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20 Reasons Philadelphia Is The Coolest Place To Stay

20 Reasons Philadelphia Is The Coolest Place To Stay

Looking for a cool place to stay in East Coast? Philadelphia is the city you would like to visit and keep coming back for more. If you haven’t been to Philly yet, you will be surprised what you can discover and experience in this cool city.

1. Do you remember Sylvester Stallone’s triumphant run in the film Rocky?

“The Rocky Statue” and the “Rocky Steps” are two of the most popular attractions in Philadelphia. Visiting the statue, running up the steps and taking a picture at the top is a must. Originally created for the Rocky films, the sculpture is now a real life monument immortalized in bronze in 1980. After filming was completed, the actor donated the statue to the City of Philadelphia. So, go get a photo shoot with Rocky Balboa for a victorious celebration on visit to Philadelphia!

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    2. Come to the place where America is born.

    The birthplace of America is Philadelphia, you knew that. Historic Philadelphia covers parts of the Old City and Center City neighborhoods including the Independence Hall, Liberty Bell, National Constitution Center, the Betsy Ross House, Christ Church and nearby Valley Forge battlefield. It’s just one square mile, but it’s jam packed with restaurants, galleries, shops and attractions. Each puts its own distinctive spin on history. And together, they make up Historic Philadelphia. It’s like walking in a giant American history classroom. How cool is that?

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      3.  Wouldn’t you love to live on Elfreth’s street?

      No visit to Philadelphia would be complete without a stop at Elfreth’s Alley. Representing 300 years of history, the 32 buildings along Elfreth’s Alley were built from the 1720s to 1830s, and they reveal the fascinating stories of everyday life of America’s founders back then. It is the oldest residential street in America that offers a museum and several historic houses, many of which still serve as private residences with no garages or cable TV. In June, usually on the first weekend, Elfreth’s Alley residents open their homes and gardens to the public. And no driving through the Alley, please.

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        4. Philadelphia is a city of vibrant neighborhoods with its own distinctive personality.

        It is a city of neighborhoods that reflect cultural identity from groups that have settled over time in Philadelphia from Europe, Asia, Africa, South and Central America. They often hold block parties where a block can be closed off for traffic while the neighbors share foods and fun games. While the neighborhood streets are inherently a living museum, the clubs and night entertainment activities have developed as well in historic Old City along the Delaware River waterfront and on South Street, called the hippest street in town.The residents of Society Hill often stroll around their cobblestone streets and take in the architecture of the centuries-old homes, churches and landmarks that make this neighborhood so unique and picturesque.

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          5. Philadelphia Museum of Art

          The Philadelphia Museum of Art is among the largest art museums in the United States. The museum provides the backdrop for many public events, including concerts and parades because of its location at the end of the Franklin Parkway. The vast collections of Renaissance, American and impressionist masterpieces make the Philadelphia Museum of Art one of the most important art museums in the country. Its impressive holdings, acclaimed exhibitions, special programs and beautiful outdoor Sculpture Garden make it a cultural must-see.

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            6. The Liberty Bell chimes in Philly and to the world.

            The Liberty Bell is an iconic symbol of American Independence. Formerly placed in the steeple of the Pennsylvania State House, the Bell today is located in the Liberty Bell Center in Independence National Historical Park. The Bell first cracked when rung after its arrival in Philadelphia, and was twice recast by local workmen John Pass and John Stow, whose last names appear on the bell. The Speaker of the Pennsylvania Assembly had a Bible verse placed on the bell: “Proclaim LIBERTY throughout all the Land unto all the inhabitants thereof”(Leviticus 25:10). Today, it silently reminds us of the power of liberty.

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              7. Philadelphia is much more than a college town.

              University City is so named due to two of the largest and most influential institutions in town: the University of Pennsylvania and Drexel University. With an incredibly diverse student population, you will be fascinated by the people and the places offering everything from a vibrant street-food scene to high-end art galleries and intimate late night hangouts. University City grows at fast pace each year, and it is becoming one of the most livable, well-kept and friendly neighborhood in Philadelphia. And while you are cruising along the campuses, take a tour to the Academy of Natural History of Drexel University to meet dinosaurs and wander through a tropical garden and wildlife habitat.

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                8. Are you a foodie in the mood?

                Then, head down to the Reading Terminal Market on an empty stomach. You will want to save room for the array of cuisines that are available around every corner from Delicious sandwiches to artisanal cheeses and desserts. This famous foodie paradise has been serving since 1892 and there are plenty of vendors to choose from. While walking around, watch cooking demonstrations right in front of your eyes or take home some of farm-grown fresh products from Amish merchants.  Also, stay for annual Pennsylvania Dutch Festival to celebrate the traditional foods and handmade crafts.

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                  9. Put on your sneakers and walk around in town.

                  Thanks to the city’s original planner, William Penn, Philadelphia is the fifth most walkable city and has the most bicycle commuters per capita in the country with an easy-to-follow street grid. Do you also know who made bicycling in the city look really cool? Philadelphia native Kevin Bacon in the movie, Quicksilver. So you can skip the car altogether, get by on foot power and hit the sidewalks!

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                    10. Are you hungry for some fried chicken and donuts?

                    The line out the door explains it all. People across the city crave Korean-style fried chicken and fresh hot donuts at Federal Donuts. They have sold out everyday since opening in the fall of 2011.  You can choose from fancy donuts with flavors like blueberry fritter, lemon bar, maple bacon and PB&J, strawberry lavender, and vanilla spice. Their fried chicken is an amazing combination of juicy and crispy with authentic rubs and glazes including honey garlic, golden soy, sweet chili, buttermilk ranch, coconut curry and cowboy coffee.

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                      11. You weren’t in Philly if you hadn’t had Philly cheesesteaks.

                      A hot dog vendor in south Philadelphia, Pat Olivieri invented the cheesesteak in the 1930s. He eventually opened up Pat’s King of Steaks- and Geno’s Steaks was started in 1966. Pat’s versus Geno’s is the Yankees versus Mets of the Philadelphia food scene, and you are most likely going to end up picking sides and defending your choice. Which one is authentic, really?

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                        12. Drink it up, don’t waste a drop.

                        From the early days of the Founding Fathers to today, Philly has always been a beer town. In 1829 David G. Yuengling brought Yuengling beer to Philadelphia, and since then Philadelphians helped make it one of the largest American-owned breweries. His success was followed by a craft brewing industry explosion in the Greater Philadelphia area. Philly organized ‘Bloktoberfest’, a beer celebration that follows on Beer Week where people come from afar to taste the finest craft beers. For a true taste of Philly’s spirit, take a tour at the craft breweries such as (just to name a few), Philadelphia brewing co., Flying fish brewing co., Yards brewing company and Dock street brewing co., and you will be coming back for more.

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                          13. Kudos for the vision of the city of tomorrow.

                          Community Life Improvement Programs (CLIP) consists of several programs and agencies dedicated to improving the appearance of neighborhoods throughout the City of Philadelphia. These programs are designed to maximize effectiveness and efficiency by creating partnerships with residents and businesses to foster sustainable communities.The Getting Results Framework, initially developed by the Pennsylvania Department of Education, has been also adapted for use in the School District of Philadelphia. It is one of the support tools to help school leadership team in the planning process to improve its public school system.

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                            14. Philadelphia fans are also known for their reputation for being the most intense fans.

                            Sports are a huge part of the culture of the city and Philadelphia fans are known for their extreme passion for all of their teams. Philadelphia is one of the few cities with a professional franchise in all four major league sports. Their major sports teams are the Philadelphia Phillies, Philadelphia Eagles, the Philadelphia 76ers and the Philadelphia Flyers. Whether you’re more interested in watching the big game, we’ve got you covered. Sure, Philly’s a big city, but within town, or just minutes away, there are plenty of great sports facilities.

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                              15. Philly’s got a vibe to it.

                              And of course Philadelphia is a city of great arts and performing arts. It is home to a vibrant and well-documented musical heritage, stretching back to colonial times. The Philadelphia Orchestra performs in one or two neighborhoods each summer, and its lighter version, Philly Pops, performs during the summer at an outdoor venue, the Mann, where you can come early and enjoy picnics and then music under the stars, with several times fireworks at the end. In addition the city has played an equally prominent role in developing popular music. Come on down to discover the extraordinary high quality music experience!

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                                16. When you feel like getting out and doing anything at all, go here.

                                If you are passionate about the great outdoors, visit Fairmount Park, the world’s largest municipal park. It offers opportunities for everything from fishing, go horseback riding, rollerblading, and hiking in the woods with scenic paths, playgrounds, an outdoor concert space, and picnic grounds along the Schuylkill River. And it’s all within easy reach of Center City. The mile-long stretch of scenic land known as Benjamin Franklin Parkway is the home to many museums and interactive experiences. This cultural hub features impressive architecture, historic monuments, and grand museums galore. Get a taste of Philly that’ll satisfy any cultural cravings at Benjamin Franklin Parkway.

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                                  17. This is not a Chinatown you can see in other big cities.

                                  Philadelphia Chinatown is a predominantly Asian American neighborhood in Center City Philadelphia. Beyond the colorful China Gate at 10th and Arch Streets lives Philly’s vibrant Asian enclave, settled in the mid-19th century by Cantonese immigrants. Though small compared to its hectic and sprawling counterpart in NYC, Philly’s Chinatown is homey and not as daunting. It is nonetheless very much a true ethnic neighborhood, full of energy and a large selection of restaurants and markets to get a real taste of Chinese culture and food. The neighborhood is packed with restaurants and stores that represent true ethnic colors and flavors. See what’s in your fortune cookie.

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                                    18. Philly Art On and Off the canvas.

                                    Philadelphia is home to more public art than any other city in the country, and boasts world-class museums like the Philadelphia Museum of Art, and the Rodin Museum. Philly also takes its art to the street, encouraging large, public murals through its Mural Arts Program. In Philadelphia, every wall is a potential blank canvas, and stunning murals adorn building exteriors all over the city. A public art project which encourages local artists to create works utilizing the city’s architecture has beautified the City of Brotherly Love and created an enduring cultural legacy. Begun in 1984 to help eradicate graffiti, the Mural Arts Program enables professional artists and young Philadelphians to showcase their artistic talent in a constructive way.

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                                      19.  A famous scene with Eddie Murphy was filmed here in the movie Trading Places

                                      Rittenhouse Square, one of William Penn’s original five, was known as the southwest square until 1825 when it was named for the astronomer-clockmaker, David Rittenhouse. Today, private homes are gone, but it still counts for something to live on the Square. The park is perfectly situated between wonderful restaurants and shopping and is always filled with musicians, artists, families, and picnickers. On Saturdays, the farmer’s market takes over one block of the square and you can pick up everything from fresh flowers, to homemade donuts, breads, chocolates, vegetables, and hot soup. So, get back on your foot on a nice day and remember to check out the beautiful charm and old architecture of the buildings in the neighborhood streets.

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                                        20. Learn all about science

                                        Founded in 1824, the Franklin Institute is a science museum and one of the oldest centers of science education. The Science Center also includes many pertinent attractions that are not museum exhibits. The museum continues to take on research programs in the areas of educational technology, school partnerships, and youth leadership. So give the gift of science to yourself and your family!

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                                          So, are you here in Philadelphia yet? My favorite reason to love it, though, has to be the people. There’s an amazing, eclectic mix of souls in Philly who make it an incredibly fun, inspiring and energizing place to live. There’s a great mix of artists, students, writers, musicians, small business owners and families, some of whom have lived here for generations. The people make this neighborhood. And they’ve made it an amazing place to live, work and write about.

                                          Featured photo credit: Philadelphia skyline via flickr.com

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                                          Last Updated on October 14, 2020

                                          How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                          How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                          When you learn how to be confident, you can use it in your everyday life to tackle all of your goals and challenges. However, not many people realize that learning how to gain self-confidence is like building a muscle—it grows in response to the level of performance required of it.

                                          Here I will give you 51 proven ways to overcome a lack of self-confidence and achieve more.

                                          1. Learn Something New

                                          Sign up for that evening class and enjoy it. Alternatively, read a book (or take an online course) on a topic you’ve always wanted to learn more about.

                                          Learning new things stretches your abilities, keeps your mind active, and most definitely improves your confidence in your ability to do new things.

                                          2. Ask Your Partner or a Friend What You Can Do For Them

                                          This can be something as easy as helping them with a chore they don’t like or have little time for. Through helping them, you’ll find that you feel better about yourself.

                                          3. Hit the Gym

                                          The physiological effects of going to the gym will leave you feeling great.

                                          Countless studies have shown that regular workouts at the gym can boost not only your sense of well-being, but can increase your self-esteem, too[1].

                                          4. Go to a Networking Event

                                          Rather than being nervous about your own stuff, focus on how to help others. Instead of going along with the aim of trying to sell yourself to others, why not change your approach and simply go along to see how you can help the people you meet?

                                          By doing this, you’ll come across as calm, confident, and someone that people will want to turn to again and again.

                                          5. Get Clear on the Things That Matter to You

                                          If these things are not in your life, you’ll need to bring them in.

                                          For example, if your daily work routine is currently as dull as dishwater—but you’d like it to be fun—then do something about it. Turn data entry into personal speed contests, paper filing into “screen-free” time, and interactions with your colleagues into enjoyable conversations.

                                          6. Remove Negativity From Your Life

                                          Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up with in your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize, or diminish each one.

                                          I personally like to do this with pen and paper as it feels just a little more real and definite than on screen. It’s also a good idea to put the priority items at the top of your list, so you can begin resolving these first.

                                          7. Celebrate Your Big and Small Wins

                                          Look at the big or small goals you’ve completed, and give yourself credit for your part in it.

                                          Recognizing your achievements is not egotistical, it’s healthy.

                                          8. Converse With New People

                                          Go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know. By doing this, you may be pleasantly surprised by what—or who—you’ll discover.

                                          You can also extend this trait by breaking outside of your normal social situations at your workplace. This will do wonders when learning how to be confident.

                                          9. Do Something You Would Normally Say No to

                                          Next time you talk yourself out of doing something (a party invite, a challenging project, etc.), go and do it anyway. This is a great way to boost personal development.

                                          10. Do One Thing Each Day That Makes You Smile

                                          This could be something as simple as sending a thank you email to a colleague that has been helpful to you, or leaving a surprise present for your partner that they’ll discover when they wake up.

                                          Life shouldn’t be drudgery, and we all need to make the effort to keep it light, loving, and fun.

                                          11. Give Yourself Good Advice

                                          Look for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second-guessing or overthinking.

                                          Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back—what would you want to say to them?

                                          This is known as Soloman’s Paradox—we’re often quite good at solving others’ problems but not our own. Challenge this and take your own good advice next time[2].

                                          12. Ask Someone on a Date

                                          If you’re single and have met someone that you’re definitely attracted to—go ahead and ask them out.

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                                          Even if they turn you down, it will help you learn how to be confident through the fact that you were decisive and made an effort. What’s the best thing that could happen? They might just say yes!

                                          13. Write Down 20 Things That Make You Feel Good

                                          Think of this as a gratitude list. Typical things you might include are: your partner, your kids, your parents, your pets, etc.

                                          I recommend writing this list at least once a month. And most importantly—make sure you’re giving the 20 things plenty of room in your life.

                                          14. Stop Playing Different Roles

                                          Stop playing different roles and squeezing yourself into boxes based on what you think people expect of you.

                                          Be your authentic self, the one who knows what to do and loves what they do. It’s easy to find this part of yourself as it’s inherent in your hobbies and your close friendships.

                                          If you can bring this authenticity into your work life, you’ll be surprised at how positively others will react to you.

                                          15. Cultivate a Positive Mindset

                                          Learn to catch yourself every time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get, or aren’t good enough to get what you want[3].

                                          Talk yourself up when learning how to be confident.

                                            Instead, tell yourself that you can have, will get, and are good enough to get what you want. Mindset is everything. Make sure yours is positive and dynamic.

                                            16. Take Yourself off Auto-Pilot

                                            Make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.

                                            For instance, if you normally work 9 to 5 but find yourself spending hours getting to and from work, why not negotiate with your boss to mix your hours up a bit?

                                            You might also suggest a day or two working from home. Sell this to your boss by reminding them that the time and stress lost to commuting can be neatly transferred to productive work hours.

                                            17. Listen Carefully to What You Tell Yourself

                                            Next time you come up against a risk or a challenge, listen to what you tell yourself, and look for a way to improve your inner dialogue.

                                            If you normally find that your inner dialogue is negative, then break out of this by asking yourself questions such as:

                                            • What would make this easier?
                                            • Is there a different way of doing this?
                                            • Could research help?

                                            18. Laugh at Yourself

                                            Scared of looking silly? It’s no biggie, so don’t let it stop you.

                                            Whenever we try something new, there’s a fair chance that we’ll make fools of ourselves. But you’d be a bigger fool to let that stop you. Instead, laugh at your baby steps and watch your confidence soar as you begin to master your chosen activity.

                                            19. Listen to Your Doubts

                                            Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forwards. Other times, they are just doubts.

                                            The trick is to quickly determine if your doubts have validity. If they do, use them to shape your decisions.

                                            To illustrate this, imagine that you’ve had an enticing job offer, but you doubt whether you’re capable of doing the job. Spend a little time analyzing your doubts to see whether they reflect reality, or whether they are just negative thoughts that are trying to hold you back.

                                            20. Recall a Time When You Did a Great Job

                                            Think of a time when it felt like a whole bank of switches in your head flicked to the on position, and you were firing on all cylinders. What were you doing, and what’s the reason it felt so great? Can you emulate that passion and drive that you had?

                                            21. Tear up Your Rule Book

                                            You may not know it, but you’ve almost certainly got a whole bunch of outdated rules that determine what you do and don’t do. These rules limit your thinking and your behavior.

                                            It’s time to change them. Tear up this subconscious rule book and toss it in the fire. Once you’ve done this, you’ll immediately notice how free you feel to make challenging and exciting decisions.

                                            22. Ask Yourself What You Have Gained When You Lose

                                            Do you get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back from an opportunity?

                                            Firstly, don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse. Instead, be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on.

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                                            Based on this win/lose balance, what’s a different choice you can make next time?

                                            23. Don’t Let People Put You Down

                                            If there’s someone in your life who puts you down or makes you feel small, you owe it to yourself to let them know that you expect something different from now on. 

                                            Trust me, once you’ve told them, they’ll change, and you will, too. Inevitably, you’ll boost both your confidence and happiness by taking control of your life in this way.

                                            Learn how to get out of toxic relationships in this article.

                                            24. Reveal a Little Bit of the Real You

                                            Relationships can be difficult. They can also lose their zest and become stale. If this happens in your relationship, then it’s time to add some magic to the mix.

                                            Try revealing something interesting about yourself or your past that your partner doesn’t currently know when learning how to be confident. Perhaps you never mentioned to them that you used to play in a rock band—and you still have the recordings to prove it!

                                            By adding new things to your relationship, you’ll deepen the bond and keep the spark alive.

                                            25. Be Your Own Hero

                                            Recognize that you’re more than a match for any situation you might find yourself in—no matter how tough the going gets.

                                            We all love movies like Die Hard where ordinary people are driven to super-ordinary feats. But here’s the rub: you can be your own action hero.

                                            Whatever the situation, meet it head on and overcome it. Keep in mind the classic phrase: “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

                                            26. Don’t Give in to the Instant Pay-off

                                            If I was to offer you $100 now for a day’s work tomorrow or $110 for the same work, but I won’t pay you for a week, which would you choose? Well, I can’t read your mind, but I do know that studies using a similar question to this have found that most people choose the instant, smaller payment over the latter, bigger payment. It seems that we’re hardwired for instant gratification.

                                            However, if you want to be a success in life, always look at the bigger picture. In the example above, if you could have only waited seven more days, you would have been $10 richer!

                                            27. Instead of Yelling “I Deserve Better,” Say “I Can Be Better”

                                            Too often I hear people complaining about their personal circumstances but refusing to do anything about it. Don’t be like them.

                                            If things aren’t going your way, find solutions and implement them. Your boldness and decisiveness will boost your confidence and help you rapidly climb the ladder of success.

                                            28. Admit You’re Wrong

                                            It may not be easy, but you should always be prepared to hold your hands up and change your mind if things are going south. Not every idea you have will be a winning one. The trick is to know when things are clearly not working out.

                                            You can either attempt to get them back on track or kill them off completely (sometimes that’s the best way).

                                            29. Trust Your Instincts

                                            We all have our gut feelings and intuitions, but many people choose to ignore them and rely only on facts, facts, and more facts! While this may work for many scenarios, there will be other times when you’ll need to rely on your instincts.

                                            30. Imagine Your Confident Future Self

                                            Imagine you’re visited by a successful, confident, attractive, and vibrant version of you from the future, a version of you who’s everything you hope to be. What do they want to tell you?

                                            They might praise your efforts, but they may also criticize your lack of planning and weak goals.

                                            Luckily, if you listen closely to what they tell you, you’ll be able to rapidly shift gears in your life and become the you of the future!

                                            31. Ask for Help

                                            This is a common issue. We take on way too many responsibilities and end up either burning ourselves out or just doing a bad job!

                                            The secret is to put the vast majority of your energy and efforts into what you do well. Give the stuff you don’t do well to others who have a gift for it. Sometimes the most confident and effective thing to do is ask for help.

                                            32. Be Around People Who Make You Feel Like You

                                            Do this by spending more time with the people who support and encourage you and less time with those who undermine you.

                                            At work, don’t be ruined by negative, petty people. Instead, make sure you surround yourself with colleagues who make you laugh and feel good about yourself.

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                                            33. Participate in the World Around You

                                            Ask yourself this question: “What can I participate in that’s important to me?”

                                            Typically, this could be your church, a sports club, or even just a weekly get together with your best friend.

                                            34. Develop Skills to Work on Things That Matter to You

                                            What can you practice that would radically improve your chances of winning?

                                            If you want to climb the corporate ladder, for example, then develop the skills needed to do this. These might include: effective project management skills, powerful presentation abilities, and superb goal setting skills.

                                            Of course, don’t forget that emulating those who have already achieved your goal is one of the quickest and most reliable ways for you to achieve your aims, too.

                                            35. Act Until You Make It

                                            The body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body language into a confident state can have surprising results.

                                            This is all about acting. If you want to come across as tough, act tough. If you want to come across as successful, act successful. And if you want to come across as confident, act confident.

                                            Try doing these things, and you’ll be amazed by the results.

                                            36. Push Through When You Want to Give up

                                            Don’t get disheartened or demotivated when you get to 90% with something you’re working on. Push through, and you’ll see that the last 10% is where the magic happens.

                                            37. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

                                            Keep comparing yourself to others? Stop it. If you want to learn how to be confident, don’t try to validate yourself through comparison—you’re just peachy as you are.

                                            Social media often makes this difficult. Try stepping away from your Facebook page for a few days and reconnect with the great things in your own life.

                                            You can get started with this guide.

                                            38. Speak up When You Can Make a Difference

                                            Speak up if there’s something you think could be improved or if you have an idea you think has legs.

                                            Have you noticed that quiet people at work rarely get the promotions? It’s not that they are incapable or lacking talent, but their abilities are usually overlooked as they don’t know how to engage with others or how to sell themselves.

                                            Step out of your comfort zone and be sure that you’re an active player. Speak up in meetings by suggesting ideas and offering constructive criticism.

                                            39. Stop Struggling and Start Accepting

                                            If there’s something you’ve been struggling to understand for a while, stop trying to understand it. Accept it just as it is, fully and wholly.

                                            Life offers endless mysteries. If you try to resolve them all you’ll drive yourself insane. Instead, let some mysteries remain, and keep your mind focused on your goals and dreams.

                                            40. It’s Okay to Be Shy

                                            There’s nothing wrong with being shy, and it doesn’t mean you’re not a confident person.

                                            If you suffer from shyness, you might think it’s a major weakness of yours. However, introverted people have the edge in many ways, such as: they’re first-rate listeners, they have excellent observational skills, and they’re easier to trust[4].

                                            41. Clean up Your Environment

                                            Your environment directly impacts your self-perception. So, if you’re surrounded by clutter, paperwork, and rubbish, put a morning aside to clean up your stuff and get organized.

                                            42. Write a List of Things You Would Love to Do

                                            Write yourself a list of the amazing things you’d love to do in your life, and make a start by simply looking into the first one or two things that leap out at you. This will help you get started as you learn how to be confident

                                            Even if you don’t currently have the means to live your dreams, you can, at the very least, make a start. The best way to do this is to write out the things you’d love to do. These may include cool stuff, such as travelling the world, learning a new language, or climbing a mountain.

                                            Once you’ve added the items to your list, don’t stop there. Begin researching and preparing ways to turn your dreams into realities.

                                            43. Make Your Self-Worth Independent From Others’ Validation

                                            Don’t make your happiness or self-worth dependent on being in a relationship or being validated by someone else.

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                                            While it’s difficult to admit it, we often find ourselves rating our self-esteem by the value other people put on us.

                                            For instance, you may have a super-positive boss who is always encouraging and supportive. They make you feel upbeat and confident at all times.

                                            However, imagine if they left and your new boss was the complete opposite. They constantly look for faults in your work and regularly criticize you. Would you still feel confident in those circumstances?

                                            If you’ve answered no, then you need to reappraise your self-worth, as it shouldn’t be dependent on the validation of others.

                                            44. Use Your Strengths

                                            We all have our weaknesses, but they only undermine your confidence if you let them.

                                            For instance, are you aware that Virgin’s founder Richard Branson suffers from dyslexia? He never let this hold him back or destroy his confidence. Today, he is one of the world’s most successful men, with a net worth of approximately $5 billion[5].

                                            45. Complete a To-Do List

                                            The longer you leave that big thing on your to-do list, the more it’ll drain you, and the bigger it’ll seem. Get it done and free yourself up.

                                            If you have a big goal, break it down into smaller tasks. For instance, instead of trying to write a whole chapter of your book in one go, how about just writing the opening paragraph?

                                            46. Treat Your Body Well

                                            When learning how to be confident, our body image does matter, because if you have a bad relationship with your body, you won’t feel confident in yourself.

                                            What’s one of the first things most of us do when we get up in the morning? We look in the mirror. If we don’t like what we see there, then our day starts off with negative self-talk. If, on the other hand, we look in the mirror and feel proud of our appearance, then we start the day off in an upbeat, positive way.

                                            If you’re unhappy with your body and looks, do something to improve them. Exercise, diet, and styling are common ways of improving your body image—and your confidence.

                                            47. Learn to Say No

                                            Don’t say yes to taking on a task simply because you don’t want to rock the boat. You can politely decline requests you can’t meet without needing to create excuses.

                                            While saying yes to everything that comes your way might feel like you’re being helpful and in demand, in the long run, you’ll burn yourself out.

                                            48. Learn From Confident People

                                            Look at the people you respect who seem confident. Don’t copy them, but identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you can learn from it.

                                            People-watching is not only fun, but it can be informative, too. Look closely at successful people you know, or those being interviewed on TV, and over time you’ll begin to notice common traits, beliefs, and behaviors that they exhibit.

                                            49. Follow Through on Your Plans

                                            Most people find it easy to write plans. The hard part, of course, is seeing them through. To stand out from the crowd, make sure that you know exactly how to complete your plans.

                                            If you need to, write down a step-by-step guide and begin following it. Not only will this drive you towards the completion of your plans—but experiencing the progress will also give you a continuous boost to your self-esteem.

                                            50. Shift Your Focus When You Doubt Yourself

                                            When you feel yourself focusing inwards and becoming paralyzed with doubt or fear, switch to focusing outwards at what you can engage and interact with.

                                            I remember one of my writing tutors telling me that when the words stop flowing, it’s time to take a break— preferably a walk in the park. It’s sound advice as it’s very easy to get caught up with our thoughts and emotions and be unable to make progress.

                                            51. Never Beat Yourself up for Failing

                                            Life is guaranteed to not always be a barrel of laughs. Instead, it’s much more like a roller coaster. There will be ups and downs, so ride them out.

                                            The art of living is to know how to handle whatever comes you way. The best way to achieve this is by developing an iron core that is unhindered by the topsy-turvy outside world.

                                            Final Thoughts

                                            Here I’ve given you 51 different ways to start building self-confidence Take action on the ways that you’re drawn to.

                                            It’s not enough to read about them. For them to work, you must adopt them into your daily life. Do this, and you’ll start to feel your confidence soar.

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