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15 Things You Only Realize When You’re Adulting

15 Things You Only Realize When You’re Adulting

Do you think you’re an adult? Adulting can be a lot of fun, with no parents watching over you and the freedom to do whatever you like. Yet somehow you find yourself missing your childhood – maybe it’s because you didn’t have to do all of the washing up and laundry then.

Check out these 15 things you only realize when you’re adulating:

1. You Realize NOTHING Gets Done Unless You Do It

You knew your parents did a lot for you when you lived at home, but it was only when you moved out that you realized HOW much they actually did. Now you do the laundry, the washing up, and you take out the bins – and why is the lampshade so dusty? You’ve only lived here for four months. Do you have to clean that, too?! It never ends.

2. You Discover How Depressing Job Interviews Are

Convincing a stranger that you are a worldly genius while wearing uncomfortable clothes – and then getting rejected. Again, and again, and again….

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3. You Realize How Important Your Job Is

Eventually you get a job – Hurray! Sadly the job is working in administration, and it has nothing to do with your degree. However, you’re pretty sure you can never quit – you need this precious, boring job to pay your rent and bills.

4. You Notice How Terrible You Are With Money

You’re finally earning a full time wage – and where does it all go?! You’re pretty certain you’ve spent all of your money, but there is another week until payday. You’ve come up with a smart solution to deal with this: you now totally avoid checking your bank balance. You’d rather it remain a mystery.

5. You Sometimes You Feel Good About Your Earnings, Until You Remember Student Loans

Considering your degree didn’t help you get your job, you feel particularly peeved that you have to pay back your student loans. You need that money for alcohol and potato chips, so you can temporarily pretend you’re not an adult.

6. … Or Taxes

You didn’t mind the idea of paying taxes, because you were looking forward to being an important, contributing member of society. Then you realized how expensive taxes are- they’re HOW much?!

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7. You Realize You Need To Take Care Of Your Body

You love sitting on the sofa and eating chocolate, but recently you have started to feel mild guilt about this. It has to be the adulting you’re doing; so now you buy chocolate with fruit in it, and you bought a new pair of running sneakers. You have high hopes you will eventually put them on your feet.

8. You Don’t Like Going Out As Much

On the weekend? You’re not sure if you want to ruin your precious weekend with a hangover. Mid-week? You have to be joking – you’re up at 7am for work.

9. You Can’t Sleep Properly Anymore

You’re used to lying in bed worrying about bills, rent and general adulting-related concerns. Maybe you should have gone out after all, since you’re not sleeping either way.

10. You Realize You Have To Plan And Cook Your Own Meals

You tried a lasagna and you nearly set your whole house on fire. From now on, you’re sticking to your childhood favorites: ready meals, potato chips, and sandwiches.

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11. You Realize How Many Things You Love Cost Money

It isn’t just rent, heating, and food – it is EVERYTHING. If you want to go out and exercise, you have to pay for a gym membership. If you just want to sit inside and try to forget about all of the adulting you’re doing, you need to pay for a Netflix account.

12. You Notice You Downgraded Your Life Goals

As a child, you wanted to live in a nice house. As an adult, you just want to pay rent on time. As a child you wanted to be an explorer. As an adult, you just want a job with a semi-decent boss. Sigh.

13. You Have To Make Your Own Appointments

You have always hated going to the doctor and the dentist, and now you have to make the appointments yourself –which is probably why you never go anymore.

14. You Feel Awkward When You Try To Make Adult Friends

You already have a solid group of friends from school and University, but it’s much harder to make friends in the office – mainly because you’re the only person there under 50.

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15. You Often Feel Like An Adult-Child Hybrid

Eating potato chips, watching TV and spending time on the computer are still all your favorite things to do- and you still have to force yourself to eat some vegetables. You’re pretty sure that you are a child living inside a grown-up body.

What did you think of this list? Can you relate? Share this with your friends who are adulting and see what they think!

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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