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Six Common Disputes Couples Have While Texting Each Other

Six Common Disputes Couples Have While Texting Each Other

Texting has enabled us to enjoy the wonders of modern communication. Unfortunately, it has also proven to be a serious hazard for couples. One wrong move can cause many problems. Communication really is not easy.

We are going to discuss some of the common disputes couples have, not through mistakes, but by simple misunderstandings.

See how many of these disputes you recognize!

1. The Autocorrect Fail

Anyone who texts their boyfriend or girlfriend regularly knows the perils of the auto-correct feature. Don’t get us wrong, we know Apple and Samsung implemented it for good reason, but sometimes it can overstep the mark.

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Autocorrect can cause many problems, such as changing your messages of love into insults, and unflattering comparisons you do not realize until the angry retort.

In addition, you try explaining that it was the phone that said it in the heat of the moment!

2. The Wrong Number

In the heat of a long texting session with multiple people, it does not take much to lose your train of thought and mistakenly text the wrong person.

Let’s say you’re talking to a guy friend and you’re talking about this hot celebrity. The harmless words “She’s pretty hot.” could go to your significant other. Cue lots of furious texting about who this other woman is.

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3. Not Replying by Accident

A variation on the above example is sending a text to the wrong number and thinking you replied to your significant other. If you happen to be dating someone who takes these things seriously, it could enflame tensions.

Say you text a message of love to your lover, ten minutes later you are wondering why you are receiving abuse in return about how you never pay any attention.
A quick check and you realize you have just expressed your love to your mother. Now you also have another difficult family reunion to deal with.

4. Setting a Bad Trend

Texting is not like a face-to-face conversation. You are generally not expected to reply straightaway. The problem is when you do turn this into a habit the first time you don’t reply within seconds you’ve caused great offense.

This is something we all slip into, so if you are busy doing something else at the same time make it clear to your significant other this is what you are doing.

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5. The Bad Joke

We all like to tell jokes. It’s a great way to break the ice. A good joke can soon turn into a bad joke if someone takes it the wrong way.

One of the drawbacks of texting is things like tone and sarcasm do not come through words well. Say you make a sarcastic comment about your girlfriend’s dress. Face-to-face this is a playful joke at her expense. With cold, hard words in text-based form, you have just sent her an insult.

Now you have a dispute caused by a joke gone wrong.

6. The Length of the Message

Some people like to send long, chatty replies. If you are dating someone like this, you’ve probably already made the mistake of not sending a long, chatty reply. When you do this out of character, you have essentially communicated the fact you are not interested.

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In reality, the paragraph of death simply did not warrant a long reply. Good luck explaining that one.

Conclusion

Communication is hard, but as a couple, you know each other best. Establish some communication as to each other’s habits. When a random insult comes out of nowhere, it should be no problem if everyone involved realizes it’s a joke.

Successful texting is about getting through those difficult growing pains in the first months of dating.

 

Featured photo credit: Texting/Pixabay via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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