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20 Things Only People Who Were Raised by Nervous Parents Will Understand

20 Things Only People Who Were Raised by Nervous Parents Will Understand

You love your parents. And there’s nothing you’d change about how you were brought up … or at least, almost nothing. But let’s be real: being raised by nervous parents was almost a career in itself. And it has certainly equipped you for life in quite a, er, different manner than your peers.

From always knowing the best possible escape routes, through to being extremely aware of other people’s emotions, and knowing just how to calm a flustered adult, you’ve pretty much grown up to become a hybrid Sherlock Holmes/Dr. Sheldon Cooper/Oprah-esque superhero. And while this list is by no means exhaustive, it does cover some of the ways your nervous parents have ensured that you’ve developed a unique set of skills.

1. You appreciate the healing power of a good hug and are more than willing to say “I love you.”

… while your mother slides a shifty glance at your father and whispers: “Who knows if this will be our last special moment?”

2. You make sure that you never go to bed mad at someone.

There’s a part of you that just can’t take that risk.

3. You’ve never learned to cook because the sight of you approaching a kitchen knife sent your parents into hysterics.

Ditto with boiling water, ovens, and frying pans. In fact, the entire kitchen was pretty much a no-go zone.

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4. You do know how to live off an emergency survival bag of canned beans, though.

You know, just in case.

5. You’ve learned to add an extra five-minutes to any schedule.

… so your nervous parents can check, and re-check that the house/car/oreos has been locked up.

6. Your least favorite phrase is: “Did you know that …”

This sentence never ends well. And most of the time you really didn’t want to know about the ten possible diseases you could catch by accidentally touching the escalator hand rest.

7. Your next least favorite phrase is: “Are you sure …”

Because this is usually followed by something like: “You have your scarf/parka/ski jacket?” Even though it’s summer, and, you know, ridiculously hot.

8. You were the only kid in school with two full-size luggage bags for a weekend camping trip.

That was being hosted at the school gym. You still find it extremely hard to pack light and envy people who can do carry-on only.

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9. You never had a pet.

The reasons why are too endless to list in just one article, let alone one point.

10. Your parents constantly reinforced the need to lock your door as soon as you hopped into the car.

Because as your dad told you: “Somebody might steal you, possum.”

11. And let’s be real; you’re still worried about that today.

You’re 28.

12. You’re fully aware of the stop-drop-and-roll strategy and know where the fire exit is at all times.

You also know how to perform CPR and have a working first aid kit on your keychain.

13. You’re used to your parents calling you (or worse, your school/friends/colleagues/partner) at all times of the day just to “check in”.

It’s been an hour since they last spoke to you – anything could have happened!

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14. You were always liked by parents (other people’s parents, that is).

Probably because watching you send out smoke signals every hour on the hour made them feel pretty darn good about their own parenting style.

15. You could be hired, in an instant, as a diplomat.

Calming people down and reaching mutually beneficial agreements is kind of your specialty. A just-in-case check-up with your GP in exchange for a whole weekend at your friend’s place? You’ve got yourself a deal.

16. You never got to choose which languages you learned.

So naturally, Italian and French didn’t make the nervous parenting education list. But you are fluent in Mandarin, Spanish, and Hindi.

17. You have to force yourself to keep your mouth shut when someone says, “What’s the worst that could happen?”

Because the truth is that you can already think of 21 possible ways the current situation could lead to destruction, chaos, and the loss of a body part.

18. You never had a curfew.

Your nervous parents just stalked you and/or followed you around (being sure to stay a few cars/people behind you at all times).

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19. You’re an awesome sleeper.

Probably because you’re used to waking up with your mother’s ear pressed to your chest while she shrieked, “Oh my god, Stan, I can’t hear her breathing!”

20. You know that your future can go either way.

You’ll either become the most relaxed, easy-going person ever, or you’ll have your books organised by genre, last name, relevance, and first letter of the last paragraph on page 15.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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