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5 Life Lessons We Can All Learn From New Mothers

5 Life Lessons We Can All Learn From New Mothers

New mothers face a ton of challenges when they settle into their new life as a parent. They’re often left to figure it out and find solutions on their own. They end up becoming better people who are more organised, authentic, and fun as a result.

Here’s five life lessons plenty of new mothers have learned (often the hard way) on their journey into parenthood, that absolutely everyone can benefit from.

1. Put yourself first (as much as you can)

This isn’t exactly what you’d expect a mother to say, right? Of course, babies and toddlers have needs that cannot be ignored, but so do adults. For a mother of a newborn, squeezing in time for a quick shower in the morning can set her up for a great (although probably still sleep-deprived) day. Some simple self-care like a quick meditation, a nap, or a tea break can work wonders too!

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2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help

Being a parent is hard work. Let’s honor that. Moms sign up for the toughest job in the world, but that doesn’t mean they’ve got to do it all on their own. Moms can (and should) shamelessly enlist the help and support of their friends, family, teachers, nannies, cleaners, or babysitters to help lighten the load.

Moms (and the rest of us) can benefit from being open to assistance from others, even if they’re paid professionals. The same goes for accepting gifts. New Moms get A LOT of presents, and they usually gratefully accept them. We can all benefit from saying “Yes” to things, people, and help that will make our lives easier.

3. Turn up the BS filter

If anyone has time restraints, it’s mothers! The less time you have in your life, the less bull***t you’re able to tolerate. I can’t believe how much time I wasted before having my daughter. With the all the online shopping, playing games, watching boring TV reruns, gossiping, and Facebook, I was out of control.

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Now that I have less time, I actually achieve more than I ever did before. Most importantly, I put a stop to the BS before it gets out of control. I say “No” to people who waste my time. I don’t even answer the doorbell for door-to-door sales people anymore — true story!

4. Find a balance between being organized and being spontaneous

Some children need routines, which require Moms to be ridiculously organized. All children need a certain level of organization just to get them dressed, fed, and in the car. However, routines can be a real drag if you were used to spontaneous living before having kids.

Modern Moms know how essential it is to keep our impulsive spirit alive. We’re doing it at every opportunity, whether it be through animated play with our children or calling in the cavalry so we can have a night off with the girls.

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5. Don’t let life get in the way of staying in touch with your real friends

Good friends are with you for life. Unfortunately, they’re often the first people to get neglected when you become a new Mom.

Lost in the overwhelming world of new motherhood, many of us turn to mother’s groups and play dates as a way to connect with others and make the days easier. Some of us are even lucky enough to find lasting friendships from these activities.

However, we soon learn that our long-standing friends are irreplaceable. The people who have known us for the longest have stuck around for a reason: They love us unconditionally.

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What life lessons have you learned from the incredible new Moms in your life?

Featured photo credit: abarefoot via albumarium.com

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

Learning how to get in shape and set goals is important if you’re looking to live a healthier lifestyle and get closer to your goal weight. While this does require changes to your daily routine, you’ll find that you are able to look and feel better in only two weeks.

Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about what it takes to get in shape. Although anyone can cover the basics (eat right and exercise), there are some things that I could only learn through trial and error. Let’s cover some of the most important points for how to get in shape in two weeks.

1. Exercise Daily

It is far easier to make exercise a habit if it is a daily one. If you aren’t exercising at all, I recommend starting by exercising a half hour every day. When you only exercise a couple times per week, it is much easier to turn one day off into three days off, a week off, or a month off.

If you are already used to exercising, switching to three or four times a week to fit your schedule may be preferable, but it is a lot harder to maintain a workout program you don’t do every day.

Be careful to not repeat the same exercise routine each day. If you do an intense ab workout one day, try switching it up to general cardio the next. You can also squeeze in a day of light walking to break up the intensity.

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2. Duration Doesn’t Substitute for Intensity

Once you get into the habit of regular exercise, where do you go if you still aren’t reaching your goals? Most people will solve the problem by exercising for longer periods of time, turning forty-minute workouts into two hour stretches. Not only does this drain your time, but it doesn’t work particularly well.

One study shows that “exercising for a whole hour instead of a half does not provide any additional loss in either body weight or fat”[1].

This is great news for both your schedule and your levels of motivation. You’ll likely find it much easier to exercise for 30 minutes a day instead of an hour. In those 30 minutes, do your best to up the intensity to your appropriate edge to get the most out of the time.

3. Acknowledge Your Limits

Many people get frustrated when they plateau in their weight loss or muscle gaining goals as they’re learning how to get in shape. Everyone has an equilibrium and genetic set point where their body wants to remain. This doesn’t mean that you can’t achieve your fitness goals, but don’t be too hard on yourself if you are struggling to lose weight or put on muscle.

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Acknowledging a set point doesn’t mean giving up, but it does mean realizing the obstacles you face.

Expect to hit a plateau in your own fitness results[2]. When you expect a plateau, you can manage around it so you can continue your progress at a more realistic rate. When expectations meet reality, you can avoid dietary crashes.

4. Eat Healthy, Not Just Food That Looks Healthy

Know what you eat. Don’t fuss over minutia like whether you’re getting enough Omega 3’s or tryptophan, but be aware of the big things. Look at the foods you eat regularly and figure out whether they are healthy or not. Don’t get fooled by the deceptively healthy snacks just pretending to be good for you.

The basic nutritional advice includes:

  • Eat unprocessed foods
  • Eat more veggies
  • Use meat as a side dish, not a main course
  • Eat whole grains, not refined grains[3]

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Eat whole grains when you want to learn how to get in shape.

    5. Watch Out for Travel

    Don’t let a four-day holiday interfere with your attempts when you’re learning how to get in shape. I don’t mean that you need to follow your diet and exercise plan without any excursion, but when you are in the first few weeks, still forming habits, be careful that a week long break doesn’t terminate your progress.

    This is also true of schedule changes that leave you suddenly busy or make it difficult to exercise. Have a backup plan so you can be consistent, at least for the first month when you are forming habits.

    If travel is on your schedule and can’t be avoided, make an exercise plan before you go[4], and make sure to pack exercise clothes and an exercise mat as motivation to keep you on track.

    6. Start Slow

    Ever start an exercise plan by running ten miles and then puking your guts out? Maybe you aren’t that extreme, but burnout is common early on when learning how to get in shape. You have a lifetime to be healthy, so don’t try to go from couch potato to athletic superstar in a week.

    If you are starting a running regime, for example, run less than you can to start. Starting strength training? Work with less weight than you could theoretically lift. Increasing intensity and pushing yourself can come later when your body becomes comfortable with regular exercise.

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    7. Be Careful When Choosing a Workout Partner

    Should you have a workout partner? That depends. Workout partners can help you stay motivated and make exercising more fun. But they can also stop you from reaching your goals.

    My suggestion would be to have a workout partner, but when you start to plateau (either in physical ability, weight loss/gain, or overall health) and you haven’t reached your goals, consider mixing things up a bit.

    If you plateau, you may need to make changes to continue improving. In this case it’s important to talk to your workout partner about the changes you want to make, and if they don’t seem motivated to continue, offer a thirty day break where you both try different activities.

    I notice that guys working out together tend to match strength after a brief adjustment phase. Even if both are trying to improve, something seems to stall improvement once they reach a certain point. I found that I was able to lift as much as 30-50% more after taking a short break from my regular workout partner.

    Final Thoughts

    Learning how to get in shape in as little as two weeks sounds daunting, but if you’re motivated and have the time and energy to devote to it, it’s certainly possible.

    Find an exercise routine that works for you, eat healthy, drink lots of water, and watch as the transformation begins.

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