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Labor: How Does Giving Birth Actually Feel?

Labor: How Does Giving Birth Actually Feel?

Being pregnant is a wonderful experience, and you are overwhelmed with joy while waiting to hold your baby for the first time. All the people say that you look beautiful and are glowing, but women who have never been pregnant, and men who haven’t had a pregnant partner, don’t know how everything will go throughout the process. You sweat most of the time, your feet are swollen, and if you have entered the ninth month, you can’t wait to give birth. If this is your first child, get ready to learn how it feels to actually give birth.

1. Types of pains during contractions

The type and intensity of pain is completely individual. It may be similar, but never the same, as everyone experiences pain differently. From cramping to stabbing, the pain of contractions can be categorized in three points, but the intensity and areas of pain are always different.

  • Cramps

“My contractions were like menstrual cramps on steroids”

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Many mothers say that the pain they were feeling during contractions were like cramps during menstruation, gas, or a stomach flu. Except, it wasn’t the types of pain we are used to normally, but an extreme version of them. If you thought your menstruation cramps are the worst pain you’ve ever experienced, you were definitely wrong.

  • Punching

“Each contraction felt like getting punched in the stomach – the type of punch that knocks all the air out of you.”

Another type of pain, usually described by mothers, is punching. They all described feeling like they are punched in the stomach or back.

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  • Stabbing

“It was like someone took a serrated knife and stabbed me in the top of my stomach, slowly, slowly sawed downward to my pubic bone, and then stopped for a few minutes and started all over again.”

This is probably the worst pain you can experience during contractions. The experience is extremely painful, uncomfortable and unpleasant.

2. Pressure and pushing

“You feel like you want to poop really bad, and there’s some pressure pushing down.”

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During labor, almost all women feel pressure in the vagina and stomach. This pressure is felt before the pushing stage and the best way to describe this rather unpleasant feeling is by comparing it to pooping. Lots of women felt like they were pooping.

“I had deep waves of intense pain up until I was able to push. Then the pain became part of the background noise, as though I was in an altered state.” 

When it comes to pushing, there are two types of answers. While some women felt a huge pain, and like they are about to poop, other women felt it like a relief, as all the pain was alleviated when the pushing started.

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3. Pushing leads to total exhaustion

“It was a lot of physical work, kind of like doing weight training at the gym with heavy weights”

When contractions start you cannot think of anything else, except for focusing on bearing the pain. Then you feel a lot of pressure, and you come to the pushing stage, where you start to use all of your energy. As some labors can even last beyond 24 hours, you start to feel exhausted and you just cannot think or do anything, but fall asleep.

4. Giving birth is actually a magical experience

“Emotionally, it was amazing. Many people say the pain disappears once your child is in your arms, and they’re right!”

Labor times average 8 hours but in some cases it can last shorter or even longer. During contractions you feel immense pain, and when your cervix has dilated to 10 cm, you need to keep pushing for about one or two hours. Giving birth is a magnificent experience and cannot be compared to anything else. Also, this unique experience differs from person to person, and can never be the same.

However, one thing is the same, and that is the feeling when you hold your baby for the first time. That moment, you stop thinking about everything, and the pain you felt is already forgotten. Every woman says that it is the worst pain imaginable, and the whole pregnancy is far from magical, but that they would go through the same ordeal all over again, because nothing compares to the feeling you get when you look at your newborn baby. The best description of that feeling would be ultimate happiness.

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Published on April 9, 2021

50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

Being a mom is not easy. Being a single mom is even more challenging. Having children means you are on the job 24/7. Even while you are sleeping, you are still ready to wake at the slightest peep because that is what moms do.

Moms, especially single moms, need more people cheering them on. Your love and care matter to your kids. You are their superhero. I think single moms are superheroes, too.

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The quotes below are words of encouragement for all of the single moms out there. Keep up the great work! Your hard work will pay off. Someday, they will be grown up and living on their own. Your job will never truly be done as a mom, but you can pat yourself on the back today and every day for doing mom duty day in and day out.

Here are 50 single mom quotes to encourage all the single moms out there.

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  1. “Being raised by a single mother, I learned to appreciate and value independent women.”—Kenny Conley
  2. “As a single mum you’ll discover inner strengths and capabilities you never knew you had.”—Emma-Louise Smith
  3. “One thing I know for sure – this motherhood thing is not for sissies.”—Jennifer Nettles
  4. “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.”—Gail Tsukiyama
  5. “And one day she discovered that she was fierce and strong, and full of fire and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”—Mark Anthony
  6. “She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along.”—Margaret Culkin Banning
  7. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”—Alice Walker
  8. “Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is.”—Anne Frank
  9. “Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”—Jennifer Lopez
  10. “You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.”—Melissa Etheridge
  11. “Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”—Ricki Lake
  12. “You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.”—Jennie Finch
  13. “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”—Oprah Winfrey
  14. “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”—Charlotte Brontë
  15. “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”—Nora Ephron
  16. “When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”—Diane Von Furstenberg
  17. “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”—Margaret Thatcher
  18. “Women have discovered that they cannot rely on men’s chivalry to give them justice.”—Helen Keller
  19. “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.”—Sharon Jaynes
  20. “Success, they taught me, is built on the foundation of courage, hard work, and individual responsibility. Despite what some would have us believe, success is not built on resentment and fears.”—Susana Martinez
  21. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”—Maya Angelou
  22. “The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”—Ayn Rand
  23. “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.”—Rudyard Kipling
  24. “The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because stuff worked out. They got that way because stuff went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”—Elizabeth Gilbert
  25. “There will be so many times you feel like you failed. But in the eyes, ears, and mind of your child, you are a SUPER MOM.”—Stephanie Precourt
  26. “Motherhood is the ultimate call to sacrifice.”—Wangechi Mutu
  27. “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”—Maya Angelou
  28. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
  29. “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”—Jill Churchill
  30. “There’s no doubt that motherhood is the best thing in my life. It’s all that really matters.”—Courtney Cox
  31. “I realized when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”—Mitch Albom
  32. “I have found being a mother has made me emotionally raw in many situations. Your heart is beating outside your body when you have a baby.”—Kate Beckinsale
  33. “Single moms, you are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.”—Mandy Hale
  34. “I’m not really single. I mean, I am, but I have a son. Being a single mother is different from being a single woman.”—Kate Hudson
  35. “Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride.”—Unknown
  36. “For me, motherhood is learning about the strengths I didn’t know I had, and dealing with the fears I didn’t know existed.”—Halle Berry
  37. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things… a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Denice Williams
  38. “You do the best you can. Some days you feel really good about yourself and some days you don’t.”—Katie Holmes
  39. “I would say to any single parent currently feeling the weight of stereotype or stigmatization that I am prouder of my years as a single mother than of any other part of my life.”JK Rowling
  40. “Just because I am a single mother doesn’t mean I cannot be a success.”—Yvonne Kaloki
  41. “I didn’t plan on being a single mom, but you have to deal with the cards you are dealt the best way you can.”—Tichina Arnold
  42. “Nothing you do for children is ever wasted.”—Garrison Keillor
  43. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things, a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Deniece Williams
  44. “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.”—Meryl Streep
  45. “Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.”—Maria Shriver
  46. “Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.”—Cheryl Lacey Donovan
  47. “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”—Agatha Christie
  48. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
  49. “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”—W.R. Wallace
  50. “Being a mother is the greatest blessing and the hardest challenge in all of life.”—Dr. Magdalena Battles

Final Thoughts

Single moms are remarkable women. They are to be respected and honored for all that they do. If you know a single mom, then share this article with them. Tell them “you are doing a great job as a single mom.” They need our encouragement and support.

They may be parenting alone, but it is good to let them know that there are people in their life who care for them. We can all be there for the single moms out there. Even if it is just to say, “keep up the great work, you are an amazing woman!”

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If you are a single mom, keep up the good work! You are amazing, and your kids are lucky to have you!

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