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Stop Repeating These 10 Excuses, They’re Simply Lies

Stop Repeating These 10 Excuses, They’re Simply Lies

Excuses suck. No one does great with them. Sometimes even when these excuses seem valid, you shouldn’t just resort to it. There is no point in holing ourselves with excuses. We should always find a way to make things better and do what should be done. Besides many of these excuses that we hang ourselves with are lies.

1. “It is not possible.”

Why do you think it is not possible? If it has not worked out before that doesn’t mean it can’t be done. Lies like this distract you from the big picture and the possibilities of making a success when all that surrounds you are failures. Retract this statement and focus on the positive.

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2. “I am not worth a dime without a college degree.”

This excuse is so stupid. Why consume yourself with the impossibility of chasing those things that matter to you when you can succeed even without a university degree. A lot of people in our society started from nothing and became a success without a college degree.

3. “I am not good enough.”

Perhaps you come from a minority or you are physically or financially incapacitated, this should not wither your dreams and the possibility of becoming the success you can be. No one is really good enough at first, it must have taken a lot of practice and success for you to become renowned and successful. Being disadvantaged is a good start because the world always loves the underdog.

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4. “I don’t have the money to do this.”

Rather than think that money is the problem, find a way that you can be of service to someone to generate the money you need. This excuse is a lie because money is not a problem but it is you playing the victim.

5. “What will people say if I did this?”

The truth is that no one is concerned about you. And this is a fact because everyone is sucked up in their world and you are the least of their problems. Even if they notice you for a second, this is temporary. Focus on permanent solutions to your challenges rather than temporary hindrances.

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6. “This is who I am, I cannot change.”

Why can’t you change? Change is a constant thing. Humans are created to adapt and survive. If you are being dogmatic and do not swing with the wind of change, you will only become buried by it.

7. “I am too old for this.”

This doesn’t stick because age is more of a mindset rather than a number. You have to break out of that cocoon of being too old and start doing what needs to be done. Colonel Sanders started KFC at age 62. Why make excuses about your age. Whether it is a degree you want to earn or a company you want to start, you are not late in pursuing your goals.

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8. “I am not a lucky person.”

How the world defines luck is one that is synonymous with chance. What choices you make is what affects your “luck” or chances of becoming what you want to be. Besides success is not a gamble. You have to earn it and luck only comes to play when you have gone in search of it.

9. “I will go after it after I have gotten married.”

Well it means you really don’t want to get what you are after. Marriage is a milestone that doesn’t affect your success or failure rate. Perhaps you are looking for a companion to hold your back or you are trying to marry a rich man or rich lady, your chance at becoming happy should not depend on this. You should look at the big picture and develop your credibility for marriage rather than let marriage develop your credibility.

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10. “I am too busy.”

No one is too busy. Rather you have to define your priorities rather than complain that you are so busy. Being busy doesn’t answer the right questions. Rather you should free up space for what truly matters.

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Casey Imafidon

Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

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Last Updated on July 21, 2021

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

No matter how well you set up your todo list and calendar, you aren’t going to get things done unless you have a reliable way of reminding yourself to actually do them.

Anyone who’s spent an hour writing up the perfect grocery list only to realize at the store that they forgot to bring the list understands the importance of reminders.

Reminders of some sort or another are what turn a collection of paper goods or web services into what David Allen calls a “trusted system.”[1]

A lot of people resist getting better organized. No matter what kind of chaotic mess, their lives are on a day-to-day basis because they know themselves well enough to know that there’s after all that work they’ll probably forget to take their lists with them when it matters most.

Fortunately, there are ways to make sure we remember to check our lists — and to remember to do the things we need to do, whether they’re on a list or not.

In most cases, we need a lot of pushing at first, for example by making a reminder, but eventually we build up enough momentum that doing what needs doing becomes a habit — not an exception.

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From Creating Reminders to Building Habits

A habit is any act we engage in automatically without thinking about it.

For example, when you brush your teeth, you don’t have to think about every single step from start to finish; once you stagger up to the sink, habit takes over (and, really, habit got you to the sink in the first place) and you find yourself putting toothpaste on your toothbrush, putting the toothbrush in your mouth (and never your ear!), spitting, rinsing, and so on without any conscious effort at all.

This is a good thing because if you’re anything like me, you’re not even capable of conscious thought when you’re brushing your teeth.

The good news is you already have a whole set of productivity habits you’ve built up over the course of your life. The bad news is, a lot of them aren’t very good habits.

That quick game Frogger to “loosen you up” before you get working, that always ends up being 6 hours of Frogger –– that’s a habit. And as you know, habits like that can be hard to break — which is one of the reasons why habits are so important in the first place.

Once you’ve replaced an unproductive habit with a more productive one, the new habit will be just as hard to break as the old one was. Getting there, though, can be a chore!

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The old saw about anything you do for 21 days becoming a habit has been pretty much discredited, but there is a kernel of truth there — anything you do long enough becomes an ingrained behavior, a habit. Some people pick up habits quickly, others over a longer time span, but eventually, the behaviors become automatic.

Building productive habits, then, is a matter of repeating a desired behavior over a long enough period of time that you start doing it without thinking.

But how do you remember to do that? And what about the things that don’t need to be habits — the one-off events, like taking your paycheck stubs to your mortgage banker or making a particular phone call?

The trick to reminding yourself often enough for something to become a habit, or just that one time that you need to do something, is to interrupt yourself in some way in a way that triggers the desired behavior.

The Wonderful Thing About Triggers — Reminders

A trigger is anything that you put “in your way” to remind you to do something. The best triggers are related in some way to the behavior you want to produce.

For instance, if you want to remember to take something to work that you wouldn’t normally take, you might place it in front of the door so you have to pick it up to get out of your house.

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But anything that catches your attention and reminds you to do something can be a trigger. An alarm clock or kitchen timer is a perfect example — when the bell rings, you know to wake up or take the quiche out of the oven. (Hopefully you remember which trigger goes with which behavior!)

If you want to instill a habit, the thing to do is to place a trigger in your path to remind you to do whatever it is you’re trying to make into a habit — and keep it there until you realize that you’ve already done the thing it’s supposed to remind you of.

For instance, a post-it saying “count your calories” placed on the refrigerator door (or maybe on your favorite sugary snack itself)  can help you remember that you’re supposed to be cutting back — until one day you realize that you don’t need to be reminded anymore.

These triggers all require a lot of forethought, though — you have to remember that you need to remember something in the first place.

For a lot of tasks, the best reminder is one that’s completely automated — you set it up and then forget about it, trusting the trigger to pop up when you need it.

How to Make a Reminder Works for You

Computers and ubiquity of mobile Internet-connected devices make it possible to set up automatic triggers for just about anything.

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Desktop software like Outlook will pop up reminders on your desktop screen, and most online services go an extra step and send reminders via email or SMS text message — just the thing to keep you on track. Sandy, for example, just does automatic reminders.

Automated reminders can help you build habits — but it can also help you remember things that are too important to be trusted even to habit. Diabetics who need to take their insulin, HIV patients whose medication must be taken at an exact time in a precise order, phone calls that have to be made exactly on time, and other crucial events require triggers even when the habit is already in place.

My advice is to set reminders for just about everything — have them sent to your mobile phone in some way (either through a built-in calendar or an online service that sends updates) so you never have to think about it — and never have to worry about forgetting.

Your weekly review is a good time to enter new reminders for the coming weeks or months. I simply don’t want to think about what I’m supposed to be doing; I want to be reminded so I can think just about actually doing it.

I tend to use my calendar for reminders, mostly, though I do like Sandy quite a bit.

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Reference

[1] Getting Things Done: Trusted System

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