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8 Important Milestones You Should Have Besides Getting Married And Succeeding At Work

8 Important Milestones You Should Have Besides Getting Married And Succeeding At Work

I have never thought of marriage as the most important milestone to reach in my life. I think we all evolve with the process of growth and reaching certain milestones. It could still be an opinion thing because what is important to me may not be important to another person. Yet no kidding, we all have our milestones which when we get to redefines us and pushes us to a higher ground. So here are some milestones away that could be away from the conventional.

Realizing what your life should be centered around

You passion and purpose in life should be one of the most important milestones in life. Marriage or work doesn’t have anything to realizing what your self-actualization should be about. Many people sort of dabble into so many activities at once, music, writing, architecture, sports. Yet you should be sure about what passion you really care about and you excel at.

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Ending a relationship with a close friend

We all go through difficult and stiff periods with our friends. I have broken up with friends and discovered my friendships with them again. When you end a relationship with a friend you understand yourself better. You understand if you have been the right or wrong person in a relationship. Such helps you put perspectives together.

Buying your first home

Leaving your parent’s home and getting into your own apartment is a great milestone. However improving on that and buying your own home proves that you have worked hard and saved for something that will seal your sense of security. Besides you also have an asset that you can be proud of.

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Going back to school to get your masters

Whether it was necessary or not for you, you just wanted to have a sense of accomplishment in getting more degrees to your cabinet. You trudge harder even when others have thrown in the towel and settled for a Bachelor’s degree. Such takes courage and resilience. And that proves you are worth something. This is another important milestone you can reach has nothing to do with marriage or work.

Taking a terrifying risk

Try and do something out of the ordinary or what many would never have expected you to do. You can’t continue sitting behind the mask all the time. I hope to climb the Mount Kilimanjaro or Mount Everest sometime. Why don’t you try something that may be termed as a risk but will expose you even to your own fears?

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Giving money to a cause

Doing some philanthropy when you do not have surplus money yet takes courage. You see the need in your environment or in your life and you make that positive contribution because you want to better their situation shows that you have evolved and grown into becoming a positive person. This is another milestone we could all reach in our lives.

Reaching the deepest hole of our pain

When you hit rock bottom and meet with disappointment, frustration and despair you discover yourself in a way you never thought you could. You achieve fulfillment during this period because you can identify what really should be focal in your life. You know your true companions and you adjust your world to a picture that can set you free. This important milestone can be a platform for you to become successful in no time.

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Going back in time to visit your past

It could be your fears, your disappointments or regrets, sometimes taking a walk or a journey into the past strengthen and reignite us. I visited my high school once, and it made me realize how far I have come since I departed that school. You could need to journey to the past in different ways, sometimes it could be through pleasurable moments of listening to an old song. There is always a way to reconnect with the past and this could be an important milestone for anyone of us.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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