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10 Inspiring Life Lessons We Can Learn From Wayne Dyer

10 Inspiring Life Lessons We Can Learn From Wayne Dyer

Dr Wayne W. Dyer was an extremely popular and beloved motivational and spiritual speaker. He has even been heralded as the “father of motivation.” His book Your Erroneous Zones placed him in the public spotlight selling 35 million copies, and since that success he traveled all over the world giving seminars to those who wanted to change their life.

It’s due to Dyer’s work and his efforts to creating a positive impact on the world that millions of people have awakened to their potential. Their lives have prospered, rippling out and influencing positive change in even more lives.

Wayne recently passed away and he viewed death as the next adventure. He has left behind an inspirational legacy and an abundance of lessons we can apply to our lives.

Here are some life lessons to help you get inspired from Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.

1. Self-love is very important

“Don’t equate your self-worth with how well you do things in your life. You aren’t what you do. If you are what you do, then when you don’t, you aren’t.”

“When you trust in yourself, you are trusting in the wisdom that created you.”

“Other people’s opinion of you is none of your business.”

“Remind yourself that you cannot fail at being yourself.”

2. Have an attitude of gratitude towards life

“Giving is the key to forgiving.”

“Each morning, when you open your eyes, think only three things: thank you, thank you, thank you.”

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“Be in a state of gratitude for everything that shows up in your life. Be thankful for the storms as well as smooth sailing.”

“Gratitude is a scared space where you allow and know that a force greater than your ego is always at work and always available.”

3. Your happiness depends on you

“Happiness is not something you get in life. Happiness is something you bring to life.”

“You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now.”

“Remember that your natural state is joy.”

4. Only you can change your life

“If love and joy are what you want to give and receive, change your life by changing what’s inside.”

“Be the change you want to see.”

“How others treat me is their path, how I react is mine.”

“Everyone is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

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“You must be what it is you’re seeking – that is, you need to put forth what you want to attract.”

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”

5. Always treat others with kindness

“This year I will remember that people are more important than things.”

“From thoughts to feelings to behaviors, your entire life shifts away from problems when you find your purpose by giving joy away.”

“See the light in others, and treat them as if that is all you see.”

“When given the choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.”

6. Miracles are right in front of you and happen every day

“Miracles come in moments. Be ready and willing.”

“I am realistic. I expect miracles.”

“Once you believe in yourself and see your soul as divine and precious, you’ll automatically be converted to a being who can create miracles.”

“There is a secret garden where miracles and magic abound, and it’s available to anyone who makes the choice to visit there.”

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“Have in your mind that which would constitute a miracle for you. Get the vision. Suspend disbelief and skepticism. Allow yourself to take the journey toward real magic.”

7. Embrace life and live your dreams as if they were already true

“Never forget that doing what you love is the cornerstone of having success in your life.”

“When you become certain that nothing is impossible for you, you’ll attain everything you desire.”

“The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform you dream into reality.”

8. To find answers we must embrace the beauty of silence

“The reality of life speaks to us in silence.”

“Everything that’s created comes out of the silence. Your thoughts emerge from the nothingness of silence. Your words come out of this void. Your very essence emerged from emptiness.”

“When I embrace silence, I experience miracles.”

9. How you think determines your reality

“You create your thoughts. Your thoughts create your intentions, your intentions create your reality.”

“In every moment of your life, remember that every thought you have impacts you.”

“As you place more and more of your energy on what you intend to manifest, you’ll start seeing those intentions materialising.”

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“Initiate a habit of choosing thoughts and ideas that support feeling good and powerful, and that elevate you to a higher level of consciousness.”

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.”

“Thoughts become things.”

“Our intention creates our reality.”

“The greatest gift you were ever given is your imagination. Within it is the capacity to have all your wishes fulfilled. Look around you. Everything was once in someone’s imagination.”

10. Appreciate and live each day to the fullest

“Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live each day as it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.”

“You’ll seldom experience regret for anything you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you. The message therefore, is clear: Do it! Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savor it.”

“Don’t die with your music still in you.”

“Go for it now. The future is promised to no-one.”

I hope these have inspired you to make the changes to live a happy life full of miracles! If you’d like to read more quotes then this link will take you there.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2019

What Are Interpersonal Skills? Master Them for Better Relationships

What Are Interpersonal Skills? Master Them for Better Relationships

When I wrote my book Extraordinary PR, Ordinary Budget: A Strategy Guide, I was surprised at the various layers of review and editing necessary to get the book to publication. Before I ever submitted the manuscript, I enlisted a former colleague to read and copy edit my work. Then, I submitted my work to an editor at the publisher’s house, and once she approved it, she sent it to her colleagues and then her company’s editorial board.

Upon editorial board approval of my book, my editor sent my work to reviewers in my field, then a developmental editor, then a designer and layout team and, finally, another copy editor. There were a host of personalities with whom I needed to interact along the way.

It turns out that getting a publishing contract was just the beginning – a lot happens between developing a concept, writing the book, finding an agent and publisher, and getting the book on bookshelves or on Audible or Kindle. Through every milestone of the publishing process, my ability to interact with others was crucial. This underscored for me that no matter what or how much a person accomplishes, you never do it alone – everyone needs assistance from others.

While I conceived of the book and wrote the manuscript, there is no way my book could have hit booksellers’ shelves without the dozens of people who were involved in the publishing process. Further, interpersonal skills can propel or stonewall success.

Even as someone who has written hundreds of essays, press releases, pitch notes and other correspondence, writing itself is not a solitary endeavor. Sure, I may write in solitude, but the moment I am finished writing, there are always clients, colleagues, partners, peers and others who review my content.

What is more, even as a published author and contributor for this platform, I try to never submit final copy (content) that has not been copy edited. I send everything to my copy editor, whom I pay out of my own pocket, for her review, edits and approval. Once she has reviewed my work, caught unbeknownst-to-me errors, I am much more confident putting my work out in the world.

How Interpersonal Skills Affect Relationships

It is clearer to me now more than ever before that interpersonal skills are needed in every profession and every trade.

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People don’t elect leaders because the leaders are smart. Individuals are motivated to vote when they have a hero and when they feel they have something to lose. If they seriously dislike the other candidate, they are much more likely vote according to a 2000 Ohio State University study:

“A disliked candidate is seen as a threat, and that will be motivation to go to the polls. But a threat alone isn’t enough – people need to have a hero to vote for, too, in order to inspire them to turn out on Election Day.”

In a work setting, interpersonal skills impact every facet of your development and success. Trainers must collaborate with a design team or the company hiring them to facilitate the training. During the training itself, the facilitators must connect with the audience and establish a rapport that supports vulnerability and openness. If the trainers interact poorly with the trainees, they are unlikely to be invited back. If they are invited back, they may be unlikely to inspire cooperation or growth in their trainees.

Solopreneurs interactions with clients and subcontractors, and those interactions will, in part, support or adversely impact their business. If you enjoy a career as an acclaimed surgeon or respected lawyer, your interactions with patients, clients, health insurance agencies and a team of other practitioners – many of whom are shielded from public view – will improve or decimate your practice.

As a hiring manager, one of the things I consider when interviewing candidates is their interpersonal skills. I assess the interpersonal skills they display in their content and face-to-face presentation. I ask probing questions to learn how they interact with others, manage conflict and contribute to a team atmosphere.

When candidates say things like, “I prefer to work alone” or “I can hit the ground running without assistance,” I bristle. When candidates appear to know everything and everyone, I wonder if they will be receptive to learning or open to feedback. Could these statements be indications that these individuals lack interpersonal skills?

It stands to reason, then, that interpersonal skills are among the most valuable and the bedrock of all talents and skills.

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What are Interpersonal Skills?

Interpersonal skills range from emotional intelligence, empathy, oral and written communication to leadership to collaboration and teamwork.

In sum, interpersonal skills are skills that enable you to interact well with others. They include teachability and receptiveness to feedback, active or mindful listening, self-confidence and conflict resolution.

From a communications standpoint, interpersonal skills are about understanding how colleagues prefer to communicate and then using the appropriate mediums to meet respective needs. It is about understanding how to communicate in a way to get the most out of different people.

For instance, in my career as a public relations practitioner, part of what I am constantly evaluating is which colleagues, clients and members of the media prefer email, text or phone calls. I am assessing how much frill to use with each person depending on what has worked in the past and depending on what I know about the person with whom I am interacting.

Making these decisions and being disciplined enough to follow each person’s known preferences helps me better connect with the various individuals in my orbit. Is this tiring at times? Yes. Is it necessary? Absolutely.

How to Improve Interpersonal Skills

There are tons of resources to teach interpersonal skills. I love books such as Leadership Presence by Belle Linda Halpern and Kathy Lubar, and The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

There are also a host of books and articles on emotional intelligence, which is the ability to manage one’s emotions and perceive and adapt to others’ emotions. Emotional intelligence is likewise a critical component of positive interpersonal relations. You can learn more about it in this article: What Is Emotional Intelligence and Why It Is Important

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Active and mindful listening also support improved interpersonal skills. I recommend you take a look at this piece: Active Listening – A Skill That Everyone Should Master

I have further found that humility helps a ton with interpersonal skills. It takes humility to admit you have more to learn and that you can learn from the people around you. In fact, everyone with whom you interact has a lesson to teach you. And employers are increasingly looking for team members who are lifelong learners, meaning they believe there is always room for growth and professional and personal development.

Forbes contributor Kevin H. Johnson noted in a July 2018 article,

“That’s why, when anyone asks what the next ‘hot’ skill will be, I say it’s the same skill that will serve people today, tomorrow, and far into the future—the ability to learn.”

Don’t overlook introspection.

While interpersonal skills may seem simple enough, introspection is critical to learning where and in what ways you need to grow.

Through introspection and observation, I have learned that my interpersonal skills suffer when I am sleep deprived, because then I am short-tempered and irritable. I’ve observed this connection over a significant period in my life. Unsurprisingly, it is also true of others. Fellow LifeHack contributor, health coach and personal trainer Jamie Logie noted:

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When you are chronically sleep deprived, it really does a number on you. A lack of sleep can keep your body in a constant state of stress and over time this can get pretty ugly. Elevated stress hormones can be involved in creating a bunch of pretty nasty conditions including anxiety, headaches and dizziness, weight gain, depression, stroke, hypertension, digestive disorders, immune system dysfunction, irritability.

Additionally, the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development reported,

“Sleep deprivation can noticeably affect people’s performance, including their ability to think clearly, react quickly, and form memories. Sleep deprivation also affects mood, leading to irritability; problems with relationships, especially for children and teenagers; and depression. Sleep deprivation can also increase anxiety.”

The point is, even as you are identifying ways to improve interpersonal skills, think about what is getting in the way. While sleep deprivation is a trigger for me, your stumbling block may be different.

The Bottom Line

You cannot fix what you do not know is broken. Even as you work to understand and apply interpersonal skills, spend some time in mindful meditation to get clear on what is holding you back from developing solid relationships.

Featured photo credit: Austin Distel via unsplash.com

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