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Six Common Disputes Couples Have While Texting Each Other

Six Common Disputes Couples Have While Texting Each Other

Texting has enabled us to enjoy the wonders of modern communication. Unfortunately, it has also proven to be a serious hazard for couples. One wrong move can cause many problems. Communication really is not easy.

We are going to discuss some of the common disputes couples have, not through mistakes, but by simple misunderstandings.

See how many of these disputes you recognize!

1. The Autocorrect Fail

Anyone who texts their boyfriend or girlfriend regularly knows the perils of the auto-correct feature. Don’t get us wrong, we know Apple and Samsung implemented it for good reason, but sometimes it can overstep the mark.

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Autocorrect can cause many problems, such as changing your messages of love into insults, and unflattering comparisons you do not realize until the angry retort.

In addition, you try explaining that it was the phone that said it in the heat of the moment!

2. The Wrong Number

In the heat of a long texting session with multiple people, it does not take much to lose your train of thought and mistakenly text the wrong person.

Let’s say you’re talking to a guy friend and you’re talking about this hot celebrity. The harmless words “She’s pretty hot.” could go to your significant other. Cue lots of furious texting about who this other woman is.

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3. Not Replying by Accident

A variation on the above example is sending a text to the wrong number and thinking you replied to your significant other. If you happen to be dating someone who takes these things seriously, it could enflame tensions.

Say you text a message of love to your lover, ten minutes later you are wondering why you are receiving abuse in return about how you never pay any attention.
A quick check and you realize you have just expressed your love to your mother. Now you also have another difficult family reunion to deal with.

4. Setting a Bad Trend

Texting is not like a face-to-face conversation. You are generally not expected to reply straightaway. The problem is when you do turn this into a habit the first time you don’t reply within seconds you’ve caused great offense.

This is something we all slip into, so if you are busy doing something else at the same time make it clear to your significant other this is what you are doing.

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5. The Bad Joke

We all like to tell jokes. It’s a great way to break the ice. A good joke can soon turn into a bad joke if someone takes it the wrong way.

One of the drawbacks of texting is things like tone and sarcasm do not come through words well. Say you make a sarcastic comment about your girlfriend’s dress. Face-to-face this is a playful joke at her expense. With cold, hard words in text-based form, you have just sent her an insult.

Now you have a dispute caused by a joke gone wrong.

6. The Length of the Message

Some people like to send long, chatty replies. If you are dating someone like this, you’ve probably already made the mistake of not sending a long, chatty reply. When you do this out of character, you have essentially communicated the fact you are not interested.

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In reality, the paragraph of death simply did not warrant a long reply. Good luck explaining that one.

Conclusion

Communication is hard, but as a couple, you know each other best. Establish some communication as to each other’s habits. When a random insult comes out of nowhere, it should be no problem if everyone involved realizes it’s a joke.

Successful texting is about getting through those difficult growing pains in the first months of dating.

 

Featured photo credit: Texting/Pixabay via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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