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9 Reasons Talkative Kids Are More Likely To Succeed (Backed By Science)

9 Reasons Talkative Kids Are More Likely To Succeed (Backed By Science)

Talkative kids can sometimes be a nuisance for parents and guardians, but they should remember that it comes with its share of advantages. The willingness to speak loud and often is largely considered a positive trait. Research even shows that talkative kids do better in preschool. The benefits go far beyond that to grade school, secondary education, college and especially the workplace. Learn why talkative kids are more likely to succeed when they grow up.

1. They have better verbal communication skills.

The most obvious advantage talkative kids have is that they, naturally, become better at talking. Talkative kids are learning how to be strong communicators every time they open their mouths, and strong communication skills make it easier to succeed in almost any aspect of life.

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2. They have a quick wit.

Someone who spends a lot of time speaking can obviously think fast on their feet. For that reason, talkative kids will likely be wittier than most of their peers, quick to crack jokes and entertain their friends. That’s good, because humor is a key to success.

3. They’re getting answers.

Talkative kids tend to be talkative because they’re curious, wanting to know more and more about the world they live in. When you ask more questions, you will naturally get more answers. That means that talkative kids will be more informed than the regular child by the time he starts school.

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4. They have better social skills.

Talkative kids are likely to want to interact more and will make friends fast. A strong social group is one of the things you most need to have growing up, and that is often less of an issue for the talkers. It will also strengthen their relationships with their siblings. Sisters especially benefit from having someone to confide in.

5. They’ll participate more.

Talkative kids aren’t going to be able to stay quiet for long. That can definitely become a problem, yes, but if they’re able to learn when it’s okay and when it’s not, it can reap big rewards. In a classroom, for example, it can mean that they’re raising their hands a lot and contributing to discussions. Teachers usually need tricks and tips to get a discussion going, but not if one or two talkative kids are in the room.

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6. They have more to say.

Most children couldn’t come up with enough to talk for five straight minutes. Talkative kids can talk for hours, which demonstrates that they have a lot of musings and ideas. That thoughtfulness and sense of imagination will pay off big time for them when they need to, say, come up with a new strategy as a CEO or write stories.

7. They have a lot of energy.

Talkative kids are very energetic. Just think about all they could get done if they just put that energy to good use. If your child never stays quiet and that’s a problem, help them find hobbies so that they can divert the energy towards something productive.

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8. They keep things interesting.

Any parents of talkative kids can attest that they keep things interesting and often entertaining. It’s not always easy on the parent, but at least it never gets boring. In a world that even with parenthood can be dull at times, it’s good to have something in your life that is going to keep surprising you, and talkative kids are the most likely to shake things up.

9. They will likely be better parents themselves.

A study by researchers in the Frank Porter Graham Child Development Institute at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, explained by Education Week,suggests that the more parents talk to their kids, the better their vocabulary and pre literacy skills wills become. So even when you’re stressed out because you have a talkative son or daughter, remind yourself of all the ways their tendency to speak up will improve their lives, and even your own grandchildren’s.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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