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What You Need to Remember if Someone You Love Has Depression

What You Need to Remember if Someone You Love Has Depression

Depression is often misunderstood. Most doctors refer to depression as a disease, or as a disorder. When symptoms of depressions present in a patient, such as loss of appetite, sleeplessness, general sadness, or a desire to withdraw from social situations, doctors rush to prescribe medication to alleviate these symptoms. What many doctors miss is the chance to delve deeper into the underlying conditions that are causing these feeling to exist in the lives of their patients.

Some cases of depression are caused by chemical imbalances and can be treated like a disease. But for many individuals suffering from depression, the form of depression they are experiencing is not best addressed through the use of medication as the primary/sole treatment option.

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The True Causes of Depression

Human beings often become depressed because depression is the logical reaction to the challenges in their lives. Some feel isolated because they have no one to talk to, or hang out with. Others work tirelessly to succeed but receive little or no reward for their efforts. Still, others feel depressed because they see so much suffering in the world, but feel powerless to change anything. It is only logical that such feelings of isolation, failure and helplessness might lead to depression.

Aside from the logical, psychological causes of depression, several environmental factors also cause people to become depressed. Some people who suffer from depression are simply reacting to an imbalance in their lives. Perhaps they are working too much and sleeping too little. Perhaps they are stressed out from too many obligations. Perhaps they are failing to get the right type, or the right amount, of nutrition. Perhaps they are getting old and facing the fact that they are not living the life they truly desire to live. Bodily changes, aging, malnutrition, social pressure, and even nostalgia can all cause people to experience depression. In such cases, using medication alone as a treatment option does not eliminate the root causes of the depression.

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Compassion is Key

Compassion means, “to suffer with.” Every human being needs to feel understood. Take the example of a person who has turned to substance abuse as a method of coping with depression. Over time, the substance abuse turned to addiction, and now the person is in an addiction recovery program. Though this person is going through the process of overcome the addiction, the root causes of the depression that led to the substance abuse still exist. What this person needs is other human beings who can say, “I’ve been there. I know how hard it is. You’re not alone.”

What medication can cure the depression of a young woman who is not being rewarded for her efforts at work? What drug can heal an elderly widower’s sense of social isolation? What prescription will heal the depression of a single father caused by lack of sleep from working three part time jobs? What drug will ease the depression of a hospice worker who sits all day with the dying?

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Depression can be normal, logical, and perhaps even inevitable in certain circumstances. It’s a part of life. What depressed individuals need is compassion from someone who understands, who has been there, who has felt the same feelings, and who can help put things into perspective.

It Can Happen to Anyone

When the famous celebrity Robin Williams ended his own life, many people were surprised that someone so funny could have been depressed. Some people were shocked that someone so famous, with so much money, couldn’t get proper treatment for his depression. Those reactions reveal society’s basic misunderstanding about depression.

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Humor can be an effective coping mechanism, but not all pain can be laughed away. Money is an excellent tool, but it can’t fix an existential crises. Fame is no comfort in the darkest, most lonely moments of the night.

What Can You Do?

If someone you love is suffering from depression, don’t look at them as being solely defined by this, as sadness is a part of the human experience. Few people make it through life without suffering from some form of depression. The best thing you can do to help those who are depressed is to suffer with them; be by their side; let them know that you feel their pain, and that you will stick by them no matter what.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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