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If You Have a Smart Girlfriend, You’ll Understand These 10 Things

If You Have a Smart Girlfriend, You’ll Understand These 10 Things

I once dated a smart girlfriend. It was a relationship that was driven rather than walked. Looking back at it, I wished it had lasted, because you are solid and safer when you are in a relationship with a smart girlfriend. You are not looking over your shoulder; rather, you are looking ahead at possibilities and outcomes. Here are some things that are a little different about dating a smart woman.

1. She has strong opinions.

Even when you discuss random stuff with her, like sports, politics, literature or entertainment, she has strong opinions. She knows what she is talking about and her opinion is centered on what is pleasant to her and not to you.

2. She can handle her money.

She knows how to handle her money. She sees money as a tool rather than an item. She is resourceful with it and treats is as valuable. She leads her finances and her finances don’t lead her. If you are giving her money, understand she will treat it right.

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3. She handles kids and the elderly the smart way.

She is not childish or stupid. She is comfortable and can relate with kids or older adults. She is not rude. She is tolerant and won’t develop cold feet when she is with any age group. She is happy to converse with people of all sorts when she has the chance to.

4. She is confident.

Her intellect is an assurance for her. She can deal with stuff and is not scared to air an opinion. She would do the courageous thing rather than cower in fear or reluctance. So if you are in a tough situation, she certainly knows how to get you out of it.

5. She wants to succeed.

Good is not enough for her; rather, she will go for excellent. Even if she fails in the process, she won’t stop—she will continue chasing for success. She loves challenges and what it means to her success. Rather than be inactive, she will always show resilience and tread into newer territories.

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6. She knows how to manage a crisis.

She doesn’t cower in the face of a crisis. She can get tough when she meets with a tough situation. Rather than withdraw, she adapts and creatively digs in to get out of the situation. Actually, difficult moments define her mental strength and abilities.

7. She is dependable.

She is reliable. If she says she will do something, she will do it. She is so dependable and such an asset that you can count on her in almost any case. You can vouch for her, because she will always get the job done.

8. She is consistent.

She is not unstable. If she is in a relationship with anyone, she commits herself to it. She doesn’t have to say yes to what she doesn’t believe in or that you won’t prove rewarding. With her, there is no insecurity. She is in it with you for the long haul because she knows that it means something. She is stable and efficient.

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9. She knows her worth.

She doesn’t feel inferior to anyone. She respects herself and respects everyone around her and expects the same from them. She will dress well and communicate perfectly. It is not as if this validates her, she just wants to be the ideal person that commands respect.

10. She is resourceful.

Her knowledge does not make her lazy. She actually uses it as a weapon to get what she wants or what is of value to her. She develops networks and alliances that propel her to a destination. She is proactive and is always finding a way to get things done and make the world around her better. She simply won’t settle for cheap.

Don’t hurt a smart lady because she will leave you if she has to, for the right reasons.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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