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What You Need to Remember if Someone You Love Has Depression

What You Need to Remember if Someone You Love Has Depression

Depression is often misunderstood. Most doctors refer to depression as a disease, or as a disorder. When symptoms of depressions present in a patient, such as loss of appetite, sleeplessness, general sadness, or a desire to withdraw from social situations, doctors rush to prescribe medication to alleviate these symptoms. What many doctors miss is the chance to delve deeper into the underlying conditions that are causing these feeling to exist in the lives of their patients.

Some cases of depression are caused by chemical imbalances and can be treated like a disease. But for many individuals suffering from depression, the form of depression they are experiencing is not best addressed through the use of medication as the primary/sole treatment option.

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The True Causes of Depression

Human beings often become depressed because depression is the logical reaction to the challenges in their lives. Some feel isolated because they have no one to talk to, or hang out with. Others work tirelessly to succeed but receive little or no reward for their efforts. Still, others feel depressed because they see so much suffering in the world, but feel powerless to change anything. It is only logical that such feelings of isolation, failure and helplessness might lead to depression.

Aside from the logical, psychological causes of depression, several environmental factors also cause people to become depressed. Some people who suffer from depression are simply reacting to an imbalance in their lives. Perhaps they are working too much and sleeping too little. Perhaps they are stressed out from too many obligations. Perhaps they are failing to get the right type, or the right amount, of nutrition. Perhaps they are getting old and facing the fact that they are not living the life they truly desire to live. Bodily changes, aging, malnutrition, social pressure, and even nostalgia can all cause people to experience depression. In such cases, using medication alone as a treatment option does not eliminate the root causes of the depression.

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Compassion is Key

Compassion means, “to suffer with.” Every human being needs to feel understood. Take the example of a person who has turned to substance abuse as a method of coping with depression. Over time, the substance abuse turned to addiction, and now the person is in an addiction recovery program. Though this person is going through the process of overcome the addiction, the root causes of the depression that led to the substance abuse still exist. What this person needs is other human beings who can say, “I’ve been there. I know how hard it is. You’re not alone.”

What medication can cure the depression of a young woman who is not being rewarded for her efforts at work? What drug can heal an elderly widower’s sense of social isolation? What prescription will heal the depression of a single father caused by lack of sleep from working three part time jobs? What drug will ease the depression of a hospice worker who sits all day with the dying?

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Depression can be normal, logical, and perhaps even inevitable in certain circumstances. It’s a part of life. What depressed individuals need is compassion from someone who understands, who has been there, who has felt the same feelings, and who can help put things into perspective.

It Can Happen to Anyone

When the famous celebrity Robin Williams ended his own life, many people were surprised that someone so funny could have been depressed. Some people were shocked that someone so famous, with so much money, couldn’t get proper treatment for his depression. Those reactions reveal society’s basic misunderstanding about depression.

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Humor can be an effective coping mechanism, but not all pain can be laughed away. Money is an excellent tool, but it can’t fix an existential crises. Fame is no comfort in the darkest, most lonely moments of the night.

What Can You Do?

If someone you love is suffering from depression, don’t look at them as being solely defined by this, as sadness is a part of the human experience. Few people make it through life without suffering from some form of depression. The best thing you can do to help those who are depressed is to suffer with them; be by their side; let them know that you feel their pain, and that you will stick by them no matter what.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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