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15 Things You Only Realize When You’re Adulting

15 Things You Only Realize When You’re Adulting

Do you think you’re an adult? Adulting can be a lot of fun, with no parents watching over you and the freedom to do whatever you like. Yet somehow you find yourself missing your childhood – maybe it’s because you didn’t have to do all of the washing up and laundry then.

Check out these 15 things you only realize when you’re adulating:

1. You Realize NOTHING Gets Done Unless You Do It

You knew your parents did a lot for you when you lived at home, but it was only when you moved out that you realized HOW much they actually did. Now you do the laundry, the washing up, and you take out the bins – and why is the lampshade so dusty? You’ve only lived here for four months. Do you have to clean that, too?! It never ends.

2. You Discover How Depressing Job Interviews Are

Convincing a stranger that you are a worldly genius while wearing uncomfortable clothes – and then getting rejected. Again, and again, and again….

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3. You Realize How Important Your Job Is

Eventually you get a job – Hurray! Sadly the job is working in administration, and it has nothing to do with your degree. However, you’re pretty sure you can never quit – you need this precious, boring job to pay your rent and bills.

4. You Notice How Terrible You Are With Money

You’re finally earning a full time wage – and where does it all go?! You’re pretty certain you’ve spent all of your money, but there is another week until payday. You’ve come up with a smart solution to deal with this: you now totally avoid checking your bank balance. You’d rather it remain a mystery.

5. You Sometimes You Feel Good About Your Earnings, Until You Remember Student Loans

Considering your degree didn’t help you get your job, you feel particularly peeved that you have to pay back your student loans. You need that money for alcohol and potato chips, so you can temporarily pretend you’re not an adult.

6. … Or Taxes

You didn’t mind the idea of paying taxes, because you were looking forward to being an important, contributing member of society. Then you realized how expensive taxes are- they’re HOW much?!

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7. You Realize You Need To Take Care Of Your Body

You love sitting on the sofa and eating chocolate, but recently you have started to feel mild guilt about this. It has to be the adulting you’re doing; so now you buy chocolate with fruit in it, and you bought a new pair of running sneakers. You have high hopes you will eventually put them on your feet.

8. You Don’t Like Going Out As Much

On the weekend? You’re not sure if you want to ruin your precious weekend with a hangover. Mid-week? You have to be joking – you’re up at 7am for work.

9. You Can’t Sleep Properly Anymore

You’re used to lying in bed worrying about bills, rent and general adulting-related concerns. Maybe you should have gone out after all, since you’re not sleeping either way.

10. You Realize You Have To Plan And Cook Your Own Meals

You tried a lasagna and you nearly set your whole house on fire. From now on, you’re sticking to your childhood favorites: ready meals, potato chips, and sandwiches.

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11. You Realize How Many Things You Love Cost Money

It isn’t just rent, heating, and food – it is EVERYTHING. If you want to go out and exercise, you have to pay for a gym membership. If you just want to sit inside and try to forget about all of the adulting you’re doing, you need to pay for a Netflix account.

12. You Notice You Downgraded Your Life Goals

As a child, you wanted to live in a nice house. As an adult, you just want to pay rent on time. As a child you wanted to be an explorer. As an adult, you just want a job with a semi-decent boss. Sigh.

13. You Have To Make Your Own Appointments

You have always hated going to the doctor and the dentist, and now you have to make the appointments yourself –which is probably why you never go anymore.

14. You Feel Awkward When You Try To Make Adult Friends

You already have a solid group of friends from school and University, but it’s much harder to make friends in the office – mainly because you’re the only person there under 50.

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15. You Often Feel Like An Adult-Child Hybrid

Eating potato chips, watching TV and spending time on the computer are still all your favorite things to do- and you still have to force yourself to eat some vegetables. You’re pretty sure that you are a child living inside a grown-up body.

What did you think of this list? Can you relate? Share this with your friends who are adulting and see what they think!

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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