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13 Reasons Why Couples Who Read Together, Stay Together

13 Reasons Why Couples Who Read Together, Stay Together

Reading is fun. It builds your mind and takes you to places you would otherwise be unable to visit. When you are able to perform this journey with someone you love, it is that much more enjoyable. Here are reasons why couples who read together stay together.

1. They can discover

The world of books and reading does excite. People who read together are challenged and are simply more interesting people. Readers want to find and be more intrigued by new stories and experiences. They don’t get stuck because they have busy minds that are constantly engaged.

2. They are healthier

Research has shown that reading slows the progress and prevents the development of Alzheimer’s and dementia. People who read together are concerned about their mental health and do well to keep their brain active.

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3. They are happy

Reading reduces stress. Because stress is reduced in one person, this combined effect is possible for a couple to achieve together through reading. Reading stimulates the mind and can make you more relaxed as a couple. Soon enough, you’ll have more energy to undertake more productive pursuits that will make you happy with the person you love.

4. They are smarter

Reading makes you smarter. Undoubtedly, knowledge is power. Couples who read together are better educated and capable of dealing with challenges and obstacles which may dampen a relationship.

5. They find each other attractive

Who is not attracted to someone who shares a similar interest or desire? Couples who read together find each other fascinating and enjoy each other’s company. They always have common ground and a common bond which makes them stronger.

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6. They enjoy a balanced relationship

Reading keeps a relationship balanced as there is something to talk about because of what they read and learn together from books. Such balance in relationship offers couples the essential elements of every relationship — love and respect.

7. They have fewer distractions

People who read are more focused. The traditional way of actually hold a book in your hands and sitting still helps you to stay away from distractions from electronic devices or technology. Reading has the ability to improve your focus and attentiveness. Fewer distractions mean better communication in a relationship.

8. They enjoy each other’s company

Books take you to places you may never have been able to travel to — many of the locales in books only exist in our imaginations (Hogwarts anyone?!). Another person who reads challenges you to become a more advanced reader of books. You’ll always be encouraged to start stimulating conversations you will both have. Such conversations will help you value and appreciate each other better.

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9. They discover each other

What someone reads make you notice them. You are able to see the other person beyond the surface and become aware of whom and what this person means to your world. Such discovery makes you unleash and embrace each other’s perceptions and perspectives.

10. They know how to converse with others

Conversations are healthy and mentally stimulating with couples who read together. They find interesting topics to talk others about in social settings. When a couple is on the same page, they can support each other in conversations with bigger groups of friends.

11. They enjoy healthy connections

They enjoy healthy connections since they will have friends who share similar interests and help to improve their relationships. More people who are aligned with their ability of reading are drawn to them and this improves them as a duo.

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12. They have an intimate relationship

They have a better cuddle at the end of the day. Reading a book together makes for intimacy through cuddling and sex since there is positive energy generated from reading. The intimacy you experience in sharing books can flow over into other aspects of your life.

13. They have a healthier vocabulary

Whether in terms of emotional vocabulary or in saying the right words to each other, couples who read together have a healthier vocabulary. A healthy vocabulary helps you to communicate and express your thoughts, feelings and intentions better to your partner.

Featured photo credit: young man lying down near lake reading to his girlfriend book via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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