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8 Important Milestones You Should Have Besides Getting Married And Succeeding At Work

8 Important Milestones You Should Have Besides Getting Married And Succeeding At Work

I have never thought of marriage as the most important milestone to reach in my life. I think we all evolve with the process of growth and reaching certain milestones. It could still be an opinion thing because what is important to me may not be important to another person. Yet no kidding, we all have our milestones which when we get to redefines us and pushes us to a higher ground. So here are some milestones away that could be away from the conventional.

Realizing what your life should be centered around

You passion and purpose in life should be one of the most important milestones in life. Marriage or work doesn’t have anything to realizing what your self-actualization should be about. Many people sort of dabble into so many activities at once, music, writing, architecture, sports. Yet you should be sure about what passion you really care about and you excel at.

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Ending a relationship with a close friend

We all go through difficult and stiff periods with our friends. I have broken up with friends and discovered my friendships with them again. When you end a relationship with a friend you understand yourself better. You understand if you have been the right or wrong person in a relationship. Such helps you put perspectives together.

Buying your first home

Leaving your parent’s home and getting into your own apartment is a great milestone. However improving on that and buying your own home proves that you have worked hard and saved for something that will seal your sense of security. Besides you also have an asset that you can be proud of.

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Going back to school to get your masters

Whether it was necessary or not for you, you just wanted to have a sense of accomplishment in getting more degrees to your cabinet. You trudge harder even when others have thrown in the towel and settled for a Bachelor’s degree. Such takes courage and resilience. And that proves you are worth something. This is another important milestone you can reach has nothing to do with marriage or work.

Taking a terrifying risk

Try and do something out of the ordinary or what many would never have expected you to do. You can’t continue sitting behind the mask all the time. I hope to climb the Mount Kilimanjaro or Mount Everest sometime. Why don’t you try something that may be termed as a risk but will expose you even to your own fears?

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Giving money to a cause

Doing some philanthropy when you do not have surplus money yet takes courage. You see the need in your environment or in your life and you make that positive contribution because you want to better their situation shows that you have evolved and grown into becoming a positive person. This is another milestone we could all reach in our lives.

Reaching the deepest hole of our pain

When you hit rock bottom and meet with disappointment, frustration and despair you discover yourself in a way you never thought you could. You achieve fulfillment during this period because you can identify what really should be focal in your life. You know your true companions and you adjust your world to a picture that can set you free. This important milestone can be a platform for you to become successful in no time.

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Going back in time to visit your past

It could be your fears, your disappointments or regrets, sometimes taking a walk or a journey into the past strengthen and reignite us. I visited my high school once, and it made me realize how far I have come since I departed that school. You could need to journey to the past in different ways, sometimes it could be through pleasurable moments of listening to an old song. There is always a way to reconnect with the past and this could be an important milestone for anyone of us.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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