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5 Ways Unleashing Your Inner Child Will Help You Dominate in Life

5 Ways Unleashing Your Inner Child Will Help You Dominate in Life
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Have you ever thought about the traits that make highly profitable entrepreneurs, top sales leaders and life hustlers so successful?

We read countless articles and books searching for the answer and most of the time we’re told to develop a certain skill, learn a new behavior or implement a new habit to reach the same level of success.

However, what if I told you that every skill, attitude, habit, and experience you’ve ever needed to dominate in life you’ve already previously mastered as a toddler?

As a society, we spend a lot of time teaching children to act and function in a particular way, but how often do we take a step back and see what children can teach us?

Below are a few examples of traits that both highly successful individuals and children have in common and how you can ‘unlearn’ what society has taught you as an adult to experience the same success.

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Here are 5 things you can learn from your inner child:

1. Never take “no” for an answer

Probably the best lesson we can learn from our four-year-old self is to never take “no” for an answer. Plead, beg and argue until you finally get what it is you desire.

Go to any supermarket and you’ll witness this strategy used by almost every toddler. Stroll into the candy aisle and more than likely you’ll find a crying child with a stressed out parent arguing back and forth about a sugary snack that the child wants. In most cases, the screaming match will end once the parent gives in and hands the child their desired treat.

Although we find this experience unpleasant, you have to admire the child’s persistence and tenacity.

If we adapt the same mindset and level of perseverance when asking for an opportunity, closing a deal or going after what it is you want — your strike rate is guaranteed to go through the roof if you consciously refuse to take “no” for an answer.

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2. Everything is up for negotiation

I remember negotiating bath time as a kid because I hated taking baths. Whilst watching my nightly cartoons at 5:30 pm sharp every night, I would hear the bath start running and I would anticipate my mother yelling across the hall, ‘Carla, time for a bath!’ For at least the next 3 minutes, I and my patient mother would negotiate the terms of taking the bath. ‘Can I come when this show finishes?’ ‘No, now Carla’. ‘Can I just wait till the ads are on?’ ‘No, NOW Carla!’.

Kids are masters of the art of negotiating. Watch a child engaging in the bargaining process; they learn early on that everything has subjective value.

3. Bounce back quicker

Have you ever noticed that a child can switch from crying to laughing in two seconds flat?

They fall over, hurt themselves, then get back up and continue playing as if nothing happened. They ask for something, get told no, ask again, and if that doesn’t work — they move on and ask the next person.

Kids have a crazy level of resilience; when they hit a wall, they walk around it, climb over it or set up a catapult. Next time you get rejected or hit a road block, ask yourself ‘what would my inner child do?’

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4. Meet five new people every day

One thing I admire about children is their ability to make friends with anyone, instantly.

I remember taking my little sister to a playground and within five minutes she had coordinated all seven of the other kids to play hide and seek with her. By the end of the day, she had the phone numbers of two of the other girls parents and had organized another play day with them for the next week. Talk about social networking!

Imagine as entrepreneurs, sales people and business leaders if we too networked like a 7-year old. Imagine all the new contacts, prospects and business relationships we could form, grow and utilize.

Maybe we should start unleashing our inner-kid self and make a conscious effort to introduce ourselves to five new people every day. Our friend base will grow, our network will grow and most importantly — our businesses will grow!

5. The bigger the dream, the bigger the success

Remember dreaming of becoming a fireman, a surgeon, an astronaut, the president or a famous movie star? Well, what happened? Most likely, you were told to “grow and get a real job“.

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Not to say that the above careers aren’t real or attainable. It’s more to highlight the fact that when you’re young, you believe anything is possible — you can be anything, do anything, and achieve anything. However, as we grow up, we lose that magic and faith within ourselves.

We need strip back the limitations we and society place on ourselves and begin dreaming big dreams again!

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The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)
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No matter how well you set up your todo list and calendar, you aren’t going to get things done unless you have a reliable way of reminding yourself to actually do them.

Anyone who’s spent an hour writing up the perfect grocery list only to realize at the store that they forgot to bring the list understands the importance of reminders.

Reminders of some sort or another are what turn a collection of paper goods or web services into what David Allen calls a “trusted system.”[1]

A lot of people resist getting better organized. No matter what kind of chaotic mess, their lives are on a day-to-day basis because they know themselves well enough to know that there’s after all that work they’ll probably forget to take their lists with them when it matters most.

Fortunately, there are ways to make sure we remember to check our lists — and to remember to do the things we need to do, whether they’re on a list or not.

In most cases, we need a lot of pushing at first, for example by making a reminder, but eventually we build up enough momentum that doing what needs doing becomes a habit — not an exception.

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From Creating Reminders to Building Habits

A habit is any act we engage in automatically without thinking about it.

For example, when you brush your teeth, you don’t have to think about every single step from start to finish; once you stagger up to the sink, habit takes over (and, really, habit got you to the sink in the first place) and you find yourself putting toothpaste on your toothbrush, putting the toothbrush in your mouth (and never your ear!), spitting, rinsing, and so on without any conscious effort at all.

This is a good thing because if you’re anything like me, you’re not even capable of conscious thought when you’re brushing your teeth.

The good news is you already have a whole set of productivity habits you’ve built up over the course of your life. The bad news is, a lot of them aren’t very good habits.

That quick game Frogger to “loosen you up” before you get working, that always ends up being 6 hours of Frogger –– that’s a habit. And as you know, habits like that can be hard to break — which is one of the reasons why habits are so important in the first place.

Once you’ve replaced an unproductive habit with a more productive one, the new habit will be just as hard to break as the old one was. Getting there, though, can be a chore!

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The old saw about anything you do for 21 days becoming a habit has been pretty much discredited, but there is a kernel of truth there — anything you do long enough becomes an ingrained behavior, a habit. Some people pick up habits quickly, others over a longer time span, but eventually, the behaviors become automatic.

Building productive habits, then, is a matter of repeating a desired behavior over a long enough period of time that you start doing it without thinking.

But how do you remember to do that? And what about the things that don’t need to be habits — the one-off events, like taking your paycheck stubs to your mortgage banker or making a particular phone call?

The trick to reminding yourself often enough for something to become a habit, or just that one time that you need to do something, is to interrupt yourself in some way in a way that triggers the desired behavior.

The Wonderful Thing About Triggers — Reminders

A trigger is anything that you put “in your way” to remind you to do something. The best triggers are related in some way to the behavior you want to produce.

For instance, if you want to remember to take something to work that you wouldn’t normally take, you might place it in front of the door so you have to pick it up to get out of your house.

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But anything that catches your attention and reminds you to do something can be a trigger. An alarm clock or kitchen timer is a perfect example — when the bell rings, you know to wake up or take the quiche out of the oven. (Hopefully you remember which trigger goes with which behavior!)

If you want to instill a habit, the thing to do is to place a trigger in your path to remind you to do whatever it is you’re trying to make into a habit — and keep it there until you realize that you’ve already done the thing it’s supposed to remind you of.

For instance, a post-it saying “count your calories” placed on the refrigerator door (or maybe on your favorite sugary snack itself)  can help you remember that you’re supposed to be cutting back — until one day you realize that you don’t need to be reminded anymore.

These triggers all require a lot of forethought, though — you have to remember that you need to remember something in the first place.

For a lot of tasks, the best reminder is one that’s completely automated — you set it up and then forget about it, trusting the trigger to pop up when you need it.

How to Make a Reminder Works for You

Computers and ubiquity of mobile Internet-connected devices make it possible to set up automatic triggers for just about anything.

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Desktop software like Outlook will pop up reminders on your desktop screen, and most online services go an extra step and send reminders via email or SMS text message — just the thing to keep you on track. Sandy, for example, just does automatic reminders.

Automated reminders can help you build habits — but it can also help you remember things that are too important to be trusted even to habit. Diabetics who need to take their insulin, HIV patients whose medication must be taken at an exact time in a precise order, phone calls that have to be made exactly on time, and other crucial events require triggers even when the habit is already in place.

My advice is to set reminders for just about everything — have them sent to your mobile phone in some way (either through a built-in calendar or an online service that sends updates) so you never have to think about it — and never have to worry about forgetting.

Your weekly review is a good time to enter new reminders for the coming weeks or months. I simply don’t want to think about what I’m supposed to be doing; I want to be reminded so I can think just about actually doing it.

I tend to use my calendar for reminders, mostly, though I do like Sandy quite a bit.

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Reference

[1] Getting Things Done: Trusted System

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