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Oprah Winfrey’s Secret Recipe For Relaxation

Oprah Winfrey’s Secret Recipe For Relaxation

Oprah Winfrey, talk show host, media mogul, actress, producer, and philanthropist, knows how to work, and how to do it successfully. What she has also learned to get great at it, is to balance all these roles, by practicing the art of relaxation.

Work-life balance relies on making time for relaxation, and even celebrating it. The theme of Oprah’s latest issue of her popular O Magazine is “The Really Busy Woman’s Guide to Relaxing.” Yes, even the busiest of people need to take time to just chill. (Just Chill is also the name of a refreshing beverage that Oprah recommends which contains amino acids from green tea leaves, purported to provoke feelings of calm.)

Relaxation can seem like laziness or being un-productive, but it is actually a key ingredient in living a successful life. Oprah Winfrey is working on getting “this relaxation thing down.” She is a high achiever, yet is learning that the value of having down-time can make all of that achieving worth it. What is the point of doing and striving if you don’t take the time out to thrive and just relax in the moment?

Oprah’s version of relaxation is simple, inexpensive, and easy for anyone to take on. It is mainly about being mindful, and aware of the peace and beauty inherent in nature, and the simplicity of downtime.

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Here are some ways you can take on Oprah’s suggestion to “cherish the good times.”

Spend time outside on a blanket in an open spot.

Just basking in the sunshine boosts your Vitamin D levels which can bring relaxation and stave off depression. No backyard? Parks are free.

Curl up with a good book.

Nothing that takes too much mental work like a business or finance book, but some juicy fiction that takes you on a journey through the author’s words. Oprah recommends The Road to Character by David Brooks.

Take a long hot bath.

If you don’t have a bathtub, try a local sauna or spa to soak your way into relaxation.

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Watch a sunset, or a sunrise.

Taking the time to enjoy something that happens every day, and relishing in the “golden hour” before sunset can soothe and calm you.

Listen to the sounds around you.

Even the sounds of the city can create a beautiful symphony if you let it just wash over you.

Play some soothing music.

Music therapy can release stress and emotional distress. Oprah recommends the song “Weightless,” created by Sound Therapist Lyz Cooper, with artist Marconi Union.

Drink something relaxing.

Enjoy a glass of wine, or in Oprah’s case, a homemade margarita. If you do not choose to drink alcohol, try some lavender lemonade. Lavender oil can reduce anxiety.

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Try mindfulness meditation.

There are several mobile phone apps that can help you take the time out to relax your mind. Some believe that meditation is even more effective at rest than taking a nap.

Even if you only have a few minutes, you still have time to relax.

Rest and Relaxation doesn’t mean having to take a week off at a retreat in the mountains. It can be as simple as drinking a cup of tea and sitting down for 5 minutes.

Camp out in nature.

Sleeping under the stars can get you away from the hustle and bustle. Oprah recommends doing it in your pyjamas … and staying in them all day.

Create a relaxing daily ritual, such as sitting down with a cup of Oprah Chai Tea from Starbucks.

The tea contains cinnamon, ginger, cardamom and cloves, in a black-tea and rooibos blend. Those spices, according to Ayurvedic medicine, have a warming quality to them which are known to be calming.

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Along with the time to go out and strive for what’s important, take the time to simply relax. Just let it be.

Featured photo credit: Image Courtesy of Oprah Winfrey via huffingtonpost.com

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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Featured photo credit: Maria Lupan via unsplash.com

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