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Stop Repeating These 10 Excuses, They’re Simply Lies

Stop Repeating These 10 Excuses, They’re Simply Lies

Excuses suck. No one does great with them. Sometimes even when these excuses seem valid, you shouldn’t just resort to it. There is no point in holing ourselves with excuses. We should always find a way to make things better and do what should be done. Besides many of these excuses that we hang ourselves with are lies.

1. “It is not possible.”

Why do you think it is not possible? If it has not worked out before that doesn’t mean it can’t be done. Lies like this distract you from the big picture and the possibilities of making a success when all that surrounds you are failures. Retract this statement and focus on the positive.

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2. “I am not worth a dime without a college degree.”

This excuse is so stupid. Why consume yourself with the impossibility of chasing those things that matter to you when you can succeed even without a university degree. A lot of people in our society started from nothing and became a success without a college degree.

3. “I am not good enough.”

Perhaps you come from a minority or you are physically or financially incapacitated, this should not wither your dreams and the possibility of becoming the success you can be. No one is really good enough at first, it must have taken a lot of practice and success for you to become renowned and successful. Being disadvantaged is a good start because the world always loves the underdog.

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4. “I don’t have the money to do this.”

Rather than think that money is the problem, find a way that you can be of service to someone to generate the money you need. This excuse is a lie because money is not a problem but it is you playing the victim.

5. “What will people say if I did this?”

The truth is that no one is concerned about you. And this is a fact because everyone is sucked up in their world and you are the least of their problems. Even if they notice you for a second, this is temporary. Focus on permanent solutions to your challenges rather than temporary hindrances.

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6. “This is who I am, I cannot change.”

Why can’t you change? Change is a constant thing. Humans are created to adapt and survive. If you are being dogmatic and do not swing with the wind of change, you will only become buried by it.

7. “I am too old for this.”

This doesn’t stick because age is more of a mindset rather than a number. You have to break out of that cocoon of being too old and start doing what needs to be done. Colonel Sanders started KFC at age 62. Why make excuses about your age. Whether it is a degree you want to earn or a company you want to start, you are not late in pursuing your goals.

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8. “I am not a lucky person.”

How the world defines luck is one that is synonymous with chance. What choices you make is what affects your “luck” or chances of becoming what you want to be. Besides success is not a gamble. You have to earn it and luck only comes to play when you have gone in search of it.

9. “I will go after it after I have gotten married.”

Well it means you really don’t want to get what you are after. Marriage is a milestone that doesn’t affect your success or failure rate. Perhaps you are looking for a companion to hold your back or you are trying to marry a rich man or rich lady, your chance at becoming happy should not depend on this. You should look at the big picture and develop your credibility for marriage rather than let marriage develop your credibility.

10. “I am too busy.”

No one is too busy. Rather you have to define your priorities rather than complain that you are so busy. Being busy doesn’t answer the right questions. Rather you should free up space for what truly matters.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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