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8 Important Milestones You Should Have Besides Getting Married And Succeeding At Work

8 Important Milestones You Should Have Besides Getting Married And Succeeding At Work

I have never thought of marriage as the most important milestone to reach in my life. I think we all evolve with the process of growth and reaching certain milestones. It could still be an opinion thing because what is important to me may not be important to another person. Yet no kidding, we all have our milestones which when we get to redefines us and pushes us to a higher ground. So here are some milestones away that could be away from the conventional.

Realizing what your life should be centered around

You passion and purpose in life should be one of the most important milestones in life. Marriage or work doesn’t have anything to realizing what your self-actualization should be about. Many people sort of dabble into so many activities at once, music, writing, architecture, sports. Yet you should be sure about what passion you really care about and you excel at.

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Ending a relationship with a close friend

We all go through difficult and stiff periods with our friends. I have broken up with friends and discovered my friendships with them again. When you end a relationship with a friend you understand yourself better. You understand if you have been the right or wrong person in a relationship. Such helps you put perspectives together.

Buying your first home

Leaving your parent’s home and getting into your own apartment is a great milestone. However improving on that and buying your own home proves that you have worked hard and saved for something that will seal your sense of security. Besides you also have an asset that you can be proud of.

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Going back to school to get your masters

Whether it was necessary or not for you, you just wanted to have a sense of accomplishment in getting more degrees to your cabinet. You trudge harder even when others have thrown in the towel and settled for a Bachelor’s degree. Such takes courage and resilience. And that proves you are worth something. This is another important milestone you can reach has nothing to do with marriage or work.

Taking a terrifying risk

Try and do something out of the ordinary or what many would never have expected you to do. You can’t continue sitting behind the mask all the time. I hope to climb the Mount Kilimanjaro or Mount Everest sometime. Why don’t you try something that may be termed as a risk but will expose you even to your own fears?

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Giving money to a cause

Doing some philanthropy when you do not have surplus money yet takes courage. You see the need in your environment or in your life and you make that positive contribution because you want to better their situation shows that you have evolved and grown into becoming a positive person. This is another milestone we could all reach in our lives.

Reaching the deepest hole of our pain

When you hit rock bottom and meet with disappointment, frustration and despair you discover yourself in a way you never thought you could. You achieve fulfillment during this period because you can identify what really should be focal in your life. You know your true companions and you adjust your world to a picture that can set you free. This important milestone can be a platform for you to become successful in no time.

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Going back in time to visit your past

It could be your fears, your disappointments or regrets, sometimes taking a walk or a journey into the past strengthen and reignite us. I visited my high school once, and it made me realize how far I have come since I departed that school. You could need to journey to the past in different ways, sometimes it could be through pleasurable moments of listening to an old song. There is always a way to reconnect with the past and this could be an important milestone for anyone of us.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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