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6 Struggles Only People With A Natural Poker Face Understand

6 Struggles Only People With A Natural Poker Face Understand

Anybody watching this summer’s season of Big Brother? If you are, then you’d know that the person currently running the house (at least at the time of this article) is professional poker player, Vanessa. And if you looked up “natural poker face” in the dictionary, you’d probably see her mug staring back at you.

But seriously, what’s a “natural poker face,” you ask? Well, it’s basically the gender neutral version of “resting bitch face.” So if you’re somebody who tends to have a blank, emotionless, slightly annoyed-looking expression on your face at all times, you too are likely afflicted by this condition. But don’t worry – you definitely aren’t the only one!

What kinds of struggles do people like this suffer through on a daily basis? Read on to find out!

1. You are constantly asked if you’re unhappy.

This is probably the most common thing you’ll be asked. And the answer is almost always, despite what your expression might suggest, a resounding NO

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The ironic thing is that the more you’re asked this question, the more unhappy you actually become!

2. People think you are mocking them.

Let’s say someone tells you a joke. You think it’s super funny, but because of how your face works, they can’t tell. Usually you’ll have to actually say something like, “wow that was hilarious,” in order to reassure them that you do truly enjoy their sense of humor.

3. You rarely have people approach you.

You could be the most good looking person in the world, and it wouldn’t matter. With your natural poker face, few will find the courage to approach you unless you make the first move.

This can of course have its pros and cons. If you are more introverted, you might enjoy the peace and quiet. But if you are a bubbly, extroverted type, you’ll have to work extra hard to ensure that your face doesn’t revert to its natural expression.

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4. People will think you’re demanding.

Most folks with a natural poker face look pretty intense, even when they’re saying the most mundane things. For example, let’s say you’re doing a group project and you’re ordered to lead it. When you give out instructions, you’ll look almost dictatorial when you’re doling out orders, despite the fact that that’s not what you intended at all.

This means you’ll have to be super careful if you’re ever in a position of power, as folks might get the wrong idea. And for most, it helps to act super cheerful in those situations.

This is because your version of the “super cheerful” expression will look like a standard “happy expression” to most normal folks.

5. You will be judged (unfairly) a lot of the time.

Despite the fact that people with this permanently bored or annoyed expression are usually too busy mulling over their own thoughts to notice those around them, they’ll still be accused of looking like they’re “judging” other people.

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Which is kind of ironic, because by accusing you of being judgmental (due to your expression), others are being judgmental themselves.

6. You have to load up on caffeine whenever you want to be social.

Sometimes, in order to give yourself a boost and dispel some of that permanent poker face, indulging in a few cups of coffee do the trick. This will deter your co-workers or classmates from asking if you’re alright or if you’re having a bad day.

The moral of the story is that sometimes you’ll need a little help when navigating the social playing field. For some, that help comes in the form of caffeine, but you might have another trick up your sleeve.

Because sometimes caffeine can result in that fun little setback of a caffeine crash, save that trick for important situations, like when you’re with good friends or out on a date. At all other times, folks will just have to learn to love the expression you were born with.

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Have a funny story that involves your naturally smoldering expression? Let us know in the comments below!

Featured photo credit: Annoyed/Cristiano Betta via flic.kr

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19 Definitions Of Success You Should Never Ignore

19 Definitions Of Success You Should Never Ignore

What is success?

Is it wealth? Is it happiness? Is it fame?

The late Zig Ziglar was one of the most respected modern day experts on success, motivation, and leading a balanced life. In his book Born to Win!, he argues that success cannot be defined in one sentence, but instead it is comprised of many things. One could argue that the definition depends on the individual and that one size does not fit all[1].

Here are 19 different definitions of success. Not all of these will resonate with you, but chances are at least a few of them will. Use these or find inspiration here to create your own definition of success that can be applied to your unique life.

1. Success is always doing your best.

Success can be achieved when you try your best in all aspects of everything you do, even if that doesn’t lead to big results. If you’ve done your best, you should feel proud of your efforts.

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2. Success is properly setting concrete goals.

Be realistic and concrete when setting goals. Success does not come from setting abstract goals. If you know where you’re heading, that is a success in itself, even if you don’t ultimately arrive to the planned destination.

3. Success is having a place to call home.

Home is where your heart soars. You are always successful when you can call a place home. Home doesn’t have to be a specific structure. It can be a country, a city, or even a person. If you have a place you feel comfortable and safe, you’re already achieving something great.

4. Success is understanding the difference between need and want.

If you can meet your monthly obligations and fulfill your basic needs, you are successful. Being able to identify when you absolutely need something and when you can do without it often leads to financial stability and is a great way to succeed.

5. Success is believing you can.

If you believe you can, you will succeed. Self-belief doesn’t come naturally to everyone, so if you’re able to tell yourself that you can achieve the goals in your plans, you’re doing great.

6. Success is remembering to balance work with passion.

Work without passion creates undue stress and empty achievements. Focus on what excites you. If you’re happy at your job, that’s great. However, even if you aren’t, you can balance your formal job with hobbies or volunteer work you’re passionate about.

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7. Success is taking care of your needs.

Remember to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others. Self-care is essential if you want to have any meaningful impact on the world around you.

8. Success is learning that you sometimes have to say no.

Success only comes with a balanced life. Part of balance is learning to say no. Saying no doesn’t mean you are selfish; it simply means you have priorities and know what you need to give your attention to at any given time.

9. Success is knowing your life is filled with abundance.

Love, health, friends, family…life is filled with abundance. Recognizing this is an important step to feeling grateful for all life has given you. If you can feel this, you are already experiencing success.

10. Success is understanding you cannot keep what you don’t give away.

You will only succeed if you help others succeed. Learning to give instead of always take is part of creating a world we all want to live in. When you help others, you will also create an environment where others want to help you.

11. Success is overcoming fear.

Conquering a fear makes you feel invincible. Even if it’s confronting just one small fear each week, that is certainly something to feel proud of. The bigger fears will take more time, but any work you do to overcome fear will lead to success.

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12. Success is learning something new each day.

Successful people understand that learning never stops. Take time each day to converse with someone with opposing views, read an interesting article on a topic you know little about, or watch a TED talk on new research. It doesn’t take long to learn, so get started now.

13. Success is learning that losing a few battles can help you win a war.

Successful people choose their battles wisely. When you know which battles will ultimately help you achieve your goals, you will be successful.

14. Success is loving and being loved back.

Opening your heart to others is difficult and can produce fear. Having the courage to love and accept love from others is a step toward a fulfilling life and great success.

15. Success is standing your ground when you believe in something.

Successful people never give up on things they believe with all their heart. You may hold views that many people disagree with, but if you’ve done your research and know that it’s the right belief for you, you shouldn’t let it go without a fight.

16. Success is not giving up.

Perseverance creates grit, and grit achieves success. Even if it takes years to achieve a goal, persisting is key if you want success.

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17. Success is celebrating small victories.

Anytime a goal is reached or an obstacle is overcome, take time to celebrate, even if it’s something small. All goals require smaller objectives to be achieved first, so each time you complete one, take time to appreciate the work you put into it.

18. Success is never letting a disability hold you back.

Disabilities do not define a person’s success. The body and mind will compensate. Just because you can’t do absolutely everything doesn’t mean you can’t do something. Do what your body and mind allow and always push yourself. That is true success.

19. Success is understanding that you control your destiny.

Your destiny is controlled by you and you alone. Take responsibility for your actions and their consequences and you’ll find that you naturally become more successful.

The Bottom Line

Success can be defined in many ways. If you are experiencing happiness, love, or adventure in this moment, you’ve already found success. Keep it up.

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