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7 Reasons Why Selfishness Is The Key To Happiness

7 Reasons Why Selfishness Is The Key To Happiness

Being selfish can be very good for you. Though selfishness may be seen as a bad word to some, it actually reflects the idea of pursuing your own happiness and prioritising self care.

Many drain themselves trying to please others and gain their acceptance, but you can’t really gain the acceptance of others when you have not accepted yourself. I find joy in considering myself first before seeking the approval and contentment of others. This does not make me an awful person, it just makes me more complete and prepared to face the world, giving it the best of what I can give.

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Here are some reasons why being selfish will make you a happier person. Open the door to happiness by considering a few reasons why you should be a little bit more selfish in your life.

1. It reinforces that you are your greatest protector

No one can look out for you the same way you look out for yourself. We all have a life to lead and it is our responsibility to make it great or not. We have to defend what we have, and if this means being selfish sometimes, then it is for the best. When selfishness means being more concerned about your own wellbeing, that’s not a bad thing.

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2. It means you won’t blame others when things go wrong

A lot of things can go wrong in life. But if you have taken charge of the situation from the beginning, you won’t feel hurt by being wronged by someone else. Rather, you will accept responsibility and take it with a grain of salt.

3. It makes you focus on quality rather than quantity

Being selfish reduces and streamlines your options. Your availability and choices will be fewer when you choose to think of yourself first. This offers more room for qualitative decisions and a rounder perspective on life. Getting the best out of your relationships and work life could be dependent on this factor.

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4. It will train your perceptive powers

Being selfish builds your instinct and gut-like abilities. You are able to listen to your inner powers and take action on what works best for you. It is easier to make your choices based on what works rather than on what doesn’t work. Being selfish means that you want to engage only in things that will keep you happy and satisfied.

5. It makes you healthier

Trying to please others can lead to frustration, disappointment, and unnecessary stress. It is impossible to make everyone happy. When you place other peoples’ wish ahead of yours, it puts a block on your ability to live the life that you desire. You are limited and distracted from fulfilling those commitments that will make a difference to you. By being selfish, you can take better care of yourself.

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6. It will improve your self-worth

When you are looking out for no one but yourself, you appreciate and value yourself more. Whether it is your opinion or character, you tend to be influenced more by your own voice. With this, you can see yourself from an advantageous light.

7. It helps you to deal with the world around you

You can only help the world around you and be of service to it when you are happy and content with your own self. If you are constantly distracted and upset by those around you, you will not be able to be of service to anyone. Giving what you don’t have is always a horrible idea. Focus on your own personal growth and define what you want for yourself, then you will be of service to those who need it.

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Last Updated on February 18, 2019

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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