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5 Mental Skills That The Most Successful Visionaries Master

5 Mental Skills That The Most Successful Visionaries Master

We all crave success. Our own definition of success drives us, causes us to fret, infuriates us at times, and inspires us! We all have people who we look up to as meeting our definition of success. Most people have a grandiose vision for their success definitions. However, translating the vision to action and attainment is where most people lack and fall behind. The grandiose vision remains a vision for a long time, until they feel frustrated and dejected and dissolve the vision or make it more “realistic.”

However, there are people who have much grander visions than most and are able to achieve them. They plough their way through obstacles of all kinds, climb mountains unimaginable to us, and cross seas that we wouldn’t dare consider. What gives these people the strength, courage, and conviction to fulfill their vision and achieve success? The answer is mental skills. These people have mastered the below mental skills that give them everything they need, when they need it.

Here are 7 mental skills that the most successful visionaries are able to master.

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1. Comfort with Ambiguity

Ambiguity and uncertainty causes people to shiver and stay put. As an example, why do you think most of corporate America is stuck in jobs they hate? They would rather stay where they are and suffer and complain than take a leap into an unknown, uncertain, and ambiguous next step.

Successful visionaries, on the other hand, are comfortable with ambiguity. Ambiguity doesn’t scare them. They may or may not seek ambiguity, but when faced with an ambiguous situation, they are able to calmly plough through it. This is an important skill to master in order to be successful. Success is on the edge of our comfort zone. Taking a risk, a leap, and moving into unknown territory often gives us a chance to find our inner strength, one that we are not even aware exists! As long as we stay in our comfort zone, we are never going to be able to tap into our inner strength and other skills we may possess.

How to master this skill? Seek new experiences and, whenever possible, step out of your comfort zone. Speak to new people, try different cuisines, try new activities, volunteer at new places in new roles, read new books. These are just a few ways to start getting comfortable with ambiguity.

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2. The 30,000-Ft View

Successful visionaries are truly able to see things from a vantage point that most are not able to see from — the 30,000-ft view. Be it their life, their career, their relationships, or anything for that matter, they are able to see how things fit into the grand scheme of things, what matters most, and it guides their vision. While most people are floundering around, saying “I don’t know what I want in my life or career or relationships,” these visionaries are able to have a clear view of their life. They have the clarity to see exactly where they are and where they want to be. This gives them a leg up to get to where they want.

How to master this skill? Write down your visions everyday. Assume you are at a 30,000-ft viewpoint and write it. You may feel lost doing so , but attempt it everyday for a couple months. Brian Tracy advocates writing and re-writing your top 10 goals every day. The clarity you will gain over time will help in shaping your vision and give you that vantage view that you are missing now.

3. Resilience

Just like a stretched rubber band that bounces back to its original shape, successful visionaries are resilient. They bounce back from failures and difficulties. They do not let tough situations pull them down. They are able to keep going towards their vision, irrespective of any obstacles. This is a crucial skill to master. Most people give up on their dreams after their first failure or difficulty —as they say, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”

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How to master this skill? Start observing what your attitude towards tough situations is. Do you tend to give up easily? Do you feel scared or frustrated and resort back to the comfortable? Once you identify where you stand on the resilience spectrum, then you can take steps to improve it. Consciously work on becoming more adaptable and flexible in all situations. Positivity and hope, when added to the mix, will boost your resilience factor. Lastly, using every situation as a learning experience and identifying what can be done better next time are key strategies to mastering this skill.

4. Don’t Reinvent The Wheel

Successful visionaries are adept at this. They know and understand all aspects of a problem and are thorough in identifying what has already been worked on. They do not let ego get in the way and are comfortable leveraging a solution, or part of a solution if one already exists.

How to master this skill? Learn to thoroughly understand and analyze all aspects of a problem. Start doing it in daily settings with smaller issues. Then, learn to research and see what solutions exist and if any of those solutions will work in your situation. Practice leads to competence. So, practice this at every opportunity you get.

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5. Master the 7C’s

Live the 7C’s — Confidence, Competence, Courage, Compassion, Creativity, Curiosity, and Commitment. Each C is a mental skill that successful visionaries rely on to be successful.

How to master the 7C’s? Practice each of the 7C’s and set constant reminders until each one becomes a part of you. If you are not naturally curious, force yourself to be curious and ask relevant questions. If you are not confident, fake your confidence and work on other strategies to increase your confidence. If you are not creative, start with simple exercises — doodle and sketch often, engage with children in role-playing games, try the 30 circle exercise (basically, to make an object of each of the circles in a given time).

Which of these skills are you going to master first? I’d love to hear!

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Last Updated on August 20, 2019

26 Useful Things to Learn Now That Will Change Your Life

26 Useful Things to Learn Now That Will Change Your Life

If you pay attention to your everyday life careful enough, you’ll know that you can learn from everything and everyone you come across. Our life is basically full of useful lessons that we should learn.

Here are 26 useful things to learn that Abhishek A. Singh shared on Quora. Let’s see how these life theories would lead you to live a different life.

1. Primacy and recency: People mostly remember the first and last things that occurred, barely the middle.

When scheduling an interview, ask the employer the time slots they do interviews and try to be the first or the last.

2. If you work in a bar or in customer service of any kind, put a mirror behind you at the counter.

In this way, angry customers who approach you will have to see themselves in the mirror behind you and the chance of them behaving irrationally will be lowered significantly.

3. Once you make a sales pitch, don’t say anything else.

This works in sales, but it can also be applied in other ways.

My previous boss was training me and just gave me pointers. I was working at a gym trying to sell memberships. He told me that once I got all the small talk out of the way and presented the prices, the first person to talk would lose.

It didn’t seem like a big deal but it actually worked. Often there were long periods of awkward silence as the person tried to come up with some excuses, but usually they bought.

4. If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer, just wait.

If you stay silent and keep eye contact, they will usually continue to talk.

5. Chew gum when you’re approaching a situation that would make you nervous, like public speaking or bungee jumping.

When we eat, our brain tell ourselves, “I would not be eating if I were danger. So I’m not in danger.” This has helped me to stay calm.

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6. People will always remember how you made them feel, not what you said.

Also, most people like talking about themselves; so ask lots of questions about them.

7. When you’re learning something new, teach it to a friend. Let them ask you questions about it.

If you’re able to teach something well, you will be sure that you’ve understood it very well.

8. If you get yourself to be really happy and excited to see other people, they will react the same to you.

It doesn’t always happen the first time, but it will definitely happen the next time.

9. The physical effects of stress — breathing rate and heart rate — are almost identical to the physical effects of courage.

When you’re feeling stressed in any situations, immediately reframe it : Your body is getting ready to be courageous, you are NOT stressed.

10. Pay attention to people’s feet.

If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation, and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation.

Similarly, if you are in a conversation with a coworker who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want the conversation to end.

11. Confidence is more important than knowledge.

Don’t be intimidated by anyone, everyone is playing a role and wearing a mask.

12. If you pretend to be something for long enough, you will eventually become it.

Fake it till you make it. Period.

13. Not to be creepy, but if you want to stare at someone unashamedly, look directly past them and wait for them to try and meet your eyes.

When they fail to do that, they’ll look around (usually nervously for a second) they won’t look at you again for some time. This is your chance to straight up stare at this person for at least 45 seconds.

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And as suggested by Brian Stutzman:

If you’re staring at someone and get caught, DON’T turn your head or your body to look away, because that just confirms that you were staring.

Just move your EYEBALLS off the person. Unlike turning your head, it’s instantaneous. And the person will think you were just looking at something behind them and that they were mistaken for thinking you were staring. Do it confidently, and ignore any reaction from the person, and you can sell it every single time.

After a second, you can even look back at them with a “Why are you staring at me?” look on your face to really cement the deal!

14. Build a network.

Become the information source, and let the information be yours. Even grabbing a beer with a former colleague once a year will keep you in the loop at the old office.

Former coworkers might have gotten a new position in that office you always wanted to work in, great! Go to them for a beer, and ask about the office. It’s all about connections and information.

15. If you are angry at the person in front of you driving like a grandmother…

Pretend it is your grandmother, it will significantly reduce your road rage.

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    16. Stand up straight.

    No slouching, hands out of pockets, and head held up high. It’s not just a cliche — you literally feel better and people around you feel more confident in you.

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    17. Avoid saying “I think,” and “I believe” unless absolutely necessary.

    These are phrases that do not evoke confidence, and will literally do you no good.

    18. When feeling anxious, clean up your home or work space.

    You will feel happier and more accomplished than before.

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      19. Always buy the first pitcher or round of drinks.

      You’d be surprised how long you could drink on the phrase “I bought the first one.”

      20. Going into an interview… be interested in your interviewers.

      If you focus on learning about them, you’ll seem to be more interesting and dynamic. (Again, people love to talk about themselves.)

      21. Pay attention parents! Always give your kid a choice that makes them think they are in control.

      For instance, when I want my son to put his shoes on I will say ,”do you want to put your star wars shoes on or your shark shoes on?”

      Pro-tip: In some cases, this works on adults.

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        22. Your action affects your attitude more than your attitude affects your action.

        As my former teacher said “You can jump and dance FOR joy, but you can also jump and dance yourself joyful.”

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        23. When a group of people laugh, people will instinctively look at the person they feel closest to in that group.

        Notice who you look at and who look at you when you laugh with a group of people!

        24. If you want to build rapport or gain someone’s trust quickly, match their body posture and position.

        If someone is sitting with her legs crossed, cross your legs. If they’re leaning away from you, lean away from them. If they’re leaning towards you, lean towards them.

        Mirroring and matching body position is a subconscious way to tell if someone trusts you or is comfortable with you. If you’re sitting with your arms crossed and you notice someone else is sitting with her arms crossed, that is a good indicator that you have/are successfully built/building rapport with that person.

        25. The Benjamin Franklin Effect (suggested by Matt Miller)

        I find the basis of the Benjamin Franklin effect is very useful and extends far beyond pencil borrowing. This knowledge is useful in the world of flirting too.

        Asking a girl in your class if you can borrow a pencil or her notes or to explain the homework will make her more likely to like you than if you let her borrow your stuff or are the one to help her. Even just asking a girl to buy you drinks (facetiously) leaves a much bigger impression than offering to or actually buying a girl a drink.

        The best part is it kills 3 birds with one stone: you get the advantages of the favor itself, the person subconsciously likes you more, and it makes them more open to future favors and conversation.

        26. Handle panic and anxiety behaviors by tapping fingers (Suggested by Jade Barbee)

        When you’re feeling stressed, worried or angry, tap each finger tip while thinking (or speaking quietly) a few specific words about what is bothering you. Repeat the same words while tapping each of your 10 fingers, including thumbs.

        For example, tap while saying, “I’m so angry with her…” Doing so will likely take the charge out of the feeling and return you to a more resourceful (better feeling) state of being. It’s called EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or “tapping,” and it is useful in many life situations – emotional sadness, physical pain, food cravings, traumatic memories…

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