Advertising
Advertising

17 “It’s so True” Facts About Being the Only Child at Home

17 “It’s so True” Facts About Being the Only Child at Home

You are now grown up and it is hard to forget what it was like when you were growing up in the house as the only child. You wished you had siblings around who would have helped you see the world in a different light. But such is life. Being the only child must have come with its nightmares and splendors. Here are seventeen facts about being the only child at home.

1. You are the only one your parents have to call upon.

You seem to be the one that has to do everything for your parents. You are their only hope when it comes to taking care of their needs.

2. You don’t seem to grow up in anyone’s eyes.

No matter how old you are, you are regarded as the child and referred to as one.

3. You learn to be alone.

Sometimes, your time is  your own. You do not have anyone to call upon and suddenly you appreciate solitude.

Advertising

4. You seem to be overly cared for.

Even when you are not spoiled, you somehow seem to have abundance of those items you truly desire whether they are emotional or physical.

5. You are not so comfortable with sharing.

Sharing is not your thing. You do not need to share. Your possessions are yours, so why would you let anyone else use them?

6. You will always be considered to be spoiled.

People will think you are spoiled anytime you tell them that you are the only child.

7. Your parents call you a lot.

Well, it may just be a protective instinct by your parents, but your mom in particular will be happy to call you as many times as possible even in a single day.

Advertising

8. Your grandparents spoil you.

You will have grandparents who are overly concerned about you since you are the only one who can be recipient of their advanced love and care.

9. You spend a lot of time with your parents.

There is no one sharing this task with you, but that’s okay because you are happy to be there for your parents—most of the time.

10. You seem to be the future hope of your parents.

The sole responsibility of continuing your parent’s lineage falls on you. This can be a lot of pressure.

11. You never have the opportunity to blame anyone for your mistakes.

If there was something that went wrong in the house and was caused by you, you just had to take the blame alone. There was no one else around to blame.

Advertising

12. You find it hard to make a fine line between friends and family.

You sometimes take friends for family, and this could become eccentric as friends can’t figure out why you actually treat them like family.

13. You had less embarrassing moments as a kid.

There was no one in the house to tease you, give you a nickname, or make fun at you.

14. You are awkward around kids.

You seem to be more comfortable with yourself and adults rather than being with kids. Because in a real sense, you are still a kid to a lot of people.

15. You are mediator between your parents when they fight.

Your parents would fight to get your love and support. But beyond that you will be the one to help mediate during any of their battles.

Advertising

16. You really wish you had someone to play with while growing up.

You had to play alone. And while this may have been fun since you had all the toys and video games to yourself, you sometimes wished you had someone you could play with.

17. You are really terrible at babysitting.

No matter what age you are, you’ll always suck at babysitting.

Featured photo credit: http://www.pixabay.com via pixabay.com

More by this author

Casey Imafidon

Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

6 Things To Do Every Day To Ensure You Stick To Your Goals How to Form Your Success Formula to Get Unstuck in Life 10 Habits Of People Who Are Highly Successful At Work 8 Reasons Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful 15 Signs Of Self-Absorbed People

Trending in Communication

1 40 Acts of Kindness to Make the World a Better Place 2 6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak 3 How to Train Your Brain to Be Optimistic 4 How to Stop Living on Autopilot with Antonio Neves 5 The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

Advertising

Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

Advertising

How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

Advertising

Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

Read Next