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This Is What It’s Like To Be Raised By Hipster Parents

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This Is What It’s Like To Be Raised By Hipster Parents

You always knew your parents were different, from the type of music they preferred to the way they dressed. It was normal to be surrounded by artist friends drinking craft beer or fair-trade coffee. When you were younger, you never realized there was actually a title for your parent’s lifestyle. But now you are in the know.

Here are some dead giveaways that you were raised by hipster parents:

1. Your main mode of transportation was a bicycle

Even when your family had a perfectly functional car, most destinations were reached by being strapped to the back of one of your parent’s bikes. Your house was always filled with bumper stickers that supported biking coalitions…and instead of getting a car for your 16th birthday you got a 3-speed.

At least it had a nice horn.

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2. You listened to music that none of your friends’ parents did

There was a constant stream of obscure bands playing in your house at all times. Forget listening to pop or rock music–your parents would never be caught dead with any of those mainstream artists.

Instead, music in your home was like listening to the indie radio station.

3. You lived in a gentrifying neighborhood

The neighborhood you grew up in was labeled as questionable and known for its high rate of crime. After your family moved there, the place went through rapid changes–including the rise of a whole slew of new coffee shops and bars.

4. Your parents got ecstatic when a new Trader Joe’s opened up

The exact day is stamped into your mind, when your parents found out that a Trader Joe’s was the newest addition to your neighborhood. Bring on all the wasabi-flavored snacks and frozen potstickers.

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5. Your parents had unique professions

Maybe your mother was a part-time florist and an artist on the side. Your father managed a coffee shop, but practiced with his band at night. The friends from school had parents with jobs like lawyer or doctor, but your parents wouldn’t be caught dead in a “regular profession.”

“Do what you love, and you’ll never have to work a day in your life,” they would say.

6. You spent a lot of time at the local coffee shop

Lazy Sunday afternoons would consist of bringing a book to a nearby cafe and drinking a hot chocolate (or lemonade if the weather was hot), while your parents drank their coffee and read novels.

You started drinking coffee at a very, very young age.

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7. Your father had facial hair. A lot of it.

You can’t remember a time when your dad wasn’t sporting a mustache or beard (or both). He was already a part of Movemeber, even before it existed.

8. You have a unique name

Forget those common names like Sarah or Ethan; your parents made sure that you had a one-of-a-kind moniker. Maybe Dawn or Sunshine, Dakota or Spirit.

Or your name is most likely from a pop culture reference, as your parents thought it would be cool to have the only kid in the world with such a unique name. Mainly, though, it was an easy way to be made fun of in school.

9. You always had Apple products in your house

Apple products were always abundant. Everyone else had PCs, but you had the Macintosh. As a consequence, you currently possess an iPhone, an iPad and a MacBook and refuse to buy any other brand for your electronics.

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10. You always wore stylish accessories

Since you can remember, your parents made you wear great looking hats, like a slouch beanie or a fedora. You weren’t allowed to leave the house without some type of jewelry–mostly hand made, of course.

And they never forgot the sunglasses. Neither do you.

Featured photo credit: Flickr via flickr.com

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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