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9 Reasons Talkative Kids Are More Likely To Succeed (Backed By Science)

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9 Reasons Talkative Kids Are More Likely To Succeed (Backed By Science)

Talkative kids can sometimes be a nuisance for parents and guardians, but they should remember that it comes with its share of advantages. The willingness to speak loud and often is largely considered a positive trait. Research even shows that talkative kids do better in preschool. The benefits go far beyond that to grade school, secondary education, college and especially the workplace. Learn why talkative kids are more likely to succeed when they grow up.

1. They have better verbal communication skills.

The most obvious advantage talkative kids have is that they, naturally, become better at talking. Talkative kids are learning how to be strong communicators every time they open their mouths, and strong communication skills make it easier to succeed in almost any aspect of life.

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2. They have a quick wit.

Someone who spends a lot of time speaking can obviously think fast on their feet. For that reason, talkative kids will likely be wittier than most of their peers, quick to crack jokes and entertain their friends. That’s good, because humor is a key to success.

3. They’re getting answers.

Talkative kids tend to be talkative because they’re curious, wanting to know more and more about the world they live in. When you ask more questions, you will naturally get more answers. That means that talkative kids will be more informed than the regular child by the time he starts school.

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4. They have better social skills.

Talkative kids are likely to want to interact more and will make friends fast. A strong social group is one of the things you most need to have growing up, and that is often less of an issue for the talkers. It will also strengthen their relationships with their siblings. Sisters especially benefit from having someone to confide in.

5. They’ll participate more.

Talkative kids aren’t going to be able to stay quiet for long. That can definitely become a problem, yes, but if they’re able to learn when it’s okay and when it’s not, it can reap big rewards. In a classroom, for example, it can mean that they’re raising their hands a lot and contributing to discussions. Teachers usually need tricks and tips to get a discussion going, but not if one or two talkative kids are in the room.

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6. They have more to say.

Most children couldn’t come up with enough to talk for five straight minutes. Talkative kids can talk for hours, which demonstrates that they have a lot of musings and ideas. That thoughtfulness and sense of imagination will pay off big time for them when they need to, say, come up with a new strategy as a CEO or write stories.

7. They have a lot of energy.

Talkative kids are very energetic. Just think about all they could get done if they just put that energy to good use. If your child never stays quiet and that’s a problem, help them find hobbies so that they can divert the energy towards something productive.

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8. They keep things interesting.

Any parents of talkative kids can attest that they keep things interesting and often entertaining. It’s not always easy on the parent, but at least it never gets boring. In a world that even with parenthood can be dull at times, it’s good to have something in your life that is going to keep surprising you, and talkative kids are the most likely to shake things up.

9. They will likely be better parents themselves.

A study by researchers in the Frank Porter Graham Child Development Institute at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, explained by Education Week,suggests that the more parents talk to their kids, the better their vocabulary and pre literacy skills wills become. So even when you’re stressed out because you have a talkative son or daughter, remind yourself of all the ways their tendency to speak up will improve their lives, and even your own grandchildren’s.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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