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13 Reasons Why Couples Who Read Together, Stay Together

13 Reasons Why Couples Who Read Together, Stay Together

Reading is fun. It builds your mind and takes you to places you would otherwise be unable to visit. When you are able to perform this journey with someone you love, it is that much more enjoyable. Here are reasons why couples who read together stay together.

1. They can discover

The world of books and reading does excite. People who read together are challenged and are simply more interesting people. Readers want to find and be more intrigued by new stories and experiences. They don’t get stuck because they have busy minds that are constantly engaged.

2. They are healthier

Research has shown that reading slows the progress and prevents the development of Alzheimer’s and dementia. People who read together are concerned about their mental health and do well to keep their brain active.

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3. They are happy

Reading reduces stress. Because stress is reduced in one person, this combined effect is possible for a couple to achieve together through reading. Reading stimulates the mind and can make you more relaxed as a couple. Soon enough, you’ll have more energy to undertake more productive pursuits that will make you happy with the person you love.

4. They are smarter

Reading makes you smarter. Undoubtedly, knowledge is power. Couples who read together are better educated and capable of dealing with challenges and obstacles which may dampen a relationship.

5. They find each other attractive

Who is not attracted to someone who shares a similar interest or desire? Couples who read together find each other fascinating and enjoy each other’s company. They always have common ground and a common bond which makes them stronger.

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6. They enjoy a balanced relationship

Reading keeps a relationship balanced as there is something to talk about because of what they read and learn together from books. Such balance in relationship offers couples the essential elements of every relationship — love and respect.

7. They have fewer distractions

People who read are more focused. The traditional way of actually hold a book in your hands and sitting still helps you to stay away from distractions from electronic devices or technology. Reading has the ability to improve your focus and attentiveness. Fewer distractions mean better communication in a relationship.

8. They enjoy each other’s company

Books take you to places you may never have been able to travel to — many of the locales in books only exist in our imaginations (Hogwarts anyone?!). Another person who reads challenges you to become a more advanced reader of books. You’ll always be encouraged to start stimulating conversations you will both have. Such conversations will help you value and appreciate each other better.

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9. They discover each other

What someone reads make you notice them. You are able to see the other person beyond the surface and become aware of whom and what this person means to your world. Such discovery makes you unleash and embrace each other’s perceptions and perspectives.

10. They know how to converse with others

Conversations are healthy and mentally stimulating with couples who read together. They find interesting topics to talk others about in social settings. When a couple is on the same page, they can support each other in conversations with bigger groups of friends.

11. They enjoy healthy connections

They enjoy healthy connections since they will have friends who share similar interests and help to improve their relationships. More people who are aligned with their ability of reading are drawn to them and this improves them as a duo.

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12. They have an intimate relationship

They have a better cuddle at the end of the day. Reading a book together makes for intimacy through cuddling and sex since there is positive energy generated from reading. The intimacy you experience in sharing books can flow over into other aspects of your life.

13. They have a healthier vocabulary

Whether in terms of emotional vocabulary or in saying the right words to each other, couples who read together have a healthier vocabulary. A healthy vocabulary helps you to communicate and express your thoughts, feelings and intentions better to your partner.

Featured photo credit: young man lying down near lake reading to his girlfriend book via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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