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6 Struggles Only People With A Natural Poker Face Understand

6 Struggles Only People With A Natural Poker Face Understand

Anybody watching this summer’s season of Big Brother? If you are, then you’d know that the person currently running the house (at least at the time of this article) is professional poker player, Vanessa. And if you looked up “natural poker face” in the dictionary, you’d probably see her mug staring back at you.

But seriously, what’s a “natural poker face,” you ask? Well, it’s basically the gender neutral version of “resting bitch face.” So if you’re somebody who tends to have a blank, emotionless, slightly annoyed-looking expression on your face at all times, you too are likely afflicted by this condition. But don’t worry – you definitely aren’t the only one!

What kinds of struggles do people like this suffer through on a daily basis? Read on to find out!

1. You are constantly asked if you’re unhappy.

This is probably the most common thing you’ll be asked. And the answer is almost always, despite what your expression might suggest, a resounding NO

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The ironic thing is that the more you’re asked this question, the more unhappy you actually become!

2. People think you are mocking them.

Let’s say someone tells you a joke. You think it’s super funny, but because of how your face works, they can’t tell. Usually you’ll have to actually say something like, “wow that was hilarious,” in order to reassure them that you do truly enjoy their sense of humor.

3. You rarely have people approach you.

You could be the most good looking person in the world, and it wouldn’t matter. With your natural poker face, few will find the courage to approach you unless you make the first move.

This can of course have its pros and cons. If you are more introverted, you might enjoy the peace and quiet. But if you are a bubbly, extroverted type, you’ll have to work extra hard to ensure that your face doesn’t revert to its natural expression.

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4. People will think you’re demanding.

Most folks with a natural poker face look pretty intense, even when they’re saying the most mundane things. For example, let’s say you’re doing a group project and you’re ordered to lead it. When you give out instructions, you’ll look almost dictatorial when you’re doling out orders, despite the fact that that’s not what you intended at all.

This means you’ll have to be super careful if you’re ever in a position of power, as folks might get the wrong idea. And for most, it helps to act super cheerful in those situations.

This is because your version of the “super cheerful” expression will look like a standard “happy expression” to most normal folks.

5. You will be judged (unfairly) a lot of the time.

Despite the fact that people with this permanently bored or annoyed expression are usually too busy mulling over their own thoughts to notice those around them, they’ll still be accused of looking like they’re “judging” other people.

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Which is kind of ironic, because by accusing you of being judgmental (due to your expression), others are being judgmental themselves.

6. You have to load up on caffeine whenever you want to be social.

Sometimes, in order to give yourself a boost and dispel some of that permanent poker face, indulging in a few cups of coffee do the trick. This will deter your co-workers or classmates from asking if you’re alright or if you’re having a bad day.

The moral of the story is that sometimes you’ll need a little help when navigating the social playing field. For some, that help comes in the form of caffeine, but you might have another trick up your sleeve.

Because sometimes caffeine can result in that fun little setback of a caffeine crash, save that trick for important situations, like when you’re with good friends or out on a date. At all other times, folks will just have to learn to love the expression you were born with.

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Have a funny story that involves your naturally smoldering expression? Let us know in the comments below!

Featured photo credit: Annoyed/Cristiano Betta via flic.kr

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Last Updated on March 25, 2020

How to Crush Your Lack of Motivation and Always Stay Motivated

How to Crush Your Lack of Motivation and Always Stay Motivated

How many times have you not achieved your goals and let yourself down due to your lack of motivation? When you’re not wallowing in sadness and self-pity, you are too busy procrastinating till you can’t anymore and before you know it, you are part of vicious cycle of anxiety and stress.

Whether it’s losing weight or bringing your business to fruition – motivation is essential for growth and success in every sphere of our lives.

That said, it is not easy staying motivated. In order to constantly stay motivated, you need to take ownership of your life and consciously make efforts in that direction.

Well, it’s never too late to take matters in your hands and change the course of your life. Here are 11 effective ways to crush your lack of motivation and always stay motivated:

1. Write Your Goals

The power of writing goals down has always been underestimated. Why write when you can remember, right? Wrong.

Our thoughts are all over the place and the first step to achieve your goals is to organize your thoughts. So, write your goals down, however big or small they might be. Make them as specific as possible and assign deadlines to each of them.

As you write them down and revisit them regularly, they get further drilled in your head, taking you closer to your goals. Doing this small exercise helps you to remain focused, motivated and lets you track your progress with ease.

Start today – take to your laptop or a diary and get down to writing what you wish to achieve in life.

2. Beat Procrastination

Your lack of motivation and procrastination go hand in hand. Every time you procrastinate, your motivation levels take a greater hit. The only way to bring an end to this loop is to stop procrastinating.

Next time you find yourself putting off something for ‘later’, stop and assess the reasons behind it. Get to the root of the cause and eliminate it in order to overcome this poor habit of procrastinating which is sabotaging your life and mental health.

Take a look at this guide and learn how to beat procrastination:

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When you finally overcome procrastination, you will realize the positive impact it has on your mood and motivation levels.

3. Celebrate Small Wins

In the quest to achieve the bigger goals in life, we often forget to celebrate the smaller wins along the way. An achievement is an achievement – be it big or small, it deserves to be acknowledged and celebrated.

Finished a project on time? Reward yourself. Managed to run on the treadmill for a good one hour? Pat yourself on the back. Found time to meditate? Celebrate it.

It is these small achievements that reinstate that we are on the right path and take us one step closer to the bigger goals.

So, get into the habit of recognizing and appreciating small wins. You will be surprised to see how this practice helps you stay motivated.

4. Practice Gratitude

It’s easier to whine about what we don’t have rather than counting our blessings. Isn’t it?

Making gratefulness a part of your life is a very important step to retain high motivational levels. It revitalizes our spirits and renews our enthusiasm for life.

So, how do you practice gratitude? For starters, keep a gratitude journal to jot down what you are grateful for, express your gratitude to people you love and spread positivity wherever you go. If you need some inspiration to be thankful for, here it is:

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By doing so, you begin to focus more on what you have rather than what you don’t and that is a great start to stay motivated.

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5. Be Optimistic

Life is not always hunky dory. There will be bad days when things aren’t going in your favor, when you feel lost and all you want to do is give up.

At such times, instead of letting negativity take over your life, adopt an optimistic approach to life. Quit overthinking, ask the right questions and focus on finding solutions.

Yes, there will be hurdles along the way but if you hang on to positive affirmations and hopes, the journey will be a lot smoother. So, with every passing day, sow the seeds of positivity and you are sure to build a positive environment around you.

6. Don’t Dwell on the Past

A lot of times, our lack of motivation stems from the habit of dwelling on the past. This gives rise to fear and regrets, preventing us from making progress in the present day.

Dwelling on the past is nothing but a waste of time. Understand that the past is long gone, and you cannot do anything to change that.

What you can do is make your present day worthwhile. Instead of looking back and having regrets, learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself and move on.

So, the next time you find your mind wandering off to the past, be determined to change the way you think and consciously concentrate on living in the present. This guide can help you:

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7. Face your Fears

You can never find motivation where there is fear. Identify the fear that is pulling you back and tackle it.

If you don’t face your fear head on, you cannot expect to conquer it and renew your motivation.

Ask yourself: What is stopping you? What are you scared of?

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Once you accept your fear, you can work on an action plan and think of solutions to overcome it. This article will give you some effective tips on conquering your fears:

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Seek external help if required but don’t choose to turn a blind eye over your fears – it will only aggravate matters.

8. Visualize your Success

You must have heard the famous quote, ‘see it to believe it’. That is exactly what visualization is about.

One of the most effective self-motivation techniques, visualizing the process to your desired outcome helps you move in a positive direction and achieve your goal.

Close your eyes and focus all your energies on the minutest of details that will take you where you want to reach. Doing this exercise everyday inspires you to keep going and not lose hope. The vision of attaining success will drive you to do better while instilling belief and confidence.

9. Find Inspiration

Can’t seem to find inspiration inwards? Don’t panic. There are plenty of external sources to gain inspiration from.

From motivational books and quotes to speeches, films and apps – it is a good idea to take help from motivational material to rekindle your spirits and regain your motivation.

Everyone is wired differently. For instance, a self-help book might work for your friend, but it might do nothing to move you. So, find what inspires you and turn to it when you are in desperate need for motivation.

Finding inspiration externally fills you with hope and sometimes that is all you need.

10. Enjoy Downtime

You are clearly exhausted with all the running you’re doing in life. So much, that you don’t even have time to stop and think what’s causing you so much unhappiness. All you know is that you are lacking motivation and everyday seems to have become a struggle.

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Now, that’s certainly not how you should live the rest of your life.

You need to schedule downtime for yourself, relax and give your mind and body some rest. Take a vacation, indulge in hobbies, meet some friends, put your hair down and stop with all the overthinking. It is important to do things that make you happy in order to think clearly and stay motivated.

11. Meditate Regularly

Meditation lets you take control of your mind. It improves focus and concentration while helping you relax.

Whenever you have had a tough day or find your thoughts going places, the best way to calm yourself down is by closing your eyes and meditating. It helps you to remove all the unnecessary frills in life and keeps you on the right track.

Include meditation in your daily schedule and you are sure to see an improvement in your productivity and motivation.

The Bottom Line

Practicing these simple exercises isn’t the tough part, what’s tough is religiously doing them every day.

However, don’t expect to get rid of your lack of motivation overnight. There will still be days when you will be low on energy but by making these conscious efforts to stay motivated, you are sure to see a vast change in your perspective and your response to bad days.

So, start today and be committed to making a positive change in your life.

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