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10 Subtle Ways To Deepen Your Relationship

10 Subtle Ways To Deepen Your Relationship

It is admirable to do the worthy thing to make your other half happy. While some scold at this, you should understand that it takes continued effort to make a relationship work. A relationship doesn’t stop with the two of you agreeing on being attracted to the other person. The work doesn’t stop when the other person is willing to go the whole nine yards with you either. You have to put in daily work for the relationship to blossom and thrive.

Those who can put the certain small subtle actions listed here into use will see their relationships flourish. At the end of the day, your careful attention here could be what it takes for your relationship to remain active and alive.

1. Take walks together

Taking walks together to special places brings memories. It also gives room for communication and expressing your feelings to the other person. Besides, walks could present an opportunity to see something nice that you can get for the other person.

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2. Play games together

There are cool games to play together like Scrabble, Chess, Monopoly, or even a video game on the Xbox or PlayStation. There are a lot of games that you could play together or with another couple that could propel and deepen your relationship. Playing games together brings smiles, thrills, and talking points.

3. Pay attention to the details

Compliment him/her when they make little changes. Notice the little things like their favorite color or their favorite restaurant. These are things people may seem to ignore; however, if you want the best out of your relationship you are really leaving no stone un-turned.

4. Exchange memories

Whether they are memories from childhood or those that have defined your relationship, learn to talk about the pleasant memories that you have gotten from your relationship. Talk about each other’s families and what it was like growing up. Understand there are no perfections in these experiences. The goal us to reveal your true self and your perspectives to the other person.

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5. Always be available

Never be far away or too distant to show that you care. Volunteer to do the things that will show you are willing to go the extra mile for your partner. Go to their exhibitions, graduations, baby showers, or anywhere that will prove to the other person that you care about the their happiness just as much as you do your own.

6. Introduce them to your friends and family

Make the other person feel special. Let them be aware that they are truly involved in your life. Introduce them to your social circles. Whether interests with these persons are aligned or not, let them have you as a center point and get connected.

7. Discuss ideas together

Talk about your goals. Where do you want to be in 3-5 years? What ideas do you have about the world and existence? Look at where you want your relationship to be in the near future. Go beyond discussing about people and events. Make sure your discussions have depth and address important matters.

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8. Always be attentive to their needs

Give them the attention they need. Dedicate yourself fully to their needs. There should be no distractions or borderlines. Even though technology takes most of our time and attention, this shouldn’t be the case if you want to get the best out of your relationship.

9. Attend events together

Religious events, social gatherings, and sometimes even professional gatherings are great occasions to go together. Be seen together. Even if you are at loggerheads, these gatherings have a way of mending differences and making the other person know that you want them to be involved in your world. Besides, it establishes territories and protects your relationship from being attacked by a third party.

10. Go for a short trip

Going for a hike or going to a popular site could be refreshing for your relationship. Such experiences together unite you and the other person. Try to plan for such short trips and create the enthusiasm for experiencing such beautiful moments together.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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