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6 Reasons Why You Don’t Love The Person You Cheat On, Even If You Claim You Do

6 Reasons Why You Don’t Love The Person You Cheat On, Even If You Claim You Do

How do you define a cheater? A dishonest crook, a person who is selfish and unconcerned with the world around them. Being a responsible and ideal lover requires a degree of commitment, honesty, and truth. With such things, it is easier to navigate a relationship.

One who cheats doesn’t really think of preserving, rather they think of expunging and releasing. What is a relationship without some loyalty and certainty? It’s important to consider the effects and consequences of cheating when you look at what you want to protect, rather than at the immediate satisfaction you will achieve.

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Once, I may have believed that being with another woman would liberate me and give me something that was missing in my relationship, but the truth is that there is no shelter elsewhere — only devastation to your own self and to your relationship.

True love never involves cheating. Your partner should protect you and look out for your best interests, always wanting you to be happy. If you have cheated in the past, you may being lying to yourself about your true feelings. Here are some reasons why you don’t love the person you cheated on, even if you say you do.

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You are not being selfless

How can you say you love someone when you are not willing to make some compromise and let some things go? True love is selfless and sacrificial. And there is nothing selfless and sacrificial about cheating on your partner.

You are not solid in the relationship

When cheating comes into play, you may think you love your partner, yet that love is one that’s easily shaken. True love is solid. It is stable and complete. It does not need anything extra. When love cannot be consistent and stable, then it is not true love and it does not mean much.

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You are not confrontational when it’s needed

If you care and have deep feelings, you don’t run away from the person you care for or look for another outlet to gain pleasure. I’ve met people who claimed to cheat because they just wanted to use it as an outlet, a means of dealing with some issue. They wanted to explore and engage in an adventure because they felt restless. If you love your partner truly, you deal with those issues head on and as a team. Both sides need to be present to make their voices heard in a working relationship.

You don’t embrace the positives of your relationship

Love is supposed to be a positive state of being. Joy, richness, depth, and trust are born out of love. Cheaters take these things for granted and always want something more. What they fail to consider is that the consequences of cheating are all negative — guilt, mistrust, lies, and betrayal. It may be easy for you to take love for granted, but those who take love seriously understand that all its greatness outweighs any immediate pleasure gained from cheating.

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You are not accepting of your partner

Love is not indirect. It never drifts, digresses, or gets distracted. True love means truly accepting your partner and everything that comes along with them. If you are on the right track, you will also seek acceptance from your partner, rather than pursue other alternatives. If you cheat, it means that, on some level, you have not wholly accepted your partner and the relationship.

You are not a believer

When people tell me that they are cool with cheating, I ask myself this question: do they believe in the actions they are taking? When you love someone, you believe what the person tells you and expect the same in return. This is how trust is born. Cheating is a violation of this. If you take away this trust and belief, what is left of the relationship? If you believe that true love involves cheating in any sense, you are kidding yourself.

At the end of the day, cheating is cheating — it is wrong. It may be okay to admire others when you are in a loving relationship, but taking action or pursuing something that would work against your relationship is not love. It is poison. If you truly love someone, not cheating is easy.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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