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10 Inspiring Life Lessons We Can Learn From Wayne Dyer

10 Inspiring Life Lessons We Can Learn From Wayne Dyer

Dr Wayne W. Dyer was an extremely popular and beloved motivational and spiritual speaker. He has even been heralded as the “father of motivation.” His book Your Erroneous Zones placed him in the public spotlight selling 35 million copies, and since that success he traveled all over the world giving seminars to those who wanted to change their life.

It’s due to Dyer’s work and his efforts to creating a positive impact on the world that millions of people have awakened to their potential. Their lives have prospered, rippling out and influencing positive change in even more lives.

Wayne recently passed away and he viewed death as the next adventure. He has left behind an inspirational legacy and an abundance of lessons we can apply to our lives.

Here are some life lessons to help you get inspired from Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.

1. Self-love is very important

“Don’t equate your self-worth with how well you do things in your life. You aren’t what you do. If you are what you do, then when you don’t, you aren’t.”

“When you trust in yourself, you are trusting in the wisdom that created you.”

“Other people’s opinion of you is none of your business.”

“Remind yourself that you cannot fail at being yourself.”

2. Have an attitude of gratitude towards life

“Giving is the key to forgiving.”

“Each morning, when you open your eyes, think only three things: thank you, thank you, thank you.”

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“Be in a state of gratitude for everything that shows up in your life. Be thankful for the storms as well as smooth sailing.”

“Gratitude is a scared space where you allow and know that a force greater than your ego is always at work and always available.”

3. Your happiness depends on you

“Happiness is not something you get in life. Happiness is something you bring to life.”

“You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now.”

“Remember that your natural state is joy.”

4. Only you can change your life

“If love and joy are what you want to give and receive, change your life by changing what’s inside.”

“Be the change you want to see.”

“How others treat me is their path, how I react is mine.”

“Everyone is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

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“You must be what it is you’re seeking – that is, you need to put forth what you want to attract.”

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”

5. Always treat others with kindness

“This year I will remember that people are more important than things.”

“From thoughts to feelings to behaviors, your entire life shifts away from problems when you find your purpose by giving joy away.”

“See the light in others, and treat them as if that is all you see.”

“When given the choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.”

6. Miracles are right in front of you and happen every day

“Miracles come in moments. Be ready and willing.”

“I am realistic. I expect miracles.”

“Once you believe in yourself and see your soul as divine and precious, you’ll automatically be converted to a being who can create miracles.”

“There is a secret garden where miracles and magic abound, and it’s available to anyone who makes the choice to visit there.”

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“Have in your mind that which would constitute a miracle for you. Get the vision. Suspend disbelief and skepticism. Allow yourself to take the journey toward real magic.”

7. Embrace life and live your dreams as if they were already true

“Never forget that doing what you love is the cornerstone of having success in your life.”

“When you become certain that nothing is impossible for you, you’ll attain everything you desire.”

“The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform you dream into reality.”

8. To find answers we must embrace the beauty of silence

“The reality of life speaks to us in silence.”

“Everything that’s created comes out of the silence. Your thoughts emerge from the nothingness of silence. Your words come out of this void. Your very essence emerged from emptiness.”

“When I embrace silence, I experience miracles.”

9. How you think determines your reality

“You create your thoughts. Your thoughts create your intentions, your intentions create your reality.”

“In every moment of your life, remember that every thought you have impacts you.”

“As you place more and more of your energy on what you intend to manifest, you’ll start seeing those intentions materialising.”

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“Initiate a habit of choosing thoughts and ideas that support feeling good and powerful, and that elevate you to a higher level of consciousness.”

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.”

“Thoughts become things.”

“Our intention creates our reality.”

“The greatest gift you were ever given is your imagination. Within it is the capacity to have all your wishes fulfilled. Look around you. Everything was once in someone’s imagination.”

10. Appreciate and live each day to the fullest

“Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live each day as it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.”

“You’ll seldom experience regret for anything you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you. The message therefore, is clear: Do it! Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savor it.”

“Don’t die with your music still in you.”

“Go for it now. The future is promised to no-one.”

I hope these have inspired you to make the changes to live a happy life full of miracles! If you’d like to read more quotes then this link will take you there.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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