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Never Give Up: 11 Inspirational Quotes That Motivate You To Overcome Setbacks In Life

Never Give Up: 11 Inspirational Quotes That Motivate You To Overcome Setbacks In Life

Life can go up.

Life can go down.

Things happen.

And on the bad, down days, you wonder if you will find the strength to overcome the setbacks in your life.  The disappointment can be crushing, but this is not the end of your story.  There is more for you and I hope that reading through these quotes will give you the strength to choose to never give up.

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    Reset and Begin Again in the Morning

    Even on the days when it feels like your world has come crashing down around you, remember this: we are gifted with a new morning to start afresh, to begin again. It is a sign of the cycles of life; the dark is always followed by the light of day, and so it is with your trials. Reset and begin again in the morning.

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      Through setbacks, you become stronger.

      I know that this can feel tough to understand when you are going through tough times but understand that you never face anything that you cannot handle. It is as though the universe only provides just enough to stretch you, to cause you to live a little outside of your comfort zone.  You are powerful enough to overcome and you are getting stronger each and every day.

      Watch and see how in a week, a month, or a year, you will look back and wonder why you got so stressed.

      It is because you are stronger.

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        Don’t forget what you are capable of achieving.

        Don’t forget you are powerful beyond measure!

        It may seem silly to think of yourself this way but how does it benefit you to belittle yourself? How does it benefit you to think less of yourself? It may keep you safe for a little while as you hide away from the stresses of daily life but where does that get you? Trapped and stuck in a life you do not even want.

        Instead, expect more, dream more, never wake up from your dreams and choose even in the bad times to hold on to the vision of what you are creating.

        There is more to your story yet.

        One small crack does not mean you are broken,

          Stop thinking that one mistake, or that one setback is a signal of the end.

          It is not!

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          You are still standing – a little bit shaky, a little bit uncertain, but you are still standing.  That shows inner strength and it is something you can build on.

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            There is always a route to triumph, whatever the setback you are facing.

            You have to refuse to give into despair and look for it.  Again, remember that whatever you are facing is within your power to deal with so stay on track, look for the light and keep moving forward.

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              The people who make no mistakes are certainly not the ones that get to live a great life.

              No, they are the ones who do very little and make no impact whatsoever.  Do you want to live a legacy of a life? Then know that mistakes are part of the process. 

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                To add insult to injury, there is always someone sitting on the fence with an opinion about what you should do.

                Surround yourself with positive people and know that those who pull you down are not worth your time.
                One small crack does not mean you are broken, (2)

                  You always get a choice about your next step because it is not a product of what has happened to you, it is a product of the action you choose to take each and every day to become the person you have decided to become.

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                  Are you clear on who that is?
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                    You might think that you have reached the end of your journey, but then, as you choose to take that one extra step, you realize you are more powerful than you have given yourself credit for.

                    That one extra step can be the difference between getting what you want and staying stuck in the same old place. Go on, keep moving forward.

                    Stop Worrying So much about what you feel

                      And for those days when gentle empathy does not work, it is time for a little harsh reality. If you want to change lives, if you want to have an impact on the world, if you want more than you currently have, then there is no time to consider only what you feel like doing!  You have to step up your game, regardless of feelings.

                      Yes, you can!

                      One small crack does not mean you are broken, (3)

                        Remember this: it is consistent action that pays off in the end.

                        Most people spend their days looking out for the results and because the results are slow in coming, they think that what they are doing is ineffective, so they stop.

                        The ones who win are those who can see past today’s results to the coming harvest. They know that everything comes in its right time but you must keep doing the work you need to do today. In time, what you planted will flower.

                        Never, ever give up!

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                        How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

                        How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

                        Many of us feel awkward talking to strangers. I’m a very outgoing person, even though I sometimes feel uncomfortable walking up to someone and asking a question or starting a conversation. I consider myself pretty high up on the extrovert meter. So what is it that makes us pause and become worried or anxious about talking to people we don’t know?

                        In this article, we will discuss why we feel this way as well as some tips on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

                        Step right up, don’t be shy!

                        Why We Feel Awkward Talking to Strangers

                        The next time you feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger, tell yourself that’s completely normal. There are numerous reasons why it’s actually natural to feel awkward talking to strangers:

                        Our Stress Levels Rise Around Strangers

                        Numerous studies have show that our levels of cortisol go up when we are around strangers.[1] Cortisol is the hormone inside of us which produces stress responses.[2]
                        So there you go, right off the bat you can see part of your standard response to strangers is due to a chemical reaction!

                        A very interesting by product of increased cortisol is that it makes us less empathetic. More than likely this can be traced to our evolution. The increase in the cortisol and the corresponding decrease in empathy makes us want to stay away from strangers. We are biologically wired to feel concern around strangers.

                        Evolution Taught Us to Be Wary

                        Evolution has also taught us to be wary of strangers in general. Humans as a whole have spent a large chunk of their history banded together in small protective groups. We did this in order to help protect each other and maximize resources.

                        When you think about it in this context, outsiders to our small groups or strangers are considered potential threats. Fear of strangers is common across almost all human cultures.

                        Culturally Conditioned

                        We can also thank our society for helping us feel uncomfortable and sometimes afraid of strangers. The term “stranger danger” is something most of us can relate to either growing up or raising kids. Or both.

                        I remember hearing this from my parents, mostly about not getting in someone’s car I didn’t know. And as the father of 2 teenage girls, you can be sure I’ve talked to them about this very concept more times that they want to hear.

                        The thought that strangers can be dangerous is built into us as it is. Toss in the amplification of the media on strangers doing things such as kidnapping kids and it takes it to an even higher level.

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                        Now that we’ve reviewed some of the reasons why we are nervous, let’s look at why you should talk to strangers more.

                        Benefits of Getting over the Awkwardness

                        Let’s take a quick look at some of the advantages of how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward. These are some high level benefits of talking to strangers.

                        1. Broadens Your Network

                        After you talk to someone, you didn’t know previously they become someone you know at least a little bit. This alone helps broaden your network of people you know. This is helpful in many ways whether it is work related or socially related.

                        2. Improves Your Communication Skills

                        I am a huge proponent of the value of solid communication skills and have written about it often. The more you talk to people, especially people you don’t know, the better your communication skills become.

                        Interacting with a wider variety of people will bring the added benefit of improving your communication skills.

                        3. Continually Learning

                        So many of us don’t actively seek to learn new things. This is one of the primary keys to staying engaged in life and our own personal self fulfillment.

                        Almost every time I speak to someone I didn’t know previously, I’ve learned something new. When we speak to strangers, it pushes us out of our comfort zones and we tend to learn new things.

                        4. Increases Self Confidence

                        Every time we learn to do something we were previously anxious about, we feel better about ourselves.

                        Forcing ourselves to talk to strangers will lead to increased self confidence. As we get more and more comfortable doing something that previously made us feel awkward, our self confidence will go up and up.

                        So, how to talk to strangers to reap these benefits?

                        How to Talk to Strangers

                        Here are some tips to on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

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                        1. Say Hello

                        Putting “say hello” first may seem a bit obvious but let’s take a deeper look. Much of the social awkwardness when speaking to strangers is simply breaking the ice. The first words that will engage someone.

                        Most people will respond when someone says hello or hi to them. And those that don’t, you probably don’t want to talk to anyway.

                        Practice being the person that opens the door to a conversation. Say hello.

                        2. Ask About Them

                        Something that I have noticed over the years is that people love to talk about themselves. Even fairly private people tend to open up when asked about events in their lives.

                        You can ask leading questions that get people to talk about themselves and recent events. Things like recent movies watched or the summer vacation are great to get someone talking.

                        As a father, I also know that people love to talk about their kids. Asking about kids is a fairly easy topic to bring up and in general, most people will expound upon all the great things their kids do or are involved with.

                        3. Just Do It

                        One of the biggest reasons we don’t do things we want to or know we should is because we overthink it. Quit thinking about it so much and just do it.

                        When you give yourself the time to analyze every little angle about a situation, you also give plenty of time to talk yourself out of it. You’ll wind up thinking what if this happens or what if that happens.

                        Try to force yourself to jump right in without thinking about it too much. Whenever I have done this, I always feel great about it afterwards, no matter how it turned out.

                        4. Don’t Take It Personal

                        One of the greatest lessons in life I ever learned was don’t take anything personally. We all go through life with our own sets of experiences and see things through our own lens. The way people react to different situations has almost nothing to do with us. It has to do with previous experiences and the way people feel about things other than us.

                        When someone’s reaction isn’t what you’d hoped or expected, chances are it has nothing to do with you. Remember that and keep it in context.

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                        5. Get a Chuckle If Possible

                        I used the word chuckle purposely because it makes me laugh. In my opinion, it’s one of those funny words. We all like to laugh because it makes us feel good. And when someone makes us laugh, we typically remember those people in a positive light.

                        One of the best ways to make a conversation easy and free flowing is to get some laughter going. It doesn’t mean you have to be the master joke teller or anything. See if you can work in a way to make the person you are talking to get a smile or some laughter in. In fact, laughing at yourself maybe a nice try.

                        6. Detach

                        A great feeling is when you don’t mind which way something turns out, that you will be fine no matter what happens. Kind of like when I watch my two favorite football teams play against each other. I don’t really care who wins, I just want a fun game.

                        Treat talking to strangers the same way. You don’t really care how the conversation goes because you are detaching from the outcome. Make it a fun time with yourself and if the conversation goes well, awesome! If not then no big deal, move on.

                        7. Share Your Stories

                        Well, all like to feel connected to other people. And many times we wind up hanging out with people that we have things in common with. No surprise here.

                        To help with how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward, tell stories that have commonalities with the person you are talking to. Kids are an easy one. I have a daughter who was a competitive cheerleader and now plays club volleyball. I have instant connection and stories with strangers I speak with who have kids that play sports. It’s easy to relate to.

                        So when you are speaking to a stranger and you have a story or mutual connection point, bring it up.

                        8. Give a Compliment

                        Almost everyone likes hearing a compliment, whether they admit to it or not. As a general rule, we don’t give out enough compliments. It’s amazing how one small remark someone tosses your way about how good you look can literally make your entire day.

                        When you are speaking with someone you don’t know, see if you can work a compliment in. Nothing creepy here. Not a good idea to tell someone you just met that they are the prettiest or handsomest person you ever met. However, if you can share how you like their tattoo or shoes or something like that, it will help put the conversation into an easy going, smiling place.

                        9. Relax Your Body Language

                        If you go into a situation all worried and nervous, it shows on your body. Your shoulders are tensed up, there’s a look of consternation on your face, things like that.

                        When you engage a stranger in conversation, make it a point to relax your body language. Take a deep breath before you engage the person, let your body relax, and put a smile on your face. This will help relax you and it has the added benefit of putting the other person more at ease.

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                        If they see that you are relaxed, it helps them relax. Plus having open, engaging body language is very conducive to inviting someone to open up into a conversation with you.

                        10. Practice, Practice, Practice

                        Like everything else in life, talking to strangers gets easier with practice. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

                        Make it a point to talk to several strangers each week and it will definitely help you relax as you do it more and more.

                        After a while, it will become something you don’t even think about, you just do it. And that takes all of the awkwardness out of being in these type situations.

                        The Bottom Line

                        As we have seen, it is perfectly natural to feel awkward talking to strangers. We are biologically built that way and we have our own society constantly warning us how dangerous it is. It’s no wonder we feel awkward talking to strangers!

                        There are numerous benefits to learning to be more comfortable talking to strangers. See if you can employ some of the techniques mentioned to learn how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

                        Once you start practicing speaking with strangers more often and utilizing some of the tips, you will become more comfortable doing so. This in turn will lead to a learned new skill and increased self confidence.

                        Remember, everyone you know was a stranger at one time. Now get out there and make some new friends.

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