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Small Things Wonderful People Do That Build Deep Relationships

Small Things Wonderful People Do That Build Deep Relationships

There are only two kinds of relationships – those that are long-term and those that are very long-term. The rest are acquaintances. Long-term relationships are deep and are built to weather the storms along the way.

Here are ten small things wonderful people do to build deeper relationships:

1. They (Genuinely) Care

They care for what you care about as if it’s their own. There is a difference between genuinely caring and “pretending to care” and they clearly are in the former camp. When they converse with you, they tend to drop their agenda and focus on yours.

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2. They Remember

I am not talking about birthdays and anniversaries. They care about things that matter most to you. In other words, they act as your self-appointed accountability partners. They catch things that you might have dropped owing to your busy schedule.

3. They (Thoughtfully) Connect

They thoughtfully connect you to people from their network to expand the space of your own possibilities in your personal and professional life. They are keenly aware that your capacity expands significantly when you are connected to the right people.

4. They Follow-up

They are relentless in their followup – not on what they need from you, but on things that move the needle of your personal and professional lives. They are aware that you start your projects with great intentions, but like everyone else you need a helping hand in following them through to completion.

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5. They Make You Think

They don’t simply accept what you say when it comes to you taking important (game-changing) decisions in your work and life. They ask thoughtful questions that will make you think and re-think. In the process, you end up making better decisions.

6.  They Celebrate Your Wins

They are not “passively jealous” of your wins. They celebrate your wins with all their heart. In addition, they ensure that you don’t rest on your laurels by helping you set your sights on the next big thing for you.

7. They (Really) Listen

They listen to what you say AND they also listen to what you don’t say. They read between the lines to get to the bottom of what’s the real underlying issue that is bothering you. They also create a level of comfort for you to openly share your hopes, dreams, desires, fears, challenges, concerns, wishes and your wants.

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8. They Smile

They are like a fresh breeze. They walk in with a smile all the time. It’s a joy to be spending time with them. You are in a flow when they are around.

9. They Make YOU Smile

They touch your life in such a powerful way that you start feeling good about yourself. They accentuate your positives and help you cover your negatives. In short, they make you smile and feel blessed. In their presence. you feel relaxed and at ease about life.

10. They Are Just a Phone Call Away

They make it clear and mean it when they say they are just a phone call away. They are there for you in good times and bad times. Just the fact that they are available in case you need them gives you a boost in your confidence to take on the challenges ahead.

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11. They Demonstrate a High PGQ

Practical Generosity Quotient (PGQ) is the capacity one adds in relation to the capacity the other person needs to move the needle in a significant way. They bring with them a PGQ so high that you don’t have a choice but to feel blessed to be their friend.

In summary, your life is wonderful because you are surrounded by these wonderful people. Build deep relationships with these people and make your life magical.

Featured photo credit: Black Chaos via flickr.com

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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