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10 Subtle Ways To Deepen Your Relationship

10 Subtle Ways To Deepen Your Relationship

It is admirable to do the worthy thing to make your other half happy. While some scold at this, you should understand that it takes continued effort to make a relationship work. A relationship doesn’t stop with the two of you agreeing on being attracted to the other person. The work doesn’t stop when the other person is willing to go the whole nine yards with you either. You have to put in daily work for the relationship to blossom and thrive.

Those who can put the certain small subtle actions listed here into use will see their relationships flourish. At the end of the day, your careful attention here could be what it takes for your relationship to remain active and alive.

1. Take walks together

Taking walks together to special places brings memories. It also gives room for communication and expressing your feelings to the other person. Besides, walks could present an opportunity to see something nice that you can get for the other person.

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2. Play games together

There are cool games to play together like Scrabble, Chess, Monopoly, or even a video game on the Xbox or PlayStation. There are a lot of games that you could play together or with another couple that could propel and deepen your relationship. Playing games together brings smiles, thrills, and talking points.

3. Pay attention to the details

Compliment him/her when they make little changes. Notice the little things like their favorite color or their favorite restaurant. These are things people may seem to ignore; however, if you want the best out of your relationship you are really leaving no stone un-turned.

4. Exchange memories

Whether they are memories from childhood or those that have defined your relationship, learn to talk about the pleasant memories that you have gotten from your relationship. Talk about each other’s families and what it was like growing up. Understand there are no perfections in these experiences. The goal us to reveal your true self and your perspectives to the other person.

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5. Always be available

Never be far away or too distant to show that you care. Volunteer to do the things that will show you are willing to go the extra mile for your partner. Go to their exhibitions, graduations, baby showers, or anywhere that will prove to the other person that you care about the their happiness just as much as you do your own.

6. Introduce them to your friends and family

Make the other person feel special. Let them be aware that they are truly involved in your life. Introduce them to your social circles. Whether interests with these persons are aligned or not, let them have you as a center point and get connected.

7. Discuss ideas together

Talk about your goals. Where do you want to be in 3-5 years? What ideas do you have about the world and existence? Look at where you want your relationship to be in the near future. Go beyond discussing about people and events. Make sure your discussions have depth and address important matters.

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8. Always be attentive to their needs

Give them the attention they need. Dedicate yourself fully to their needs. There should be no distractions or borderlines. Even though technology takes most of our time and attention, this shouldn’t be the case if you want to get the best out of your relationship.

9. Attend events together

Religious events, social gatherings, and sometimes even professional gatherings are great occasions to go together. Be seen together. Even if you are at loggerheads, these gatherings have a way of mending differences and making the other person know that you want them to be involved in your world. Besides, it establishes territories and protects your relationship from being attacked by a third party.

10. Go for a short trip

Going for a hike or going to a popular site could be refreshing for your relationship. Such experiences together unite you and the other person. Try to plan for such short trips and create the enthusiasm for experiencing such beautiful moments together.

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Last Updated on April 8, 2020

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

We all know some overachievers: supermoms who manage to get online degrees between cleaning, cooking, and taking kids to practice; students who write 10-page papers when the directions call for 4; managers whose resumes look more like pages from the Guinness book of Records.

How do they do it all? How is it possible that one person can graduate at the top of their class, found an orphanage in India, run 30k marathons, write a best-selling book, travel all over the world and learn to speak Mandarin Chinese while having a full-time job?

What’s the secret of an overachiever? Here’re 11 things overachievers do differently that you can learn from.

1. They Know How to Manage Their Time

It’s pretty simple actually – you can never become an overachiever if you don’t know how to organize your time efficiently.

The great thing is that overachievers are ready to share their knowledge and time management talent with the rest of the world. Read The 4-Hour Workweek or The 4-Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss, and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

2. They Don’t Spend Hours Watching TV or Playing Computer Games

Mostly because they have better things to do, like exercising, reading, spending an evening with their family or volunteering to work in the local soup kitchen. Their philosophy is simple – the world is full of wonderful things to try, explore and experience. Watching TV is not one of them.

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3. They Are Obsessed With Perfection

Imagine Steve Jobs’ work approach and you’ll understand the level of perfection and painfully high standards that overachievers set for themselves and those around them. Often it pays off (especially if they focus on just one domain). But sometimes compulsive over-striving turns into a sure-fire road to disappointments and unfinished tasks.

Learn how to strike a balance: How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up

4. They Know How To Inspire

Overachievers learn quickly that it is much easier to achieve goals through collaboration (and especially delegation). So they know how to inspire, encourage, persuade and motivate people around them. Even though they often drive their team crazy with their stubbornness and perfectionism, people quickly follow under the spell of their enthusiasm and greater vision.

Learn these 10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively.

5. They Set Clear Goals

The term “overachiever” itself implies that they know how to achieve goals. That is kind of hard to do if your goals are vague, unclear and lack specific deadline, which is why overachievers educate themselves, read goal-setting books, and think about the best way to approach a new task.

Although, it’s worth mentioning that overachievers usually use their time management and goal-setting skills towards competitive, “I want to kick butt” type of goals rather than self-improvement, mastery goals.

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Take a look at these tips to help you set clearer goals: What Are SMART Goals (And How to Use Them to Become Successful)

6. They Are Organized

It’s hard to imagine a disorganized overachiever, isn’t it? Their great organizational and planning skills usually serve three main purposes: keeping track of time, keeping track of progress and keeping track of achievements.

This hasn’t been confirmed by scientific research yet, but overachievers might actually get a “runner’s high” from crossing tasks off their to-do lists, and making new to-do lists.

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7. They Try to Avoid Failure at All Costs

Some psychologists believe that overachievers place their self-worth on their competence, driven by an underlying fear of failure. Rather than setting and striving for goals based on a pure desire to achieve, their core motivation becomes avoiding failure. This may explain the fact that overachiever beat themselves up for even little setbacks and seemingly-insignificant mistakes.

But be aware that having a strong fear of failure can wrek havoc your productivity. So the best thing to do? Learn to conquer the fear: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It)

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8. They Love Awards

Who doesn’t love them, right? True enough, but unlike most people who like to feel acknowledged and appreciated for their efforts, overachievers are bent on collecting ‘awards’, be it university degrees, spelling bee prizes or unusual destinations.

While loving awares isn’t bad, it’s even better if you’re driven by internal motivation instead of external ones which could be quite uncontrolable or unstable: Why Is Internal Motivation So Powerful (And How to Find It).

9. They Don’t Understand the Concept of Work Hours

Don’t get surprised if you receive a work-related email anywhere between 8 p.m. and midnight. It’s something overachievers usually do and you weren’t the only one. At least 20 more emails have been sent during these hours to other people. The concepts of over-achieving and working overtime usually go hand in hand.

The downside of this is an imbalnced life, which may need to problems in other aspects of life including health and relationships. A better way is to Achieve a Realistic Work Life Balance.

10. They Rest

Overachievers might often be labeled as “workaholics”, because they often ignore bodily signs of hunger, fatigue and even a full bladder, hoping to finish just one last little part. This doesn’t mean that overachievers don’t know how to disconnect and relax.

True that they tend to work in the highest gear, but they also have enough sense to give themselves time to rest and recharge. Of course, they do it in their own overachieving way, preferring climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or hiking through the Amazon jungle to lazing on the beach.

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11. Overachievers Continuously Educate Themselves

A great quality that most overachievers have is the hunger for knowledge. They surround themselves with bright people. They know how to listen, and most importantly, they get tons of mentoring.

Despite the fact that overachievers want to excel at everything they set their minds on, they are humble enough to admit that to get on top of their game, they need help. And they are willing to pay someone to push, coach and guide them.

You too can learn How to Create a Habit of Continuous Learning for a Better You.

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