instead of auto-posting the same content along with the same format across all platforms.
This is only a thought on the off chance that you are simply starting and you’re posting procedure is not yet changed over the stage. On the other hand, once you start to get more online networking adroit, I prescribe posting redesigns in configurations suitable for the stage rather than auto-posting the same message or arrangement over all stages.
4. Plan and Schedule Time Spent On Social Media
To build a successful social media presence you don’t have to dedicate hours a day. Having a plan and schedule in place can help you to deal with your time so you’re not continually in preparing mode, which can make you feel overwhelmed. Concentrate on making an allotted slot and engaging 2 – 3 times a day to provide useful updates, answer inquiries, post inquiries, share photographs and posts and be a human. Have every one of them prepared to go, so you can plan them out utilizing scheduling tools. Use plugins for blogs to post directly to Facebook, Twitter and Google plus and schedule it in advance.
5. Know Where Most of Your Time Is Best Spent
To wrap things up, check and utilize Google Analytics to see the top social media referred visitors to your site. Examine which social media platform drives the most traffic.
Observe which platform gives you the most return on investment (ROI). This will offer you some assistance with understanding where best to invest your energy to avoid overwhelm and desire that you should be on every one of them. In the event that you are overseeing online networking for your organization or another person, this can likewise help you justify to your client, boss or supervisor on why you’ve decided to spend more time on a particular social media platform.
You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.
Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.
Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.
Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:
1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically
According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.
“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor
Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:
If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.
If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.
Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:
Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.
Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.
To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.
Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.
Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.
Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.
Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.
Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:
2. Focus on your goal
One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.
Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’
Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.
Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.
If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.
3. Convert negativity to positivity
There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?
‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’
It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.
Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”
Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.
Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:
4. Understand your content
Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.
However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.
“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor
Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.
Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.
One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.
5. Practice makes perfect
Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.
In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.
Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!
6. Be authentic
There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.
Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.
Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.
To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.
With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.
Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:
7. Post speech evaluation
Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.
Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation
We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.
You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.
Improve your next speech
As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:
How did I do?
Are there any areas for improvement?
Did I sound or look stressed?
Did I stumble on my words? Why?
Was I saying “um” too often?
How was the flow of the speech?
Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.
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