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Why You Should Always Date A Big-Hearted Person

Why You Should Always Date A Big-Hearted Person

Dating isn’t simple. In fact, a lot of people give up on love because of all the heartbreak they’ve been through. However, this doesn’t mean you won’t be able to find the right person for you. You just need to choose someone who is actually worth all your care and attention.

When it comes to finding the right person to date, you should always go for someone with a big-heart. In this context, big-hearted means compassionate, thoughtful, kind, and patient. It’s not easy to find someone with these traits, but once you do find that person, here are the reasons why you should never let them go.

1. Their big heart can be contagious.

See their warm, friendly smile? Chances are you’ll catch the smile virus from your partner. They will emit a positive aura that will make you want to be nicer, sweeter, and more considerate to everyone around you. They bring out the best in you because of their kindness.

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2. They will always do things to make you appreciate them.

They took a two-hour drive to meet with you even though it’s a Tuesday and they have tons of work to do. You didn’t force them, but they know you need them tonight. Perhaps they even brought some ice cream and Nutella to make you smile. Oh, the little things that make your heart melt!

3. They are level-headed during arguments.

Because they are so calm and mature, it’s easier for the two of you to talk about your issues and misunderstandings. There’s no need for shouting or fist fights. They will let you talk and will also explain the other side, and you’ll end up knowing a little more about each other, which only strengthens your bond.

4. They will always make you feel special.

On special occasions, they prepare something really nice and surprising. It doesn’t have to be expensive or anything, but they will always make you feel like the most important person in the world. They might even give you a dazzling pearl necklace for your anniversary or take you on a cruise for your birthday.

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5. They will understand and support you.

They have dreams, but they know you have dreams, too. They won’t stop you from reaching for your goals and aspirations in life. They may also be the one who keeps pushing you to succeed. They know that sometimes, you will have to make big decisions that aren’t always in line with their own desires. They will understand, especially if it’s something you’ve wanted all your life, even before you met them. They will always support you and encourage you to do your best.

6. They can get along with your family.

They are respectful, humble, and they really do care about your family. Your parents approve of them and they treat your siblings like their own. They know that hurting you will hurt your family too, so they always want to make you happy. They respect your traditions and participate in family affairs.

7. They will give you time with your friends.

They go out with their own friends every now and then, so they understand the value of friendship. This is why they also don’t mind when you go out with your own friends and unwind. They know that your friends are a big part of your life, and will never do anything to compromise your relationships with them.

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8. They have a bigger capacity for commitment.

One of the biggest reasons why people are unable to commit to a longterm relationship is because they’re too afraid to be responsible for other people’s lives and emotions. A big-hearted person knows that when you give your heart, it’s not to be trampled or played with, and they will do their best to handle it with care.

9. They don’t judge.

You have some beliefs and principles that aren’t exactly the same as their own, but they don’t force their own views on you. They know where you’re coming from and don’t judge your roots or background. They are willing to set aside your differences to have a peaceful relationship.

10. They will accept and love you for who you are.

Yes, you have a lot of imperfections. And yes, you have a lot of insecurities. But, a big-hearted person won’t care about those. So what if your hair isn’t straight and flowing like the models on TV? And maybe your waist isn’t as small as it used to be. You may feel like you’re not attractive anymore, but they will always show you how amazing you really are.

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When you find that big-hearted person who will really show you the meaning of love, don’t ever let them go. Show them your appreciation and do your best to reciprocate their care and kindness. That way, you will both be happy and satisfied with your relationship.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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