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7 Reasons Why Selfishness Is The Key To Happiness

7 Reasons Why Selfishness Is The Key To Happiness

Being selfish can be very good for you. Though selfishness may be seen as a bad word to some, it actually reflects the idea of pursuing your own happiness and prioritising self care.

Many drain themselves trying to please others and gain their acceptance, but you can’t really gain the acceptance of others when you have not accepted yourself. I find joy in considering myself first before seeking the approval and contentment of others. This does not make me an awful person, it just makes me more complete and prepared to face the world, giving it the best of what I can give.

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Here are some reasons why being selfish will make you a happier person. Open the door to happiness by considering a few reasons why you should be a little bit more selfish in your life.

1. It reinforces that you are your greatest protector

No one can look out for you the same way you look out for yourself. We all have a life to lead and it is our responsibility to make it great or not. We have to defend what we have, and if this means being selfish sometimes, then it is for the best. When selfishness means being more concerned about your own wellbeing, that’s not a bad thing.

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2. It means you won’t blame others when things go wrong

A lot of things can go wrong in life. But if you have taken charge of the situation from the beginning, you won’t feel hurt by being wronged by someone else. Rather, you will accept responsibility and take it with a grain of salt.

3. It makes you focus on quality rather than quantity

Being selfish reduces and streamlines your options. Your availability and choices will be fewer when you choose to think of yourself first. This offers more room for qualitative decisions and a rounder perspective on life. Getting the best out of your relationships and work life could be dependent on this factor.

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4. It will train your perceptive powers

Being selfish builds your instinct and gut-like abilities. You are able to listen to your inner powers and take action on what works best for you. It is easier to make your choices based on what works rather than on what doesn’t work. Being selfish means that you want to engage only in things that will keep you happy and satisfied.

5. It makes you healthier

Trying to please others can lead to frustration, disappointment, and unnecessary stress. It is impossible to make everyone happy. When you place other peoples’ wish ahead of yours, it puts a block on your ability to live the life that you desire. You are limited and distracted from fulfilling those commitments that will make a difference to you. By being selfish, you can take better care of yourself.

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6. It will improve your self-worth

When you are looking out for no one but yourself, you appreciate and value yourself more. Whether it is your opinion or character, you tend to be influenced more by your own voice. With this, you can see yourself from an advantageous light.

7. It helps you to deal with the world around you

You can only help the world around you and be of service to it when you are happy and content with your own self. If you are constantly distracted and upset by those around you, you will not be able to be of service to anyone. Giving what you don’t have is always a horrible idea. Focus on your own personal growth and define what you want for yourself, then you will be of service to those who need it.

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Last Updated on June 13, 2019

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

Think you have a boring life?

The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

2. Go Play with Kids

Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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3. Order a Hot Dog

While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

This will give you something to look forward to.

Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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13. People Watch

Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

People are infinitely interesting.

14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

15. Dance

You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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