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If You Have a Smart Girlfriend, You’ll Understand These 10 Things

If You Have a Smart Girlfriend, You’ll Understand These 10 Things

I once dated a smart girlfriend. It was a relationship that was driven rather than walked. Looking back at it, I wished it had lasted, because you are solid and safer when you are in a relationship with a smart girlfriend. You are not looking over your shoulder; rather, you are looking ahead at possibilities and outcomes. Here are some things that are a little different about dating a smart woman.

1. She has strong opinions.

Even when you discuss random stuff with her, like sports, politics, literature or entertainment, she has strong opinions. She knows what she is talking about and her opinion is centered on what is pleasant to her and not to you.

2. She can handle her money.

She knows how to handle her money. She sees money as a tool rather than an item. She is resourceful with it and treats is as valuable. She leads her finances and her finances don’t lead her. If you are giving her money, understand she will treat it right.

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3. She handles kids and the elderly the smart way.

She is not childish or stupid. She is comfortable and can relate with kids or older adults. She is not rude. She is tolerant and won’t develop cold feet when she is with any age group. She is happy to converse with people of all sorts when she has the chance to.

4. She is confident.

Her intellect is an assurance for her. She can deal with stuff and is not scared to air an opinion. She would do the courageous thing rather than cower in fear or reluctance. So if you are in a tough situation, she certainly knows how to get you out of it.

5. She wants to succeed.

Good is not enough for her; rather, she will go for excellent. Even if she fails in the process, she won’t stop—she will continue chasing for success. She loves challenges and what it means to her success. Rather than be inactive, she will always show resilience and tread into newer territories.

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6. She knows how to manage a crisis.

She doesn’t cower in the face of a crisis. She can get tough when she meets with a tough situation. Rather than withdraw, she adapts and creatively digs in to get out of the situation. Actually, difficult moments define her mental strength and abilities.

7. She is dependable.

She is reliable. If she says she will do something, she will do it. She is so dependable and such an asset that you can count on her in almost any case. You can vouch for her, because she will always get the job done.

8. She is consistent.

She is not unstable. If she is in a relationship with anyone, she commits herself to it. She doesn’t have to say yes to what she doesn’t believe in or that you won’t prove rewarding. With her, there is no insecurity. She is in it with you for the long haul because she knows that it means something. She is stable and efficient.

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9. She knows her worth.

She doesn’t feel inferior to anyone. She respects herself and respects everyone around her and expects the same from them. She will dress well and communicate perfectly. It is not as if this validates her, she just wants to be the ideal person that commands respect.

10. She is resourceful.

Her knowledge does not make her lazy. She actually uses it as a weapon to get what she wants or what is of value to her. She develops networks and alliances that propel her to a destination. She is proactive and is always finding a way to get things done and make the world around her better. She simply won’t settle for cheap.

Don’t hurt a smart lady because she will leave you if she has to, for the right reasons.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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