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5 Life Lessons We Can All Learn From New Mothers

5 Life Lessons We Can All Learn From New Mothers

New mothers face a ton of challenges when they settle into their new life as a parent. They’re often left to figure it out and find solutions on their own. They end up becoming better people who are more organised, authentic, and fun as a result.

Here’s five life lessons plenty of new mothers have learned (often the hard way) on their journey into parenthood, that absolutely everyone can benefit from.

1. Put yourself first (as much as you can)

This isn’t exactly what you’d expect a mother to say, right? Of course, babies and toddlers have needs that cannot be ignored, but so do adults. For a mother of a newborn, squeezing in time for a quick shower in the morning can set her up for a great (although probably still sleep-deprived) day. Some simple self-care like a quick meditation, a nap, or a tea break can work wonders too!

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2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help

Being a parent is hard work. Let’s honor that. Moms sign up for the toughest job in the world, but that doesn’t mean they’ve got to do it all on their own. Moms can (and should) shamelessly enlist the help and support of their friends, family, teachers, nannies, cleaners, or babysitters to help lighten the load.

Moms (and the rest of us) can benefit from being open to assistance from others, even if they’re paid professionals. The same goes for accepting gifts. New Moms get A LOT of presents, and they usually gratefully accept them. We can all benefit from saying “Yes” to things, people, and help that will make our lives easier.

3. Turn up the BS filter

If anyone has time restraints, it’s mothers! The less time you have in your life, the less bull***t you’re able to tolerate. I can’t believe how much time I wasted before having my daughter. With the all the online shopping, playing games, watching boring TV reruns, gossiping, and Facebook, I was out of control.

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Now that I have less time, I actually achieve more than I ever did before. Most importantly, I put a stop to the BS before it gets out of control. I say “No” to people who waste my time. I don’t even answer the doorbell for door-to-door sales people anymore — true story!

4. Find a balance between being organized and being spontaneous

Some children need routines, which require Moms to be ridiculously organized. All children need a certain level of organization just to get them dressed, fed, and in the car. However, routines can be a real drag if you were used to spontaneous living before having kids.

Modern Moms know how essential it is to keep our impulsive spirit alive. We’re doing it at every opportunity, whether it be through animated play with our children or calling in the cavalry so we can have a night off with the girls.

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5. Don’t let life get in the way of staying in touch with your real friends

Good friends are with you for life. Unfortunately, they’re often the first people to get neglected when you become a new Mom.

Lost in the overwhelming world of new motherhood, many of us turn to mother’s groups and play dates as a way to connect with others and make the days easier. Some of us are even lucky enough to find lasting friendships from these activities.

However, we soon learn that our long-standing friends are irreplaceable. The people who have known us for the longest have stuck around for a reason: They love us unconditionally.

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What life lessons have you learned from the incredible new Moms in your life?

Featured photo credit: abarefoot via albumarium.com

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

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