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20 Dalai Lama Quotes To Change The Way You Think

20 Dalai Lama Quotes To Change The Way You Think

In light of recent events around the world; considering the state of the planet and our humanity; when we think about all the suffering inflicted on the innocent by the tyranny of a few; now more than ever, we need to consider what it means to be compassionate. It really isn’t that complicated to reflect on what we all want as individuals; peace, safety, security, shelter, nutrition, love; and to want that for all humanity and living creatures. If everyone acted with intent to fulfill the needs of all living things equally and behaved with compassion as the primary driving force of all action, we could eradicate suffering in a very short time. The Dalai Lama’s words of wisdom are indeed powerful, yet very simple.

He has written many books and given countless talks about the nature of humanity, happiness, death, compassion and living well. In the book the Dalai Lama’s Book of Wisdom he gives advice on four main areas: 1. Dealing with Anger and Emotion, 2. Joy and Living Well, 3. Facing Death and Dying, and 4. Giving and Receiving.

Here are 20 Dalai Lama quotes to change the way you think; five from each category respectively.

I consider hatred to be the ultimate enemy.

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    The ultimate source of my mental happiness is my peace of mind. Nothing can destroy this except my own anger.

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      Dissatisfaction is the seed of anger.

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        Only an enemy gives us the opportunity to practice patience.

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          My attitude towards other people is to always look at them from the human level.

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            Humans have the potential not only to create happy lives for themselves, but also to help other beings.

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              There are always extremes, but the middle way is the proper way.

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              2

                Contentment is the key.

                3

                  Much depends on our own attitude.

                  4

                    Good conduct is the way in which life becomes more meaningful, more constructive and more peaceful.

                    5

                      Illness happens. When illness happens, it is better to accept it.

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                        Death is a part of all our lives.

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                        7

                          The unfortunate event can be a source of inner strength.

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                            Some suffering can be a good lesson for life.

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                              Looking at problems from different angles actually lessons the mental burden.

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                                Compassion is the most wonderful and precious thing.

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                                  With genuine compassion you view others as more important than yourself.

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                                    Just as you have the instinctive natural desire to be happy and overcome suffering, so do all sentient beings; just as you have the right to fulfil this innate aspiration, so do all sentient beings. So on what exact grounds do you discriminate?

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                                      The only option is to live and work together harmoniously and keep in our minds the interest of the whole of humanity. That is the only outlook and way we must adopt for our survival.

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                                        A true friendship develops on the basis of human affection, not money or power.

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                                          The Gentle Art of Saying No

                                          The Gentle Art of Saying No

                                          No!

                                          It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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                                          But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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                                          What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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                                          But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

                                          1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
                                          2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
                                          3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
                                          4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
                                          5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
                                          6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
                                          7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
                                          8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
                                          9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
                                          10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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