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Being Alone Is Her Default: 15 Things To Remember If You Love A Woman Who’s Used To Being On Her Own

Being Alone Is Her Default: 15 Things To Remember If You Love A Woman Who’s Used To Being On Her Own

Do you love a woman who is used to being on her own? While you may be used to being around people and going to your friends after a hard day, this independent woman is used to relying on herself. She can have fun by herself, but she can also have a lot of fun with you – check out 15 things to remember if you love a woman who is used to being on her own.

1. She Is Emotionally Strong

She is used to relying on herself, so she is emotionally strong. She can fight her own battles, and while this may seem intimidating initially, you will appreciate her strength when either of you go through a difficult time.

2. She Will Be Reserved At The Beginning

To start with, she will be reserved about the things that are important to her. However, the more you get to know her, the more you will find out. When she is fully open with you, you can be proud to be one of the very few people she chooses to be close to.

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3. She Likes To Do Her Own Thing

As she spends time alone regularly, she has picked up hobbies and activities that she enjoys doing alone, like running or reading. Be proud of her for her interests, and encourage her to keep pursuing them.

4. She Isn’t Used To Relying On Other People

She may struggle with letting you do things for her, as she isn’t used to other’s looking out for her. However, that isn’t to say she doesn’t like relying on other people; she probably does, it will just take her a while to get used to it.

5. She Likes It When Things Go Her Way

She will be stubborn when you two disagree, and she will fight to get her way. Sometimes she will win, and sometimes you will – which makes a healthy, fair relationship.

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6. She May Want To Take Things Slowly

She isn’t used to being with someone so often, so she won’t want to jump in the deep end straight away. Don’t be pushed away by this – she likes you a lot, but it is a big lifestyle change for her. A woman that is used to being alone might want to take things more slowly than you are used to — but she is worth it.

7. She Still Enjoys Time Alone

She is used to spending time alone and she enjoys that time, so she won’t give it up. You are still very important to her, but she will still need alone time in order to regroup.

8. She May Be Unsure About Your Feelings Towards Her

She isn’t the kind of person who is regularly in relationships, so she may be unsure about your feelings for her. She may question your feelings, but only because this is new territory for her.

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9. She Will Take Time To Open Up Emotionally

She won’t tell you her life story and all of her problems straight away, because she is a pretty private person. She will open up over time, but right now she is simply focusing on enjoying her time with you.

10. She May Worry About How Much She Likes You

At the beginning, she may withdraw from you for a while. This isn’t because she doesn’t like you; she just wants to assess her feelings and decide what she wants.

11. Her Trust Must Be Earned

This woman does not trust everyone and anything – it takes time and patience to earn her trust. However, once she does trust you, she will trust you fully.

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12. She Is Headstrong

She is headstrong and is used to running her life efficiently without any help. This strength is admirable, and it means she never depend on you for everything.

13. She May Not Need You, But She Wants You

At the beginning, she isn’t spending time with you because she feels like she needs you. She knows she just wants to enjoy your company at this point – but with time and patience, you may grow to need each other.

14. She May Be Wary Of Commitment

Commitment can be scary to all of us; you are giving someone the power to hurt you or leave you. However, she is willing to push past her fears and wander into the unknown together.

15. She Is Used To Being Alone

Her natural comfort zone is being alone, and being alone will always be comforting to her. You can love her for a lifetime, and she will always enjoy being alone. Let her be alone when she wants to be, and be proud of her independence.

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Last Updated on October 14, 2019

12 Inspirational Speeches That Teach You the Most Valuable Life Lessons

12 Inspirational Speeches That Teach You the Most Valuable Life Lessons

The most valuable thing an experienced person has is their experience. People make mistakes, learn from them, and adapt their life around them to become better people. Those people would then tell tales to others to help teach those lessons so that others would not have to make the same mistakes.

People still tell these stories today but in a slightly different format — they use speeches to express their experiences. Here are some valuable life lessons you can learn from some of the greatest inspirational speeches:

1. JK Rowling teaches us to not fear failure no matter how bad things become

It is a well-known fact that JK Rowling’s now-famous Harry Potter series was turned down by several publishers before it was finally picked up. Those publishers are likely kicking themselves in the pants right now. However, before that, JK Rowling was in a fairly dire situation and was on the brink of failure. Despite being turned down time and time again, she kept trying. Her efforts paid off. Harry Potter is now a ubiquitous character in today’s world culture. Despite failing over and over again, Rowling kept trying and fulfilled her dreams. You can watch her deliver some valuable life lessons in her Harvard commencement speech video above.

2. Steve Jobs teaches us to never settle

Steve Jobs had a fairly tumultuous life. He co-founded Apple, was kicked out of the company, came back, and then re-defined the mobile phone space with the iPhone. Even if iPhones aren’t the rage they once were, its iconic value is forever written in stone. One thing Jobs never did was settle. He lived life on his own terms and was rewarded for it by being dubbed one of the most revolutionary voices in technology of our time. In the Stanford commencement speech above, Jobs explains how you should never settle for what someone else wants out of your life. It’s your life and you should do what you want with it.

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3. Admiral William H McRaven teaches us to make our beds every day

Anyone who has gone through the basic training of a military service will tell you it’s pretty difficult. However, every seemingly obnoxious step is actually a life lesson in disguise. This even applies to flawlessly making one’s bed every single morning. As Admiral William H McRaven teaches us, recruits are taught to make their beds every morning to remind them that even the little things in life matter. After all, how can you be expected to handle the biggest obstacles in your life if you can’t even handle the small and the mundane like making your bed every day? You can watch the entire speech in the video above.

4. Author David Foster Wallace teaches us that we’re a part of a greater existence

David Foster Wallace found fame in 1987 with his book The Broom of the System. Nearly 20 years later in 2005 he game a commencement speech at Kenyon College that is worth listening to at least once. In his speech, he reminds us that was are but a part of a huge, dynamic, ever changing interaction of life forms. In order to truly experience life, we need to leave our personal bubbles and interact with others even if it’s in an unpleasant way. Wallace states, “It will actually be within your power to experience a crowded, hot, slow, consumer-hell type situation as not only meaningful, but sacred, on fire with the same force that made the stars: love, fellowship, the mystical oneness of all things deep down.” You can watch the whole speech above.

5. Stephen Colbert teaches us that life isn’t something you can plan

If there is anyone who knows about improvisation, it’s comedian Stephen Colbert. In his commencement speech at Northwestern University in 2011, Colbert reminded students that you cannot plan life. Life throws too many curve balls. There are too many unpredictable things that can happen. The most successful and happy people are not those who have a plan, but those who can roll with the punches and overcome the obstacles. He goes on to site his time as an improv comic and how all of the actors working together to create a scene out of literally nothing are all working for one another. He states that like improv comedy, you don’t know what happens next in life. You just make it up as you go along. You can watch the whole speech above.

6. Kurt Vonnegut teaches us to not sweat the small stuff

Some of our younger readers may not know Kurt Vonnegut. He is a famous author that found of of his success during the middle of last century. In 1999, Kurt Vonnegut was at Agnes Scott College giving a commencement speech. During the speech, he mentioned that in order to live a more complete life, people needed to let stuff go. He argued that you cannot reasonably expect others to forgive you for your mistakes if you cannot forgive others and that you cannot live life fostering a personal vendetta against others.

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7. Neil Gaiman teaches us that success can be distracting.

Neil Gaiman is most known for his work in a number of literary mediums including journalism, comic books, and novels. In 2012, Gaiman gave a speech at the University of the Arts where he talked about success. He stated that when you become successful, you may be unintentionally swayed from performing the actions that made you successful. Gaiman recalled his early success and how he felt pressured to answer emails all day long and it actually prevented him from writing as much as he wanted. So he reminds us to keep doing what makes us successful and to not let others get in the way.

8. Barack Obama’s life lessons teaches us that you really can beat the odds

We know that not everyone likes Barack Obama but that doesn’t mean the man can’t deliver an amazing speech. In this 2004 keynote speech at the Democratic National Convenction, Obama reminds that it is possible to beat the odds and become something great. He cites his own upbringing as an example and how he was never expected to make it as far as he did. It shows that when you’re passionate about something and when you try hard enough, you can accomplish almost anything. It’s important to note that Obama talks about this in 2004 and would become the President of the United States just four years later.

9. Robin Roberts reminds us that we each have the courage to overcome challenges

Robin Roberts knows a thing or two about courage. She is a breast cancer survivor and has done battle with a rare blood disease called myelodysplastic syndrome. Her sister once had to donate bone marrow just so Robin could remain alive. She was also ESPN’s first African American broadcaster in the early 1990’s. She’s a woman who works in an industry predominately populated by men. So when Robin Roberts takes the stage at the ESPYs and delivers a short lecture on having courage, we would do well to listen!

10. Martin Luther King Jr. reminds us that some things are more important than success

We all know the story of Martin Luther King Jr. So much so that we have a day of the year to celebrate him as a national holiday here in the United States. Most of us have listening to segments of his famous speech where he told the world about a dream he had. The main message of his famous speech is that racial inequalities needed to end and he was absolutely right. However, he also reminds us that there are things that are more important than success such as equal rights and treating each other with respect and kindness. If you somehow made it through school without watching the famous speech, we’ve got it linked above.

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11. Jim Carrey reminds us that even if you keep it safe, you can still fail so you might as well go big

Jim Carrey delivered a commencement speech at Maharishi University recently that went absolutely viral. You may know it as the one minute video that will change your life. They weren’t lying but they weren’t telling the whole truth because the speech was actually 28 minutes long. During the speech, Carrey talks about his father who wanted to be a comedian but decided to take the safe route and become an accountant. As it turns out, his father was laid off and his family ended up poor anyway. With that, Carrey tells us that you can still end up failing even if you play it safe so you might as well swing for the fences and do what you want to do.

12. Bill Murray teaches us that it’s the hard times that determine if someone really loves you

You may have heard the story about Bill Murray crashing someone’s bachelor party and delivering a speech. It turns out the speech was both short and fairly epic. During the speech, Bill Murray challenged the bachelors to travel around the world with the women they love and go to places that are difficult to go to and deal with. He says if you can get back to the United States and you still love each other, then you should get married right then and there. It’s a great message. It’s easy to love one another when times are good but do you still love each other when the times are bad? If so, that’s true love according to Bill Murray.

Final thoughts

Inspiration comes from everywhere and from anyone. There are a countless number of speeches and stories that can teach us an incalculable number of life lessons.

All these speeches almost share the same message: Don’t be afraid to fail and keep trying.

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If you also want to live your best life like the above successful people, this is what you should start doing:

You’ll Only Live Your Best Life Once You Step Out

At the end of the day, everything is inspirational. It’s just a matter of finding the message that we need to hear to change our lives.

Featured photo credit: Miguel Henriques via unsplash.com

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