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7 Habits You Must Build To Be Wealthy

7 Habits You Must Build To Be Wealthy

So, you want to be wealthy? That is definitely on the agenda for you. And yet, you are not quite there, are you? And you keep wondering when your time will come or maybe, you are beginning to think, you just won’t get there. Are you lacking something? Were you not born into the right family? Is there some trait you are just not aware of, yet? Why not you?

It gets like this at times, doesn’t it? The voice in your head gets a little louder and you begin to despair and wonder when your time is going to come. You are following the rules or so you think but maybe you are missing some of the habits. They seem too soft; they seem too unnecessary because you are looking for something solid to hang onto. A tip, a trick, a technique, a business hack that will turn everything around when you implement it but the truth is, my friend, that most of your success is going to come as a result of a few key habits that you implement and here is a starting point for you, if getting rich is to be a certainty in your life.

1. You Must Be Consistent

Too many wannabe wealthy people think that things have to work immediately, within three seconds, if they are ever going to work. So, they learn a new way to promote their business, they implement it for the said three seconds (a slight exaggeration!) and then they wait for the riches to pour in and then, nothing happens so they stop and change direction or quit.

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Getting rich happens when you stay on path for a long period of time. It happens when you realise that it is the day in, day out consistent following of a plan that gets you to your goal. Regardless of what the media may say, there are no overnight successes, there is only someone who consistently put one foot in front of the other daily, with eyes focused on the goal for as long as it took to get where they set out to go.You can be that person, too.

2. You must have boundaries

How much of your time is currently spent satisfying the needs and desires of the people in your world who do not have the same mission as you? How much time do you spend (and I must be blunt) people-pleasing? So much time is spent by the vast majority of people, keeping everyone happy. And it is usually at the expense of their own dreams, their own calling and mission. If you do want to be wealthy then you need to build the habit of controlling the access that other people have to you and this matters whether they are loved ones or customers or whoever.

Of course, there will be varying levels of access with a few key intimate family or friend relationships but overall, understand you are on a mission and therefore, you cannot spend all your time trying to be liked. Your goal is to serve as many people as possible, not please them. So, be a person with boundaries.

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3. You must get around like-minded people

How on earth are you going to create wealth and get rich if you and everyone around you is more likely to think that ‘lack’ is a normal way of life? Yes, you may have been brought up in an environment where most people lived a bland life. Yes, they may have assumed that they would get a job and stay in that job, just about getting by, until they died. However, if you have decided that you are going to get wealthy, then it is time to seek out a new crowd.

You become like the people you hang out with. So, again, in addition to having boundaries when it comes to certain people, dare to uplevel the relationships in your life. Choose to get around people who think it is normal to succeed. Let their thinking seep into your mind and heart and let it become your norm, too. You can be, do and have whatever you want and it helps to be surrounded by others who believe the same.

4. You must invest in your personal growth

Do you understand that you are your greatest asset? Whatever you invest in yourself, is not an expense, it literally is an asset and will continually produce results for you, time and time again. The books you read, the courses you attend, the coaching you get, all have the ability to accelerate your speed to becoming wealthy. Do not be one of those people who think that every teacher, coach, mentor out there is just trying to scam you. That is a poverty mindset. Every learning experience is just that, a learning experience. It is you, the student, who chooses what you take out of the experience. Implement Kaizen – the practice of continuous improvement.

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5. You must get comfortable with being uncomfortable

If it were possible to be wealthy while doing only the things that come easy and are comfortable to you, then you would already be rich. Form a habit of expanding yourself. Form a habit of stretching yourself by taking on more things that you normally wouldn’t do. Of course, be wise about this but do not be content to remain the same, unchallenged and unprovoked. It gets you nowhere fast. Instead, choose to do the things that you avoid. Choose to try a whole lot of new things in order to see what will actually work for you.Get comfortable with the uncomfortable.

6. You must get a journal

Yes, I am prejudiced about this. I think everyone should have a written journal – a place to record one’s thoughts, one’s desires, one’s crazy feelings and more. A safe place to peel off the layers and discover what is really going on beneath the hood. Yes, I do think you must have one. And more than that, you must get into the habit of writing in it daily, preferably during a form of quiet time first thing in the morning. I am being prescriptive, I know and yet, it will help you accelerate your personal growth. The daily routine of writing in the journal will keep you clear, keep you aware and keep you on track. The main key here is to raise your awareness. You cannot get rich and wealthy while living a passive, ‘whatever comes’, life. Get Deliberate.

7. You must believe you can do only what you love

A big obstacle for a lot of wannabe wealthy people is the thought that the only pathway to wealth is to be someone they don’t like, do things they don’t want to do and yes, they get to have it all but the cost seems too high. And, of course, it is. And yet, most of the people who do create vast amounts of wealth are not doing it while doing things they hate to do. There may be areas of their business that they dislike and mostly, they outsource those bits. Overall, those with true wealth enjoy their business and enjoy who they are. And for those who don’t, they tend to self-sabotage. We see this all the time in the media. To end this article, you must see that you always get what you expect to get, so if you expect wealth and getting rich to mean you must be someone you don’t like, you will not allow yourself to succeed.

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Why not choose to believe and take actions that align with who you want to be as a rich, wealthy person? Little by little, stop doing the things you do not enjoy and begin doing more of what you love.

Choose to create a life and a business you want, because you can.

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Last Updated on March 21, 2019

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

Most gurus talk about habits in a way that doesn’t help you:

You need to push yourself more. You can’t be lazy. You need to wake up at 5 am. You need more motivation. You can never fail…blah blah “insert more gibberish here.”

But let me share with you the unconventional truths I found out:

To build and change habits, you don’t need motivation or wake up at 5 am. Heck, you can fail multiple times, be lazy, have no motivation and still pull it off with ease.

It’s quite simple and easy to do, especially with the following list I’m going to show to you. But remember, Jim Rohn used to say,

“What is simple and easy to do is also simple and easy not to do.”

The important things to remember when changing your habits are both simple and easy, just don’t think that they don’t make any difference because they do.

In fact, they are the only things that make a difference.

Let’s see what those small things are, shall we?

1. Start Small

The biggest mistake I see people doing with habits is by going big. You don’t go big…ever. You start small with your habits.

Want to grow a book reading habit? Don’t start reading a book a day. Start with 10 pages a day.

Want to become a writer? Don’t start writing 10,000 words a day. Start with 300 words.

Want to lose weight? Don’t stop eating ice cream. Eat one less ball of it.

Whatever it is, you need to start small. Starting big always leads to failure. It has to, because it’s not sustainable.

Start small. How small? The amount needs to be in your comfort zone. So if you think that reading 20 pages of a book is a bit too much, start with 10 or 5.

It needs to appear easy and be easy to do.

Do less today to do more in a year.

2. Stay Small

There is a notion of Kaizen which means continuous improvement. They use this notion in habits where they tell you to start with reading 1 page of a book a day and then gradually increase the amount you do over time.

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But the problem with this approach is the end line — where the “improvement” stops.

If I go from reading 1 page of a book a day and gradually reach 75 and 100, when do I stop? When I reach 1 book a day? That is just absurd.

When you start a habit, stay at it in the intensity you have decided. Don’t push yourself for more.

I started reading 20 pages of a book a day. It’s been more than 2 years now and I’ve read 101 books in that period. There is no way I will increase the number in the future.

Why?

Because reading 40 to 50 books a year is enough.

The same thing applies to every other habit out there.

Pick a (small) number and stay at it.

3. Bad Days Are 100 Percent Occurrence

No matter how great you are, you will have bad days where you won’t do your habit. Period.

There is no way of going around this. So it’s better to prepare yourself for when that happens instead of thinking that it won’t ever happen.

What I do when I miss a day of my habit(s) is that I try to bounce back the next day while trying to do habits for both of those days.

Example for that is if I read 20 pages of a book a day and I miss a day, the next day I will have to read 40 pages of a book. If I miss writing 500 words, the next day I need to write 1000.

This is a really important point we will discuss later on rewards and punishments.

This is how I prepare for the bad days when I skip my habit(s) and it’s a model you should take as well.

4. Those Who Track It, Hack It

When you track an activity, you can objectively tell what you did in the past days, weeks, months, and years. If you don’t track, you will for sure forget everything you did.

There are many different ways you can track your activities today, from Habitica to a simple Excel sheet that I use, to even a Whatsapp Tracker.

Peter Drucker said,

“What you track is what you do.”

So track it to do it — it really helps.

But tracking is accompanied by one more easy activity — measuring.

5. Measure Once, Do Twice

Peter Drucker also said,

“What you measure is what you improve.”

So alongside my tracker, I have numbers with which I measure doses of daily activities:

For reading, it’s 20 pages.
For writing, it’s 500 words.
For the gym, it’s 1 (I went) or 0 (didn’t go).
For budgeting, it’s writing down the incomes and expenses.

Tracking and measuring go hand in hand, they take less than 20 seconds a day but they create so much momentum that it’s unbelievable.

6. All Days Make a Difference

Will one day in the gym make you fit? It won’t.

Will two? They won’t.

Will three? They won’t.

Which means that a single gym session won’t make you fit. But after 100 gym sessions, you will look and feel fit.

What happened? Which one made you fit?

The answer to this (Sorites paradox)[1] is that no single gym session made you fit, they all did.

No single day makes a difference, but when combined, they all do. So trust the process and keep on going (small).

7. They Are Never Fully Automated

Gurus tell you that habits become automatic. And yes, some of them do, like showering a certain way of brushing your teeth.

But some habits don’t become automatic, they become a lifestyle.

What I mean by that is that you won’t automatically “wake up” in the gym and wonder how you got there.

It will just become a part of your lifestyle.

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The difference is that you do the first one automatically, without conscious thought, while the other is a part of how you live your life.

It’s not automatic, but it’s a decision you don’t ponder on or think about — you simply do it.

It will become easy at a certain point, but they will never become fully automated.

8. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There

Marshall Goldsmith has a great book with the same title to it. The phrase means that sometimes, you will need to ditch certain habits to make room for other ones which will bring you to the next step.

Don’t be afraid to evolve your habits when you sense that they don’t bring you where you want to go.

When I started reading, it was about reading business and tactic books. But two years into it, I switched to philosophy books which don’t teach me anything “applicable,” but instead teach me how to think.

The most important ability of the 21st century is the ability to learn, unlearn, and relearn. The strongest tree is the willow tree – not because it has the strongest root or biggest trunk, but because it is flexible enough to endure and sustain anything.

Be like a willow, adapting to the new ways of doing things.

9. Set a Goal and Then Forget It

The most successful of us know what they want to achieve, but they don’t focus on it.

Sounds paradoxical? You’re right, it does. But here is the logic behind it.

You need to have a goal of doing something – “I want to become a healthy individual” – and then, you need to reverse engineer how to get there with your habits- “I will go to the gym four times a week.”

But once you have your goal, you need to “forget” about it and only focus on the process. Because you are working on the process of becoming healthy and it’s always in the making. You will only be as healthy as you take care of your body.

So you have a goal which isn’t static but keeps on moving.

If you went to the gym 150 times year and you hit your goal, what would you do then? You would stop going to the gym.

This is why goal-oriented people experience yo-yo effect[2] and why process-oriented people don’t.

The difference between process-oriented and goal-oriented people is that the first focus on daily actions while others only focus on the reward at the finish line.

Set a goal but then forget about it and reap massive awards.

10. Punish Yourself

Last two sections are pure Pavlovian – you need to punish bad behavior and reward good behavior. You are the only person who decides what is good and what is bad for you, but when you do, you need to rigorously follow that.

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I’ve told you in point #3 about bad days and how after one occurs, I do double the work on the next day. That is one of my forms of punishments.

It’s the need to tell your brain that certain behaviors are unacceptable and that they lead to bad outcomes. That’s what punishments are for.

You want to tell your brain that there are real consequences to missing your daily habits.[3]

No favorite food to eat or favorite show to watch or going to the cinema for a new Marvel movie- none, zero, zilch.

The brain will remember these bad feelings and will try to avoid the behaviors that led to them as much as possible.

But don’t forget the other side of the same coin.

11. Reward Yourself

When you follow and execute on your plan, reward yourself. It’s how the brain knows that you did something good.

Whenever I finish one of my habits for the day, I open my tracker (who am I kidding, I always keep it open on my desktop) and fill it with a number. As soon as I finish reading 20 pages of a book a day (or a bit more), I open the tracker and write the number down.

The cell becomes green and gives me an instant boost of endorphin – a great success for the day. Then, it becomes all about not breaking the chain and having as many green fields as possible.

After 100 days, I crunch some numbers and see how I did.

If I have less than 10 cheat days, I reward myself with a great meal in a restaurant. You can create your own rewards and they can be daily, weekly, monthly or any arbitrary time table that you create.

Primoz Bozic, a productivity coach, has gold, silver, and bronze medals as his reward system.[4]

If you’re having problems creating a system which works for you, contact me via email and we can discuss specifics.

In the End, It Matters

What you do matters not only to you but to the people around you.

When you increase the quality of your life, you indirectly increase the quality of life of people around you. And sometimes, that is all the “motivation” we need to start.

And that’s the best quote for the end of this article:

“Motivation gets you started, but habits keep you going.”

Keep going.

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Reference

[1] Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy: Sorites paradox
[2] Muscle Zone: What causes yo-yo effect and how to avoid it?
[3] Growth Habits: 5 Missteps That Cause You To Quit Building A Habit
[4] Primoz Bozic: The Lean Review: How to Plan Your 2019 in 20 Minutes

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