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25 Things That People Who’re In Their Late 20s Know So Well

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25 Things That People Who’re In Their Late 20s Know So Well

I just turned 29 and for me it seems the years rolled by so fast that I didn’t get the chance to make every minute count. And that sucks. Between all that this has meant that I have had to go through some pretty decent challenges that sort of redefined me and make me know how being a 20-something can set the tone for living a great life. These are some of the things everyone in their late 20s knows so well. And you know why we know these things? Because we have passed through the period of expectations and growth, we are now becoming who we should be.

1. A lot of people are full of it. Promises will be made and many of them won’t be kept. Even by the people you thought were great.

2. Certain friends will pick money, sex and status over you. Well those friendships were never made to last.

3. You will have your heart broken. You will love some people and unfortunately they may not feel the same way towards you.

4. Not everything will turn out okay. If you thought you will be living the dream life by now, wake up to some realities. It won’t always act out as planned.

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5. You have to learn to speak smartly. You don’t need to win every argument or say everything that comes to your head.

6. You will know that only your parents can love you unconditionally. Truthfully everyone else is after a piece of the pie. But your parents want you to be great.

7. You can never have it all. You will fail and sacrifice some things to live the life you are meant to live.

8. Nothing comes easy. Yes it does take hard work, perseverance and patience to get those things that you desire.

9. You have to become more positive. This singular quality and truth can take you places.

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10. Knowledge is never gotten only from school. Life itself can teach you so much more.

11. The best choices you make are the ones you have said No to.

12. There is joy and accomplishment in taking a break from work and being with those you truly care about.

13. You have to forgive. There is no success in resentment and grudges.

14. Failure is in giving up. Success is in staying the whole nine yards.

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15. The best thing you can be proud of is your own self-worth. Really there is nothing to brag about after all.

16. Not everyone will like you. It is better they don’t.

17. In a world of such media frenzy and information overload everyone will seem to have an opinion. But it is an opinion, it is never a fact.

18. You have to believe in yourself. That is your trademark and your currency to getting anything you really want.

19. Being in a relationship is a full time job. You can’t afford to be in it simply for the thrill. That will get you fired. Be in a relationship because it can make a positive influence in your life and in the life of the other person.

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20. Observe more and talk less. This is the best way to interact with others.

21. Many people don’t care. If you can find a handful of people who do, please cherish them. Because that handful is all that you need.

22. Pursue a career that you love. It will keep you going beyond a paycheck.

23. If you are in your late 20s and you have not figured it out, it is okay. Even some persons at the age of 40 who seem to have it all most times feel that they don’t.

24. Don’t start what you won’t be able to finish.

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25. The best things that will happen to you don’t happen in an instance, it takes time.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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