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20 Things Only People Who Were Raised by Nervous Parents Will Understand

20 Things Only People Who Were Raised by Nervous Parents Will Understand

You love your parents. And there’s nothing you’d change about how you were brought up … or at least, almost nothing. But let’s be real: being raised by nervous parents was almost a career in itself. And it has certainly equipped you for life in quite a, er, different manner than your peers.

From always knowing the best possible escape routes, through to being extremely aware of other people’s emotions, and knowing just how to calm a flustered adult, you’ve pretty much grown up to become a hybrid Sherlock Holmes/Dr. Sheldon Cooper/Oprah-esque superhero. And while this list is by no means exhaustive, it does cover some of the ways your nervous parents have ensured that you’ve developed a unique set of skills.

1. You appreciate the healing power of a good hug and are more than willing to say “I love you.”

… while your mother slides a shifty glance at your father and whispers: “Who knows if this will be our last special moment?”

2. You make sure that you never go to bed mad at someone.

There’s a part of you that just can’t take that risk.

3. You’ve never learned to cook because the sight of you approaching a kitchen knife sent your parents into hysterics.

Ditto with boiling water, ovens, and frying pans. In fact, the entire kitchen was pretty much a no-go zone.

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4. You do know how to live off an emergency survival bag of canned beans, though.

You know, just in case.

5. You’ve learned to add an extra five-minutes to any schedule.

… so your nervous parents can check, and re-check that the house/car/oreos has been locked up.

6. Your least favorite phrase is: “Did you know that …”

This sentence never ends well. And most of the time you really didn’t want to know about the ten possible diseases you could catch by accidentally touching the escalator hand rest.

7. Your next least favorite phrase is: “Are you sure …”

Because this is usually followed by something like: “You have your scarf/parka/ski jacket?” Even though it’s summer, and, you know, ridiculously hot.

8. You were the only kid in school with two full-size luggage bags for a weekend camping trip.

That was being hosted at the school gym. You still find it extremely hard to pack light and envy people who can do carry-on only.

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9. You never had a pet.

The reasons why are too endless to list in just one article, let alone one point.

10. Your parents constantly reinforced the need to lock your door as soon as you hopped into the car.

Because as your dad told you: “Somebody might steal you, possum.”

11. And let’s be real; you’re still worried about that today.

You’re 28.

12. You’re fully aware of the stop-drop-and-roll strategy and know where the fire exit is at all times.

You also know how to perform CPR and have a working first aid kit on your keychain.

13. You’re used to your parents calling you (or worse, your school/friends/colleagues/partner) at all times of the day just to “check in”.

It’s been an hour since they last spoke to you – anything could have happened!

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14. You were always liked by parents (other people’s parents, that is).

Probably because watching you send out smoke signals every hour on the hour made them feel pretty darn good about their own parenting style.

15. You could be hired, in an instant, as a diplomat.

Calming people down and reaching mutually beneficial agreements is kind of your specialty. A just-in-case check-up with your GP in exchange for a whole weekend at your friend’s place? You’ve got yourself a deal.

16. You never got to choose which languages you learned.

So naturally, Italian and French didn’t make the nervous parenting education list. But you are fluent in Mandarin, Spanish, and Hindi.

17. You have to force yourself to keep your mouth shut when someone says, “What’s the worst that could happen?”

Because the truth is that you can already think of 21 possible ways the current situation could lead to destruction, chaos, and the loss of a body part.

18. You never had a curfew.

Your nervous parents just stalked you and/or followed you around (being sure to stay a few cars/people behind you at all times).

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19. You’re an awesome sleeper.

Probably because you’re used to waking up with your mother’s ear pressed to your chest while she shrieked, “Oh my god, Stan, I can’t hear her breathing!”

20. You know that your future can go either way.

You’ll either become the most relaxed, easy-going person ever, or you’ll have your books organised by genre, last name, relevance, and first letter of the last paragraph on page 15.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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